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I was writing my note, no one was home and I didn't want to be there by the time my family came back. I asked God one reason, just one. I wanted to believe that I didn't actually had to die, that things would get better.
One second after, my phone starts ringing. It's my best friend, who I haven't seen in a while. I answer and the first thing I hear is her laugh (she was with another friend of mine). She starts screaming/laughing LETS GO GET SUSHI
I hadn't left my house for weeks. I started laughing, told her sure, hung up. I started crying, got in the shower and called my mom to tell her I was going out.
She never said anything, but she sounded so relieved. That day she didn't want to leave me alone but I insisted they left
It's been 2 years since. I never told her she saved my life, but I try to pay it back to both her and God. If I stayed, I wanna make it count
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What alternative holiday destinations can reddit suggest?
The girlfriend and I need a vacation, however I'm not a fan of the usual touristy stuff but more of differing cultures. Whereas she's more a fan of the history, tales and romance of places. Where does reddit suggest as a good place to spend a week?
We're not the most linguistic of people, but we obviously don't expect everyone to speak English and we will learn atleast the essential phrases to communicate with people.
As I forgot to mention earlier we are from the UK, and not really travelled that much previously (or for a fair while now anyway).
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My basic rush tactic is run up from behind a corner and immediately spray in his direction. How closer he is the better and not just wait untill you have him precisely in your aim. This willl cause a 'shock' effect where it takes half a second for him to compose. It's important to immediately start shooting and move diagonally so it takes another half a second for him to actually get you in his aim. By then it's too late of course. Because you emptied half a clip in his direction before he even fired a shot.
Another one is throw a grenade in someone's direction(he shouldn't know you are there), at the exact moment it goes off you run up to him and start shooting in his direction. He doesn't see you because of the smoke and he is 'confused' by the grenade going off at that exact moment. Also because he doesn't where it is coming from he is unsure of how many people are rushing him. He will feel like he is under heavy attack (explosion+ bullets flying over his ears) and make panicky mistakes
Edit: You should running and shooting at the *same time* the grenade goes off. So don't wait untill you hear the explosing but you have to countdown the grenade, and start running milliseconds before it goes off. Else they are just vigilant because of the explosion and it won't work.
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Got to know him through friends. We were at a Halloween get-together when I realised I was interested and started hitting on him. I keep it up for weeks, spoke to him nearly every day, continue flirting and putting on the wiles, eventually convinced him to come visit me (we don't live particularly close together). At the end of the day, we were sitting together talking, he brought up that he was confused about how our relationship developed so quickly, and asked what was going on/where it was going, as such. I kissed him on the cheek and his reaction was basically "Oh. I didn't expect that!"
We've been together a couple of months, everything is going grand.
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> I realized like you that Democrats were exactly like republicans.
\>le both sides are exactly the same circlejerk
I thought this thread was about people getting *over* childish notions they used to hold?
>they sold us out to health insurance companies
You do realize that every single Democrat in the Senate voted in favor of adding a public option to Obamacare, right? It was Joe Lieberman, the **Independent** who caucused with the Democrats who sunk it by refusing to be the 60th vote to break a filibuster on the public option. I know that 2009 was a long time ago and some people on reddit were literally children then, but ignorance of history is not an excuse.
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She came back around after a couple months and demanded my dad give us back to her and he told her kick rocks. My mom disappeared a few other times throughout my life too, and always said my dad was the bad guy. No... my dad took care of his 3 kids the best he could.
I didn’t forgive my mom until about 2 years ago (I’m 27 now) when I finally realized she had some serious mental health problems. She passed away a year ago.
Many dads disappear but no one talks about the moms that do.
Edit: I’m sorry about your loss! I’m sending you my love!
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If I’m at the point in a relationship where I feel comfortable about bringing the woman around my daughter I would do that. I’m speaking of early on where say I’ll have a sitter lined up and then get the call last minute that they aren’t able to watch her (happens often because people are flaky these days(also I do pay well for a sitter)) then I’ll call or text asking for a rain check. I can’t just say would you want to come over after I get her to bed because all women seem to take that as me just wanting to get in their pants. So after I ask for the rain check is usually when the ghosting happens. Or on other occasions I’ll date some for a month or two and then they will realize that they want someone to take them out every weekend (which I don’t want to do let alone can I afford to). I just haven’t had the luck of finding the right one for me. One day they may come along. Dating just sucks in general and that goes for being single without a kid to look after too.
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Good story. I'm autistic (Asperger's) and my lil bro has brain damage from chemo for a childhood brain tumor. I was the Camilla to some, Peter to others, and until I became more talkative and developed social skills, only my friends knew I was somewhat "normal". The way you treated these people is at least better than the people who say "Awww don't tease himmm he's nice!"
Really?? Really is it hilarious that I have things in common with you? Usually when retards say outrageous shit, they're trying to make you laugh, they don't realize it's AT them, and even if they do, they'd rather you at least know they're not children, and they appreciate that you're not censoring yourselves around them.
I applaud you for not shying away from the topic, even though it was tough to read.
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But with all that being said, a 200 year old tree can definitely be considered more important than most decade old animals, but that also depends on the type of animal. Like a house cat is definitely not more important but a 10 year old endangered species would be way more important. Or vise versa, a rare 200 year old tree would be just as important as some 10 year old endangered species. Your argument isn’t specific enough and it doesn’t make logical sense when you put different types of trees and animals in there.
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Woman I work with husband's name is John, one of the sales reps name is Joel.
Before becoming a family man I was known at work as a bit of a sexually experienced guy so when (let's call her Beth) Beth started her sexual peak but her husband was lagging she turned to me for advice as I'm not the creepy pervy kind.
I advise her to text him normally through the day but the closer it gets to him coming home get more sexual. Guys like a build up too.
So she's texting hubby all day but she's shy but eventually gets the nerve up at the end of the day tp get her boobs out in the loo and take a pic. In her rush and embarrassment she hit J and send. Now alphabetically Joel comes first.
Poor woman sent her massive mammories (talking G cups here) to a guy she has to work closely with everyday. She came crying to me about it so I went and talked to Joel. I explained it and asked if he'd seen the msg and he played it like a champ. He said he left his phone in the car so gave me the keys to give to her so she can go delete it.
It doesn't end there. As she opens the phone he comes barrelling out the door yelling but it's too late. His last action was taking a picture of his (tiny) schlong for his fiancée. Beth quickly exits deletes her ta-tas and Joel left the following week.
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What trivial act would you like to ban or make illegal? Personally, I would like to outlaw public speakers who start off by saying, "I can't hear you!" or "Let's try that again!"
I don't know what the punishment would be, though.
What would you guys like to ban?
Yes, it's a circlejerk for that reason. But the fact that there are nearly 10,000 comments seems to imply that a lot of people share these frustrations and/or people just like or need to vent every now and then.
And as for those of you condemning me for wanting to outlaw trivial things, it's hyperbole and sarcasm. I'm not seriously suggesting that people be punished for using phrases that I find annoying. No one, despite what they wrote, is seriously suggesting breaking the legs of people for walking "improperly" on the sidewalk. Again, it's sarcasm.
So get off your soapboxes, let people vent, and don't take seriously the insinuations that we actually want legislation enacted to prevent these behaviors. It's sarcasm.
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That's fair, but it doesn't have to be quite that black and white. I guess I think people generally do have that right, but might, in a more ideal world, forgo that right in favor of a justice system. What we've got right now... meh. From a personal standpoint, I also think that it's generally unproductive, and wouldn't advocate that others seek punishment or retribution extrajudicially or otherwise. Far better to prevent recurrence of whatever harm was done and seek rehabilitation if applicable.
Given that set of beliefs, I'm just saying I'd judge a keyer far less harshly than a cheater. I'd also say, though, that if you choose to key, you should do so prepared to face appropriate consequences if caught. It's not like I'm saying a judge should let a keyer off scott free because the keyee cheated on them. Like, if I were the judge I'd be like, "yo, you gotta pay... But yeah Cheater McCheatface is a real douchetit".
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Filling a car with small balloons. Small so there are more that have to be picked up/dealt with. No more harm than just the time to deal with them. Some auto parts stores sell whistles that can be either inserted in or clamped over the tailpipes of cars. At low rpms, it is difficult to hear, any time they accelerate, they hear the whining sound, that makes the sound difficult to track down while just idling. The best part, even mechanics usually check the wheels/brakes and engine pretty thoroughly before checking the exhaust, so it will usually take a fair amount of time for someone to discover the 'problem'.
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Well, the helium affects the air around the vocal folds. Since it's less dense than the air usually around it, the vocal folds will vibrate faster since they don't have to push so many particles away. So, too, farts are made by anal folds vibrating with passing gas, gas that is certainly more dense than helium. If helium were to pass, it would have a higher pitch, for the same reason as above. Of course, this would make you and everyone laugh all the way to the emergency room, as the bubbles you've induced in your anus cause excruciating pain, probably leading to lifelong bouts with hemorrhoids.
