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NTA,
>I recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom
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you inherited the money, not him. he shouldn't tell you what you should do with the money that was given (gifted, in an Unfortunate Event that is)to you.
>My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket"
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the mother of your husband is TA for making this comment, she should know better, not just that that but the fact that your husband enables this is almost disgusting.
>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic
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this might be rude, but the fact ***he*** is yelling at you, telling you what to do with money, and enabling his mother to make comment; "inheritance pocket". makes me think, that he is out on that money and that he's the one that's pathetic here.
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I would think seriously about counseling either together, separately or both.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672602019.0, "created_utc": 1672602019.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jbtrx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jbtrx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2iut6g", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jbtrx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "twistedspin", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_121msb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, he knows his mom is just going to leave debt.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, he knows his mom is just going to leave debt.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609856.0, "created_utc": 1672609856.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jvv5p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jvv5p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbtrx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jvv5p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "whiterose3hearts", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_etg1yg58", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA\n\nIt's your money, not your husband's. It is yours to do with as you wish.\nNo one is entitled to your inheritance and it certainly does not make you an ATM.\nFirst it will be just pay for this and just pay for that. Oh just pay for this celebratory dinner and oh pay for so and so's birthday party. Oh since you have so much money you should pay for our trip. And the list goes on.\nYour husband is ... I don't have words.\n\nStand your ground. You don't owe anyone anything.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA</p>\n\n<p>It's your money, not your husband's. It is yours to do with as you wish.\nNo one is entitled to your inheritance and it certainly does not make you an ATM.\nFirst it will be just pay for this and just pay for that. Oh just pay for this celebratory dinner and oh pay for so and so's birthday party. Oh since you have so much money you should pay for our trip. And the list goes on.\nYour husband is ... I don't have words.</p>\n\n<p>Stand your ground. 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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. 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Similar situation although it’s been 10 years now. Every time how lucky I am comes up I tell them I’d give it all back and more have my parent back.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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Not to mention the comment her husband made about “not being to help her mom while she was sick” Which means OP had no help from them but now they want her inheritance. Sick. NTA.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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This is really important— my understanding is you need up be VERY careful not to mix inheritance with any marital assets.
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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"content": "Double check your jurisdiction, but I'd be inclined to remind him of the legal status of inheritances, they're usually considered non-marital assets.\n\nKeep your money separate. He can do as he likes with the money he stands to eventually inherit from his parents.",
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Agree, NTA.
OP is very smart to have a separate account. Inheritances are not included in assets a spouse can claim.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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When my FIL passed away, my parents reaction was 'how can we help?' They were there for the funeral, helping to clear the house, strip wall paper. Not 'lets go for a slap up meal and spend this cash!!' Sound like OP has got hooked up with the wrong kind of family.
Personally I'd use the inheritance for a chance of a life without them. NTA.
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Pretty much. “They relied on my to pay for everything” - the audacity of the husband to actually use this statement to DEFEND his family. Yes, they relied on her - without advance notice. Sounds like that needs to be placed in the file titled “their problem”.
NTA.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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There is only one scenario where on has “the right” to expect another to pay: the other person says “it’s on me” beforehand.
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"content": "NTA \n\nNo one ever has the right to expect someone else to pick up the tab, especially if it wasn’t agreed to up front. \n\nThis causes two problems…\n\n1. Let’s say for argument sake that you WANTED to treat. But their expectation/demand of you treating literally robs you of the joy of picking up the tab. No likes being forced. \n\n2. Say you begrudgingly just paid. Now you’re setting a precedent of constantly being used and they will expect you to be the family piggy bank. \n\nYour inheritance is no one’s business. You don’t owe anyone anything. \n\nYour husband and in laws are shameful.",
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NTA. Figure out some clear boundaries, probably with the help of a lawyer.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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Same, I'm always rolling my eyes whenever people suggest divorce on these subs but in this case, what OP has said about her husband's comments and actions makes me think he doesn't actually care about OP or respects her as much.
I will be cautious about this relationship tbh
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Insane isn’t it? The post I see in a local moms Facebook group constantly make me lose my mind. Like do you not think better of yourself than to live with a complete asshole?",
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NTA This is your inheritance and you have every right to take a breath before you decide what to do with it. Your in-laws are entitled wank weasels.
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NTA
OP might wanna look at their financial situation and speak with a lawyer and the bank to protect her money. IL might try to persuade husband to take a part of it.
