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the-real-orson
|
2017-07-14 16:45:16
| 1,500,050,716
| null |
['match.com']
| 0
|
6na8ho
| null | null | 29
| null |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6na8ho/to_match_or_not_to_match/
| 7
|
I've recently decided to foray into the (not so) wonderful world of dating after having been divorced for a few years. I've been checking out OKC and I like the overall feel of the site. Unfortunately, I haven't had much luck on OKC finding local women who are interesting to me. Plenty in neighboring states, but too far away. Today I started looking on match.com and pretty much found the same issue. There are two or three women I would message...if I shell out the dough for a membership. I'm a 42 year old college student, and on a pretty tight budget. $23 bucks a month to message a few women who might never respond seems pretty steep to me. Is match worth subscribing to?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
To match or not to match...
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6na8ho/to_match_or_not_to_match/
|
Low-Cartographer-429
|
2024-06-15 18:17:56
| 1,718,475,476
| 0
| null | 0
|
1dgo2os
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1dgo2os/describe_the_creepiest_profile_pic_youve_ever_seen/
| 6
|
I'm drawing a blank in response to my own question; but I was horrified to see a young child, with no adults in the picture, as a person's profile pic.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Describe the creepiest profile pic you've ever seen
| 5
| 0.73
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1dgo2os/describe_the_creepiest_profile_pic_youve_ever_seen/
|
AcidAJ
|
2020-06-23 05:07:59
| 1,592,888,879
| null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
he8giw
| true
|
Venting
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/he8giw/im_pretty_apathetic_and_just_dont_know_what_to_do/
| 1
|
As the title mentions I’m apathetic, I’ve never had a crush and recently I’ve been getting scared of the thought that I’ll just never find the one, I’ve matched and talked with one person on Tinder, and I’ve noticed that I have no idea how to be romantic, since I don’t really feel love, I can say something but there will be really no feeling in it. I can’t feel love and it scares me. I want to feel it and want somebody to call my own. But I can’t. I don’t know what to do. Also, I had low self esteem and have ONLY talked to guys for the most part, as I’ve talked to this girl in FaceTime I’ve noticed just how different men and women speak. I feel I have to be more gentle and not so rough. Don’t know what else to say, thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I’m pretty Apathetic and just don’t know what to do..
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/he8giw/im_pretty_apathetic_and_just_dont_know_what_to_do/
|
Acceptable-Tax5742
|
2023-01-04 18:45:33
| 1,672,857,933
| null |
['okcupid']
| 0
|
103bdw3
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/103bdw3/have_any_guys_here_ever_had_an_excellent_first/
| 1
|
So long story short this happened a few years ago. Met this lovely girl and it went surprisingly well. We hit up a few bars and were kissing etc. She then text me saying shed love to see me again after the date was over. Get to the second date I took her to a different place and I was very uncomfortable for some reason. Struggled to maintain conversation and felt overall completely unconfident and went into it with a negative mindset (id already lost before the date had even started). Without giving too much away someone said something to us and didn’t even feel confident in defending her. All ended in an awkward kiss and unmatch on okcupid immediately after the date so I knew it was over. Im a high functioning Asperger’s and I think it slipped through that time as I am socially awkward to a degree. I wanted to know if any of you had a similar experience? In that you can literally go from 100 to 0 just like that as I cant seem to find anything on google of this happening. This did initially reassure me as it gave me confidence that it can be done but no I cant stop thinking about the ‘what ifs?’ I am now 28 and yet to have a girlfriend and getting nervous I won’t get one. Not been on a date since as was just prior to lockdown. Sorry for the long post been a lot on my mind lately.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Have any guys here ever had an excellent first date and then horribly messed up a second date beyond repair?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/103bdw3/have_any_guys_here_ever_had_an_excellent_first/
|
Ok_Offer626
|
2023-09-29 00:51:00
| 1,695,948,660
| 0
|
['hinge']
| 0
|
16uxcff
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/16uxcff/my_sort_of_love_bomber/
| 1
|
I 43f have been dating a 48m for a few weeks. Met him on hinge. Conversation was great, connection was good and we hadn’t even met yet. Very good communicator . We meet, and it solidifies that connection. He is very open with affectionate and positive words. I was almost afraid it was love bombing because he was vocal about what he wants, exactly what he thought of me, and being mushy with his words. He also shows up beyond his words. We go on 2 more dates and we are just hitting it off. We decide to be exclusive . We were also intimate. This is where I just don’t know what’s normal anymore. He’s turned up the naughty talk ( which I actually really love) but turned down the affectionate talk. It’s still there, but not nearly as much. We continue to text constantly. He called me last night . He gives me a sweet good morning text first thing when he wakes up. We have a 3 day weekend next weekend together . We booked a weekend getaway for November. I believe he is here to stick around…… But I feel a little uncomfortable with the turn down of the sweet talk. It was just so much at first, it seems like such a turndown now. I know it’s not sustainable, but I guess it’s making me feel insecure. I like him a lot. I still believe he likes me alot. So is this normal? Just a calm down of the sweet talk ?
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
My sort of love bomber
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/16uxcff/my_sort_of_love_bomber/
|
trash_compacter
|
2015-08-31 13:09:11
| 1,441,026,551
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
3j2xpb
| null | null | 33
| null |
/r/AskMen/comments/3j2xpb/what_would_you_consider_a_normal_date/
| 5
|
This whole summer I've been sitting around 75-80% flake rate. And this is combining all avenues: real-life meeting/getting numbers and tinder/online. So if I set up 4 or 5 dates with 4 or 5 women I usually expect 3 of 4 or 4 of 5 to flake or cancel last minute/the day before/not show up. I get a better return with in-person meetings and setting up a subsequent date as long as she responds to texts. This has become normal for me, and expected - women are mercurial by nature (it's why we love 'em) and you can't blame a fish for swimming. On the other hand, I can't help but feel this is a bit high, and am working to bring that number down a bit. So do you think this is normal? FYI: my play depends on the nature of the cancel: if she cancels and lets me know beforehand, and gives an indication it's a legit cancel (like, let's try for another time, etc), I ask her to give me a call in a day or so and we'll figure something out. Ball's in her court. If it's a straight-up flake, I'll either message the next day going "Hey, sorry I flaked last night, something came up." or just delete the number.
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
What would you consider a 'normal' date flake/cancellation rate? What's your play when this happens?
| 5
| null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/3j2xpb/what_would_you_consider_a_normal_date/
|
GoatKeeperz
|
2024-06-29 16:59:29
| 1,719,680,369
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
1drfoy5
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1drfoy5/did_he_lie_to_me/
| 1
|
I was seeing a guy and although he wasn’t my usual type and also I had serious avoidance around physical intimacy, I worked really hard to overcome these things because he came across as a very good man with good intentions and was very interested in me. After we finally have sex, in the following days he texts me about mental health issues and is telling me that his closeness to me is triggering them. He eventually asks for space with intent to see me again when he is better. These mental health things only came up after the sex and I just noticed his profile is still active on the dating app. I know he doesn’t owe me anything and I have 0 intent to see him again but I’m wondering if I was used for sex? Or he lied to me and just wasn’t interested anymore?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Did he lie to me?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1drfoy5/did_he_lie_to_me/
|
These-Lengthiness-42
|
2023-08-13 11:15:24
| 1,691,925,324
| 0
|
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0
|
15pw84w
| true
|
Question ❓
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/15pw84w/should_i_reach_out_again_to_someone_i_dated_but/
| 1
|
Met this guy 2 months ago on Hinge. We clicked right away due to not only our shared goal to find a long term committed relationship, our inner self development work, and many shared views on multiple subjects (career, and social issues). We talked for 2 weeks because he was away for a charity event at work. We both had high sex drive so we decided to meet up to see if we had real-life interaction, and we did. We had an amazing date, with a lot of deep talks about life and our journey. I stayed over at his place, we had great sex and breakfast, a long walk the morning after before he drove me home. Throughout our time together, he said he appreciated my communication skills and my ability to express interest, as well as reaffirm me his interest. He had to drive back home to visit his family during the weekends, and he planned to pick me up at 530pm for dinner on Monday. We didn’t text during the day because we both had work (it’s our habit to catch up after work) but even till 445 I still haven’t heard anything from him. I quickly sent a message to confirm the date and he told me we had to move our date back 1 hour. The reason is because the inspectors came over his place to check on the house and he didn’t expect they would want him to walk them around the house. I told him I would be happy to hang on Wednesday and I would appreciate if he could have told me about this earlier, I was expecting for the date the whole day. Anyway, we still chat but I could feel something was off, and I initiated a call to clear things up. I said I was expecting a more thoughtful plan and not a “convenience call” and he could have known the inspectors would come over to check on the place at least 24 hours. His side of the story was he arrived home right and saw the inspectors right when I texted him, and he didn’t know the inspectors would require his presence. We cleared things out on the phone but the next morning he called it off because he was feeling pressured to “pay it up to me” instead of me being understanding of his situation. I tried to resolve it, suggesting we sat down together to talk about this because both of us had anxious attachment styles and I could see us behaving based off anxiety. At the end, he said he felt not emotionally available for what I expected him to be. And we wished each other good luck. I’m sure we have been dating other people since, but I have been always thinking about the connection that we had and how we could have handled it better. It’s pretty difficult to find someone you can connect to their values and ideals apart from the physical attraction. I’m just wondering if it is a good thing to send him a DM on IG so we can give each other a second chance. I would understand that he might be seeing someone else and would leave immediately if he is, but I just want to see if we still have any potentials. My concern: he used to be not sure what he wanted and hence couldn’t give what his exes wanted from the relationship. And he spent a long time being in relationships just to have sex before deleting the app and worked on himself. When we matched, he was clear that he wanted a long term committed relationship. This might be why my need of him being on time and thoughtful of planning the date was a pressure to him (as he isn’t used to how to operate with a long term mindset for the rela). Was I overreacting, or was he actually not ready for a long term rela? If it’s both, should I still reach out?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Should I reach out again to someone I dated but split apart because of his lack of planning & my lack of understanding?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/15pw84w/should_i_reach_out_again_to_someone_i_dated_but/
|
rubberiselastic
|
2022-12-04 08:18:16
| 1,670,141,896
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
zc49u1
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 3
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/zc49u1/how_to_have_female_friends/
| 3
|
Just turned single And I’m choosing to not get back into online dating or get into any situation ship. But I would love to have female energy around me. My only problem is I struggle with female friendship, we always end up doing something sexually and that ruins the relationship. Any body on advice with male, female friendship and how to find them without looking like you’re trying to date
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How to have female friends?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/zc49u1/how_to_have_female_friends/
|
NairoD4Christ
|
2020-05-13 04:18:38
| 1,589,343,518
| null |
['online dating', 'tinder']
| 0
|
girqzu
| true
| null | 145
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/girqzu/if_youre_going_to_online_date_please_use_actually/
| 125
|
Went on a tinder date for the first time in a long time(I don’t like online dating, quarantine brought me down to this). Me and a lady been chating it up for a few days so decided on going on a lowkey date since our state is pretty much closed. Met at a resturaunt, and when I first walked in there was only like two people outside of the workers, she was so unrecognizable that I had to just use process of elimination to figure out who she was. Now she didn’t use someone else’s pictures , but the pics were crafted and angled to the point where she looked like an amplified version of herself. I thought to myself maybe her personality will compensate so I stayed, tried to be cordial and friendly, but I think she picked up that I was very very disappointed. My date acted very insecure, didn’t really let her personality really show( was overcompensating)and was trying to sell her self wayyy to hard. Had a lot of mixed emotions from feeling deceived, annoyance, and pity all at the same time. She might have been a nice girl, and I appreciated her slightly for spending money on me for the date, however it was probably one of the worst experiences of my life. Just had to vent, I might even have a terrible outlook on it, but it really bothered me . People use accurate pics please.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
If you’re going to online date, please use actually pictures that look like you
| null | 0.89
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/girqzu/if_youre_going_to_online_date_please_use_actually/
|
red2999
|
2018-12-17 11:44:12
| 1,545,047,052
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
a6z499
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/a6z499/cant_psych_myself_up_to_go_on_a_date/
| 2
|
Met this guy on tinder and have been texting and snap chatting non-stop last couple weeks. He asked me to grab coffee with him and we are both super busy working (Xmas retail life) but the main problem I can’t find time is because I’m scared We get along great but I am just terrified it will be awkward or we will see someone I know. I’ve never really dated before any interaction I’ve had with guys has been started off as friends or just super super casual or drunk. Yeah I’m not really sure what I’m asking for help with but just for me to stop being a wimp! Cool thanks bye
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Can’t psych myself up to go on a date
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/a6z499/cant_psych_myself_up_to_go_on_a_date/
|
zzfiji
|
2019-03-23 06:18:58
| 1,553,321,938
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
b4fv8o
| true
| null | 14
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/b4fv8o/thinking_about_ending_a_casual_relationship_early/
| 23
|
I just started dating this girl I met on Tinder. We have a lot of common interests, get along really well, have great conversations, sex is wild, chemistry is definitely there and I just find myself genuinely liking her a lot. But the thing is.. she established pretty early on that she’s not looking for anything serious which I totally respect. I do notice however that I’m starting to already catch feelings for her based on everything I mentioned before..and the thought of her dating anyone else makes me kind of sad and jealous. I recognize this isn’t really fair to her so I’m just considering ending things early before it gets out of hand. Before I become way too emotionally invested in someone that just wants to keep it casual and fun. And we’ve only gone on two dates although she has said many times she wants to go on more with me so I know there’s somewhat of future potentially happening with her. But I really just can’t stand to be an emotional wreck again..I feel that my last relationship ended badly because I wasn’t completely honest with wanting to keep things casual and before you know it 6 months in she wants to date someone else more seriously and my heart is broken into a million pieces and I’m a mess/depressed. But idk it seems too abrupt at the same time. Maybe I’m just experiencing the honeymoon feels where everything about her seems nicer than they actually are. And I should just try to stomp out my feels as much as possible and keep it casual because it could be a lot of fun. I don’t even know if she’s actually GF worthy yet either so it might pretty stupid of me. I’m a bit conflicted. Should I just be honest and end things because of conflicting interests or should I wait it out and see where it goes?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Thinking about ending a casual relationship early
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/b4fv8o/thinking_about_ending_a_casual_relationship_early/
|
markyb303
|
2014-12-01 22:24:52
| 1,417,472,692
| 0
|
['online dating', 'tinder']
| 0
|
2nzghi
| null | null | 0
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2nzghi/getting_an_online_date_you_can_be_proud_of/
| 1
|
Hey everyone, Over the summer I traveled internationally quite a bit and used Tinder as a way to meet new people in the area and go on fun dates and learn more about each country I was in. I learned a lot about writing a good profile, what pictures to use, and how to qualify the other person I am considering meeting so that I don't have to have an awkward or painful date. This is worth reading: You have tried online dating, but can get any "bites" You feel clueless as to what to write in your profile You want to get more qualified dates that are more enjoyable You are looking for quality, not quantity Let me know what you think! http://www.thenewmanwithin.com/how-to-get-better-dates-with-an-awesome-profile/
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
getting an online date you can be proud of
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2nzghi/getting_an_online_date_you_can_be_proud_of/
|
fi-nelly
|
2024-06-10 12:15:31
| 1,718,021,731
| 0
|
['OLD']
| 0
|
1dck1s4
| true
| null | 84
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1dck1s4/ambition_as_interest_or_desired_quality/
| 14
|
I see this frequently in OLD apps and it always gives me the ick. It feels like a uniformly negative thing to put down. As an interest it conjures visions of Angelica Pickles' mom or the guy from American Psycho. As a desired quality in a mate it feels like the person requesting is Andy Dwyer (first season) or someone off Real Housewives. I'm very curious if everyone else feels the same way or if someone could explain it in a positive light?