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I mean you can watch the movies and generally understand the plot on a macro level. But there's so much missing from the movies, and PoA in particular (although Goblet is much worse). Bearing in mind that it's been a while since I've read the book or seen the movie, but here's some of what I remember.
First thing, in the opening scene of the movie Harry is shown doing magic in bed at the Dursleys. This is illegal.
The Marauder story is missing. The origins of the map that the Weasley twins give Harry is gone, the fact that Sirius and James Potter (along with the rat) made the map isn't even there.
Hermione and Ron had vastly different personalities. Movie Ron got turned into a comic relief sidekick, and a lot of his lines and actions in the book were given to Hermione in the movie. Hermione was given all of Ron's positive qualities, and lost a lot of her character in the process.
The Firebolt. Sirius sent Harry the broom after seeing the Nimbus get destroyed, because Sirius came to the match- Harry saw the dog there, and mistook it for the Grim. In the book, Harry just saw a shadow of a dog in the clouds. So Sirius sent Harry the Firebolt in the middle of the book, and Hermione suspected this (correctly) and had it confisacted to get tested for tampering. This strained their relationship to the point Harry and Ron didn't even talk to her until he got it back. In the movie, this plot was missing and Harry didn't get the broom until the ending scene. In the movie, this was all missing.
There are other things, like how the scene in the Shrieking Shack was handled, but this is just a sample of the differences.
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Take it at a pace you're comfortable with, make sure you're not spending all your time on your own. That's when you start to think introvertedly and begin to doubt yourself. A lot of it is based on making sure you aren't thinking too hard about /why/ you're depressed. It's good to acknowledge it, but don't let it become this all-encompassing aspect of your life.
Also remember that you're dealing with your own baggage right now, you don't have to deal with anyone else's.
Speak to someone, talk to your friends, a close one if needs be, a doctor, get help. It's not something that is easy to get rid of, but it is something that you can get help for. Don't pass it up, don't be conscientious about asking for it, just do it.
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I think most people do.. and despite that being apparently the upvoted sentiment, umm.. given the Instagram guy hasn't been assaulted yet, I'd say it's mostly an internet fake bravado 😀.
There are definitely people who would kill him, like if he tried that in a "bad neighborhood". But a regular adult with a good life or future, simply is not going to ruin all that for that momentary satisfaction.
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> only come if you know someone here you can trust who will accompany at all times and who has the power to move some influences if you ever get randomly targeted by the military or police.
Make sure those influences are current! I'm a white American who once worked with a guy who came to America as a refugee from Cambodia. He was a cool dude and constantly invited me to go to Cambodia with him since all of his childhood friends were now grown and powerful people.
He eventually traveled back to visit his friends for a couple of weeks. When he returned to the States, he looked down and told me "oh (name), all my friends are in jail now!".
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Looking to start Stand-Up Comedy. Any good tips?
I've been dying to start stand-up comedy for some time now, and I've begun writing down the jokes (the basic idea of them at least) in a Google docs.
Are there any stand-up comedians that can give advice on the best way to go around doing that? Do you write down your jokes as you'd read them or just the jist of them?
Also what is a good way to start; as in arranging your jokes etc...?
Ilove you all platonically,
Setheron
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Roughly twelveish. Best friend's back yard, game we'd play was one person jumping on the trampoline, other person trying to hit them with overripe oranges from nearby orange trees. (we did weird shit) Memory in question is late afternoon, me being the thrower, him being the jumper, and he's perfectly silhouetted by the sun, I've just hit him spot on, center chest, and the spray of orange guts is in an almost perfect circle, lit by the sun behind him, he's got his arms out to his sides sides. It's like Jesus rising again amongst childhood glee and the debris of fallen citrus.
Very vivid mental image in my mind and this was over 25 years ago.
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My dad developed an ability to deal with kids at age 60.
I was sitting with him in a beer garden in Munich(the ultimate "it takes a village to look after a kid" place in the world) and he and I talked to random kids in the same way. Back when I was a kid he tried to mold me into him. Bailed on my mom, of course, because he was a man-child before he turned 60 and whipped into shape by his GenX third wife.
I think that taking kids seriously unless you shouldn't is something instinctual. We may be overthinking it. But it takes a village. And some sense of humor.
I once took the three nieces of my then gf(she had died half a year before that) to the park. Three kids will run into 4 different directions. Me being my perfect GenX self prepared by wearing a perfect linen suit, a hat to match and a backpack full of girl accessories. To wit, lots of food, blankets and whatever they deemed necessary. Most of it pink.
The most difficult decision I had to make on that day was wether to go to the men's or the lady's room to wash out panties which had been peed in. Turns out, me choosing the lady's room was a valid choice. My presence was explained with one single sentence and accepted.
My theory is to simply relax and take it as it comes. Kids are agents of chaos and no matter how much you prepare, you will not be.
YMMV if you have to be a parent instead of the cool uncle.
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When I was in sixth grade the guy behind me would poke thumb tacks into my back.
First two times he did it I told the teacher. Nothing happened; teacher was a coach and this guy was the quarterback.
I didn't get in trouble in the slightest at the time. Nowadays I'd probably be expelled. But I didn't get messed with by that guy for the rest of my school years.
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Basic skills involve knowing programming in SQL and Python, understanding how relational and non-relational data is stored and accessed, knowing how to build data pipelines between various database systems.
Anyone with a computer science major would probably fit this description if they've taken a few key upper division courses (e.g. database management, distributed systems, machine learning, etc.) Or you could go the self taught route (what I did) while working in a related role. For example I was a business data analyst (mainly producing data visualizations) prior to becoming a data engineer.
I am not hiring personally, as I am not at a management capacity. However, everyone else is. It's one of the hottest gigs in the market in recent times in terms of demand and $$$.
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She smiled really big :D I think she was happy and proud of me.
Aside from everybody thinking she hated me, she actually apologized profusely when giving me this task. She only came to me because I always asked around for mindless-just-do tasks, because I love them. Nothing gives me more satisfaction than working through a big stash of paper. So she came to me to ask for help, probably thinking I had some trick up my sleeve with my excel-mastery (pivot tables AND vlookup. I was like an excel god there).
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This stuff has been out for a while but Anon brought it to light at a perfect time. The people hate their higher ups right now and rightfully so. I hope this leads to some kind of a revolution of the people but the government is good at keeping us down.
The 1% is all involved. Celebrities, politicians, and rich people alike... The sooner the public realizes that, the sooner their pedo rings and child trafficking circles will be stopped. Media will never cover any of it so it's up to us to do own research. Always remember, civilians need to look out for civilians. Don't trust government and police to protect. They are corrupt and they only protect those who benefit them.
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I dont necessarily think that's someone pretending to be rich. My buddy loves cars and owns a nicer end BMW but he lives in a trailer park.
He likes it because it is way cheaper then rent. He bought the trailer outright and he doesn't like the idea of being tied to a mortgage in a questionable market.
He doesn't live in a trailer park because he can't move up. He lives there because he knows where his passions are. He can devote his energy and money to a nice car that's important to him because he is comfortable with a trailer.
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There's actually precedent for that in common law! Though not exactly as written. In 'The Merchant of Venice', Antonio makes an agreement (essentially a contract) with Shylock to pay a certain debt by a certain date, or owe Shylock the pound of flesh closest his heart. Antonio is unable to pay and Shylock wants his pound of flesh (as a horrendous punishment for the very antisemitic Antonio). This goes to the point of Shylock refusing double the debt in payment. It's only in the Duke of Venice's court that a certain someone points out that Shylock isn't allowed to spill any of Antonio's blood, nor may he take less or more than that pound.
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I keep hearing on this thread that Salvia blows. I would try doing it in a setting where not a smidge of civilization can get through.
Think about it this way, would you candyflip if you were being dragged to midnight mass? NO! you would have a horrible time.
same thing with salvia, theres so little documentation on it, people dont understand how to do it.
its not really euphoric, but the grinding painful feeling is a result of being immersed in our plastic and concrete jungle.
Go out and do it under a waterfall or overlooking a blooming meadow and your eyes will orgasm. Makes DMT look like weed
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The Earth is really big and storing it isn't that hard. Better than that, if we'd stop being babies about nuclear and put money into it again we could build modern reactors that produce much less dangerous waste.
We could easily pick some abandoned mine site, load it up with concrete and dump it. We're more cautious than is really necessary. Not saying it's a bad thing, but I think the risks are really exaggerated. Remember, spent nuclear fuel often has lost much of it's radioisotopes, and the remaining ones often have much lower half lives than uranium.
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If you are in the US, it may interest you to know that overdraft fees can't just be charged to your account. You have to opt-in to a service that allows you to overdraw an account. If you don't opt-in, the bank has to decline the transaction. By law, all checking accounts and debit cards are opt-out until the customer agrees to allow themselves to be charged over draft fees.