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The parenting subreddits are the same quality source of outrage. Usually it’s: “I am overwhelmed, husband plays video games all the time “
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Im sure a chuck of it is people who got married when they thought they were adults and were still kids really. \n\nI\u2019m mean who among us didn\u2019t make questionable dating choices in our late teens/ early 20\u2019s?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am continually baffled that people marry guys like this. 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No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. They just wanna be married so bad they ignore the quality of man they marry.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Those women were hit over the head with the image and idea of marriage and happily ever after. No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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I have no idea what country OP is from, but in most--if not all--Western countries, this is her separate property, and the husband is not going to be awarded it--or any part of the inheritance--in a divorce, under any circumstances. Keeping it a separate account--which the husband cannot access--is likely sufficient protection.
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There would be nothing worse than sitting back, content with the knowledge the money is safe, only to find a loophole or that law doesn't exist in OP's country.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is likely the case, but it can do no harm to seek legal advice / support to ensure it is the case. 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"content": "NTA\n\nIt is time to speak to a good lawyer and get that money into some type of trust that he cannot touch in the event of divorce. Simply having it in a separate bank account is not sufficient to protect it in a divorce settlement. His behavior is not healthy or supportive and it seems like he and his family seem entitled to your inheritance. This is not a good situation. I hope you can work through this but still protect your money just in case.",
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She said he's made countless suggestions on how she should spend it. No reason to think that wasn't on an additional property.
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No reason to think that wasn't on an additional property.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672602300.0, "created_utc": 1672602300.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jcjqc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jcjqc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jcjqc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Nah from her tone of the post and how he has been expecting her to pay for everything and so has his family. His suggestions weren\u2019t reasonable ones. She wouldn\u2019t be on reddit complaining that she got an inheritance and her husband suggests a rational way to invest the money for their future.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Nah from her tone of the post and how he has been expecting her to pay for everything and so has his family. His suggestions weren\u2019t reasonable ones. 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Her inheritance is hers, it's not his. A loving spouse would help her grieve and respect her inheritance as being hers, not immediately jump in with \"suggestions\" as to how to spend it. Notice OP said \"spend\" not invest. ;-) I don't think hubby is suggesting investments, especially after he set OP up to buy him and his parents a fancy dinner.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>but would the additional property be in her name alone or both??? that's the 64000 question, isn't it? Her inheritance is hers, it's not his. A loving spouse would help her grieve and respect her inheritance as being hers, not immediately jump in with "suggestions" as to how to spend it. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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NTA. But how shocking people true faces start showing when their close one inherit money.
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I've lost 3 out of 4(Mom, Dad , Step Father) in the last 10 years.
I would give anything to have them back.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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This is exactly my thought. So sorry for your loss OP
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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Won't stop them from trying to get it. Still better to take whatever precautionary measures possible.
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My dad attempted this after my mom's father passed away and they split. Only thing was that her brother stole it before he could.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Word. My dad attempted this after my mom's father passed away and they split. Only thing was that her brother stole it before he could.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672642640.0, "created_utc": 1672642640.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ls5zk", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ls5zk", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k4bfl", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ls5zk/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 113, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 113, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely this. The law is right there in black and white \u2014 so we should never need lawyers, right? Except we do. \n\nKeeping it in a separate account is a good start, but marital assets can get murky. And if the spouse is indeed going to go down this road (which we don\u2019t know), then he\u2019d likely get a lawyer and start working to muddy those waters before he made it clear that that\u2019s his plan.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely this. The law is right there in black and white \u2014 so we should never need lawyers, right? Except we do. </p>\n\n<p>Keeping it in a separate account is a good start, but marital assets can get murky. 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"content": "NTA. But please see a lawyer asap. After this trick your husband is likely to divorce you to go after your inheritance; make sure your affairs are legally airtight so he can't touch it.",
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"content": "Inheritance isn’t typically considered a marital asset. Husband will not benefit by divorcing OP. No matter how you look at it, he’s not entitled to it.",
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> It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.
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Hmm... I wonder if those two are connected.
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But they did nothing and now they want cash for...reasons?\n\nThe husband should be embarrassed and ashamed not because OP walked out, but because he and his family and picking at the bones of OP's mum and are pulling this whilst she's still grieving. He is not going to let up and nor is his family.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'm boggled by the audacity because if they had helped they still wouldn't be owed anything, but you could at least see some (twisted) logic. But they did nothing and now they want cash for...reasons?</p>\n\n<p>The husband should be embarrassed and ashamed not because OP walked out, but because he and his family and picking at the bones of OP's mum and are pulling this whilst she's still grieving. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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NTA. When my Mom passed at an obscenely early age from cancer (she was 68, I was 28) the condo we had bought about six months earlier became mine. She also left me a considerable amount of cash. I know in my heart my mom was comforted knowing she didn't have to worry about what would happen to me when she was gone.