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
"Ambition" as interest or desired quality
| 14
| 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1dck1s4/ambition_as_interest_or_desired_quality/
|
jakleSZN
|
2023-02-26 08:56:40
| 1,677,401,800
| null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
11c9lma
| true
| null | 28
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/11c9lma/this_girl_only_wants_to_see_me_at_a_club/
| 5
|
I met this girl on tinder a few weeks ago and we hit it off. I had seen her around town before and she recognized me, she ended up coming over the same night we matched and staying the night. When I asked to see her a few days later, she ended up canceling last minute so I backed off and didn’t talk to her for a few days. She called me a few days later and asked if I wanted to go to a club. That’s not my thing so I asked if she wanted to come over. She didn’t. That has happened two more times since, she asks to go out and then declines my counter offer ( I didn’t just ask for her to come over each time). She did it again today, she just doesn’t seem to get that I don’t want to go to the club but she doesn’t seem to want to do anything else. Any insight?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
This girl only wants to see me at a club
| null | 0.73
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/11c9lma/this_girl_only_wants_to_see_me_at_a_club/
|
Heraclitus94
|
2020-06-03 21:03:30
| 1,591,218,210
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
gw2lvx
| true
| null | 33
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/gw2lvx/25m_should_i_wait_for_the_right_one_or_lose_my/
| 28
|
I'm a 25 year old male who has no dating experience. I have never had sex, never kissed a girl, never been on a date, never asked a girl out in person. As a kid I was bullied a lot and I have been fat all my life so none of that helped. I strike out all the time in dating apps and can't seem to score a date. I don't have that big of a social media presence so I don't have many photos of myself to put on dating apps, just a couple and they're both of me in a suit. I am in the process of losing weight, it's going alright, but still a work in progress. One of the biggest problems is since I'm still a virgin dating is really anxiety ridden for me and all my friends aren't virgins and in long-term relationships. I don't know if I should find a casual hook-up or go to a prostitute to lose it because another part of the problem is if I started dating someone I probably wouldn't be the one to make any sort of physical moves to them on a date and would they'd likely think I didn't find them attractive and leave me so I feel like it's this weird catch-22 where I don't have enough confidence to make a move at someone, but to get that confidence I have to
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
[25M] Should I wait for the "right one" or lose my virginity in a fling or with a prostitute?
| null | 0.86
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gw2lvx/25m_should_i_wait_for_the_right_one_or_lose_my/
|
emojijohnson
|
2020-11-15 15:38:03
| 1,605,454,683
| null |
['hinge']
| 0
|
junpwt
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/junpwt/whenif_ever_is_it_okay_to_talk_about_your_ex/
| 2
|
I'm (26f) just getting back into dating after ending a 9 year relationship. Obviously nine years is a long time and most of my memories and past unfortunately involve my ex. I know for the most part it's just for the best not to discuss your ex at lenh with someone you're talking to, but what is the best way to do it when it's basically unavoidable. For example: I was messaging a match on Hinge and we ended up talking about our favorite halloween costumes. Mine was a couples themed with my ex. I skated around that detail as best as I could but if course that got him asking questions and was awkward. And then another time a guy asked me why as a dog lover I've never had one, and the reason why was because my ex was allergic and we'd lived together for the last six years. Idk I don't want to be one of those girls always talking about their ex but I also don't want to lie/have to memorize a bunch of white lies
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
When(if ever) is it okay to talk about your ex?
| null | 0.63
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/junpwt/whenif_ever_is_it_okay_to_talk_about_your_ex/
|
CountryActive9864
|
2023-12-25 00:36:44
| 1,703,464,604
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
18q7pyn
| true
| null | 6
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/18q7pyn/i_cannot_breath/
| 1
|
His response dashed my hopes, pushed me to block him. I'm a 21 F who connected with a 43M on a dating app, ( the age gap being my preference in the filter). I felt an instant connection and deep attraction to him, falling in love in the process. He was very handsome- George Clooney’s twin. Despite my efforts to stand out on our dates—such as giving him roses and striving to make a lasting impression—his initial warmth dwindled over time. Recently he rarely initiated texts or calls, responding with short or erroneous messages. From the beginning I was reluctant to have sex without confirming exclusivity since I am virgin- to which he never provided a clear answer. But thinking objectively it surprised me that he remained patient through six dates without sex happening , considering his apparent ease with women. He offered me his apartment when I had heating issues and even offered to drive me around the city since I'm new here. I didn’t because I didn’t want to burden anyone. He told me he liked simple clean girls, not hoes or hookers. That I need no makeup with him because I was beautiful and young. On our last date, I felt he was different, becoming more distant. He seemed to laugh at my reactions during intimate moments and brushed off my expressions of affection, which hurt me deeply as he was my first intimate experience as a virgin- I didn’t yet take the sex step. Before dropping me off, I saw multiple women on his WhatsApp before leaving his car after our date, I became upset and messaged him once I got home. "What I meant by exclusivity is not seeing/dating other people pr treating me as an option. I only wish to know the truth, as I prefer reality over naive thinking. " He answered: "Who’s seeing other ppl Farah You not an option why u say that " I haven’t responded to him for some days after, thinking over things. Today I decide to message him on Christmas eve- and wish him good luck. He replied back good luck with life. I weakened- sent him a long text pouring my heart out: "If you care about me as a person or as a human being, I ask you to honestly disclose the situation—it will aid in my healing. I never intended to burden you. I developed feelings for you that were beyond my control. I had hoped for mutual feelings, yet during our last meeting , I was hurt when my emotions were laughed at. I don't aim to change anything in your life, but after two months, as we grew closer physically, I felt the need to express my discomfort with intimacy when there's involvement with others. I believe I deserve enough respect from you to respect that. My eyes are filled with tears as I am writing this. If you choose not to respond, that will be a response " He replied: I don't understand you l drop you of and u turned cold Has nothing to do the way I laugh I didn't laugh at you l was just laughing with you because u wore to serious That's all U keep changing ur mind. And I can't help you with that I told you I can't fall in love with you that takes time with me maybe is different with you but l'm not you Maybe I never fall for you but I will respect you as longest as I'm w you My answer Thank you, if I knew I had to something to earn it, I would have done it. But this was a wake up call and a lesson learned. I just hope you won’t forget me… And I blocked him. I cannot open up about this to anyone- I can literally feel my heart in physical pain and chest cannot breath…
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I cannot breath
| 1
| 0.25
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18q7pyn/i_cannot_breath/
|
FlatChannel
|
2019-10-01 04:13:17
| 1,569,903,197
| null |
['dating app']
| 0
|
dbnwew
| true
| null | 6
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/dbnwew/how_do_i_25f_ask_the_guy_im_dating_24m_how_he/
| 4
|
I'm sorry for the essay Thanks so much for reading, I really appreciate it. TLDR: I'm dating someone who I really like but he's not super forthcoming about his feelings, and I convince myself that he doesn't like me. I'd like to be able to casually ask him how he feels/what he wants. How do I do this without coming across as clingy or like I'm trying to rush things? I am having a hard time coming up with courage to ‘define the relationship’ with the guy I’ve been dating for 4 months because I’m worried that I will come across too strong or as though I’m clingy and ruin things (and also am frightened of hearing something I don’t want to hear). Backstory: I’ve only had one relationship before, it lasted 2.5 years (we lived together for the last 6 months of that) but ended when he met someone else and left me for her. I had been out of that relationship for around 2 months when I met New Guy. He had been single for 3 months after an 18-month relationship. Things between New Guy and I have been slow which I think is good and important considering where we both were when we first met, and it feels right to have gone at that pace. We have hung out once or twice a week since meeting (on a dating app), we had sex on the third date but didn’t start sleeping over at each other’s houses until about 2 months in. We still see each other about once or twice a week, but have started sleeping over and spending the morning/most of the day with one another. We have good and communicative sex and get a long very well when we’re together – we like trying new restaurants, sharing books and watching movies. He has met my housemates but we haven’t met any of each other’s friends yet which I feel fine about because I’m quite shy, but we do talk about our friends and ask each other about them for e.g. “How was dinner with blah blah?”. I am quite communicative of my feelings for him, I’ve told him that I liked him and he responds that he likes me too but I sometimes convince myself that he doesn’t like me, often after he leaves and I don’t see him for the week (even though we text most days, even if briefly). I know he still has the dating app on his phone, and one night about 2 weeks ago in bed I asked him if he was interested in seeing other people and he said no and that he hadn’t opened the app in ages, and I told him that I wasn’t either and that I would like it to be just him and I, but it was a bit awkward and also in the dark and no conversation really came out of it and I fell asleep feeling anxious about it because it was quite vague and weird. I am not sure if he is just not someone who finds it easy to talk about their feelings, or if we are on a different page about how we feel. I am very worried about coming across as intense or clingy or something like that which I know is silly but I can’t help it because I really like him and I don’t want to ruin things and so I want to ask him how he feels/what he wants but in a casual way if that exists I don’t even really want anything to change at the moment – I don’t want him to suddenly be my boyfriend or start spending multiple nights together, I really like how we are together and it feels like a good pace but I basically just need to know/be reassured that he likes me, is happy being around me and wants to see each other exclusively. How can I broach this topic? Thanks so much and sorry for the essay
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do I (25F) ask the guy I'm dating (24M) how he feels about me/what he wants without coming across too strong?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/dbnwew/how_do_i_25f_ask_the_guy_im_dating_24m_how_he/
|
Suspicious_Assist_43
|
2022-12-12 14:24:33
| 1,670,855,073
| null |
['matched']
| 0
|
zk0hev
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/zk0hev/help_me_plz/
| 0
|
Okay- so I matched with this guy who lives an hour away from me. The mutual big city to do anything is equally 30 minutes in the middle. Our town are so small there’s nothing to do there. He asked to go out and I assumed we’d meet in the middle but he just goes my car is not working for a little so can you drive the HOUR to me for our first date. There nothing to do in the town so I’m figuring if be driving us around the whole time. Is this a bad request on him or a bad thing that I don’t want to do it because he is down on transportation. Especially it being the first date. I’m my mind I feel he shouldn’t be attempting to go on dates with no means of being able to get there. But also I feel it’s a huge ask. What if the date sucks. That time and gas and miles on my car lol. Help.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Help me plz
| null | 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/zk0hev/help_me_plz/
|
piano_043
|
2023-10-17 22:55:21
| 1,697,583,321
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
17aba3m
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/17aba3m/confessing_my_love_for_him/
| 1
|
m18. i’ve been going on dates with this guy i met on tinder and im literally so in love. im getting mixed signals from him, and im tired of being in the “talking stage” so i was thinking of sending him a text letting him know that id love to get more serious/be exclusive with him. is this weird? i’m new to dating, ive never dated or even kissed someone before
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
confessing my love for him
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/17aba3m/confessing_my_love_for_him/
|
21_Red_Guitars
|
2024-08-14 19:45:25
| 1,723,664,725
| 0
|
['matched', 'bumble']
| 0
|
1esarvn
| true
| null | 74
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1esarvn/i_40m_matched_with_my_co_workers_soon_to_be_ex/
| 142
|
Long story short, my co worker is in the process of divorcing his wife. He said she kissed one of his friends and he saw her do it. This was a year or so ago. They tried to work things out, but he just couldn't move past it. I had never met or seen her prior to matching on Bumble. We were both looking to just date casually. I had told her where I worked and what I did which I thought would've tipped her off, but if it did, she didn't let me know. She told me she was single up front. Anyway, the last date we were on, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other, so we decided to go back to her place as we were closer to it than mine and we wound up having sex. I spent the night and the next morning, I saw pictures of her and my co worker on her refrigerator and in her living room. I didn't wanna make a scene, so I just casually asked who it was and she said it's her ex husband, which they're still technically married. I asked why she still has pictures of him on display and she said it helps her to cope with losing him. So now, I'm dealing with this moral dilemma about sleeping with her, even though they're in the process of divorce. My co worker is a good guy and I don't want to upset him, even though I didn't know who she was and the fact that she lied a little bit. I almost feel like he'd be understanding because I really didn't know who she was. Being a casual dater, I still have boundaries on who I will date. Should I say anything to him, or just let it go?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I (40m) matched with my co worker's soon to be ex wife (34f) and we slept together.
| 142
| 0.86
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1esarvn/i_40m_matched_with_my_co_workers_soon_to_be_ex/
|
Prince-Spring
|
2022-09-26 23:13:04
| 1,664,233,984
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
xoz7ow
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/xoz7ow/how_can_dating_be_fun_for_a_slightly_autistic/
| 1
|
So, I have a soft form of autism and I think that's the reason why my dating life kind of sucks. You know, it literally effects the exact abilities that you need to appear attractive or even just interesting for others. I rarely feel like I want to hold eye contact with someone, sometimes it's hard for me to get, what people want from me if they don't just tell it straight and in addition I have the same difficulties that every shy person has. Until about a year ago I wasn't dating at all, then I gave online dating a try and within a year I met quite some women and had a few short "relationships". However, they all ended after one or two months. When I didn't even get to have dates, I was frustrated but for a different reason, now that I have dates then and again, at the age of 24, I'm frustrated, because most dates don't lead anywhere. That really messes with my self esteem. I don't have an idea of what is the right time to induce body contact or when to increase it. That's why I'm holding back too much, probably, most of the time. I'm always afraight that she might not like it. Also, body language does almost not exist for me. I don't have a body language and reading the body language of my date is hard, sometimes impossible. In addition to that, I don't really like gender roles. This is not a specific autism thing but among autistic people there are quite a lot of gender nonconforming people who don't feel comfortable to play a certain gender role like acting dominant as a man. I happen to be attracted to women but I don't feel like acting "masculine" for them in any way. Sadly, many people, regardless of gender, seem to really dig gender roles, especially when they are dating. I'm writing this because I hope to get some advice. I want to get better and have more successful dates and enjoy my life at my young age at it's fullest before maybe finding a partner for a longer time. One thing I don't want to do is to simply learn some behaviours that are considered attractive and play them because that wouldn't be authentic but maybe there are certain things that would be helpful to practise.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How can dating be fun for a slightly autistic person?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xoz7ow/how_can_dating_be_fun_for_a_slightly_autistic/
|
throwaway030816
|
2018-02-27 20:13:31
| 1,519,762,411
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
80pnwf
| false
| null | 58
| 0
|
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/80pnwf/23f_think_i_may_have_masturbated_for_the_first/
| 24
|
So basically, I have had trouble with intimacy my whole life. I'm not a virgin, but I always thought I'd be a virgin forever. In college I was sick of being a virgin, so I literally met up with a guy I knew met on tinder, and had sex with him on the first date. I've dated around since then, and have had sex, mostly ONS with tinder dates, and nothing ever longlasting. I've also never orgasmed with a guy before, something incredibly frustrating but nothing I'd be able to do before I figure out what really gets me going. For some reason I was never into the idea of masturbating. I think it has to do with my self confidence. I also live at home with my parents and brothers in a very non-private room, and so don't have the opportunity to be completely comfortable. However, for some reason last night, I just found myself touching myself, and decided to give it another shot (I've tried before). I got the closest I ever got to understanding what coming close to an orgasm feels like. However, I couldn't get there and stopped. Then I felt this incredibly strong and frustrating feeling down there, and my clit was even pulsating. It was honestly so unbearable, that I thought I would try again. Again it felt like something I never felt before, but I couldn't cum, and I had to stop because it just wasn't happening. This time the aftermath feeling was even worse. I don't know how to describe it, but my whole vagina was pulsing, I had to squeeze my thighs together to try to stop the feeling, but it just wouldn't go away. I had never been so horny in my life, and I couldn't do anything about it. It was not a good feeling at all, and I couldn't sleep for hours afterward. Even now today, I still feel it down there when I think about it. It's much better now, but it's almost like it won't go away unless I orgasm or have sex, but I just can't do it. I don't know if I'll ever want to try again, because the feeling yesterday was horrible. However, I'm not sure my sex life will ever improve unless I try again. But I really hate how I'm feeling right now and kind of regret "giving it a go". Has anyone else experienced this? How can I prevent this from happening again? Don't plenty of people masturbate without orgasming? I think I have blue balled myself, and I don't want this to happen, so I may just avoid doing it again and I feel like that's not good.
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
23F Think I may have masturbated for the first time last night, horrible aftermath. Very confused...