By default, all bank accounts and debit cards are not opted in, meaning you can't spend money you don't have. Its been that way since 2010. Most people just opt in, possibly without realizing it, by signing up for Overdraft Protection, or just by not reading anything when they sign up for an account. But banks are required to allow customers to opt out at any time, also. Notable exception - automatic bill payment and written checks are considered "pre-authorized" and are subject to overdraft fees, even if you are opted-out.
But yeah, in regards to overdraft fees, the US law is actually really fair.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-02-11 23:23:29
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My mom used to give me and my brother (the Golden child) long talks about how if someone not as smart works hard, they can do better than someone who is smart but lazy. When she did that, I always assumed that I was the dumb one and that I wasn’t working hard enough. She also discouraged me from any academic extracurriculars. What I didn’t realize until later is that: (1) my brother is as dumb as a rock AND really, really lazy; and, (2) my mother wanted my brother to always do better than me, even if it meant that I failed courses (I didn’t do that, but she didn’t get happy over my grades.) Thankfully, my dad always told me I could be anything I wanted to be.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-09-10 14:16:50
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One of the first times I got very high, I swore that the song I heard sounded like the shape of the letter K lol! But I have not experienced it in my normal state.
I do get auditory hallucinations on occasion with sleep deprivation from insomnia. After like a full week of less than 3-4 hours a night though, not just an average sleepless night. It will be like thinking I hear an indistinct conversation or a music box, nothing alarming. From what I’ve read this isn’t abnormal if occasional and related to insomnia.
I do have crossed wires in the sense I have depression and ADHD plus a history of concussions so I may be more prone than others though.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-04-04 23:38:50
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At first I hated the idea of a Trump presidency because of the obvious sideshow his candidacy has been so far. But the more I think about it the more I have come to the realization that it might actually be the kick in the ass our government needs.
He might be the only candidate in recent history that doesn't have to listen to lobbyists to get campaign funding. So he might actually do things that help out the people and not just lobbyists. Eventually maybe even leading to real campaign finance reform.
He speaks his mind and doesn't worry about being super politically correct and immediately back pedaling on anything controversial. At least we know where he actually stands on issues, not just what is polling well at the moment.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-08-29 01:34:26
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Dolma_Reddit
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You can't be a Star Wars fan and like Star Wars. You have to like the concept of it, but hate the real deal with every fiber of your being. The OT minus the special editions are okay to like, and the majority of things that Dave Filoni has done are okay, but everything else MUST be hated. If someone mentions they liked something that's not supposed to be liked, your course of action is to link articles and videos with titles like "why new film is the worst film ever made" or "internet critic DESTROYS new film in under 10 minutes." You must tell the person that once they read/watch this that it will make them smarter and show them how wrong they were. If they watch/read that stuff and still like the thing, you must call them too stupid to have understood it, dishonest for lying about having watched/read it because clearly it would have changed their minds, or evil for contributing to the demise of the franchise they love.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-05-24 16:37:17
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Dolma_Reddit
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I got a new phone number, but people call asking for the person who used to have the number. What should I do?
I recently got a new phone number to avoid being called by telemarketers, political polling, harassment, etc. I thought it would be a good idea to get a new number and then immediately sign up for the "Do not call list." Boy was I wrong. Since I switched, I have constantly been called asking for a "David Enslow." I'll answer and politely explain he used to have this number, but that I don't know him. I even get text messages trying to sell me pot, dildos and male enhancement pills on a regular basis. While at first it was humorous, now it has become very annoying. I don't know what I should do to make these messages stop. What should I do?
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rif8z
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-03-29 00:20:37
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Dolma_Reddit
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Is the US Government who creates those people by creating so many secrets on any subject. The report of 9/11 that was made to investigate the causes and what failed has at least 29 classified pages until today.... if was the caveman that send the planes why hiding stuff? Another example, the security videos from places around the pentagon that were made proof of 9/11 were never released to public and even with lots of cameras inside and outside of the pentagon there was just one video footage of bad quality release. Once again what's so important to hide if the true is supposedly known?
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-04-21 19:04:30
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Dolma_Reddit
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But isn't that giving in to social pressure? Doing the opposite because you don't want to fit in? It's just the societal pressure ejected you from the situation, you were directly influenced by the situation to act in an opposing way.
How would you figure out who you are anyway by not being in situation where others may dictate how it is you act? In trying so, wouldn't you open yourself up to ideas or actions you wouldn't otherwise take? Who are you if not a combination of the people around you and the things you choose to find important?
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-05-14 10:36:13
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Dolma_Reddit
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Where does this notion that drinking is strictly a social activity come from?
I've heard from a number of people that unwinding with a drink or two at home by yourself after a long day at the grind--be it wine, beer, or liquor--is something of a strange activity to engage in. I'd like to know where the hell this idea comes from. Bear in mind, I still enjoy drinking with friends, but I'm not always down for a night out, especially if I get back home at anywhere between 11 pm and 1 am. What are your thoughts?
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-08-12 21:21:17
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Well as someone from Atlanta, let me defend us here. The city came to a screeching halt because our mayor is a dumbass and we have no preparedness plan for snow (or at least, we didn't). People made fun of Atlanta mercilessly, but everyone seems to forget that it's *Atlanta*. I've lived here for 22 years and I think we've cancelled school for snow maybe 4 times. We had something like ONE snowplow for the whole city. The mayor didn't take the weather threats seriously, so he did nothing to close businesses or schools, and he didn't make any effort to gather more snowplows before the storm hit. The whole city tried to leave at once, which led to unimaginable backups. Atlanta is also very hilly, meaning the hills iced over and led to a lot of accidents (because again, we don't get snow, so none of us have snow tires or chains or anything), which stopped traffic *more*. There was a giant hill right by my apartment on a major road, and we sat out all night and watched car after car slide down the hill because it couldn't get past the ice.
TL;DR - Atlanta is a hot city with no expectance of snow. We were unprepared, and our physical environment made it worse. Also I'd like to add, it wasn't snow so much as an inch-thick sheet of ice covering every street in the city.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-11-14 18:04:19
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Dolma_Reddit
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Does your SO have terrible taste in music?
I'm sure this is a pretty standard relationship issue, but I usually only date girls with music taste similar to mine– it was almost always a deciding factor.
She mostly listens to pseudo indie rock that came out from 1998 - 2006 and an array of shitty main-stream hip hop.
I like punk rock (Dead Kennedys), garage rock from the 60s (Nuggets) and some more modern hip hop (Hieroglyphics). I also like some new music (Yeasayer).
For the past several months, I've been practically living with her and subjected to Sade on a daily basis.
In the long run, I don't mind listening to basically anything, but'd be nice to enjoy the music I'm hearing once in a while.
**TL;DR** We're musically incompatible, I'm stuck listening to bland garbage when we're together. Any thoughts on what I can do? Any similar stories?
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fgji9
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-02-07 00:41:48
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Knew this guy in college... he was my roommate's ex. He decided to come live in the same city as her and sponge money off her, not that she had any. He moved in with a girl my roommate was having casual sex with as a way to start having casual threesomes with the both of them. But his "girlfriend" was this really young girl... he got her pregnant, didn't help pay for the abortion, and left her at the clinic to get herself home. The same day, he called my roommate and told her, "My girlfriend is out of commission for awhile, let's shack up while she's recovering."
Those were just his crimes against people I knew of.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-03-15 04:00:11
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Once. Didn't tell a soul, wrote a letter, dictated how my life insurance would be split, bought a nice sharp knife and alot of booze. Cut in an X across my antecubital veins. They didn't bleed enough, so I took fingernail clippers, and cut both AC veins on my L arm, im right handed you see? My arm bled continuously, not in spurts (due to it being venous as opposed to arterial). I lost apx. 1-1.5 liters of blood. My buddy found me in a pool of blood the next morning, I had vomited many times and had pissed myself, I wasn't dead, and spent the coldest lonliest night of my life under a stinking soiled fleece blanket in "hemorrhagic shock". I spent the next several weeks and months telling people I wasn't depressed. Death is 100% permanent, its messy, undignified, and your family will hate themselves for "not seeing the signs". I've met a very attractive girl, who knows my story and doesn't care, and neither do I. What I did was so exceptionally selfish, and self degrading, but it doesn't define me as a person, and after a few hiccups mentally, I've taken charge of my life. Im celebrating Christmas this week with my 3 year old who adores her daddy time. In the spirit of one of my Drill Sergeants in the Army, FIDO.