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/80pnwf/23f_think_i_may_have_masturbated_for_the_first/
|
sciencekidlol
|
2020-07-23 02:54:51
| 1,595,472,891
| null |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
hw7xex
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/hw7xex/help_with_dating_in_the_gay_community/
| 1
|
As a 25 year old gay guy who has been dating for the last 3 years I’ve noticed that it’s very difficult to find meaningful connections. In the gay community, it seems many men are super focused on body image and looks (being muscular/fit, masculine, dominant, etc). I feel that many gay men in the community my age mainly just care about sex and don’t even care about personality at all. Like you could be the biggest asshole but they wouldn’t care if you have a muscular body. On some first dates, when I met the guy from a dating app at the restaurant they went up to me and grabbed my ass and started kissing me. This was a huge turn off since I never met them in real life and I’m not that sexually desperate. I feel like for me the key to having a healthy relationship is for the guy to be a nice person who cares about me as a companion and doesn’t just see me as a means to get sex... Since I figured out this aspect of male behavior in dating, I have started lifting and got muscular but this has also led to new issues. Now a lot of guys give me attention but it’s just for my looks. I feel like they don’t care about me as a person. Also, I feel like if I out off sex longer and longer to try and be friends for a period first to see if I like them and we have common interests they often get sexually frustrated and upset that I’m not giving them sex earlier. I feel like a lot of gay guys only have one thing on their mind. Also, if you give guys sex too fast I feel like they will lose interest if the sex isn’t good enough. I also feel like a lot of gay guys on dating apps are “easy” so many guys will stop pursuing you pretty quickly if you don’t give them sex right away since there are many other men on the apps they will have success getting sex from. How do I find someone who care about me as a person and doesn’t want to use me for sex? How do I find a guy who doesn’t want to just add me to their body count? Thanks
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Help with dating in the gay community
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/hw7xex/help_with_dating_in_the_gay_community/
|
Special-Ad6206
|
2024-05-27 05:26:38
| 1,716,787,598
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1d1ka3j
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1d1ka3j/cant_attract_the_people_i_want/
| 1
|
I’m a 23 year-old male and have never had a gf. I have tried dating apps but only get likes from people I don’t find attractive. I have been going to the gym for years now and I would say I’m decent looking. I live in a town that is kind of small with nothing much to do. This means that there aren’t many places to meet new people. Should I just date someone who I don’t really find attractive or should I just not focus on this aspect of my life.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Can’t attract the people I want
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1d1ka3j/cant_attract_the_people_i_want/
|
NathanielJHellman
|
2021-02-14 06:25:18
| 1,613,283,918
| null | null | 0
|
ljj2zp
| true
| null | 21
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/ljj2zp/i_keep_getting_ghosted/
| 5
|
I have used apps like Tinder and websites like OkCupid and I keep running into the same problem. I manage to meet a girl after months of matching and trying to have a conversation with them, I get a date, and then after some amount of time I get ghosted. Is it my fault? Is there something I can do to market myself better so that stops happening? I read a post about straight men not taking good pictures, so is that something I should try to work on to stop this? I am just lost and frustrated at the moment and I was wondering if anyone knew what to do?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
I keep getting ghosted
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/ljj2zp/i_keep_getting_ghosted/
|
ChampionshipMany3416
|
2024-08-06 22:15:35
| 1,722,982,535
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1eluxkv
| true
| null | 9
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1eluxkv/dating_apps_never_go_anywhere_for_me_because_im/
| 2
|
Every girl I speak to I’ll just ask her about her day, her hobbies what she’s into and stuff like that, I get good conversations with them at the start doing this but then at some point I think they get tired that I don’t say anything flirty Idk man I just feel like a creep talking about that stuff, I never had a lot of practice talking to girls in my teens so this is kinda new to me, sometimes I try but everything I think of just sounds creepy to me so I never go through with it, any advice?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Dating apps never go anywhere for me because I’m afraid of saying anything remotely sexual, what should I do?
| 2
| 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1eluxkv/dating_apps_never_go_anywhere_for_me_because_im/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-12-22 08:20:26
| 1,419,236,426
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
2q1wvh
| null | null | 2
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2q1wvh/i_m_got_a_number_off_tinder_from_a_girl_who/
| 1
|
Except neither of us are free until a week and a half from now. What do I do in the mean time to keep her interested?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I (m) got a number off Tinder from a girl who agreed to get coffee
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2q1wvh/i_m_got_a_number_off_tinder_from_a_girl_who/
|
bloodthirsty_emu
|
2021-02-18 08:38:35
| 1,613,637,515
| null |
['matches', 'swiped', 'online dating']
| 0
|
lmi1gb
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/lmi1gb/jaded_about_online_dating/
| 1
|
Wondering if anyone else gets the same way. I (34m) have never really been on a date or had anyone show any interest. Very quickly it's a bit hard to meet people organically in real life (partially deaf so have trouble following conversations sometimes, also a bit scarred from being mistreated because I've always looked a lot older than my age due to illness). I have been on online dating for around 10 years with absolutely no success, but have generally been interested in trying to meet people and swiped / liked / messaged etc a fair bit. Lately though I've just been seriously underwhelmed by the potential matches I'm shown. To me, they seem boring or to have really effort profiles. It's really hard to get excited about yet another profile going on about how much they love food / wine, or travel (most people do) and they seem to have little else to offer by way of personality. It's also a bit saddening that so many are obese - particularly when I've had long periods where I'm unable to exercise and on appetite enhancing meds but still manage to stay in shape. Is this something about me? Or could it be something like a "better" class of potential dates are all already single? Does anyone else just get really tired of trying to get to know someone with zero effort being made in return?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Jaded about online dating
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/lmi1gb/jaded_about_online_dating/
|
hideninvisible
|
2022-02-05 17:12:17
| 1,644,081,137
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
slbwr2
| true
| null | 17
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/slbwr2/whats_too_much_and_whats_okay_to_say/
| 6
|
I met him through online dating. We have been chatting thru messages for about few 4 weeks now. We only had 2 in person dates so far which includes some level of physical intimacy. He seemed to be into it as I was. He was such a gentleman on both dates we had. He treated me like a lady, picking me up, taking me back, opening a door for me, getting a drink for me, initiating kisses, etc. Outside of these 2 dates, we barely communicate each other. I'm hardly able to get to know him and get him tell me about how his day goes. He'd take his time to get back to me in few hours or more. In a rare occasion, his text response can be very prompt. He told me that he likes me/my personality and he thinks I'm a nice person. He'd be open to have me as a friend if things are not working out between us romantically. I was like I'm not sure if I can be friend with him if it's not working out because I'm pretty much into him right now. He seems not sure about his feelings with me yet. I wanna tell him that I wanna see him more, perhaps twice a week instead of once a week. I wanna know about his day and I wanna share about my day. I wanna have a deeper connection. Am I being a bit too clingy? I don't feel like this with my date in a while to be honest. Normally I take my dating light and easy with no expectation. But I'm feeling very conflicted with this guy giving me mixed signals. Normally I'd like to bring everything out in the open and discuss it, like sharing everything what I'm feeling and hearing where he stands. But it can be a bit much and not everyone can have this level of honesty in this early stage of dating. What's your thought on that? I have a feeling that if I don't message him, I think he won't probably message me at all. Should I even stop messaging him to see if he will message me at all? I just saw a TikTok video about "When you stop texting first, you'll realize that you have been watering the dead plant entire time" I don't want this to be the case but I'd like to test it out. At the same time, I don't want him to think that I'm the one who's cutting the communication.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
What's too much and what's okay to say?
| null | 0.87
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/slbwr2/whats_too_much_and_whats_okay_to_say/
|
Various-Rice-1828
|
2024-07-10 21:49:38
| 1,720,648,178
| 0
|
['matched', 'bumble']
| 0
|
1e08055
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 17
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1e08055/need_advice_guy_went_mia_after_six_dates_still_on/
| 2
|
Hey everyone, So, I matched with this guy on Bumble, and we went on six really awesome dates. The last one, we spent the whole day and night at his beach house, cuddling and kissing the entire time. But after that, his communication slowed down. He said he had some family problems he couldn’t talk about. I figured he wasn’t interested anymore, so I backed off and stopped texting. A week later, he texted to check if I was okay. I said I was just giving him space, he thanked me, and then poof, he vanished. Sometimes he likes my Instagram stories, but that’s about it. I haven’t been texting him, but he’s still on my mind a lot. I’m still seeing other guys, but he’s always in the back of my head. Anyone got an explanation? I hate that my avoidant attachment style might be making me judge guys too hard.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Need Advice: Guy Went MIA After Six Dates, Still on My Mind
| 2
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1e08055/need_advice_guy_went_mia_after_six_dates_still_on/
|
Axelblood
|
2013-02-28 13:25:12
| 1,362,057,912
| 0
|
['online dating', 'dating site']
| 0
|
19e78a
| null | null | 4
| null |
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Alright this might be kind of lenhy but i really dont know what i should do. First i'll explain who both the girls are. One lets call her Jamie is a red head, very attractive, into gaming, comics, and pretty much loves the same kind of tv shows. I met her through work, and never really started talking to her untill two weeks ago at a small party for airman on our base. The second girl we will call her Alex, is a blonde, skinny, attractive, great sense of humor, is a gamer just like me, and still pretty much learning more about her. I met Alex through an online dating site. The only downfall is that she lives about an hour and a half away from me which isnt really the problem. I have hit it off really well the Alex, but Jamie not so much. The story with Jamie is that i asked her out the other day, but i found out later that day that she liked someone else at my workplace. So i thought it was a lost cause untill i found out yesterday from my really good friend that she was upset that i stop talking to her, because of the situation and now we are talking again. The other girl Alex, invited me over this weekend, and are going to a chili cooking thingy. She seems really nice and know wants a relationship, but i dont like doing the distance even if it is that short. I am not completely sure on which girl i should pursue, if you need more information, ill be glad to tell you what you need.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Me (21M) interested in two different girls, but confused on what to do.
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/19e78a/me_21m_interested_in_two_different_girls_but/
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clamchowduhh
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2019-10-17 12:07:01
| 1,571,314,021
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
dj5g2y
| true
|
Tinder/Online Dating
| 75
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/dj5g2y/overweight_women_online_dating/
| 1
|
Hello everyone. I just joined recently because this seems like a fantastic place to talk about dating and relationships and get advice. I feel very fortunate that there are resources like this with so many people to offer advice and support! Anyways, I posted the other day and I was pretty surprised at some of the top comments I received. Maybe I didn't understand correctly or maybe this forum is a lot of tough love. I appreciate it either way, was just surprised. It seems like most people thought and agreed that I needed to lose weight before I dated. I understand this advice but I guess I'm worried that losing the social interactions of dating while I sit around and count calories might have a negative effect on my mental health. I'm guessing the confidence I will gain will outweigh that? I know if most people are suggesting this there must be a good reason but part of me feels sad that I might need to put myself away for a while. Maybe I'm overthinking.
|
dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
overweight women online dating
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/dj5g2y/overweight_women_online_dating/
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Tianoccio
|
2019-02-10 19:22:19
| 1,549,826,539
| null |
['dating sites']
| 0
|
ap79tq
| true
| null | 6
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/ap79tq/im_a_30m_what_are_the_best_dating_sites_for_me_to/
| 1
|
Long story short, I haven’t even tried to date for a while and now I’m just looking for a possible companion, what sites are my best bet to try/pay for?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
I’m a 30M, what are the best dating sites for me to try?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ap79tq/im_a_30m_what_are_the_best_dating_sites_for_me_to/
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YareYareDa_
|
2023-06-18 19:53:50
| 1,687,118,030
| 0
| null | 0
|
14cteni
| true
| null | 7
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/14cteni/i_want_to_give_date_apps_a_try/
| 1
|
I've been trying to give apps a try but I feel like they just want to take my money. I get some likes, maybe some chats but in general just feel like a waste of time, is it or is just me?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
I want to give date apps a try
| 1
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/14cteni/i_want_to_give_date_apps_a_try/
|
ronmexico9
|
2018-12-01 01:04:08
| 1,543,626,248
| null |
['matched', 'bumble']
| 0
|
a1yfbp
| true
| null | 31
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/a1yfbp/did_i_do_something_wrong/
| 7
|
So I matched with a girl on Bumble a few days ago. We talked a little and then last night we set up a date for Sunday. We had a time and place picked out. After finalizing plans I told her I was going to bed and said goodnight, and she said good night with a kiss emoji. Today around 6pm I messaged her "hey how's your day been?" An hour later she unmatched (we haven't exchanged phone numbers). I'm so confused since she seemed pretty interested and we had a date set up, how could that 1 message cause her to lose all interest? I guess it could be perceived as boring or clingy but I'm not sure. This will be the 4th person that I had a date set up with who then cancelled in just this week, so I figure I must be doing something wrong. Any advice appreciated.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Did I do something wrong?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/a1yfbp/did_i_do_something_wrong/
|
SwimmingSurprise
|
2020-09-10 01:29:52
| 1,599,701,392
| null |
['dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0
|
iptpw1
| true
| null | 7
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/iptpw1/did_covid_ruin_my_shot_with_her_i_dont_know_what/
| 1
|
I met her on Tinder 5 months ago when the pandemic first started. We texted a ton but never met up because of COVID. Eventually we had Zoom dates, long phone calls etc. I felt we had a great connection although I don't know if it was reciprocated or not. We talked about a lot of deep things and laughed a ton with each other. We shared life philoposhies and opened up to each other a lot. She was very put together and emotionally stable and I felt she would make a great girlfriend. She would send me red heart emojis and even sent a kissy face emoji once but since we never met in person it's hard to tell how interested she was in me, especially since I usually was the one intiating and texting first. She lived at home and I'm an ER Nurse so I knew on some level that it might not be possible for us to really meet but truthfully I badly wanted to because I felt there was so much potential for things to work out between us. I had totally lost interest in other women by this point although I stayed on the dating apps just to keep from getting too much tunnel vision. When things slowed down and had been opened up in my area without a spike I felt real pressure that other guys might be taking her out and I figured that she'd probably been dating other dudes especially since around month 5 I ran into her dating profile again and saw it had been updated. My sister had met a boyfriend during this time, she told me her friend had gone on a distanced date, and I could see my co-workers were venturing out and dating/seeing friends again. She had also mentioned seeing her friends in person as well. So I got tested (negstive) and laid all my cards on the table and made one more attempt to ask her out for a socially distanced date, which she ignored at first and then responded by saying she just wasn't sure if she felt the same way anymore. Saying that she thought we had agreed to friend zone each other because of the pandemic and that bad timing and circumstances were in the way. She told me that I didn't do anything wrong and that this wasn't my fault. She said she hadn't gone on in person dates with other men but who knows. She told me she knew I wanted more and that she understood if I couldn't be friends. And I told her that I wanted to be friends and that I needed time. But a week later I told her the truth. That I couldn't accept settling for friendship when I really wanted more. That I'd always feel robbed of a chance with her and what could have been. I wished her luck and told her to drop a line if she was ever single and wanted to explore things further or pick up where we left off. And now, I'm not sure if I did the right thing. I wish I could put my feelings aside and be friends with her. But I can't. There's always this part of my head plotting to somehow win her affections back. I feel bad for abandoning her. But after 5 months I could see I was falling for her and I don't know if I made the right decision or not. I don't know if I've totally lost my chances with her or if she'll ever reach out again. And I don't know if I'll ever hear from her again. Part of me wishes I could turn my feelings off and be friends with her, because that basis for a great friendship was there. But I know that part of me wants more. TLDR: I [29M] got rejected by her [28F] due to 'bad timing' and possibly because of COVID. She wanted to be friends and I said no and am now questioning my decision.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Did COVID ruin my shot with her? I don't know what to do
| null | 0.6
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/iptpw1/did_covid_ruin_my_shot_with_her_i_dont_know_what/
|
uglytruthshurts
|
2020-09-09 18:02:14
| 1,599,674,534
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
ipl294
| true
| null | 8
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/ipl294/untold_advice_for_women_about_creeps/
| 0
|
To start with: females CAN creep on guys, but as a male, I cannot read women's train of thought and can only speak from a male perspective on how males, however, CAN creep on women; and yes, we all know, men creep and stalk more than women do. Hello, reddit Here's my short introduction; I'm a male in a serious relationship, between my partner and I, we are on one of the more attractive sides of physical appearance for lack of better terms. In real life and online, there is an endless slew of people who completely disregard the fact that we are not only people, but that we are together; and anyone that's following this understands where this is going; when one is desired, third-parties are always looking for an opening, some vulnerability to intervene and get between you and your(me and my) significant other. So, in essence, this post is mostly for Females, and possibly for Males who are actually in committed relationships; especially those in relationships where other men actively catcall, pursue or attempt to get closer in a boundary-stepping way. A lot of women are getting blurred and foggy signals of the difference between a "nice guy/friend" vs. a "creep/stalker". Note that, as a male in a relationship, it is also your job to help your partner notice these interactions. Studies show the more serious your relationship is, the more focused she is on you and is less likely to catch on to red flags from other males trying to swoop her downright outward creep, or the subtle stalker that follows for extended periods of time. In my experience, spotting a creep is based more on experience than simply just what you could google and read "signs that he's a creep". Though Ive never seen a post where the males line up all the QandA about what guys do vs. accusing females of being overtly shallow and superficial about their own dignity, integrity, and body. Endless posts of creepy guys online asking on Quora and Reddit and everywhere they can "what makes a guy creepy?" Or "why do women think guys are creepy?" Or any other combination of the words I just used. All defensive, and immediately creepy to have to question oneself on their habits to find conformation bias in strangers. Although you know even in the guise of online anonymity, creeps are never going to reveal the creepiest thing they do, just look at the list others made and check off what they do, what they don't. They'll self-judge and still deem themselves non-creepy because creeps don't get laid right? "There's no way Im a creep. I deserve to be loved like anyone else..." Wah wah wah Men are as manipulative as they claim women are. Men are impulsive, they will interpret everything you do to find opportunities to either get laid or attention. They'll even read this post in hopes that there's some creepy guy behavior advice that they should try avoiding in hopes that it makes them less creepy and more desirable because it's going to be public information when this is posted. Sorry for the long-winded start; the setting of a story to be told, or just to get you to understand the severity of how creeps work, it's not as simple as a couple sentences. The ability to spot a creep, is as simple as, think of that one thing you know you shouldn't do, but all the other thoughts that followed. All the BAD, DIRTY, DECEPTIVE thoughts. (Kinks and Fantasies should be reserved for your S.O.) Even if you never acted on them, you thought about it, that is your key and guide. Once you recognize and become aware, you can easily notice those same tendencies in others when THEY act on it. The use of guilt, coercion, blackmail, indulgence, intoxication, suggestive language, persistent to the point of assault and harassment, using negative emotions to sway someone your direction isn't just creepy but immoral For example: my friend's mother passed. He wasn't too shaken up, and he's definitely not a good looking guy, but he did use her death to prey on women at bars who were too tipsy to realize his intent andandand Let's Start with Basic Initiation: -Creeps will always present themselves as a nice, normal guy. -They will immediately try and become friends, especially close, "know personal details" close -They'll poke at you until they find something you tolerate and stick with that (because they're not really interested in you, just getting positive reception so you think better of them) -They'll mention your friends or your family instead of you -They'll call you a different name to create some "special bond" in their head between you two -They say they arent attracted to you when they are -They say theyre okay with just being friends and still hangs around often -They will talk about other girls constantly to get the "I'm a better girlfriend for you" spirit -They always mention sex or your physical appearance or your friend or family member -They will always fool themselves to believe every conversation will have you show some sign of interest in them -They add you on everything from snapchat, instagram, even asking your number -They start making little connections between you two without even dating or being good friends -They continue to talk/message you daily, or just very often even when you show no interest, besides a "hey" or "thanks" -If they have a single photo of you saved/screenshotted to their phone then bail and dont look back. Feeling attractive is fine, but you shouldn't have to acknowledge that either a friend, or an acquaintance is probably beating it off to your picture every day, especially if you're in frequent contact such as friends. Guys, there really is no reason to screenshot and save women's pictures unless personally given, not "shared" in a group message or chat or from social media or anywhere else. There's porn and anything you can look up. Staring at ever girl in the neighborhood is creepier than wanting to bang a porn star in your room. andandand If they're Your Friend: -They brag about knowing you -They compliment your appearance when uncalled for or awkwardly -They have multiple saved photos of you -They take pictures of you without you knowing -They know everything about your schedule -They like or comment / talk to you / pay careful attention to your social media more than you do -Thinks every guy you talk to is a threat if they dont reach their impossible standards -Doesnt care to get to know your significant other -Specifically focuses on you when during conversation -You and your S.O. have a schedule of your own, a friend that is creeping or liking you more is going to find a way to get involved in some sort of schedule to regularly come into contact with you -Dramatizes over things you like together or past experiences -If you feel like you cant share specific information with your S.O. because it would upset them, that friend is a seed of toxicity -Talks about you, your life, relationships and such to other friends or total strangers -They play pity parties believing your genuine concern and care for them is a spark of romantic interest -Asks about your sex/romance life. Unless its your best friend you trust more than the world, never let someone know information that should always be private between you and your S.O. communication with each other is vital as the influence of others is the downfall of all previous ideals -They try to have a secret relationship, even a friendly one, behind your S.O's back -They compliment you often; friends bring each other up, but friends also criticize each other. If someone is creeping, they'll kiss ass, flatter, say every word in the dictionary thinking the right one or phrase will win your love -They message/talk to you every day, unless once again, it's a best friend you trust with dark secrets. -Your friend has their own life too, you are not their caregiver or caretaker. If they act like you owe them anything besides friendship, cut the ties. andandand How to Know if you're Dating One -Needs to know everything before you're ready to tell -Does things you don't like intentionally -The sex doesnt feel meaningful -Wants pictures, recordings, the nitty gritty even if you don't want to -Stares at other women and makes comments -Threatens you with verbal abuse, or physical abuse -You cant have a single guy friend or maybe friends in general -Compares themselves to others often -They brag about being with you -They share a picture or any private details about you -Makes comments about sleeping with your friends or family -Has a mysterious past and convenient stories -Actively watches porn still and the contents of it are not performed between you two -Talks negatively or missing details about their past so much that it almost feels intrusive to want to know more -You cant figure out why you like them -They watch what you do -They dont trust you -They victimize themselves -They always make you feel guilty -In basic essence, if you date a creep, they are extremely controlling, they cherish the relationship to the point of surreality and abusiveness. The emotions aren't reciprocated, there is a lot of manipulation around private information or photos or recordings. If you're dating a creep, you're giving them their happy ending every day while living a nightmare with no freedom for yourself. andandand Spotting Creeps: -It seriously isn't the easiest thing in the world. A lot of times you don't realize how much someone is a creep until they're closer than you wanted. So pay attention to that person who always seems to be a little too into whatever youre doing -Creeps are ALWAYS interested in your sex life, no matter what They'll ask details, even playfully sometimes, but they have only one motive. To fantasize -They always seem like friendly normal people, and in truth, they can be. That doesn't separate the fact that everyone is capable of a hidden agenda or a calculated plan -Guys in this generation are not as forward as they used to be, at least not in healthy mannerisms past catcalling. They are more subtle, deceptive, and have more aesthetics than the generations before. -Theyll know details about you and bring it up as if it's their own interest to make it look like you instantly have something in common. -They always remember dates and consider everything little thing you do with them to be of the utmost importance in the memory bank. -They ask questions, you might say a little at first to get acquainted...but then they'll ask more. Where did you go to school, wheres your home town, whats your number? Narrowing down down to where you live so they can keep an eye on you themselves. -Watch the show "You", its a decent series that definitely shows the elevated level of stalking that is capable with today's technological standards. Also shows how deluded their reality is and how they misinterpret everything you do as an act for them. andandand How to Avoid Creeps: -Spot them before you let them make you their "damsel in distress" -Threaten them with legal or police action if they overstep -Set them up with a fake person -Tell them straight up no, make it clear and dont piss them off or they'll obsess over you -Block them from everything -Let your friends and family know -Let your significant other handle the situation -Creeps are just the worst, they're impossible people, they will always hold on to a deluded sliver of a reality chance that you'll catch feelings if the winds just blow their direction. The only real way to get rid of them is forget they exist and if they ever show up unannounced: 911 is right there. Now ladies, let's remember that we are in a dangerously new world where we have a diverse set of people. The development in technologies changing the way things are done in courtship and dating. It went from writing letters, asking parents to take their daughter out, sending little notes in class, physical teasing, then phones and text messaging. Not just asking for the house landline phone number, but cell. Then MySpace, internet profiles, to "sliding into dms", to snapchat, tinder and dick pictures. There's definitely things in between and things that came before but as you can see, the contact is becoming less meaningful and more superficial. People look for convenient ways to "find their soulmate"; patience in life and holding virtues to a standard is a dying belief. It's at a point where the idea of "love at first sight" has become a twisted idea of compulsive stalking on social media. Love isn't quick, it comes when you're ready for it. It cannot be forced, it just exists. It can't be found just sleeping with others and hoping to get a spark of emotion. It definitely isn't just a physical attraction neither. Unfortunately we live in a glamour world where sex media is able to be accessed easily and people are growing up believing in Hollywood movies - for lack of better words. Men objectify women, and sex media around the world doesnt help the case, it only gives creeps and feeble men the idea that they'll get a 10/10 hottie if they can force feelings. Sorry about this Its basically an overview and summary. If you asked me, "do you actually believe all this?" I would say "damm right, yes" I am no saint, but I am no creep either. I've been the guy who's unintentionally been with my friend's girlfriend, I've broken tens of hearts of women, I've been the nice guy, the tool, the simp. I get along with almost anyone and they spill me secrets. In my experience and life, this template specifically for creeps will keep you sane. I've seen things happen with others and have been the problem myself. Don't misinterpret signals, don't think it was a small mistake, guys don't do anything they don't mean. I'm happily with my significant other. I'm 28 (M). Before the assumptions, the past I have in experience with this type of thing, I've never creeped, you can catch yourself and stop yourself before doing anything. Its just knowing right from wrong and letting the world fall into place. Like I said before, when you catch/stop yourself and do everything right, it's a lot easier to see the creeps who follow through and act completely. Just because you can manipulate someone, never means you should manipulate anyone. To all the creeps, find some peace. To the ladies, and guys in committed relationships, stay safe. Thanks for reading. If you have any other pointers for spotting out creeps, go ahead and post them If you want to talk about it, let's do it
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Untold Advice for Women about Creeps:
| null | 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ipl294/untold_advice_for_women_about_creeps/
|
LiquidNitro89
|
2021-06-22 13:41:58
| 1,624,369,318
| null |
['OLD']
| 0
|
o5ng2i
| true
| null | 7
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/o5ng2i/any_point_to_send_another_text/
| 1
|
Need some advice on this situation even though I think I already know the answer. I (31F) have been on 2 dates with M37 who I met through OLD. The 2nd date was this past Thursday and lasted for 6 hours, we got dinner, then drinks, and then made out for an hour before we both headed home. We had talked about making future plans and I thought things were going pretty well! I went away Friday for a girls trip weekend (which he knew was happening as originally he wanted to go out Friday night) and came back Sunday morning at which point I texted him, asking how his weekend was going and mentioned something about mine and it was a topic that we had discussed on Thursday. We did not text Friday or Saturday. He has not responded to my text. Any point in sending another text? Or safe to assume his silence is the answer?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Any point to send another text?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/o5ng2i/any_point_to_send_another_text/
|
Jelly-Cookiepatra
|
2024-08-14 22:33:26
| 1,723,674,806
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1esetlt
| true
| null | 31
| 0
|
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1esetlt/advice_for_my_widowed_father/
| 6
|
Hi! As the title sounds, I (21) am the daughter of my widowed father (54). His wife, also my mom, passed away 15 years ago, and my dad hasn’t really dated since. I think he’s gone on a few dates starting when I turned 18, but nothing has come from that. I know that he’s been lonely, but we had a phone call today and he sounds extremely upset that he’s “old and alone.” We were talking about dating at his age, and he doesn’t really know where to start. He has used dating apps, and he told me they haven’t worked for him. I don’t know why, but his texting can come across very dry and short, so that’s my guess. In his words, he wants to “casually date,” but he doesn’t know where to meet anyone. I think my dad is great guy, but he can be very shy and awkward at first. When he met my best friend, he was very awkward, but now she’s like another daughter to my dad. I want to help my dad date, but I don’t really have great advice for him. I’ve dated a lot of people, but I’m also on college and it’s very easy to meet new people. We live in a ruralish area in PA, so does anyone have advice, suggestions, or similar experiences?
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datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
Advice for my widowed father
| 6
| 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1esetlt/advice_for_my_widowed_father/
|
gealli
|
2024-02-19 09:36:49
| 1,708,335,409
| 0
|
['bumble']
| 0
|
1aujggt
| true
|
Question ❓
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1aujggt/how_are_bumble_bff_and_bumble_dating_locations/
| 3
|
I’ve (25F) been exclusively dating this guy (31M) for a couple of months. He told me he’d switched to the BFF mode in the app. When I recently checked his profile (which for me is his dating profile) it shows that his location has updated. TLDR; Can opening the app to use BFF update your location across all profiles? For example if you haven’t snoozed your dating profile but just jumped to the BFF profile?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
How are Bumble BFF and Bumble dating locations connected?
| 3
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1aujggt/how_are_bumble_bff_and_bumble_dating_locations/
|
steakoutwhoa
|
2022-02-07 00:18:43
| 1,644,193,123
| null |
['swiping', 'tinder']
| 0
|
smc335
| true
| null | 18
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/smc335/whats_the_point_of_casual_dating/
| 5
|
I'm having trouble looking at things from a different perspective. so I've been swiping through on tinder and shit and mostly everybody's looking for casual dates or nothing serious. I understand looking for friends and how platonic relationships might be important to that person, however - wouldn't casual dating just be kind of wasting your time? like you're putting your effort into getting to know that person and for what? is it just putting limitations on things because of fear of commitment or something else? I know I'm going to have trouble with this because all I'm looking for is something serious so it seems like casual dating is somewhat pointless. I guess it takes the pressure off of things maybe is that what it is? I'm not sure but I just want to get others respectives on this.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
what's the point of casual dating?
| null | 0.73
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/smc335/whats_the_point_of_casual_dating/
|
Morgendorrfer
|
2017-07-27 03:38:19
| 1,501,126,699
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
6ptdx9
| null | null | 16
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/6ptdx9/should_i_text_him_again/
| 8
|
Ok, so last Wednesday I met a really awesome guy from tinder and we had a really good date (ended with us making out). The next day we sent some sweet texts to each other about how we had a good time. We were supposed to meet up again Sunday. However, Saturday was his birthday and he drank too much and got hungover. We reschedule for Friday. However, I was the one who had to initiate when he wanted to reschedule (although he did offer up Friday). And we've barely texted since that last Friday. And aside from "on Friday", I don't know a specific time or location. I've sent a couple of other texts (good evening, have you seen new game of thrones?) over that time and whereas before he would usually respond, he hasn't at all to those texts since last Friday. Only texts he's replied to was about feeling better after the hangover, and the rescheduling texts. I can't gauge if he's just not much of a texter, or if he's trying to ghost but is too polite. I'm not sure if I should try to confirm the date soon (either day before or day of) or accept I'm being ghosted. It's hard to tell since I've only known him a week. Most guys I date will text me more if they're interested, so I'm kind of freaking out, because I'm not sure if my freaking out isn't legitimate or not. Should I try to get him to talk more, or at least confirm the date, or just let it go? Update: I did end up just texting, "hey are we on?" and now have a solid plan. We'll see how this goes. Update to update: About an hour and a half before, we were good to go...then he cancelled because a family situation he didn't want to talk about came up. I have no idea if this is legit or not. I was sympathetic, and said he could reschedule if he wanted to. From this point forward, if he doesn't make a move it's not happening.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Should I text him again?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/6ptdx9/should_i_text_him_again/
|
404Dawg
|
2022-01-25 01:34:39
| 1,643,074,479
| null | null | 0
|
sc1jo4
| true
| null | 62
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/sc1jo4/how_to_answer_what_are_your_hobbies/
| 38
|
I’m in my early 30s man, career focused, work from home, rarely leave, introvert (i know I’m changing that). But i hate this question. I walk my dog at the park? I go to lunch with friends? My post-work activities are mostly mental recovery lol What are some hobbies you can tell someone without being too disingenuous and also without having to verify lol
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
How to answer: What are your hobbies?
| null | 0.94
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/sc1jo4/how_to_answer_what_are_your_hobbies/
|
FireFrogFred
|
2023-05-31 17:41:08
| 1,685,554,868
| 0
| null | 0
|
13wsth4
| true
| null | 30
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/13wsth4/how_to_get_feedback/
| 0
|
33/M having a whole lot of 1 and done dates. I politely ask for feedback a week later and ALWAYS get a "oh no you were fine I'm just bad at texting". There's nothing to go with that and I understand they do not owe me the feedback. I'm not looking to change who I am but idk if I'm not flirty enough. How the heck do you get feedback on this?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
How to get feedback
| 0
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/13wsth4/how_to_get_feedback/
|
Theres_nothingtosee
|
2024-07-02 18:57:12
| 1,719,946,632
| 0
|
['matched', 'swiped', 'tinder']
| 0
|
1dttodc
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1dttodc/first_date/
| 1
|
Hi So I’ve never been on a date in my life (Im 18). Few days back I decided to download tinder just for fun. The first person I matched with- and we stared texting. I didn’t have any pictures of me displayed so I was surprised he swiped right on me He is really kind but also flirtatious in a really funny way. We decided to meet and it’s happening tomorrow He texted me he was going to take me to Zoo. Well I’m so nervous. I don’t think i’m going to fall asleep tonight because i’m literally shaking like crazyy . I just need advice how to not be nervous ?? he’s 5 years older than me and that is making me even more stressed. What do yall do to be a bit less anxious ? I was thinking id take a shot right before the date, but i’m not sure that is a good idea. Just please— something comforting 🙏
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
First date
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1dttodc/first_date/
|
[deleted]
|
2013-06-17 18:09:39
| 1,371,492,579
| 0
|
['pof']
| 0
|
1gj2nc
| null | null | 0
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1gj2nc/could_someone_critique_my_pof_profile_male/
| 1
|
[(http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=54286326)] I am looking for some advice about getting a little more traffic on my profile. Any input at would be appreciated!
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Could Someone critique my POF profile? (Male)
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1gj2nc/could_someone_critique_my_pof_profile_male/
|
Sapceghost1
|
2020-10-04 11:02:12
| 1,601,809,332
| null |
['matches']
| 0
|
j4x6qq
| true
| null | 20
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/j4x6qq/what_are_your_odds_of_getting_past_the_first_date/
| 1
|
I had another date last night and I thought it went pretty well, turned into a five-hour session and it went very quickly. Unfortunately, she didn't want to have a second date. I think this is maybe the 15th first date I've had in the past year which hasn't led anywhere and I wonder about the odds you guys have in terms of successful matches. Obviously, a first date might go well but things fizzle out a few dates further down the line but I'm struggling to even get past the first hurdle which can be a bit of a bummer. On paper, I think I'm a catch, good job, flat, decent looking, all that stuff. I'm trying not to be pessimistic as I did meet someone last weekend and she's interested in meeting again but she lives 200 miles away, and I don't know if I see enough of a spark there to overcome that distance. So, my question is to all you experienced daters is: What % of the dates which you go on lead to a second date? Do you think maybe you're doing something wrong which is putting them off? I always have this internal battle in my mind where I want to improve myself and any shortcomings I may if it is making me seem less attractive, but then another part of my brain says own who you are and any quirks you may have, and if they don't like the way you are then they wouldn't be a good match anyway. I have another date lined up tonight so we'll see how that goes! Update: had my second date of the weekend with a new woman. She messaged me just as I was about to leave saying she had another engagement she had forgot about so could only stick around an hour and if I wanted to reschedule, I said no, let's do it anyway. Figured I would rather keep it short if it doesn't go my way instead of wasting five hours like the day before. Well, it went pretty well, she said she wants to see me again. Maybe the key is (as some of the comments have mentioned) is cap a first date at two hours. She seems interesting so it would be good to see her again, although physically I don't think she's my type so much.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
What are your odds of getting past the first date and do you ever wonder if you're doing something wrong?
| null | 0.6
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/j4x6qq/what_are_your_odds_of_getting_past_the_first_date/
|
Worried_Plum1373
|
2024-02-11 13:50:18
| 1,707,659,418
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
1ao8djd
| false
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ao8djd/met_this_girl_on_tinder_only_had_one_date_so_far/
| 1
|
Like this post says I met her on Tinder, so far it’s a casual relationship nothing serious. Only met her once, one date that has been successful. I am taking her out to dinner the weekend of Valentine’s Day. But on the actual Valentine’s Day I was wondering if I should get her something. My gut says no because it’s causal, also I barely know her, adding to the fact that I’m taking her out to dinner that weekend. What are your thoughts
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Met this girl on tinder, only had one date so far. Should I get her a valentines gift.