Im not trying to downplay depression or suicide, but things will become completely black at times, and that's when you need to just say "throw me a life preserver...fucking help me". Time can reverse alot of what's causing this, and medications...fucking help.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-12-17 14:08:26
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Radio astronomer here! Pulsars are rapidly spinning neutron stars that give off a regular radio pulse every few seconds (or shorter), and were discovered by Jocelyn Bell Burnell in the 1960s as part of her PhD project. (She then famously did not get the Nobel prize for the discovery but her adviser did.) However, I’ve met Jocelyn and per her there are two other cases where someone probably discovered pulsars but didn’t know it from the 1950s:
- A European radio astronomer was letting the sky drift above and started getting some spurious noise. He whacked the receiver and the noise stopped. It turns out the first pulsar Jocelyn discovered was *right* overhead at that moment! (She refuses to give the name of said astronomer, only saying “you probably know him.”)
- Even *more* crazy, McDonald Observatory in Texas has a mandate whereby one night a month they are open to the public for stargazing. (They still have this mandate and you can go! Well, maybe not right now, sounds like you Texans should stay at home.) One night they were using the giant telescope there to look at the [Crab Nebula](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_Nebula) which has a pulsar in it, and a young woman said she saw it pulsing. The astronomer on duty dismissed it and explained how stars can flicker, but this woman insisted- “I am a nighttime pilot and see a lot of stars and a lot of signal lights- *this* star is pulsing!” The astronomer still dismissed her.
It turns out that the Crab Pulsar does actually give off a signal at 30 Hz. This is too low for most people to see, but some can- particularly young women. So moral of the story is, don’t dismiss random signals or experienced women who know what they’re talking about.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-06-27 16:09:57
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Dolma_Reddit
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From what I understand a lot of it takes care of itself traditionally. You won't be doing anything fun for a long time except playing with your baby so possibly there goes a lot of expenses. Essentially your life becomes so intertwined with the baby that your very life force is sucked out and will provided sustenance regardless of any situation you find yourself in because you can easily starve to death to make up the food for your wife to breast feed.
Of course this is only until they turn 5 and can start working the fields. Then it's all downhill.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-04-18 03:36:35
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Dolma_Reddit
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Graduated with my BS with 68k in debt in 08. Economy crashed as I graduated and after applying for 300+jobs I finally found a full time job that paid 13/hr. Unfortunately I had to defer my loans because I didn't make any enough to pay them AND my other bills. Smash-cut to me in 2019. I had only missed a handful of payments since then, but now the interest has risen Waaay higher. They now want me to pay interest rates from 10% and 15% interest. It fluctuates, but my expected payment to them is usually 600-800 /mo. The amount of money I owed when I graduated has only gone UP to about 70k.
What's NOT being factored into this is my wife got sick a few years after we graduated college and it has left her disabled. My student loans do not care and want their payments every month. If I stop paying they will garnish my wages to get it, and while they are applying for that garnishment, the interest continues to compound and the loan will just get worse. We can't even buy a house because they will put a lien on that too!
It is frustrating as as a college grad who has to work two jobs just to keep the lights on and food in our stomachs, but still have no money left at the end of the month for anything. I went to college and busted my ass so I wouldn't end up in this situation, and all it has done is locked me into thst life.....
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-02-27 19:39:15
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Dolma_Reddit
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My great grandpa had a second family that he didn’t see as often.
He was married the first time for only about a year before his wife and newborn both passed away in a car accident (1945ish). Then he got remarried to my great grandma and none of our family knew he was still in contact with his first family when he passed away around 2010.
It’s really weird seeing a dozen strangers at a funeral that all say they’re related to the deceased, but the other 40 relatives had no idea they were still in contact.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-08-12 15:12:31
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I have a 2 year old. I have to remind myself all the time that while I think that whatever he is crying about is silly and doesn't warrant crying, he is only two years old and to him, this IS worth crying about because he doesn't know how to properly communicate his emotions like an adult or older child yet. To me, it's no big deal to not be able to play with THAT SPECIFIC TOY RIGHT NOW because there are tons of other toys to play with, but to him it is a big deal because he doesn't know it's not a big deal yet. Same general message, but completely different to a two-year-old.
Of course, this completely excludes all the times he fake-cries for attention or to get what he wants. Those times I just maintain a straight face, tell him that's fake news, and he eventually gives up. The tell is when there's either no tears, or he's crying while smiling that mischievous smile of his. I love that kid so much.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-11-30 16:27:09
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Even if it was a contraction of you and all, your “rule” is still invalid.
Couldn’t, wouldn’t, shouldn’t, haven’t, aren’t, and probably many more contractions clearly do not add the apostrophe in between the two words.
However, the apostrophe in 100% of all other contractions takes the place of a vowel in the second word. That’s my first point.
In the south, greeting one singular person changes from “how are you doing” to “how ya doin’?” When greeting multiple “how ya all doin’?” Point 2, it’s a contraction of ya and all.
Now that we know we’re combining ya and all, let’s take the vowel away from the second word and conjoin them: ya’ll.
Now the 3rd point, that is more subjective but still should hold sway, ya’ll is much more aesthetically pleasing than y’all.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-05-21 16:57:55
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So my dad died of ALS when I was still an infant and my mom never remarried. I'd say the biggest drawback was that I didn't get taught "guy stuff" as a kid. I had to figure out all that stuff out on my own. Also, until I was a teenager I used to feel very vulnerable when it was just me and mom out on the town somewhere. Like if we were walking through a big city at night or something I felt scared because I knew my mom couldn't physically protect me any better than I could.
That said, there were advantages to it. Because I was forced to figure to figure stuff out on my own I became quite good at being independent and figuring shit out for myself. Like I've noticed a lot of my friends just aren't nearly as tenacious learning new things as I am and will resort to asking for help much quicker, especially friends who come from large families where they had lots of siblings to ask for help too. I also have zero problems with women as authority figures and tend to get along with female colleagues at work better than most I think. And I have no lingering resentments. Like a lot of my male friends have psychological issues that stem from having an overbearing father. My mom was never overbearing and honestly probably gave me a little too much freedom.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-02-11 16:17:48
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A friend of mine was well into this. Used to like telling birds we were property developers. We took a couple of girls back to his sister's house when she was on holiday. He made a big thing of showing them round and telling them what work we were gonna do on it before renting it out. Fortunately, his sister was in the process of getting an extension so there were tools and building materials on site add if credence to the story. Must have seemed odd to them that two successful property tycoons would stay in a development whilst working on it but they never mentioned it...
I went on holiday with him and in the space of a week we were Options Traders, Property Developers, Oxford University Professors, Doctors, Business Owners... kinda pissed me off after a while. When we got back he was got texts off two girls he had offered jobs to, lol.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-11-14 23:44:04
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They weren't hiding in Pakistan when we invaded. They moved there later. Iraq was a total con job compared to the partial Afghanistan con job. You are lucky too. I joined the Marine Corps Infantry in late 2000. I was expecting Mediterranean deployments visiting all of southern Europe. Those dreams were dashed on that one day when the Deployment I was working up for turned into a 7 month circle-jerk in the Arabian Gulf/Indian Ocean. I did get to go to Djibouti though... Oh yeah, I ended up in Iraq twice as well.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-09-02 14:45:19
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I agree there's some tone difference, and to each their own on liking it or not liking it.
But I don't see it as breaking the 'reality' of a doc being made.
I view the wedding episode as the crossover point. Fictional PBS had to make the choice to license the music used by the stars of the documentary in a pivotal scene in a non work related event setting.
Music licensing for an almost fully played song is now on the menu for this show.
Going way beyond the office for a 'special' episode is now on the menu.
And how could it not be? After everything built up for 6 years in the office, it must have been a no brainier for 'PBS' to authorize shooting the wedding. Surely they pitched in for some travel costs.
After the wedding 'PBS' would clearly realize the show has evolved from the mundane concept. And the Scranton workers must also know that they 'have something' in this documentary by now. Jim and Pam invite the crew to their secret ceremony.
The film crew going to the hospital in season 1-3 for a birth would have been out of the question. But it's another no-brainer later in season 6.
Think of the pitch by 'PBS' or Michael or whoever. "Hey let's do this fun music number. After the wedding and birth, this show is clearly going to be a win for viewers. Let's do something wacky for them and hey your kids will see it one day too."
It didn't go perfectly. We see some workers not want to be bothered. So they clearly didn't go for absolute perfection in their takes.
And since it wasn't really repeated maybe there was some version of you at 'PBS' that didn't like the tone and decreed it best left as a one-off.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-11-15 14:55:40
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I have not told many people this story but it seems appropriate here. I am not an atheist but I have had some moments in my life where my faith was shaky.
I was almost 4 months pregnant and home alone with three children. We had just moved into the house and the phone was not yet hooked up and I knew none of my neighbors. After cramping for much of the morning I realized that I was miscarrying. As it got further and further into the process I went into the bathroom and lock the door so the other children would not know what was happening. I couldn't call anybody and there was nobody that could help me.
During the time it was happening I said out loud God please send somebody to help me I can't do this by myself. At that moment I felt two hands on my shoulders just as if somebody had walked into the bathroom and did it. At first I thought one of the kids had managed to open the door and so I turned quickly. There was no one there. I felt a peace come over me and I was somehow able to manage the rest of that time.
As horrible of an experience as it was, I knew I was not alone. I have pulled up that memory several times throughout my life when I was going through difficult times and having doubt. No one can convince me that there isn't a god.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-09-23 21:40:21
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Was with the girlfriend about a week ago when I mentioned my stepbrother and his gf broke up a few days prior. He’s a blue collar guy and she goes to a business school in Boston, so their schedules didn’t really work. She decided to break up with him because of time commitments (amongst other things I’m sure, she’s the partier and he’d rather just chill out with some friends and some brewskis) but the split was pretty amicable. So I tell my girlfriend “hey, my stepbrother and his gf broke up” and she IMMEDIATELY gets upset when I tell her the reasons as to why they split. “That’s bullshit, if HE wanted to make the time for her HE would”, “HE just didn’t care enough” etc. etc. Thing is, in a lapse of storytelling judgement I forgot to mention who broke up with who, and she jumped straight to the conclusion that my stepbrother initiated the split. As soon as I mentioned that it wasn’t him, but his now ex who brought up the breakup convo, my gf did a complete 180. “Oh, well that’s alright then”, and “she probably had too much on her plate anyways”. As a guy I’m very familiar with double standards, but this one both surprising and a little eye opening. A woman will go to the defense of another by default even if the entire story isn’t known to them. And who gets left out to dry in terms of assumptions? The man, who was previously happy with the relationship and sought to reach a resolution.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-03-16 16:55:40
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Two excellent questions.
> How do you deal with the distraction?
My wife has worked from home for years, so the kids are already associated with someone working in the house (and the need for periods of "leave me alone"). Me being home actually helps us both, because I can cover her important times, and she covers mine. The kids being home-schooled helps too, since they've got their own work to complete. If I really need to be distraction-free for a meeting or phone call, I go hide in the garage. The rest of the time, I task-switch between work and whatever the kids need, which sounds awful, but really isn't. All those little 5- and 10-minute blocks of useless time at work are spent with my family now, which I like a lot more than pretending to care about whatever show everyone is binging.
> If work is always at home how do you "leave" for the day?
You don't, but you also don't "arrive". Some days I don't log in to my work laptop until 10:30, and other days I'm on until past 02:00. WFH is necessarily flexible - "Off work" and "on work" are a minute-by-minute determination, so I can take an hour to help the kids with math in the middle of the day, then make it up after they go to bed. Obviously, I attend meetings at set times, but the rest of the time is flexible. And, if I've got a block of time where I need to be "off", I just do what I did before - close the laptop, set down the phone, and be "off".
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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"You scammed me into buying this! I don't actually want it!!"
I worked in a resale shop that catered to movies, video games, and electronics. We often had a "Buy 4, get the 5th free" deal. Some people would come up with 4 movies, and we'd remind them of our deal. Some would excitedly go back and pick a 4th movie, some would look at us like we grew a second head. The latter would sometimes reluctantly grab a 5th movie, and make their purchase only to come back in saying they wanted to return the free movie and that we were running a scam.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-03-06 18:48:43
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In the US, yes though my personal experience is still that if I'm going to be prosthelytized at it will be by theist.
My particular favorite was my pastor telling the family of a infrequent church attender that while he was there to comfort them in their grief, they should be aware that their loved one was now in hell.
On the other end of the spectrum, I had a fellow atheist friend refuse to be a groomsman in my wedding because my wife wanted to get married in a church. As his friend, I respected his wishes but we still sent him an invitation because we thought it polite to do so. He actually attended. And after the actual religious ceremony, he loudly announced he'd 'had enough of this Jesus bullshit' and was not going to attend the reception.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-12-14 02:40:17
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Dolma_Reddit
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DEEP breaths whenever you have a craving, and stay busy. Replacing the rote activity aspect of smoking with something equally mindless but occupying is also helpful — a fidget spinner or even just a smooth stone or coin can help considerably, especially when you engage in smoking-related activities, like drinking coffee or booze, or talking on the phone; whatever are your smoking “companion” behaviors.
I smoked for thirty-two years. When it comes right down to it, it’s most significantly about “want to” — you just gotta wanna. Once you mindfully _decide_ you ARE going to stop completely forever and always, the helping stuff above becomes that much more effective.
I haven’t had one in more than sixteen years now, and once smoked 4+ packs a day. If I could do it, YOU CAN DO IT.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-04-29 17:57:52
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This…. I went all in on a vegan sugar free this year for health/aesthetic reasons. It’s been 11 months with very little cheating. Other than some B12 deficiency and low iron I am in fantastic health.
I look amazing, just tried on my grad dress from 23 years ago and it’s a bit big in the waist.
I get compliments all the time but food is basically just something I do to fuel my body. And I am hungry a LOT.
No, I don’t go out to eat with friends often and when I do I nibble on shared plates and order salad with no dressing. I honestly get vary little pleasure from food because I want to look like this.
It’s a choice but looking thin is a heavy price. Heavier than you would think, I am not even model thin.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-12-06 15:47:38
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Dolma_Reddit
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It seems "logical" when you are that child, but when you become a parent it hits you harder. I would do anything, _anything_, it took to save the life of any of my children, including losing my own.
My wife has found it difficult to accept, but if it were her or me, there could be a discussion. Probably me, but there's still a discussion.
With my kids, there's no discussion. It would be me instead of them. No matter what.
The thought of having to bury any of them is literally my worst nightmare. There is nothing worse in existence. And if they were all gone, I wouldn't be far behind them.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-06-03 00:00:52
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I'm dead serious, how do I remove anything to do with "apple" [as in the company] and "iphone" and "ipad" from ever appearing in my browser again.
Sick of them and the marketing jugganaut they unleash. It pervades my life like the sewer works down the road pervades the nearby motorway in summer. I cant wash the stink out. I've gone crazy with adblock and *apple* filters, image blockers. What I really need is a keyword filter for blocking articles on sites in firefox if they contain references.
Yes I'm overreacting to an extent but I need an apple free life. Anything considered. Also, "hypothetical" physical attacks on their employees and property should be discussed with enthusiasm.
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clyxm
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-07-04 22:06:29
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You know about the Doppler effect, right? When something is coming towards you, light and sound waves get compressed. So sound will seem to increase in pitch (think a fire engine siren approaching) and light will get pushed towards shorter wavelengths (blueshifted). And when something is moving away from you, waves get stretched out. So sounds will drop in pitch (siren moving away) and light gets pushed towards longer wavelengths (redshifted). Well, when deep-space telescopes started collecting data about the most distant galaxies from us and we crunched the numbers, we found that the further stuff was from us, the more redshifted it got. This suggested it was **all** moving away from us, implying it started at some central point and "exploded" outwards.
But, as we gathered more data and crunched more numbers, something weird turned up. The light wasn't *just* red-shifted, it was **way too red-shifted.** The final result of the number crunching was that it wasn't *just* that everything was rushing away, but actually **accelerating!** So, the new explanation was that it wasn't *just* that all the matter was stuffed into a single point that "boom" exploded and threw everything everywhere. It was that even **spacetime itself** was stuffed into that point and it's the very *fabric of spacetime* that's expanding, stretching out in all directions, and accelerating to boot, and the matter is all just sort of "surfing" that expanding space. It's sort of like there's a brand new "point" of space being "created" in between every currently existing "point" of space, at any given point in time. That's a massive oversimplification, but hopefully it breaks it down into something small enough to wrap your head around.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-11-04 14:46:19
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Hi, worked for a non profit providing homeless support for several years. There's truth to what that poster said.
There's basically two types of homeless. There's the bad day type, who literally did have some bad luck and just need a little help recovering. Those are not the homeless you see crapping on the street. These are folks that live in their car door a few weeks, or couch surf, or spend the winter in a shelter.
Then there's the chronic homeless. The folks that have been like this for years, and may never change. Mental illness co occurs with a high frequency, so stunts like what's in this thread are pretty common. So is substance abuse.
That said, even those folks CAN be helped. But you can't just give them a house and walk away. They need full wrap around support including medical, psychological, job skills training, etc. It can take years. And no one cares to invest that much when it's easier to bus them the next town over and home they don't come back.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-10-29 01:50:54
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Dolma_Reddit
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What is the etiquette for passing someone on the sidewalk where you live?
Years ago, I moved from Phoenix, AZ, to the Midwestern US, and had to adjust to new etiquette for passing someone on the sidewalk. In Phoenix, you stare at the ground on the opposite side of the path than the other is walking. Getting used to making eye contact, smiling, and possibly greeting a complete stranger in central IL took surprisingly little time because, as it turns out, it's quite pleasant.
How do you pass someone on the sidewalk in your location?
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1o253x
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-10-09 12:47:31
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Dolma_Reddit
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If only there were a way to find movies where the bad guy wins in order to watch them, without having to be spoiled beforehand...