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ao8djd/met_this_girl_on_tinder_only_had_one_date_so_far/
|
MartinSonreddit
|
2020-04-08 10:43:03
| 1,586,342,583
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
fx4aoe
| true
| null | 314
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/fx4aoe/does_anyone_else_think_tinder_became_unusable/
| 2,678
|
Since passport is free for all my feed is filled up with woman from hundreds or thousand miles away, mostly those who are just hunting for Instagram followers. I have set a radius of 30 miles for a reason since I want to meet girls I might have a chance to meet but the radius does not apply to the radius which normally is fine since only few people have passport but now about 80% of profiles I see are far outside the radius. Tinder blocked this topic on their discussion boards and facebook... they are allergic against feedback from their customers.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Does anyone else think Tinder became unusable since Passport is free for all?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/fx4aoe/does_anyone_else_think_tinder_became_unusable/
|
henker220
|
2023-09-24 20:17:18
| 1,695,586,638
| 0
|
['matched', 'online dating']
| 0
|
16r7k2m
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/16r7k2m/where_do_i_go_to_meet_women_who_actually_are/
| 1
|
I’m 25M and have no dating/sexual experience. I have no idea where to go to meet women who are single and actually looking (and mutually interested…). When I was in community college, I tried approaching girls on campus and I don’t say anything that could be construed as inappropriate or creepy (I just stuck to majors, hobbies, etc in the beginning). This girl accused me of harassing her after I tried to approach her and start a conversation so that made me hesitant to approach anyone else on campus. Now I’ve graduated and am taking classes online and my campus is an hour and a half away so college is not an option. Obviously online dating hasn’t yielded any results regardless of what profile tweaks I make. I tried approaching women in bars/clubs but that wasn’t working either and I got tired of embarrassing myself trying to talk to uninterested women. I’ve been told women don’t want to be approached in bars, but then I get told that bars/clubs are “acceptable” places to approach women (my dad used to go to clubs to pick up women when he was my age). I pretty much have no local IRL friends. My IRL best friend lives 3 hours away and my one local friend is always too busy to hang out with regularly so if I want to go out somewhere I have to go by myself. Even then, my friends are hella introverted and they don’t have many friends either (and definitely no female friends) so I can’t meet women through my social circle. I tried a speed dating event and matched with someone my first time out but nothing developed from it. My location sucks too. I live in a small city that doesn’t have Jack shit for people my age to do so I have to drive at least 40 minutes to actually go places where women my age would more than likely be. I get so much contradictory information as far as where and when it’s acceptable to approach women and talk to them and I don’t want to be that guy who gets blasted on social media for trying to talk to a girl in public. My family told me to wait for “approach signals” like eye contact and everything else, but the girls I want to talk to don’t even look my direction or they’re with guys. I would say I gravitate more toward artsy “hippie” types of people. There was a cafe near my mother’s house I used to go that catered toward that scene and I made a ton of friends there (even female friends). I’m very bookish too. Consequently, my hobbies are solitary and aren’t conducive to meeting women either. My idea of fun is listening to podcasts about geopolitics and warfare or learning languages or making educational YouTube videos. I am just at a loss as to how or where to meet single women who are also looking for someone.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Where do I go to meet women who actually ARE looking to date?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/16r7k2m/where_do_i_go_to_meet_women_who_actually_are/
|
Noexit007
|
2018-03-31 15:44:49
| 1,522,511,089
| null |
['online dating', 'dating sites', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'happn', 'pof']
| 0
|
88jgl7
| false
| null | 17
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/88jgl7/dating_with_cancer_just_how/
| 20
|
I am currently fighting cancer. Its stage IV but treatable, and provided treatments continue to work I should still live a fairly long life. It is not a type that would affect me being able to have children, or disfigure me, or cause any other such issues. I am still young (male in my early 30's), and apart from cancer, I am healthy. But it does cause issues, from fatigue to nausea, and there are obviously medical concerns and doctor trips that come into play. I am a bit shy and introverted and that does make it tough to date regardless, especially as I don't drink alcohol or coffee, meaning I am not someone who would "pick up" someone at a bar or coffee shops (common "date" locations). I am also in a tough situation in my life because of a variety of factors but primarily due to cancer. I live with my folks to save money (not the most appealing situation) and was trying to finish out a college degree when I was diagnosed. I am an artist (a struggling artist is an apt description), which tends to have its own connotations. I have never felt more lonely in my life than currently and have been grasping at straws to try and find someone. I have joined such online dating sites/apps as Bumble, OKC, Tinder, Happn, PoF, and more, with little to no success. Now to be fair, on ones that allow descriptions I have been upfront about my cancer because I feel its unfair for me to drop that bombshell on someone later on, and women should know what they are getting up front (as clinical as that sounds). ________________________ So... that giant description and information load out of the way.... ______________________ HOW do you date with cancer? Is there anyone on here in a similar position as me? Am I making a mistake being upfront on dating sites/apps about having cancer? Are there communities I should be aware of? I feel like its impossible, and I have not found any sites that cater towards health issue dating or cancer dating, and to be honest I am not sure they would be great anyway. I don't want sympathy, I want companionship, and I have never felt more lonely and mortal. Any advice would be appreciated. If you are in a similar situation or have a friend/significant other who was or is in such a situation. Ideas for sites or communities to look into or join, or recommendations on how to look for love with a health situation looming over you. Thank you.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Dating with cancer... just... how?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/88jgl7/dating_with_cancer_just_how/
|
thrw1726
|
2018-07-10 14:34:01
| 1,531,233,241
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
8xpowc
| true
| null | 16
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/8xpowc/keep_getting_strung_along_fucked_around_cancelled/
| 2
|
Hey there, Over the past few months I've been having prpblems with women, succinctly described in the title, and I have no idea. I'm a good looking, likeable guy with enough friends who all seem to love me (and I love em back). I've never been in a real relationship but semi-regularly go on dates with new people. Recently though (past 4 months or so) I've been having problems which have seriously damaged my self confidence and sense of self worth. With the past four girls I've been interested in, the following pattern is roughly followed: I'll meet someone, either on Tinder or real life, and talk with them for a while building up interest. We'll make plans for a date, but the girl will cancel on the day usually for a believeable reason and she'll ask to reorganise and say she's really looking forward to meet up with me. The next date, again I'll be cancelled on, and for a less believeable reason ("oh I got asked to work so I took the shift", even though they had plans with me -- I even had a girl tell me she made plans with friends instead because we didn't text for a couple of days and so cancelled on me when I asked her if 7pm was good for her on the morning of the date, and she didn't want to cancel on her friends but was fine cancelling on our original plans lol). I give the benefit of the doubt and we reorganise, and at some point between the latest cancellation and the next date they'll go all quiet and either stop texting me and leaving me in the dark about whether they're going to show up to the date, or they'll say they no longer want to see me (I've had "I'm sorry but I'm going through something right now" to "I don't think the timing is right"), or I get one-night-standed. And with all these girls, we text pretty much every day between meeting and the point when I get cut off. They usually say they like me a lot and look forward to seeing me. Why am I then fucked around? I really don't get it Am I just an object for some people's ego-boost? If so, there must be quite low probability for this to happen several times in a row. To add, I've had a couple of disappointing flat out rejections which would otherwise not bother me, but do in this context. Is there something wrong with me or have I just had terribly bad luck? I'm confident I'm not doing anything wrong or weird or creepy; I've had plenty of dating experience. I'm also confident that it's not just the type of women I'm seeking; all of them have been considerably different. How can I get over this self-confidence-killer? What do I do next? Has anyone had a similar experience over an extended period? Over the past 12 odd weeks, excluding finals period last semester, I've had plans every single week only to be cancelled on. At this point, I just feel so worn out and emotionally drained, and I just have no will to meet anyone now. I just want to sit in my room and cry and let that emtion out. I'm angry about it all. Am I overreacting? Just today the 4th woman in all this bs cancelled on me for our date tonight for the 3rd time. I don't know how to respond to her, or if I should just not reply and try to forget about her asap.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Keep getting strung along / fucked around / cancelled on. Is there a reason? (M 20)
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/8xpowc/keep_getting_strung_along_fucked_around_cancelled/
|
bossandy
|
2021-03-04 00:15:17
| 1,614,816,917
| null | null | 0
|
lx875i
| true
| null | 36
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/lx875i/26_year_old_male_need_help_with_online_dating/
| 11
|
Hello, I recently started using dating apps like tinder and bumble as well as others. I haven’t been getting any matches and I know it’s because on a scale from 1 to 10 I’m like a 5 and I know that tinder is mostly for physically attractive people. But I have tinder platinum which means I can super like people and send a message before even matching so my question is what are some things I can say in a message to get a girl to give me a chance despite the fact I’m not super attractive? I have no game so thanks for any advice.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
26 year old male, need help with online dating
| null | 0.87
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/lx875i/26_year_old_male_need_help_with_online_dating/
|
sanguinesecretary
|
2024-05-08 20:00:18
| 1,715,198,418
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
1cndux0
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1cndux0/im_in_love_with_my_best_friend/
| 1
|
I (28F) am in love with my best friend (26M). Oddly enough, we met on a dating app 3 ish years ago. We went on 2 dates. We kissed a few times but nothing ever came of it. There was distance. Our lives just didn’t line up. We were in very different places mentally and emotionally and I don’t think it would have worked. I wasn’t at all ready for a mature relationship looking back so I’m grateful it didn’t work out because I have grown so much in 3 years and have some of the best friends and community I could ever ask for which I don’t know that I would have if I had gotten into a relationship. We decided to stay friends. We hung out occasionally going to restaurants, coffee shops, etc. Eventually he met someone and got married but the marriage was very short lived. He got divorced 6 months ago, his ex has since moved on. We stayed in touch via social media but I was at peace with the fact that our lives went in different directions and I probably would never see him again. We reconnected after his divorce. He asked if we could hang out again because he missed me. I know what you’re thinking but he has never made a move that bordered on inappropriate or made me think he was trying to swoop in just for attention. I was cautious at first but ultimately wanted to be there for my friend so I accepted. We’ve since been talking and snapping almost every day. We have bonded over our faith specifically as we are both Christians and active In our respective churches. We’ve hung out many times since reconnecting and It has honestly become the most important friendship in my life. I was going through a very dark depression due to the deterioration of my friendship with my best friend and roommate at the time so when we reconnected, we both helped each other a lot through our respective issues. There were no ulterior motives on either of our parts beyond just wanting to have friends to lean on. We are both a lot happier now and our hangouts have been more light hearted and fun recently but there have been a few conversations alluding to our mutual physical attraction to each other and being slightly flirtatious. I know he is attracted and I did admit an attraction to him a while back after he asked me about it. Now to my feelings: I’ve tried and tried to brush them off. I never wanted to be someone who lurks around someone hoping for a chance. His friendship and his happiness above all mean more to me than the chance to be with him. But I can’t deny he is genuinely the best guy I know and I feel so much happier around him and he is genuinely kind to me and we just click. Im so conflicted because I don’t want to destroy the friendship or make it weird but am I just causing more damage by keeping my mouth shut? I feel so guilty for hiding it but I’ve done all I can at this point to shut the feelings off aside from actually talking to him about it and it’s not working. I’m just afraid to be rejected at this point and I feel like an awful person and a big dum dum.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
I’m in love with my best friend
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1cndux0/im_in_love_with_my_best_friend/
|
Suitable_Brain7650
|
2023-02-07 13:16:23
| 1,675,775,783
| null |
['matched', 'OLD']
| 0
|
10w1kad
| true
| null | 29
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/10w1kad/matched_with_a_girl_texted_for_a_week_i_asked_her/
| 3
|
Hi all, first time posting here. I (36M) have been out of the dating game for almost 5 years as I was getting my degree. I have went on first and second dates via OLD during that time, but nothing has developed to more than that. From time to time, I download the apps, match with few, go out, and when it doesn’t work, I just delete the apps and try again in few months. Recently, I did the same. Matched with a girl, we chatted for a bit and I asked her out, she said I need to know you first (fair point) so we did. During that time, she had to take a business trip, and she always send good morning text. She would also keep on repeating the same questions that she asked before but in a different way. At one point she asked me if I just want someone to text (even thought I asked her out at the beginning), so I replied that’s not the only thing that I’m looking for. Yesterday, I asked her when she’s coming back so we can meet in person, she replied saying that I am pushy and rushing things. To my surprise, I replied to her text, but it was not delivered, turned out that she blocked me. So, my questions are, have I been rushing it? Should I have not asked her out a second time and figure out when is she coming back? What have I done wrong? Your input is highly appreciated.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Matched with a girl, texted for a week. I asked her out at the beginning but she wanted to know me first.
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/10w1kad/matched_with_a_girl_texted_for_a_week_i_asked_her/
|
Gozii55
|
2022-07-16 21:38:41
| 1,658,007,521
| null | null | 0
|
w0r46o
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/w0r46o/need_help_with_awkward_dilemma_for_taking_profile/
| 7
|
I have been doing online dating on and off for a long time and it's always been difficult for me to do pics that are interesting for a very specific reason. I have friends, but we live far apart and I don't take many pics with them, and I never ever ask people to take pics of me. So what happens is I take pics of myself inside my apartment, and I feel kinda embarrassed about it. I'm sure MANY people can relate lol. With that being said I want to take some pics of myself hiking or at the beach, but I just don't know how to do it without feeling embarrassed. I literally see my close friends in person maybe 4-5 times a year. Otherwise we just game online and text. I match with people fairly often, but not regularly. Maybe 3-6 matches a week. Maybe less if I don't put effort into it. I'm definitely getting ignored by a big chunk of people by having a boring profile. I even try to setup a timer and take pics playing guitar. I know some girls are attracted to me. I have a good understanding of where the "line," is for who finds me cute. I am often talking to 2-3 girls at a time, but its usually with people I don't feel special about. It's like the only people who like me, I don't like lol. It seriously isn't even about looks, it's more about compatibility with my weirdness lol. I'm also fairly prude about intelligence. I'm only attracted to very intelligent people. Probably a but too picky but I'm a philosophical and scientific person. I need someone who shares the same interests in those things. It's crucial for me. Those types of girls come around now and then, but generally it's hard. I also feel like I'd get dates without even trying if I lived in a bigger city, but I'm too far away and there's simply not enough people online. Idk it feels so sad haha. Like it's this awkward thing where I know I need better pics to get matches, but have no idea how to go about it. Any suggestions?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Need Help With Awkward Dilemma For Taking Profile Pics
| null | 0.89
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/w0r46o/need_help_with_awkward_dilemma_for_taking_profile/
|
fred9992
|
2024-02-09 17:17:23
| 1,707,499,043
| 0
|
['swipes', 'bumble']
| 0
|
1amta1a
| true
|
Seeking Advice
| 10
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1amta1a/conflicted_kinda_terrified/
| 1
|
My marriage of 20 years didn’t work out. Divorce was final, late last year, and we’re getting along very well now. I can absolutely point to where things went sideways, family of origin / emotional immaturity stuff, and I’ve made a promise to myself to wait a year before officially dating. I’m actively working on myself - healing and growth. I’ve started a business and, with no excuses, I’m eagerly and excitedly engrossed in my work. I have my teen child every other week. On my weeks, it’s all about us. I live in the country to be close to their school and mom. On off weeks, it’s just me and all the family pets. Most of our shared old social circle were other couples. A few of the husbands have maintained our friendship but the vast majority of our shared friend group rallied, rather cruelly, around my now ex wife. I get it. Divorce was very sad. Some of them have ceased the dagger stares and crossing the street when they see me. Some haven’t even though my ex wife no longer hates me. I’m ok being alone. In fact I’m intentionally practicing self reliance and comfort without social reinforcement. I stay pretty busy and have a solid group of male friends. I have no women in my life. I miss them 😂 I would very much like to socialize with all people. Right now it’s just men. If it weren’t for men, though, it would just be cats and dogs. I checked out Bumble last night and found quite a few right swipes. It was a burner account because I’m concerned about anyone finding me on there right now. I think what I want (no, I’m not sure) is to causally hang out with a woman. I’m not ready to face the concept of dating. First, I haven’t gone on a date with anyone other than my wife for well over two decades. Second, I’m rebuilding my life. I am in better shape than 90% of guys my age (49) but I really want my abs back. I likely have body image issues but I’m alright with that for now. The point is I don’t feel as attractive as I want to be, I know I up my game. While I’m a successful technology pro, my ex was the bread winner. I’m rebuilding my career. I would be fine with where I am at 30 but at 49… I dread the question, “what do you do?” I came out of divorce better than most, and better than I expected, but I’m still financially set back (about 20 years). It ok, I plan to live to 120 and work until I die. I’m terrified of what dating will feel like. I’d really just like to hang out with and share time with a female human, who isn’t my wife or someone else’s wife, and genuinely connect. I’m not necessarily afraid of sexual energy but perhaps I’m afraid of rejection. My usual solution is to face the thing holding me back but I have this whole “fix myself first” strategy. Should I just wait it out? Should I actively seek female friends. And how the hell would I do that?!
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datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Conflicted, kinda terrified
| 1
| 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1amta1a/conflicted_kinda_terrified/
|
Justquestioning00
|
2023-04-05 22:22:39
| 1,680,733,359
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
12d012q
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/12d012q/i_24f_reach_out_to_him_21m/
| 2
|
Back in February I met this guy on Tinder. Both of us agreed to something casual and starting hooking up/hanging out. It seemed like a good situation bc we got on really well n had things in common. Two weeks ago he told me some personal stuff and said he was stressed. One of the reasons we were casual is due to our schedules/jobs. We simply don’t have the time for a serious relationship plus he is going to be gone all summer while school is out. Last week he told me he wasnt sure when we would have time to hang out again so I told him it was nice to meet him. Basically “bye” I didn’t think I would hear from him but then he wanted me to come over n he told me he’s totally overwhelmed with school and all the stuff he has going on he’s catching feelings and he “just can’t rn” I kinda left the door open saying I enjoyed his company and if he wanted to hang out in the future to hmu So here’s the thing… I’d like to reach out to him b4 he leaves for the summer to see if he’d like to connect a bit or hookup. The only thing I’m wavering on is if he was just saying he was busy to let me down easy? If that’s the case I certainly don’t want to bother him, but tbh it can be hard to find a good fwb and I liked what we had. What would you do?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I (24f) reach out to him (21m)
| 2
| 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/12d012q/i_24f_reach_out_to_him_21m/
|
ginisninja
|
2017-11-12 01:30:46
| 1,510,450,246
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
7cchvm
| false
| null | 17
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/7cchvm/advice_ignore_or_explain/
| 4
|
TLDR: guy I’m not interested in keeps messaging me on different social media. Should I ignore and if I respond, how to explain nicely I’m not interested? So I met this guy off tinder about 2 months ago. I gave him my number but he kept only messaging me on tinder so I assumed a one time thing. He was hatfishing, heavier than his pics, and sex was disappointing. Then he left pretty much straight after he came. I unmatched him a couple of days later. Then he messaged me, so he must have saved my number. I ignored. Then he messaged me on a different app, and now sent a friend request. I don’t want to see him again, but will he take the hint if I ignore or should I say something? And any suggestions how can I say it nicely so I don’t piss him off?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Advice: ignore or explain?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/7cchvm/advice_ignore_or_explain/
|
LedGopher
|
2019-04-24 23:28:11
| 1,556,148,491
| null |
['OLD', 'tinder']
| 0
|
bh1kds
| true
|
Venting
| 31
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/bh1kds/a_special_place_in_hell_for_catfishers/
| 7
|
My luck with OLD has proven to be perfect fodder for a dark romantic comedy. From plenty of ghosts to never getting a 2nd date, I'm starting to feel like perhaps another relationship just isn't in the cards for me. I have no trouble starting a conversation, if and when, a potential match is willing to engage, but the conversations almost always go silent and ultimately end in disappointment. I've been chatting with a girl recently, whom I met on Tinder. Her pics give the appearance that she is an attractive woman with some cool tattoos. She's into many of the same things I'm into and she is a great conversationalist. I really do look forward to having a chance to talk to her, but I'm almost 30% certain I'm being led on. She has yet to ask for money, but there are enough convenient inconveniences to prevent us from meeting in person, yet. First, she says she has trust issues because her ex was abusive and unfaithful. I too have issues trusting due to the circumstances of my divorce. Then, she apparently doesn't have a working phone yet, so we've been chatting on Kik, which is fine, but I'm wondering if she is actually even in the same city as me. I've flat out told her that I'm not looking to be fooled yet again. I made it clear that I'm looking for something substantial with someone and that based on our chats so far, I do think we'd get along. She says she agrees and that she sympathizes with my situation. Still, we have continued to talk nightly and I'm starting to develop just the smallest glimmer of hope. I've told her I don't think I can handle yet another huge disappointment and have asked that she level with me if she isn't legit. She claims to be real and that she enjoys talking to me as well. Perhaps I'm just so desperate for someone to talk to that I'm willing to ignore my concerns. However, if this person turns out to be somehow fake, I hope that the next person they genuinely say, "I love you.", to, completely cuts them out of their life. It takes a special sort of horrible person to fuck with someone's feelings like that and I've been burned too many times to feel comfortable. In the meantime, I'll keep talking to this girl and hope she eventually agrees to meet. I'm trying to be cautiously optimistic, but I'm already dreading the let down.
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
A special place in hell for catfishers.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/bh1kds/a_special_place_in_hell_for_catfishers/
|
Ornery_Chocolate_448
|
2023-04-03 23:59:04
| 1,680,566,344
| 0
|
['bumble']
| 0
|
12b2pj9
| true
| null | 167
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/12b2pj9/im_not_dumb_but/
| 252
|
Update New advice needed I sent a text ending it after a werif argument this werkend. It was long, heartfelt but let him know I had to go. It wasn't his fault, he's wonderful, but it's too painful to stay. I needed to do it text. I had never told him I loved him, but I did in the break up text. My last line was "I fell in love with you and I'm sorry". He wrote back "Can we sleep on this for a day or two?" I said ok. We haven't spoken for 3 days. I've heard nothing. I wanted to give him the respect of time to respond if he needed it, but now I feel so hurt. Like I didn't matter. I would have rather had him say nothing back at all. This is the first weekend we haven't spent together in a year and a half. What do I do? Write a polite text asking if he had anything to say? Just leave it and block him on everything? I mean obviously he didn't panic and fight for me in the moment or over the last 3 days so why not just message me to close it? "I'm sorry things turned out this way I'm glad I met you..." or something. But at this point I'm just sitting here feeling worthless, unvalued, confused and like... what do I do? ‐‐---------------------------------------------- ORIGINAL POST I am. I don't even know how to type this. My mind is cluttered. I know the answer but I I'm scared and sad. Here's the gist - I can give more detail but I'm gonna try and keep this short. Met someone online 1.5 years ago. Spent every single weekend together (days on end, again for the last 1.5 years). I have kids, if that explains weekends. We also have spent days during the week together for like holidays, valentines, birthdays etc. I've spent hours with his family whenever they visit, his family from his home state knows about me. I'm friends with all of his friends here - like we text on a personal level. I text his mom. He isn't originally from my state. I'm a single mother. In the beginning I wasn't sure about a relationship but I let him know I wanted to see how things developed... and they did as you can see. I checked back in multiple times that things were going well. All I had ever read was "actions must match words" and they always did. We took turns reaching out. And it was all the time. I have a toothbrush head at his house, he spent all his free time with me. When I asked if he was dating other people "why would I date others? I'm not interested in others I'm dating you". Now I'm not young. I have been through many long term relationships. I have been used. I have been married. The reason I was so hesitant with him in the beginning is because I was actively trying to change habits that had lead to bad relationships in my past. I was going through this man with a fine tooth comb, and he has been amazing. Respectful. Consistent. Always follows through. Sends me messages after EVERY hang out about how enjoyed his time with me, appreciates me, etc. He plans dates, vacations, whatever. Of course I thought I should eventually bring up the bf/gf talk but when we are both in our 30s it felt... juvenile? Like this dude is showing effort and consistency, told me on multiple occasions he's not seeing anyone else, isn't that what I needed? I've already been married and had children, I'm not looking for someone to move in with in a hurry, or have kids or anything, but that doesn't mean I don't want a legit connection. I can get laid by a random, been there done that. But I developed a relationship with this person. He knows it. Can you spend all your free time with someone, have them meet your family, spend holidays together, go on vacation, and not expect a connection to be formed? If you want casual keep it casual. Don't spend hours on hours sitting in your car and talking with this person day after day after day. I grew closer to him in this time than in my marriage. I have opened up to him in ways I never opened up to anyone. I didn't realize you could spend hours upon hours just talking and having someone care enough to listen. And it wasn't just me that did the talking, if anything I've done most of the listening. So a few weeks ago I realized he was still active on bumble. I knew but said nothing. He eventually opens up to me about how he's freaked out about attached we've gotten. How he is probably going to have to go back to his home state (this is something I've been aware of, but yet he also waffles about talking about his 5 year plan here). He states he needs to be able to see other people because if we continue down this path its just "going to really fucking hurt" which he keeps repeating in a panicked state. Hurt who? I'm already hurting... so I'm thinking he's breaking up. I calm said that I was disappointed this was going to be the last time we will see eachother and he starts panicking - starts asking me to wait and think about it, I told him I thought he was breaking up. He panicks again and tells me I'm his best friend, that this isn't him trying to break up. He has no intentions of things changing between us. I then tell him my boundaries and he agrees. We have now had this same discussion 3 times, it would be easier if I stepped aside. Each time he tells me how this isn't what this is about. He has since held true to his word, things haven't changed between us, but 3 different times I've told him this isn't fair to him. I take up all his free days and I'm not comfortable being "demoted". But I find my mind goes crazy every week we aren't together. I thought I could be cool. But I'm not. I hold things in. The weekends we spend together I'm insecure, but I don't let him know. I know he talks to other girls, and I know he's met up with them. If this was a friend I'd tell her to bail. For my own emotions I know I should bail. This isn't my first rodeo. I know this is killing me. I just don't understand. Why take it this far? Why not let me walk away when it makes it easier for you? Did he never have feelings at all? How do you fake it for that long? I feel like if I walk away I'll be devastated. If I stay I'm devastated. Of course I know he just wants his cake and to eat it too but why when you already have another slice of cake? What do I mean to you? What did I mean to you? What was the last year and half all about? If you're just over it let me walk. I realize this wasn't short at all. I appreciate anyone that's read this. Please be gentle, I'm very raw. There is more to this story but it's the gist. I'm once again feeling not fucking good enough, like a void filler. Like I'm decent enough to fill the time but no one's first choice. And yes I've been to therapy for years. I know the appropriate answers but it doesn't change the feeling if that makes sense... If im honest with myself I love this person. It happened, I fell. I know the best answer, and probably the most probable answer I'm going to hear is LEAVE. But I'm struggling so hard. I just can't. I know it's what I should do, but why am I struggling so bad? I don't want this person to be a stranger. Its killing me. I have to make a choice between pain and pain. I don't even want to move. I don't understand how I got here after trying so hard to make intentional change. I feel stupid and pathetic. I should know better. This has robbed me of the ability to trust myself or my choices. I dunno. I dunno what I want to heat or expect to hear... that I'm not alone I guess? Not stupid? Some beautiful formation of words to tell him that let's him know my level of hurt without seeming dramatic ? Thank for listening.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
I'm not dumb but...
| 252
| 0.91
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/12b2pj9/im_not_dumb_but/
|
cofcgirl531
|
2017-01-27 21:39:29
| 1,485,553,169
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
5qjwbo
| null | null | 3
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/5qjwbo/confusing_signals_need_help/
| 1
|
A guy I met on Tinder (don't judge) use to text me all day everyday before our first date. The first time we met in person we ended up spending three days together. After that we didn't text all day but normally for a few hours a day. Then we had our second "date" on Monday and we still talk everyday but a lot of the time he'll just respond with 👍 or ☺️ and no text. Is this a sign he doesn't like me anymore or is just being weird about communicating?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Confusing signals, need help...
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/5qjwbo/confusing_signals_need_help/
|
kill3rkitty45
|
2021-06-04 08:15:59
| 1,622,794,559
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
nrzwm7
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/nrzwm7/21mi_could_use_some_advice/
| 2
|
I dont know what I want right now but know for sure I feel lonely, I just dont know how to fix that. There is a girl I'm friends with that I like hence us being friends but I dont think she want anything romantic with me and maybe even more important I dont think I want anything romantic with her, I kinda like just being friends. But how do I fill that void? I've strongly decided to not use dating apps because they fuck with my self esteem, but also would rather not go out and socialize as I'm rather introverted. I just feel lost and could use some help :/
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
[21M]I could use some advice
| null | 0.76
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nrzwm7/21mi_could_use_some_advice/
|
Kittenonthego
|
2021-12-26 12:40:48
| 1,640,522,448
| null |
['dating app', 'tinder']
| 0
|
row70d
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/row70d/when_should_you_ask_the_person_the_purpose_of/
| 5
|
Hello everyone! I'm early in my 20s /F and im using Tinder to put myself on dating world. I wonder if they are serious looking for a real relationship or just casually dating. Should i ask the person on date/through texts their purpose of using dating app? And how long should i wait to ask?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
When should you ask the person the purpose of using dating app?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/row70d/when_should_you_ask_the_person_the_purpose_of/
|
XK-Class
|
2021-02-26 05:02:06
| 1,614,315,726
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
lsqek6
| true
| null | 11
| 0
|
/r/AskWomen/comments/lsqek6/what_are_some_good_conversation_starters_one/
| 0
|
For Tinder
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
What are some good conversation starters / one liners to get women to text back?
| null | 0.33
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/lsqek6/what_are_some_good_conversation_starters_one/
|
MattGaetzHater
|
2023-06-25 14:24:45
| 1,687,703,085
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
14inkhp
| true
|
Question ❓
| 242
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/14inkhp/at_what_age_do_i_just_give_up_on_trying_to_find/
| 36
|
I’m 22 now, I made it through college without being able to find a single woman interested in me. I have used every major dating app and many minor ones. I have tried multiple different social scenarios, clubs, bars, parties, social groups, activist groups, volunteer groups etc. to meet new people. Never once met a woman interested in me. I wasn’t even able to get a number of anything from any women never mind a date. Most of my friends are in relationships, some are married. I feel like it might be just time for me tog I’ve up and resign myself to loneliness for the next 60 years if that. At what age should I just give up and ditch the idea of finding someone.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
At what age do I just give up on trying to find someone?
| 36
| 0.69
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/14inkhp/at_what_age_do_i_just_give_up_on_trying_to_find/
|
JEjeje214
|
2024-09-11 22:16:12
| 1,726,092,972
| 0
| null | 0
|
1fems1z
| true
| null | 13
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1fems1z/when_to_give_real_phone_number/
| 5
|
I got a Google Voice number at the prompt of someone I know citing privacy reasons against giving out actual phone number to a stranger. At what point should I give out my actual cell number, and how to I approach the subject?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
When to give REAL phone number?
| 5
| 0.86
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1fems1z/when_to_give_real_phone_number/
|
XenOz3r0xT
|
2022-05-07 23:06:28
| 1,651,964,788
| null |
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
ukor1n
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/ukor1n/online_dating_suggestions_tips/
| 0
|
I'm 33 (M) and just recently had a 6 year relationship end with my ex. Prior to that I ended a 5 year relationship with another girl so I only ever had 2 "serious" relationships in my life. I know that being 30 things look a bit different now. I know stereotypically the dating scene is all just "single mothers, divorced women, etc." but I liked to believe that isn't 100% true. Also with COVID happening, I work remote so its not like I would meet someone from the office. I also returned to college too but I am definitely not going to date a 20 year old (too young). I used to be social and go out with friends to bars, do social events, etc. but we mostly drifted apart as we got older. I also scoffed at online dating since I was always in my 20s since I always figured how can people not meet people organically but being on the other side of the fence I feel differently now. But I would like to give it a try. With all the dating apps I have no clue which is the "best" and it seems all have some sort of premium version that unlocks some stuff. Also how does the online dating work in terms of do I have to message women first or they sometimes message me? Is all the communication done through the selected app? I'm not looking for a hook up but looking for a serious relationship but have no clue where to start. If anyone could give suggestions or feedback or experiences I greatly appreciate it. TLDR: 33/ M, looking to get into dating again coming from 2 long term relationships but totally new to the online dating world, Seeking advice and experiences from others how online dating is.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Online Dating Suggestions/ Tips
| null | 0.33
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ukor1n/online_dating_suggestions_tips/
|
forevertrueblue
|
2022-12-28 16:48:18
| 1,672,246,098
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
zxedz4
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 14
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/zxedz4/26f_hate_the_dating_game_not_sure_what_to_do/
| 3
|
Never been in a relationship and this is becoming baggage/a red flag for people. They either baby me when they find out or it gets them off in a certain way. I don't find myself attracted to very many people and am not sure why. (I think I am just picky.) I also don't really identify with most of the roles the woman is "supposed" to play on dates and in relationships as I am a very "wear the pants" type person and don't want to be wooed; when people try to impress me it's a turn-off. I just want to see someone as who they are in their real lives and after getting to know them for a certain amount of time then become romantic and all that. I lean towards not wanting kids (I definitely don't want to carry them) and as strange as it sounds atheism plays a big role in my life so that's important to me too. The online dating thing bugs me and makes me feel dehumanized; I don't want to meet a bunch of people for what amounts to be nothing more than interviews and if we're shopping for a person. I'm open to matchmaking services but would have to find the right one. But again, I'm 26 and it's getting more and more awkward to be in this position. It's more an issue of me not having experience than feeling the need to be in a relationship right now, but I don't want to string people along or use them just so I can get that experience. Basically, what should I be doing right now?