I know! When mentioning a movie in this thread, we should include 4 other movies where the bad guy *doesn't* win. Then we could watch all 5 movies with only a 20% change of spoilage... and then 25% chance after seeing the first one, 33.3% after the second one, and so on, until... 100% change of spoilage if the movie where the bad guy wins is the last one! NOOO, it can't be done!
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04450245ed8d4c12af5e445db174443e
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-02-08 06:56:19
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Dolma_Reddit
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What dictates a good role model for you? Do you have an example?
I mainly ask this cause of something i noticed about Jennifer Lawrence leading up to THG. On a spin interview, she was asked what song has she heard when she first got high, she answered "I so cannot answer that question. I'm in a franchise."
I thought why that would be a problem and came to the conclusion that She is viewed as a role model now and cant appear in a negative light. We all know how the world reacted when Miley Cyrus smoked Salvia. But getting older the idea of role models, or people we glorify becomes useless. im not trying to say all artists or actors are evil people in real life, but just learned to separate the art from the artist. Maybe the entertainment industry isn't a great place to pick a role model.
That being said, i am always fond of Mr Rogers. He was practically indifferent from his on screen persona and cared so much about people.
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rm0q4
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-03-31 04:39:23
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Yeah, some friends once showed me a comic saying basically, southerners are conservatives who will keep electing conservatives, so we should nuke them, and couldn't understand why I thought that was a bad attitude to take, not just a good one taken slightly too far. Northern liberals can be just as hateful of southern conservatives as the other way around, but they don't see it. When I pointed out that the comic was a perfect expression of every 'Yankee asshole' stereotype, they claimed there was no such stereotype.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-06-29 17:36:33
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I think open casket and mortuary service will be specifically viewed as proof of our simple mindedness, within the entire fucked up funeral industry. People will post on Reddit 50 years from now:
"TIL our grandparents generation not only embalmed their deceased loved ones but dressed them up in makeup and fine clothes for people to view the body before entombing an expensive ornate box in concrete and dirt and marking the grave with an engraved granite headstone, the ritual costing so much money that most people carried life insurance just to cover this cost..."
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c54331dcca484be28ca380f649a70e6b
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-10-16 14:04:36
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Dolma_Reddit
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We had abstinence-only education, separated by gender, and all the guys in our classes thought the same until someone figured out that 'girls have three holes down there' and put it in our anonymous question box, asking how would they know which was the right hole?
Now, learning that girls had *three* holes was a relevation for the guys, and I learned from a friend that the girls' side got a more detailed lesson, but learning that guys had *one* hole for both urine and semen was equally relevatory and disgusting for the girls in our class. (She asked me later if it was true, and told me about how the girls had reacted.)
Anyway, back to the guys. This 'which hole' question was critically important, yet our teacher just said 'you'll know' and moved on to the next question. We were flabbergasted; that wasn't an answer! What happens if we choose wrong? Wtf!?
Well, I figured out later that being in a state with abstinence-only education, we *weren't* supposed to know until we figured it out for ourselves, however we could. Not giving us any useful, practical knowledge was *intentional*.
For example, though I had been given a box of condoms by my parents when I went to college, I didn't know how to put them on properly until I attended a safe sex seminar run by the campus LGBT group. I didn't know you were supposed to pinch the tip to leave a reservoir and I didn't know that double-wrapping was a bad idea because it makes the condoms easier to break. All the things covered in the safe sex seminar *run by the gay group* were all the essential skills we should have learned in sex ed. Hell, they never told us that dental dams *even existed*, let alone how they were used or what they were for.
Abstinence-only education is a *moronic* and dangerous policy.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-05-30 07:53:59
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Dolma_Reddit
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Reddit, I've made a huge mistake and moved in with my girlfriend. Help
I'm 21 abd completely support myself with school, rent, food, and transportation. I have lived with my girlfriend for 1 1/2 years out of the 3 years we've been together. Basically the relationship is over and we're both just faking it at this point because there is still 10 months left on the lease. She is extremely stubborn and if I try and talk her out of us living together she will get extremely dramatic. I need out though asap. Any ideas or helpful advice would be appreciated.
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xfvda
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-07-31 08:29:25
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Dolma_Reddit
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There are several things about the Boston Marathon Bombing that will make it a tragedy that people will remember.
For one, it shows just how far we have come in the way of preparing for the worst. Only 4 people died despite so quite gruesome injuries. Hospitals were prepared and had a plan in place that they had (to my knowledge) tested out before, making sure it ran as efficiently as possible.
For another there was the fact that Boston was completely shut down for pretty much an entire work day just to hunt for those responsible. Whether it is a good thing that they were searching, or a bad one because the police were able to control Boston so much or any combination of other factors, it still is quite amazing that they were actually able to do it.
And lastly, it showed how reporting the news has changed with the age of the internet. During the events we had people reporting nearly nonstop informing the world what has happening. And it wasn't just major news sources doing it for once. Normal people with access to both the area and police scanners and such were doing it. People weren't getting the news solely from the news channels anymore. The threads on Reddit gained a huge following.
Unfortunately in that there was the false manhunt as well.
Either way, the Boston Marathon Bombing changed things a lot and showed how our society has changed since 9/11, at least to me.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-04-06 20:31:31
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I'm getting into the idea. I don't put my emotions into sex to develop that kind of conflict.
However, what wee do is do things with other women. Personally, I told her to get a gf. She's warming up to the idea, but feels like a cheater. Not sure how to convince her it's not cheating though. I don't care.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-04-02 05:41:46
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Dolma_Reddit
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I made the mistake of time traveling back to the 1340s. I told the time machine operator "mid 15th century, please" hoping to meet up with my bro from another mozzarella roll, Leo Da Vinci, but not every time machine tech has gone to Time Machine Technical College. Go figure.
So i get sent back to 1340s, on the dawn of the Black Death. I happen to be a medicinal chemist, and while my specialty is in analgesics, not antibiotics, i managed to whip up a pretty mean yeast broth with some penicillin mold. I team up with the Medici's and we make a killing, albeit with lots of green, and little bloodshed.
All of that being said, I'm not sure you can **handle** what makes gets this *girl* hot?
or can you.... ;-)
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-09-19 18:02:10
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Dolma_Reddit
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This was in 8th grade.
We're allowed to go outside for recess after lunch for around 15 minutes if its nice out, so obviously mainly of us do go outside so we can get some fresh air after sitting inside all day. This girl, who had this weird almost.. obsession with me, ever since 3rd grade when she first moved here always was trying to talk to me and show me stuff (she traces art and claims it as her own, stuff like that).
So, we're outside and then the bell rings so we head back inside. While I'm walking through the door, she comes up to me and is like, "Hey Hana?" I turn around, surrounded by other people who are also trying to get inside and go "yeah?"
At first I just kinda stare at her. Why the hell was she asking me this, I thought to myself. Either way, I go ahead and respond "..Yeah." Since, you know, I was.
Then she goes, "Oh.
I didn't think much of it until I was out in the hall with my friend and then I was like "wait why was she looking at my chest in the first place-"
I can tell she is trying to be friendly towards me, and I am friendly back, I'm not mean or anything, but especially since then I can't look at her the same way.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-05-04 02:42:38
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The ban was really fun, but both that sub and r/inthesoulstone became karma farms really quickly. I got banned in the snap and wanted to stay subscribed to r/inthesoulstone for the balance (since most people weren't unsubbing from the Thanos sub and subbing to the Soul Stone sub), but the content was terrible because everyone mutually acknowledged they were just gonna post garbage and get karma for it.
EDIT: OP got deleted; it was about r/thanosdidnothingwrong banning half of their subscribers in honor of Thanos.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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Really depends on the rich kid and their parents.
Then again as someone who has taught college classes I've seen the same thing with poorer students too. You don't have to be born rich (or even middle class) to be entitled and lazy.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-01-16 20:51:28
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>As a dad you need to keep being the same dad you were 5’ ago
As a parent (and a person), you should adapt emotionally when things like this come up. Acting like it's no big deal at all can be devastating to a kid who has seriously struggled with their identity or orientation.
If they bring it up like it's no big deal and there are no signs of needing to talk about then fantastic. But many children who are gay, trans, or questioning have been eating themselves alive about it for months or years. Many have considered or attempted suicide.
Treating it like nothing has changed can be incredibly invalidating and unhelpful.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2023-01-18 15:53:17
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"Why am I always playing the victim? Why does life feel like an endless loop of suffering and misery?"
**poops**
"Come to think of it, we're all connected...what *are* the implications of that? Is it like the oxygen bags in the airplane? I gotta take care of me first to be able to contribute to those around me, right?"
**Hershey squirt**
"You make an interesting point, Self."
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-09-19 17:38:18
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Any redditors that have been to a Broadway show: What hilarious/embarrassing blunders have you seen the cast make?
Please share the name of the show(s) you are going to refer to and then describe the mess-up.