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
26/F Hate The Dating Game, Not Sure What to Do
| null | 0.71
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/zxedz4/26f_hate_the_dating_game_not_sure_what_to_do/
|
DJnoiseredux
|
2024-09-17 22:13:36
| 1,726,611,216
| 0
|
['matches', 'dating app']
| 0
|
1fjckl2
| true
|
Question ❓
| 7
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1fjckl2/how_long_without_a_reply_before_its_probably_over/
| 2
|
The most successful matches I have had all involved a very high volume of messages, tons of back and forth. But maybe not everyone is like that? Someone just told me it’s best to wait 3-4 hours before messaging back. I don’t know. To me, that feels like a) I’m not interested and b) playing games. But I understand also that some people , without playing games, may just be more casual about it and maybe only check in to the dating app once a day or whatever, and that I shouldn’t read too much into it if they don’t message for a day or two. And some advice also says once you make a date, then you are kind of done texting and just send a confirming text the day before the date? How many people do it this way?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How long without a reply before it’s probably over?
| 2
| 0.76
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1fjckl2/how_long_without_a_reply_before_its_probably_over/
|
Decent_Neat_9171
|
2023-07-29 11:53:15
| 1,690,631,595
| 0
|
['dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0
|
15cqg27
| false
| null | 12
| 0
|
/r/AskMen/comments/15cqg27/how_do_you_handle_if_your_dating_history_is_an/
| 1
|
Has your dating history been an issue, or at least odd, for a woman or partner? This has been on my mind for a little while now. Quick rundown: I went on a date with a woman I know, when I was on vacation a couple of months ago. We were spending time together after a date earlier that night, when she asked why I don’t have a girlfriend. The last few years, I work nights a lot and have some older family members that need help. She asked if I use tinder and found it odd that I don’t. Quick background to how we know each other: we live in different countries. We have always liked each other from the first meeting. This past vacation was the first time we met in almost 15 years when she visited mine. Her sister is married to my cousin. My family is from her country and area originally, so we know a decent number of people in common. We mainly kept in touch here and there through FB. I don’t date often. I’ve had serious (over a year) and semi-serious relationships (more than a few months but less than a year), as well as one night stands. I’ve never had a woman think it was odd, especially the part about not using dating apps. She even was surprised I wasn’t married with kids yet and if I even wanted either. We didn’t get deep into it, it was only our second date and we talked about other things too. Plus we ended up on a few more dates before I left, so I think I handled it well enough. I’d like to hear how other people handled something similar, could help me and other people in the future.
|
AskMen
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t5_2s30g
|
How do you handle if your dating history is an issue?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/15cqg27/how_do_you_handle_if_your_dating_history_is_an/
|
cs342
|
2023-12-30 10:09:41
| 1,703,930,981
| 0
|
['matches', 'online dating', 'dating apps', 'hinge']
| 0
|
18uchwr
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/18uchwr/is_it_even_worth_going_out_to_bars_alone_on_new/
| 1
|
I (27M) got out of a serious long-term relationship at the start of the year, and I've only recently started to put myself out into the dating market again. I've had quite a bit of success from dating apps (I'm 6'2" and get around 2-3 matches per day on Hinge), but I find online dating exhausting and it's really draining to have to constantly text girls non-stop for days or even weeks before we meet up, and even then it's not guaranteed that we'll have any chemistry IRL. So I want to start approaching and meeting girls in person. Anyways, my closest friends are all traveling for the holidays and since I don't have a grilfriend anymore, I'll be spending New Year's Eve by myself. I'm perfectly ok with just staying in and ordering a pizza or something, but I'm also considering going out and hitting some bars and trying to meet girls. Unfortunately, most bars will be having new year's countdown parties, and I'm sure most girls will be in groups and not going out alone that night. Not to mention that on NYE it's a lot more expensive as most bars will have entrance fees for their countdown parties, so if I go I will have to really commit to it and stay for the whole night since I 'll be paying just to get in. With that being said, maybe girls will be more receptive to talking to strangers on NYE, especially if they're single and want someone to kiss at midnight?? Anyways, is it even worth going out and trying to approach girls on NYE, or should I just stay in and wait until a better time?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is it even worth going out to bars alone on New Year's Eve?
| 1
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18uchwr/is_it_even_worth_going_out_to_bars_alone_on_new/
|
Ok_Part2634
|
2024-03-05 06:35:58
| 1,709,620,558
| 0
|
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
1b6yphx
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1b6yphx/why_do_people_lie_about_their_location_on_dating/
| 1
|
Need to rant! Recently (in the last month or so) started talking to this guy. We had great conversation, great chemistry and everything else seemed to align as well. He told me he was currently travelling and so when I checked his location it showed that he was using travel mode for the city I live in. This didn’t seem that weird to me until one day something seemed suspicious and I asked him where he actually lives and he told me he lives in the US (I live in Canada). Anyway this really pissed me off and upset me because I am not interested in starting a long-distance relationship and I wouldn’t be able to sustain in at the moment. I am really annoyed bc I feel like I just got led on and I am just so frustrated with this whole online dating thing. As well this isn’t the first time this has happened. To all the people out there, please for the love of god don’t fking lie about your location or lead someone on like that. There is a reason why someone may have set their location to their city alone. Or if you are using travel mode then be upfront about it from the start. Don’t pretend you’re in their city in the hope that they might like you enough to not care. It doesn’t work like that.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Why do people lie about their location on dating apps??
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1b6yphx/why_do_people_lie_about_their_location_on_dating/
|
Own-Palpitation3573
|
2024-04-30 10:08:00
| 1,714,471,680
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1cgp7vz
| true
| null | 43
| 0
|
/r/AskMen/comments/1cgp7vz/what_do_you_guys_think_about_me_sleeping_with_60/
| 1
|
I am currently a 23 year old lad who isn't bad looking and regularly goes to the gym so I would like to say I'm attractive on the eye. I have gotten into a situation where I'm speaking to a number of women above the age of 60 on dating apps who intend to sleep with me. Obviously all lads dreams is to sleep with older women so I thought to give it a go. One lady is 67 and I will basically be her toyboy as she doesn't sleep with her husband anymore. So, I will be having fun with her to satisfy her sexual needs. I just want sex and this is an easy way for me to get weekly no strings attached fun but it comes with the women being A LOT older. Am I weird for sleeping with women this old? I see it as a sexual time where I can tick it off and say I've slept with older women and then there will be a point where I get over this fantasy. Let me know your thoughts
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
What do you guys think about me sleeping with 60+ year old women?
| 1
| 0.31
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1cgp7vz/what_do_you_guys_think_about_me_sleeping_with_60/
|
Throwthisaway173
|
2019-06-21 00:15:27
| 1,561,076,127
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
c33i3k
| true
| null | 8
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/c33i3k/tinder_advice/
| 4
|
I have fairly obscure interests and finally found someone that shares some of those interests while on tinder, but I don't know what to say in the first message. I recognize one of the trails in her pictures and figured I could use that as a conversation starter, but I don't know how to do it without sounding cringy.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Tinder advice
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/c33i3k/tinder_advice/
|
anon64826
|
2024-07-23 09:26:04
| 1,721,726,764
| 0
|
['online dating']
| 0
|
1ea3hqi
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ea3hqi/lets_just_be_friends/
| 1
|
Hi so I [25F] woke up this morning to a message saying that he had a lot of fun hanging out with me on our date but it felt more like he was hanging out with a good friend than going on a date. He thinks I'm a great person etc. etc. but there was no spark and he doesn't want to lead me on. I appreciate the message as ghosting me and stringing me on would've been really shitty this is the second time I have received a message along these lines though so what am I doing wrong? I do online dating and all my pics are accurate and up to date. Do I just have to be super flirty on first dates? Thanks in advance for any help :)
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Let’s just be friends
| 1
| 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ea3hqi/lets_just_be_friends/
|
_plexi_
|
2018-04-17 14:24:59
| 1,523,975,099
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
8cwwo5
| false
| null | 8
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/8cwwo5/going_on_second_date_great_conversational/
| 1
|
Met a guy off Tinder messaged back and forth for a week and then decided to meet up. Day of went to a coffee shop and lost track of time because we were so deep in conversation. So there's definitely something there. However, I didn't feel any physical chemistry between us. But I'm willing to give it another shot so we're going to dinner Friday night (Initiated by me). Is this okay? I don't want to lead him on I just want to gauge how we are physically with one another.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Going on second date, great conversational chemistry but no physical chemistry?
| 1
| null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/8cwwo5/going_on_second_date_great_conversational/
|
[deleted]
|
2021-07-18 15:21:00
| 1,626,621,660
| null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
omsiwu
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/omsiwu/double_messaging_on_tinder/
| 2
|
i’m never one to double message on tinder, (if we haven’t already had a conversation for a bit) i’ve considered it before but have always found it just a bit too desperate seeming. i’m in a different kind of situation and am wondering if i should message again or not. the long version of the story is this: I have a joke in my bio “i like weird movies but don’t worry i can have a conversation outside of that” poking fun at dudes who only like art films and make people, including girls that aren’t interested in films like that watch them anyway. i matched with a girl who is interested in art movies and she actually messaged me first asking how weird the movies i like are. i basically told her which movies i like and asked her which movies she liked. She liked the message but didn’t respond and i’m wondering if i should message her again. tl;dr: should i double message if she liked my message?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
double messaging on tinder
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/omsiwu/double_messaging_on_tinder/
|
Alarming-Introvert44
|
2024-03-22 04:40:48
| 1,711,082,448
| 0
|
['hinge']
| 0
|
1bkr3w6
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bkr3w6/am_i_going_about_this_right/
| 1
|
Met a guy through hinge, we're both 25, been talking for 2 months, been on 6 dates, have had sex a few times, spent a night together. On the second date we talked about what we both wanted, i said i wanted something lonerm eventually, he said he wanted something with substance but wasn't in a rush for a label. The dates have been great, we always have fun hanging out, never argued. I wanted to have a conversation with him at the end of our next date, basically a check in to make sure we're still on the same page. I want to remind him i'm still not in a rush for a label but am looking for commitment and not a situationship. I also wanted to set a boundary that if he wants to have sex with other girls while we're dating then i think we should end things because it's not what i'm looking for and i don't want a STD. At this point i feel like most people would know whether they would accept this boundary. Or should i give it more time before we have this conversation? This is the first time i've liked a guy in a really long time so i don't want to scare him off but i also need to protect my peace.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Am i going about this right?
| 1
| 0.99
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bkr3w6/am_i_going_about_this_right/
|
robindrummer
|
2023-05-22 00:34:35
| 1,684,715,675
| 0
|
['dating apps', 'dating sites']
| 0
|
13obco4
| true
|
Support Needed 🫂
| 13
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/13obco4/34m_struggling_to_get_a_relationshipgirlfriend/
| 5
|
So I'm really struggling to find a gf/relationship and would love some advice please. I'm a 34 year old man, 5'6 tall and don't think I'm too bad looking. Not saying I'm like a model but not bad. I'm a professional drummer and work in mental health services mainly forensic hospitals. I live in Devon England. Have my own house, drive and 2 cats. So I don't get much attention on dating apps/in person and struggle to get dates. If I do, I then they don't stay long. I've thought maybe I could come across as too keen/needy so have even tried the less texty/need approach also and still struggle. If anyone would like to see a bit of my chats with girls then I'm willing to share in private messages. A short breif on how I go about it. So I usually chat for say 3-5 days on dating sites before they disappear or making an idea if I want a date then will ask them if they want to meet. I then go on roughly 3/4 dates before telling them that I think they are my type (not that I fancy them) and would like to keep meeting and see how it goes. Then move from there. I don't often get to date 3 or if I do I might get e.g. 5-7 dates before they disappear or cool it off. I don't understand it etc. Hopefully you can help :)
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
34m struggling to get a relationship/girlfriend
| 5
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/13obco4/34m_struggling_to_get_a_relationshipgirlfriend/
|
Skallagrim96
|
2023-09-18 14:01:04
| 1,695,045,664
| 0
|
['online dating']
| 0
|
16lwdr4
| true
|
Question ❓
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/16lwdr4/do_women_find_it_odd_or_suspicious_when_a_guy_has/
| 1
|
I'm exaggerating a little when I said no photos but all the ones I have are years old. For context I'm extremely introverted and don't like going out a lot so when attempting things like online dating its almost impossible for me to even get started because I have no photos of myself that aren't several years old.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Do Women find it odd or suspicious when a guy has no photos of himself and doesn't really use social media?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/16lwdr4/do_women_find_it_odd_or_suspicious_when_a_guy_has/
|
whywhywhy39
|
2021-06-08 15:40:00
| 1,623,166,800
| null |
['matched', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
nv6u7c
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/nv6u7c/rapidly_losing_confidence_and_not_really_sure/
| 2
|
I (27F), as of late, am really struggling with dating, dating apps, confidence/insecurity, etc. I've pretty much been on dating apps (off and on) since college and have never developed any substantial relationship from them. I've never had a boyfriend, so I guess I've also never developed any substantial relationship from anything? I recently got back on the apps after a string of guys ghosting me, and matched with a guy (27) who I actually really liked and genuinely thought there was something there. We went on a first date, which I thought went great, we kissed, and made plans to hang out again that night. I had an already planned vacation that took place between our first and second date, which based on my past experiences, kind of worried me. I thought he would lose interest while I was gone, but to my surprise the opposite happened. We were texting the entire time I was gone. I got back home, and we go on our second date within the week. I thought the date went well, but ever since then its just been different. I'm not sure how to describe it but things just feel different. I feel like I am in the process of getting ghosted again? Like we went from texting multiple times a day, everyday with a funny flirty tone to now it takes him forever to respond and its far less funny and flirty? Typing this makes makes me feel like an idiot, but that is how I feel. I know this might be my anxiety and past experiences creeping up on me, and coloring this experience, but I just don't know how else to take his behavior? It really sucks because I was off the apps for so long and then I get back on, meet a "nice guy" and turns out none of that matters. I just feel like something has to be wrong with me? Like, the only common denominator in all of my terrible dating experiences is me? I just wish one of these guys would tell me what's wrong with me so I can fix it. I don't want to be alone forever, bu dating just makes me feel absolutely terrible about myself. It makes me feel like I have nothing to offer, and no one is ever going to want to be with me. Does anyone else feel this way?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Rapidly Losing Confidence, and Not Really Sure Where To Go From Here?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nv6u7c/rapidly_losing_confidence_and_not_really_sure/
|
Holiday-Tea-2251
|
2023-11-08 19:43:10
| 1,699,472,590
| 0
|
['tinder', 'bumble']
| 0
|
17qtrsd
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/17qtrsd/newly_single_dad_reentering_dating_scene_how_to/
| 2
|
TL;DR: seeking recommendations for single dad with kids to make new local friendships 36M here, married for 9 years, 3 kids from the marriage, 2 from ex-wife's previous marriage that see me as "dad" and spend the majority of their time with me. Ex-wife left me 3 months ago stating she was lesbian now (no hatred/judgment there, but the betrayal has sent me for a loop. Hoping we get to friends again at some point). I'm tall, make a great salary (well over 6 figures), I'm not ugly, but I am greatly overweight. I'm also severely strapped for time as a resource. I work full-time, and I provide the bulk of parenting to these 5 kids (this was my choice). I'm re-entering the dating scene, and having no luck. I joined Bumble and Tinder, and getting virtually no interest there. I'm sure there's "mistakes" I've made in my profiles, but I was honest and tried to show my personality. The idea of "getting better" at either platform has no appeal to me. My plan for now is to work on the overweight piece and try these platforms again later; meanwhile trying to build/insert myself to local communities to meet new people IRL (not necessarily dating prospects, but seems like this is my best shot for increasing my networking opportunities). I've recently moved so figuring out how to grow that local network seems like something I can control. I've started going to a local church. I'm not religious, but not hostile to religion, and it seems one of the few community-building activities that comes with child-care built in. Particularly interested in other community-building options that folks have had success with.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Newly Single Dad Re-entering Dating Scene: How To Build Up Local Network?
| 2
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17qtrsd/newly_single_dad_reentering_dating_scene_how_to/
|
AllMightyImagination
|
2020-08-21 10:54:15
| 1,598,007,255
| null | null | 0
|
idukw6
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/idukw6/girls_dont_lie_about_anime/
| 0
|
Don't put down you like anime and then go huh, what's that after I ask if you have crunchyroll. You're just lying.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Girls don't lie about anime
| null | 0.13
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/idukw6/girls_dont_lie_about_anime/
|
TotaIIyOriginaI
|
2024-05-14 18:52:10
| 1,715,712,730
| 0
|
['matches', 'online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
1crzxdv
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1crzxdv/i_dont_know_what_to_do/
| 1
|
My middle/high school years passed as me just e-dating girls, I settled for one (who was almost 10 years older than me) for seven years (we met irl at least) until she left me last year. I started e-dating someone else but months later she cheated and left without even being upfront about it. I feel like online dating has held me back and would rather try irl (dating apps haven't helped at all, matches lead nowhere), but now that I'm 23 I don't even know how to go up to someone and ask them out because I'm too awkward and have no idea about how to approach. There is nothing interesting about my life right now, I'm a quiet guy with personal and financial issues but trying to persist through it all and socialize more...