I'll start. I went to see Wicked at Pantages and towards the end, when Elphaba (the wicked witch of the west) had Dorothy in her dungeon, she closed the trap door in the stage on her skirt and ended up ripping her entire skirt. It was funny because it was supposed to be an angry moment and Elphaba had to just keep ripping and pulling over and over again until her dress came free; then had to carry her torn dress around to avoid tripping any of the other actors/herself. Classic. Your turn.
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ralkp
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-03-23 21:59:52
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School-mandated sports.
Many schools here are old, repurposed buildings with no place to host PE activities. And even newer buildings only have a multipurpose gym with no bleachers, nevermind a stadium or anything like that.
Regardless, schools don't have sports programs, they're all about learning. Whatever you want to do in your free time it's up to you but don't expect special treatment because you have soccer practice or games.
Top-level young athletes either drop out or get their HS diploma as private students.
For that reason, another absurd concept to us is "school pride".
Basically we pick high-schools because of the specific curriculum they offer (classics, maths, arts, technology, languages, music) but if there's more than one of the same kind, we go for reputation or convenience.
To us being proud of our school is like being proud of a post office or a restayrant. It's just a service we choose based on our needs and desires.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-09-27 19:26:19
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Depending on where you go, there are things called rebates. You mail them in and you get an in store credit back with a percentage of what you spent. Not only do some stores say the price without tax, but some stores also show the price of the item after you get the rebate back rather than the full price of said item
Example: i wanna buy this book. The price tag says it is $5. Get to the checkout, and the book is actually ringing up at $10.50. You gotta mail in the rebate to get the extra money back.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-07-09 12:00:32
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They did something similar on the main road into my suburb's little downtown area (Shawnee, Kansas, for those curious) and people are *still* pissy about it. The utility relocations took longer and cost more than originally anticipated, mostly because the local electric utility were giant dicks about burying their power lines. But every new project that comes along, someone will be there to comment that "this will just be another disaster like [Nieman Now](https://www.cityofshawnee.org/business/downtown/nieman_now_) was!"
The controversy du jour is a trial "traffic calming" restriping of the other main street through downtown, where they took two lanes in each direction and changed it to one lane in each direction with a center turn lane and parallel or angled parking. It's either an improvement, or a sign that the City Council was run by camouflaged Marxists trying to subvert democracy and subject us to a dictatorship under the U.N.'s Agenda 21. Based on the results of the November council election, the conspiracy theorists won the argument.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-01-17 03:38:11
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when i was in my early teens my mother went to mexico to bring my brother over to the u.s, she was being accompanied by her then boyfriend, she was gone for several months, when she came back she told me my eldest niece was also visiting while pregnant.
my mother informed me that my niece intended on having her baby here in the u.s, anyways at one point when i was home my mothers boyfriend called the house asking for my mother, then he asked for my niece and asked to speak with her. i found that to be rather odd, i told my mother after and she immediately became suspicious.
one day after i came home from school my mother was throwing out her boyfriends clothes, i asked her what was going on, she said her boyfriend slept with my niece and she is carrying his baby.
after her ex boyfriend requested a dna test it was confirmed and we haven't spoken to either of them since
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-10-05 00:27:59
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Been to several open casket service services. But, it's almost a plastic experience.
When I was 18 I had a neighbor, Oscar, in end stage lung cancer/emphysema. I used to cook for him and move his car when it needed to be moved. We would chat. I felt bad for him, his whole family was in Ecuador.
One morning, his home attendant (poor underpaid wretch) is pounding on my door. Hysterical crying and freaking out. "He can't breath!". She had called 911, but be was slipping fast. and it wasn't pretty.
Oscar's eyes were WIDE open. He looked more scared than anyone I have ever seen. He could not catch a breath. He was drowning in his own body. His attendant was panicking and yelling at him to BREATH! I exported her out of his room.
I took off his glasses. Asked him if he can hear me. He nodded. I brought my face close to his, smiled. I told him he was OK. There will be no pain anymore. Paradise awaits (I'm an atheist, but he was a devout Catholic). "Let it go Oscar". He stopped trying to catch that last breath. Went very still. Tiny flutters from his chest as some automatic response weakly tried to gather oxygen. I looked him in the eyes, my face close to his. I never stopped smiling, even though I was so scared I peed myself.
I saw the light leave his eyes. It was slow, and I wasn't sure when she left this world. But, eventually it was obvious he was no longer Oscar, but a corpse.
This was the first time I really saw death. I wish I had closed his eyes.
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> "the Russians bombed America" was the first rumour that spread around before the full story was known.
I had a similar reaction when the London bombings happened, it was my High School induction day and around breaktime we'd heard rumours that London was being bombed, me being a naive kid at the time was thinking "That's nonsense, we would have heard the bomber planes" as this was back when I'd rarely heard of suicide bombers, it wasn't till I got home that day that I saw the extent of what had happened on BBC News.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-01-24 17:13:17
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Are there banks that you can use both in the US and Europe? Like an international bank account?
I noticed overseas you can see HSBC everywhere and people have their cards and so I assume others like JP Morgan Chase, or Citibank or BofA are present as well.
My question is this. Can one simply open an account in the US and use it abroad? I'm just trying to handle money in both areas and don't feel exactly great about giving out my ABA# and account to sketchy people in order to wire funds back home to my bank. Also I don't want to get in trouble or something like have my assets froze or tied up. Thanks in advance.
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d8xxx
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-09-03 00:58:14
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Visual aids. If you used to read tabs, play out of books that have tabs on top of your staves, watch videos, play songs you already know while reading along note for note to it's matching sheet music (it helps your brain make connections) and, as tedious as it is, play your scales. Find some super easy etudes. Just looook aaat your music while you play or your brain will not connect fingers to blips on paper.
Lastly, sing what you're playing (if physically possible).
EDIT for adding more.
RECORD YOUR LESSONS! It is SO useful.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-04-17 06:32:47
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Don't leave them, I'm sure they appreciate you a lot, & would be heartbroken to lose you. After reading the posts around this, honestly no one cares. Diag. schizophrenia back in 2016, learned to keep it to myself with the stigmata surrounding it. I live a pretty normal life, I'm married, & unmedicated. (unless you count the microdosed Psilocybin)
Nowadays it's mostly just hallucinations & seizures, back when I was on antidepressants/antipsychotics life felt unbearable. I could suffer w delusions, paranoia, & firmly believe something was coming for me, & I was fucked; OR I could take these two little pills & become a shell of my former self, slowly deleting my personality like a mindless drone.
Try explaining your illness to someone & then get confused for a future serial killer or looked down upon as a human. It's defeating, luckily nowadays I run pretty stable.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-11-14 15:02:07
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Who is "that guy" or "that girl" from your office and what did they do to earn that title? I'll start.
I used to work inside sales at a hvac company just outside of Toronto. There was a guy there named Stan. Stan was money. He tried so hard to be social but didn't quite know what he was doing, which often lead to hilarity. Here are a few examples of Stan being Stan :
* upon learning a coworker was Polish, he said "you're a Pollock!?!?! " then told her every anti Polish joke he knew. He genuinely thought she would find it funny and he was laughing the whole time.
* After not getting a promotion after his review (there were no positions for him to move into nor was he anywhere near qualified) he created a petition to have our sales manager fired and went around to everyone in each department and asked them to sign it. Nobody signed it except for him.
* My favorite was at a company BBQ. Stan and one of the guys from shipping decided to do mushrooms. The BBQ was at the president of the company's house so this was wildly inappropriate. After about 45 mins he was going around from person to person shouting "go g-men!!" To the guys (he was a NY giants fan and the season just started) and asked the girls to dance with him. He then told a racist joke to the 65 year old VP and laughed so hard at his own joke that he started drooling.
I miss that guy sometimes. He made work a hell of a lot more interesting. So Reddit, tell me stories about that guy or girl in your office that spices things up a little for better or worse.
EDIT #1: Another Stan story. Stan and I were at a co-workers place with a few other guys and were having some beers, some smoke and watching a hockey game. It was 2nd intermission and Stan was a wreck, he doesn't handle his smoke well. He was making samosas in our co-workers oven, and decided he wanted to make himself a cesar. He took the cap off the clamato, turned to talk to me about something and while talking to me started to shake the clamato juice... with the lid off. Juice everywhere, but he cleaned it all up and had a mound of paper towels on top of the stove.
The oven dings, his samosas are ready. He opens the oven door, but needs to clear off the paper towels from the stovetop so he can put the cookie sheet down. He stood there staring at the situation for well over a minute, totally confused as to how he was going to get out of this pickle. I gave him a plastic bag to put the dirty paper towels in, so the stovetop would be cleaned off, problem solved. "Good idea, thanks man" says Stan.
Nope. The bag instantly melted to his hands and he burned himself pretty bad, smashing the sheet against the wall. Samosas everywhere. We had to take him to the hospital but we were all way too drunk to drive so we all walked 15 mins to the ER.
**Edit 2: ** Wow, front page, this is crazy!
Thanks to those below for pointing out that the correct term (racial slur?!) is "Polack" and not "Pollock" which is, as I've come to learn, a piece of [Minimalist Abstract Art](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jackson_Pollock) or a [Fish](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pollock). This would explain why my phone autocorrected it to that spelling, and I'm actually kind of disappointed because I thought my phone came pre-loaded with all ethnic slurs out of the box.
To those who noted about not driving to the hospital; of course we would do the responsible thing. It turned out way better that way. Stan was drunk enough that he didn't notice the pain much once we started walking. We kept asking him for high 5's (he wouldn't fall for it), and he told us he felt the melted bag pieces stuck to his hand made him look like the Ultimate Warrior from wrestling.
**Edit 3: **
I should clarify something. This isn't about someone who is inappropriately mean, or quiet or otherwise quirky. It's about someone eccentric who always makes for great stories. We're all odd in our own way, just some of us are better at hiding it than others. It's what's behind the social mask that makes us unique, and that's a beautiful thing, but when someone doesn't care to wear it things are often spontaneously hilarious. This isn't about malice, or hatred towards someone, it's about loving someone who makes for good stories. If we had negative feelings towards Stan, we would have told him to GTFO and find his own way to the hospital, and not to touch anything with his gross melty hand on the way out.
**tl;dr: Go back to the top and read, you have to chew your food before you swallow.**
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jxxay
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-08-29 13:07:59
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My dad was in town, me and my girlfriend were going to meet him for lunch. We decided last minute that we were going bail on the plans because we were going to look at an apartment to rent.
We actually were going to look at the apartment, but ended up staying home and having sex...
Well we saw him later in the day, and he asks "What the apartment like?" and my girlfriend begins to say "What? We didn't go to the apartment..." I forgot to tell her that "*we went to the apartment and it was nice but not what we were looking for"*, the elaborate scenario I made up in my head.
He kind of awkwardly walked away, and after a while I had to go try to explain what just happened. Sometimes white lies, even without real consequence, can catch up to you. He probably didn't like that I lied, but most of all just thought I was weird for grabbing my girlfriend and kissing her out of nowhere.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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My dad told me that if I kicked a boy hard enough in the balls that they might lodge themselves “up,” break, and might never descend again. He said he knew from personal experience. Then later on as a teen when I asked my anatomy teacher about it during sex organ week, she laughed at me and said that was impossible.
Another one was I kept getting rashes on my arms so my dad told the school I had prostate issues after WebMDing it... whelp, I’m a girl so that got a few looks. Girls don’t have a prostate. Thanks Dad.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-10-20 04:37:55
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He would've but Tywin would've ruled for most of his early years. Not that that isn't a bad thing, Tywin infamously ruled when he was Hand for Aerys and actually did a really good job, to the point that the peasants thought HE was the king whenever they went to court because he was so good at it.
Of course for all we know Tywin would've found someway to accidentally cause him to form a fatal flaw like all the rest of his kids.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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I work at Coldstone and overall most of the stuff is pretty good. All of the ice cream is definitely fresh, as well as the PLAIN waffle cones. The chocolate dipped ones usually sit for a while. That's where it stops. All of the baked goods are shipped in frozen or bought at a local grocery, this includes the cakes, cookies, and brownies (although the brownies are really delicious). Most of the fruits are previously frozen and have been sitting in the syrup for days, and in some cases are served several days past their expiration date, so long as they're not bad tasting. Your best bet is to stick with mixing in some kind of candy, a brownie, or the cookie dough, that's pretty good. Also stick to a like it (small) there's like a bazillion calories in our ice cream, it's really good quality, but that also means it's really rich.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-10-02 04:48:18
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Old Testament was pretty much overhauled by prophets like Jesus, most bibles or other abrahamic religious texts don't even include some passages of Leviticus anymore, which included stoning of homosexuals and men who shaved.
Then, as Christianity was adopted by Rome through former inquisitor St Paul's dehydration fueled desert hallucinations, making additions to the holy texts became very commonplace. "Divine inspiration" was coined around this time.
As the catholic church started requiring more and more from it's followers, including tithes in return for absolution, Martin Luther stapled a long list of 95 these or debate-worthy topics on why the catholic church was immoral and that buying forgiveness from god was impossible. This started the Protestant reform.
One of the last major overhauls was the creation of the King James Bible, the first widespread translated and printed copy of the bible, or rather a collection of holy texts, in a language other than Hebrew, Arabic, Greek, and Latin. King James Bible did see a very high number of changes/revisions in a short period of time compared to how the Roman Catholics made changes slowly over several centuries.
Then, in the modern day, we see a great much more diversity in Christian sects and off-branches than ever before. Salvation Army, Jehovah's Witnesses, Mormons, etc.i
Really weird changes is that while genital mutilation such as circumcision is generally not followed anymore or referenced in the books, it's still common practice.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-01-22 08:55:43
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We "hooked up" and were essentially glued to one another. Spent every possible waking second with one another. So, while neither of us had our mail forwarded or a dresser set up... we basically started "living together" almost immediately. Once every couple days we would sleep in separate houses and it was agonizing.
So within the time span of about a month, maybe a little longer, we went ahead and made it official and moved in together. That was about a year and a half ago. It hasn't been rainbows and butterflies the entire time but I'd say I can't complain.
We take care of each other (I cook, he cleans. I wash clothes, he folds them. I get sick he feeds me soup, he gets sick I feed him dayquil. etc etc), there is always someone there to vent your frustrations or share your accomplishments with, effective use of body heat (cuddling) in bed during winter months, he introduces me to new music while I introduce him to ridiculous facts and memes (from reddit of course), and we always have someone to adventure with whenever the mood strikes.
If not at the moment of occurrence, certainly later on when you tell your mutual friends about it.
I honestly can't imagine any other way. I'd hate to be involved with someone and NOT be able to share my life everyday with them. Even if my day is just going to work, eating some dinner, and watching Netflix while I pass out from exhaustion... I want them there for all the little things in between. And thankfully, I have found someone who wants to share all their little in between things with me too.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-01-04 16:19:47
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Dolma_Reddit
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For those that do, how do you justify relishing anger? For those that don't, theories?
I suppose anger feels something resembling Good in the moment, but I can't think of a single instance in which getting angry has been more productive or yielded better results than maintaining my composure would have, had I been able to. Anger never ultimately makes me happier, I don't believe. Is it just that you find anger to be a natural reaction and feel that by not embracing it you are somehow not embracing yourself? Do you genuinely prefer being angry, is it comforting? Does it produce better results for you (or, at least, do you believe it does?) and thus you take pride in it for what it allows you to accomplish? Is it just funny?
Pretty sure I'm gonna get downvoted to hell, but oh well. I ain't mad
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zbuqu
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-09-04 10:00:56
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The accruement of monetary wealth and repayment of debt drives our society’s foundations; those with wealth, especially the combined forces of large and small business owners hold considerable power over local and federal congresses that allow and **encourage** lobbyism.
The bottom line will always, **always** matter more in America than human decency.
You have to overcome cognitive dissonance against your own humanity in order to walk through most progressively poverty stricken American cities, this was before the pandemic.
We are sentient bacteria that are too dependent on tradition and obstinacy to actuate palpable change, even in the face of literal global death.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-12-03 02:12:09
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Has anyone ever been randomly attacked in public before?
I wouldn't say I was necessarily attacked but last night at around 9:40 PM I was walking past a group of about 7 teenage boys walking 2 by 2, hogging most of the sidewalk when the one in front dropped down and hit me low with his shoulder, totally dropping me to the ground. I look up at this guy, ask him "what the fuck?" and he answers, "You're my hood," while having both his fists raised up. Of course, all the better responses are already flying through my head but I was so shocked and outraged.
So anyone else have any incidences like this?
First post by the way, and can anyone tell me what "you're my hood" means? Did I mishear and he said "You're IN my hood?"
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orvsd
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-01-22 21:24:04
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Dolma_Reddit
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Seeings as it’s not really kicking off, pizza guy story?
Probably 15 years old, my mates and I were in a pretty place out of space after smoking cones all afternoon, ordered a few pizzas. Knocks on the door with the pizzas, had a laugh, smoked a bong and now he’s one of my many dealers. Still delivers pizza.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-09-22 01:50:13
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Big corporations.
My boss when working for a big company was a guy who got picked to be manager for a reason: he knew how to be a manager.
The corporation was never racist or sexist, because they had an image to maintain, unlike private small businesses who can generally do whatever they want and no one will notice.
My corporate bosses gave me a 401k contribution and insurance. My private small business boss raised the starting salary a year after I started but didnt want to give me an equal raise, so I made less than my coworkers even though I did more than any of them.
Point being: Sometimes big corporations are dicks, but sometimes all employers are dicks. The difference is big businesses are high profile enough that they actually make an effort to not to be, if only for the sake of their reputation.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-04-25 00:13:50
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