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I don't know what to do
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1crzxdv/i_dont_know_what_to_do/
|
banistersblue
|
2024-09-01 20:51:56
| 1,725,223,916
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
1f6ouif
| true
|
Question ❓
| 6
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1f6ouif/what_does_it_mean_when_a_guy_talks_about_himself/
| 1
|
hey y’all. i just recently got back into the dating game and i’m trying to approach things differently this time around. when i was dating a couple years back, i felt i cut guys a lot of slack that they didn’t deserve. so now i’m trying to just take things as they are & not get stressed about it. today i went on a first date with a guy i met off a dating app. we had some good conversation going, but i noticed every time it was my turn to talk, we somehow reverted back to something about him. now i know a lot of people do this, and i’m guilty of it too, but i started to feel like a lot of the convo was one sided. i also noticed he only asked me one question about myself, whereas i asked him multiple, which he answered each in full detail. as the date went on i started to wonder if he was just nervous and was talking to fill the space (and then in turn forgot to ask anything about me) or if he truly just wasn’t interested in me. i am going to meet up with him again next week & i think i will get a better feel then for if he truly has an interest in me. but i’ve also felt this has been the going trend with the dates i’ve been on in the past few years. i feel like i always ask the questions and the guys just talk about themselves. towards the end of the date he did say he wasn’t much of a talker, and that the talking he had done today was the most he’d done in a while, and that he’d rather listen & hear about other people. this felt contradictory because he had spent the whole 2 hours talking about himself and his stuff. i’m trying to not write people off without a fair chance, but i’m curious what everyone’s take is on this. is this something guys do out of being nervous or is this a sign that the guy just isn’t interested in truly getting to know someone?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
what does it mean when a guy talks about himself the whole first date?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1f6ouif/what_does_it_mean_when_a_guy_talks_about_himself/
|
Perfect-Account3423
|
2024-03-28 07:41:16
| 1,711,611,676
| 0
|
['dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0
|
1bppt38
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bppt38/lying_about_my_age_on_tinder/
| 1
|
Hey Guys, &x200B; So my dilemma is i'm currently single and being on dating apps for some time. I'm (19m) but haven't had much success on dating apps at this age. But if i advertise myself as 21 or above I get much better success . &x200B; Initially the mentality going into it was to just treat it as 'friends with benefits' and look for nothing serious as I've lied about the age and will probably not have that trust with that person. But it doesn't feel right &x200B; I want to go back to saying that I'm 19 but again I feel so crap that i barely get any likes due to my age. But if i were only a couple of years older I would get so much more attention. &x200B; I know its probably not ethical, and only do it cause I know when women hear my age they think I'm immature, but would want to prove it to them otherwise. I'm having more dates soon and want to announce my actual age at the end of the first dates, but worried that i probably won't see them again after that/or get ghosted. &x200B; What is everyone's thoughts?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Lying about my age on tinder
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bppt38/lying_about_my_age_on_tinder/
|
tulip1414
|
2022-10-30 18:42:18
| 1,667,155,338
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
yhmcec
| true
| null | 7
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/yhmcec/how_do_you_not_lose_hope_that_youll_find_the_one/
| 1
|
I’m a 32F who didn’t date through most of my 20s because I was focused on helping my elderly parents and on my education and career. Now that I’m in my 30s I realize I want a partner and a family. I downloaded dating apps at the beginning of this year and have gone on about 4 dates this year. One of those ended because the guy was not interested in moving forward after the second date, one wanted to become exclusive early on but I wasn’t feeling the connection, one ended due to long distance, and just recently it seems like I’ve been ghosted after what I thought was a great first date. I’m feeling really down on myself today especially because all my friends are partnered up and I really want a partner and a family and I feel time ticking given my age. I can’t help but feel that something is wrong with me. Does anyone have any advice or maybe some books or resources that might help me get through this?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do you not lose hope that you’ll find the one?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/yhmcec/how_do_you_not_lose_hope_that_youll_find_the_one/
|
MongoStomp910
|
2023-10-04 09:52:03
| 1,696,413,123
| 0
| null | 0
|
16ziy9x
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/16ziy9x/need_advise_on_a_tinder_match_asap/
| 1
|
Ok so matched with a girl on tinder around a week or so ago. She is decently attractive. I’d say her pictures portray her as a solid 6.5-7. She’s been verified. Don’t know if that matters or even if it’s accurate. Haven’t had this app very long. But I kinda just threw a shitty one liner in there immediately after we matched with full expectations of being blocked. That’s how (arguably VERY) rude it was. Figured just shoot my shot, got nothing to lose. What I sent was “So on a scale of 1 to buttstuff, how down are you?” To my surprise, yesterday morning she sent back “15.” So, obviously, my response was “oh kinky. Want to hookup?” She replied back this morning at 4am with “yes. What’re you doing now? Do you want to come over?” Now obviously I’m horny and would normally jump on that but it’s 4 in the morning and I have to get up for work at 6 so common sense and adulting is overruling my dick for the first time in my life and I’m just going to wait till later when I’m at work to try to set something up for this evening but my question is: 1. The ease of this in addition to the wait between messages, should I find this suspicious and, if so, how much should I be worried? About a week between my first message to her and her reply and I replied immediately and then around 1 day before she replied to that. & 2. I’ve never been on a tinder hookup before so having given y’all all of the information so far, walk me through what y’all are thinking on this with your own experiences and tell me if you think I’m about to be robbed or if I just lucked out and happened upon the ever elusive hot and horny girl?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Need advise on a Tinder match asap
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/16ziy9x/need_advise_on_a_tinder_match_asap/
|
No7onelikeyou
|
2023-12-01 17:13:05
| 1,701,450,785
| 0
|
['bumble', 'hinge', 'facebook dating']
| 0
|
188h23n
| true
|
Question ❓
| 7
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/188h23n/what_are_your_facebook_dating_stories/
| 2
|
I want to try Facebook dating I don’t have a Facebook. 34, M. I’m on Match, Hinge and Bumble. I don’t know why I have a feeling Facebook dating would be more popular. As far as someone may be on that, but not on Match etc. I live in a fairly big city, 500,000+ and there’s almost no one one Match, it’s very strange. Plenty about two hours away though. So I was just thinking maybe Facebook dating is what’s popular? Thanks for any info!
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What are your Facebook dating stories?
| 2
| 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/188h23n/what_are_your_facebook_dating_stories/
|
Snoo-34321
|
2021-05-26 16:25:43
| 1,622,046,343
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
nll1na
| true
|
Venting
| 10
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/nll1na/i_give_up_part_ii_raising_not_lowering_my/
| 0
|
After a good long think, I've just decided on a new strategy moving forward: being okay with being alone if I can't find someone I actually desire. I highly recommend it for other men who haven't had much luck online, if they can handle it. I've decided that lowering my standards, in order either to get some or to find a serious girlfriend, will ultimately leave me disappointed for two reasons: It will diminish or negate the confidence boost I might otherwise expect from finding someone It will place me with someone I find at least somewhat unattractive, and thus generate resentment I've thus also decided that, in order to preserve what confidence I already have and build it into something greater, the way to go is against the most obvious path. I've decided to actually raise my standards. This will result in one of two outcomes: I find someone I really dig, am happier as a result, and get a confidence boost I don't find anyone, but get a confidence boost nonetheless knowing I didn't settle Realistically speaking, I'm not a terrible candidate for a date. I have a car and a steady job, I speak multiple languages, I've been losing weight and building muscle, I'm getting my own place soon, and I'm actually somewhat attractive judging by the looks I get sometimes. I don't think I should have to date down, and not as drastically far down as the odds for online dating would suggest I go. In fact, I'd like to date up. Someone with a smoking hot bod and a brain in her head will do. If I can't get someone on that level, and I don't complain if it doesn't pan out, what's wrong with me being choosy as a guy? Just wanted to type my thoughts out on a public forum.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I give up, Part II: Raising, not lowering my standards in response to failure
| null | 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/nll1na/i_give_up_part_ii_raising_not_lowering_my/
|
Overall_Ad_1165
|
2023-12-12 16:19:41
| 1,702,397,981
| 0
| null | 0
|
18gpn06
| true
| null | 85
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/18gpn06/so_i_think_i_got_scammed_now_what/
| 7
|
I am totally new to this whole online dating thing.. met a man working abroad at a oil rig.. We've chatted on and off for couple weeks and then things got more serious. Long story short, I ended up sending him couple thousand dollars and some inappropriate pictures. He kept making up stories to send him money and when I sensed I'm getting scammed, he got upset and blocked me.Two thousand dollars is big to me.. but I can live without it.. but now I worry amd regret about sending pictures.. what can I do about it?
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
So I think I got scammed.. Now what?
| 7
| 0.61
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/18gpn06/so_i_think_i_got_scammed_now_what/
|
connorsean123
|
2022-05-26 23:48:04
| 1,653,608,884
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
uykwdh
| true
| null | 557
| 0
|
/r/AskMen/comments/uykwdh/men_of_reddit_how_do_get_over_the_fact_of_being/
| 479
|
I’ve been single for over 2 years. I’m in my early 20’s and I haven’t even been on a date in that two years. I feel like I’m wasting away the prime of my life being alone doing the same thing day in day out and have nobody to share my time with. I’ve been on many dating apps with no luck and I’m very shy when I go out for drinks with friends, although I rarely go out. I really want to get to know someone and spend quality time with someone and hopefully make them very happy. But I just don’t know how to find anyone. I feel very alone all the time and it’s very deflating.
|
AskMen
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t5_2s30g
|
Men of Reddit, how do get over the fact of being single for so long? How do you change it?
| null | 0.9
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/uykwdh/men_of_reddit_how_do_get_over_the_fact_of_being/
|
keeponchugginon
|
2018-12-18 05:04:15
| 1,545,109,455
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
a77ytz
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 16
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/a77ytz/men_can_you_help/
| 2
|
I’m 21 (F) and I’m dating a 29 yr old male. I’m going to try and keep this short. We met a couple years ago but I stopped talking to him bc I was younger and I was early in my college career. He always told me he had very strong feelings for me that were nothing like what he’d felt for anyone else. He’s been through a lot, from losing a child when he was 19, getting medically discharged from the Army, to being homeless during college and had to drop out, working shitty jobs before he was able to hop back on his feet again. I respect him a lot for hitting what was for him, rock bottom, and picking himself back up. He seems to be hung up on some of those things because of how frequently he talks about them, but it doesn’t bother me too much, just makes me wonder. We started officially dating in August, when he asked me to be his girlfriend. From what I knew, he was single and ready for a relationship. Fast forward two months, I thought everything was going smoothly because he took me out to dinner with his parents. I was happy, things got intimate pretty fast because we had known each other for a while. Long story short, I end up finding some things out, but not coincidentally. I found out that he had been in a relationship of 3 years that (from what i understand) ended just a week before he asked me to be his girlfriend. When I asked him, he told me that he broke up with the girl because he felt like he didn’t really care for her and didn’t love her, and felt guilty. From what I saw, she broke up with him. I saw that she still had things at his apartment that she wanted back. This was on his phone by the way. I know I shouldn’t have been snooping, but honestly my gut was telling me something was up. He has texted her (a couple weeks after i met his parents which was two months in) asking to “talk sometime”, whatever that means. Next, I also found that he had tinder downloaded, that he was texting a bunch of unsaved numbers during those two months, and literally would text them after I spent the weekend with him. I would leave on Sunday night and I saw that he would text other girls in college like me to hookup. I was sick to my stomach. I’m an engineering student who has a lot on her plate, so this angered me because I was dedicating every single weekend to this guy when i could have put that time into bettering myself. And it made me feel absolutely horrible. I come to also find that he was lying about a lot more. Whenever I would use Instagram on my phone, he would act like he didn’t know what it was or how it worked and told me I spend too much time on it. I then saw that he had an Instagram that he hid from me, and to make it better, he was following over 300 pretty blonde college girls, and a lot of them were fitness gurus. You can imagine how this made me feel. I am confident in who I and and how I look, but I am not blonde or a fitness guru. He would always tell me how he loves my brown hair and brown eyes and olive skin. So it just didn’t make sense and makes it seem like he’s bullshitting me. He can be very condescending and I don’t like it. When I confronted him, he started crying because I was breaking up with him. He told me I’m the first girl he ever felt like he could trust and he loved how smart I was and how caring I am. He completely broke my trust so I can’t feel the same about that anymore. We have been trying to resolve things but there’s just something that clouds my mind every time. I also remember that he watched a lot of porn, and his porn preferences would always be of things that I felt insecure about in myself like not having the biggest butt. I know that sounds ridiculous, but come on. He analyzes everything about me and always makes comments on my appearance that make me feel really self conscious. He always compares me to different actresses and makes ridiculous comparisons that he thinks I would find flattering but they are absolutely condescending. Like boy I know I don’t look like Megan Fox get outta here. He’s been begging me and pleading me to stay with him. I care about him but i also care a lot about myself and my peace. Whats his deal? What does he want from me? Why is he like this with me? Please be honest and I’m not super aware of how older guys work. Thanks in advance..
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Men, can you help?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/a77ytz/men_can_you_help/
|
Glittering-Carrot199
|
2021-09-11 20:25:43
| 1,631,391,943
| null |
['OLD']
| 0
|
pmeqq6
| true
|
Question
| 94
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/pmeqq6/men_whats_your_motivation_for_staying_in_contact/
| 25
|
Edit to clarify: continuing to text a woman from OLD after you start dating someone else exclusively, ie now have a girlfriend, as opposed to multi dating I’m talking about ^platonic^, not ‘plutonic’ (look it up) 😅
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Men: what’s your motivation for staying in contact with a woman you met OLD even after you start dating someone else? If you are 100% honest, is it because you truly want her now as a platonic friend?
| null | 0.88
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/pmeqq6/men_whats_your_motivation_for_staying_in_contact/
|
deankeaton83
|
2019-07-22 11:22:52
| 1,563,794,572
| null |
['dating site', 'pof']
| 0
|
cgbypw
| true
| null | 51
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/cgbypw/why_must_you_play_i_dont_give_a_shit_game/
| 22
|
I don't get it. Met this lady Friday night (40), I am 37 from PoF. The date went extremely well (or so I thought). She ended coming back to my place (something I never planned or intended) and staying over. In fact before we even left for my place I even said "We should either end the night now or come back to my place. Truthfully, I really like you and don't want to spoil anything so I am fine seeing you another time.". She replied "I like you too and have had a great time, let's go back to your place". So we did. Nothing was awkward, it was a great night and we had a great time at my place as well. Everything seemed perfect. I know your "supposed to wait" to text or whatever but I did Saturday at noon just said "Hey thanks for the great night. Hope weekend is nice". Never heard anything back, sent 2nd last night at 8ish which said "Hey, how's it going? How did the weekend treat you?"... so far nothing back, yet last night before going to bed I logged into the dating site and saw she was online. I don't have a problem with that, she doesn't owe me anything, I just don't get it though. Her profile said she wants a relationship or meet someone to go out with. When we went out even we even talked about how disposable people are to each other and maybe that's why online is so difficult. Why must it always resort to a game of who gives a shit the least? I guess it just felt different meeting her than most woman, and I like to think how the date went if most first dates I end up having the same chemistry I did with this lady I would be ecstatic. Her profile said she wanted a relationship and she said all the right things while we were out and in bed that night. I know I possibly am over reacting/over analyzing. I also understand there is nothing I can do but be myself. Either someone will want to hang with me or not, nothing I can do other than try to live my life as a good person. Maybe it's protection/defense mechanism to play the game and if you act like you don't care, you probably won't get as emotionally invested in someone as if you do care. I just want to say "Hey, you're fucking awesome. I recognize you and see you're unique from other women. I really like you and just want to spend time and get to know you better." I know I can't though because than I feel I would be truly sunk. I won't send her a 3rd message before hearing back from her, no point. I've had my fair share of experience from meeting people online, after I dropped her off in the morning I felt good. I actually mentioned her to my friends (which I never do, but like I said she was different and I saw something in her)... 48hrs later and I am not sure what to think anymore. It just seems like if I didn't care or wasn't interested none of this would matter and maybe I would of heard back from her by now? I am not sure. However obviously posting about it online and looking for advice, I do care and I want this to be different. I guess I hate the feeling of helplessness and believe there is nothing else I can do but wait for response/move on, am I wrong or over reacting/analyzing?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Why must you play "I don't give a shit" game?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/cgbypw/why_must_you_play_i_dont_give_a_shit_game/
|
IcHuCkChikenZ
|
2021-06-05 04:58:54
| 1,622,869,134
| null |
['dating app']
| 0
|
nso2yc
| true
|
Question
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/nso2yc/question/
| 1
|
As a 20 year old male who has never had a girlfriend should I risk it for the biscuit and try a dating app
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Question
| null | 0.6
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/nso2yc/question/
|
Kaylee003
|
2016-10-23 14:41:49
| 1,477,233,709
| 0
|
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
58yttq
| null | null | 4
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/58yttq/guy_who_im_talking_to_starts_talking_about_his/
| 1
|
Me 22yo, him 31yo. Matched with this guy on Tinder and exchanged numbers, so far we got along really well. Well suddenly he told me he got a weird match, which turned out to be a bot. But anyways he sent me what the bot said. Anyways then he asks if i have any tinder crazy stories. I say only crazy conversations THEN he tells me on his first date ever when he was 24, he went out with this girl who wouldn't stop complaining but since she was "smoking hot" he decided to let it pass and enjoy the night. So afterwards they go to a dance club and he left. Anyways i was taken back, because what the heck. Why is he telling me this? Im pretty put off and my interest has greatly lessened. At this point i dont want to have anything with him. But im wondering if maybe im overreacting?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Guy who im talking to starts talking about his "smoking hot girl" ?
| 1
| null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/58yttq/guy_who_im_talking_to_starts_talking_about_his/
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