One of my crass relatives (her niece) commented on what she had left me. My response: I'd rather have my mother back and be living in a cardboard box on the street.
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Every time how lucky I am comes up I tell them I\u2019d give it all back and more have my parent back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Similar situation although it\u2019s been 10 years now. Every time how lucky I am comes up I tell them I\u2019d give it all back and more have my parent back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601804.0, "created_utc": 1672601804.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jba4u", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jba4u", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j80nk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jba4u/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "atrifone", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_197ow7pe", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My father committed suicide when I was 9 and I got a decent trust find. People still tell me how lucky I am to have so little debt from school (doctorate). I tell them how lucky they are to have two living parents.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My father committed suicide when I was 9 and I got a decent trust find. People still tell me how lucky I am to have so little debt from school (doctorate). I tell them how lucky they are to have two living parents.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672647158.0, "created_utc": 1672647158.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ly4a5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ly4a5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jba4u", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ly4a5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 181, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 181, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Big_Solution_1065", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uqk5izyr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That\u2019s heartbreaking. I\u2019m sorry for your loss.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That\u2019s heartbreaking. I\u2019m sorry for your loss.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601648.0, "created_utc": 1672601648.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jaw42", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jaw42", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j80nk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jaw42/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 63, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 63, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cleanslate2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_13krn9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Amen to that. From a grieving person who inherited some money.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Amen to that. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don’t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don’t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn’t hard.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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"content": "Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone. \n\n(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)",
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"content": "Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn’t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it’s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I’m curious how he’ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.\n\nAnd finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.\n\nHe owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.",
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"content": "Yep. If he’d asked and she’d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP’s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife’s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don’t have the times, but I’m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we’re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.",
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Husband sounds like a total mooch, which isn’t surprising given his family. NTA and protect your inheritance at all costs. Also I am very sorry for your loss.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Agree, NTA. \n\nOP is very smart to have a separate account. Inheritances are not included in assets a spouse can claim.",
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That’s heartbreaking. I’m sorry for your loss.
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This is genius. Say prenup or divorce. Show his true motivation for this marriage.
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"content": "NTA. You need to have a serious conversation about boundaries and entitlement. If you would have paid, then you would’ve set the expectation that people can just blow your money. You didn’t offer in advance to pay for everyone; therefore, they shouldn’t feel entitled to the money that you only have because you lost your mom. Disgusting. You may also want to consider getting some paperwork if you don’t have a prenup.",
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Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone.
(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)
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{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BrookeBaranoff", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3toq4kdh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone. \n\n(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone. </p>\n\n<p>(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601861.0, "created_utc": 1672601861.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jbf9j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jbf9j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2ea3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jbf9j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Curious-One4595", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ffd700", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "d0f51afc-f510-11e8-a5da-0e4d9a1c42d6", "author_flair_text": "Supreme Court Just-ass [104]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6z5rmnva", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn\u2019t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it\u2019s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I\u2019m curious how he\u2019ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.\n\nAnd finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.\n\nHe owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn\u2019t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it\u2019s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I\u2019m curious how he\u2019ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.</p>\n\n<p>And finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.</p>\n\n<p>He owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607404.0, "created_utc": 1672607404.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpu2l", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpu2l", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpu2l/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609026.0, "created_utc": 1672609026.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jttql", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jttql", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpu2l", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jttql/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheDisapprovingBrit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f3h8i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613633.0, "created_utc": 1672613633.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k50cx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k50cx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k50cx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Big-Piccolo-3943", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6ws2deb6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672625206.0, "created_utc": 1672625206.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kvolw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kvolw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kvolw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672650934.0, "created_utc": 1672650934.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m2sbc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m2sbc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m2sbc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "codeacab", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_da9d3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672652106.0, "created_utc": 1672652106.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m4724", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m4724", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2m2sbc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m4724/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 93, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 93, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672615355.0, "created_utc": 1672615355.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k95ga", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k95ga", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k95ga/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MegaGrimer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_12j7hi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.\n\nOh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Oh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619529.0, "created_utc": 1672619529.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj4y2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj4y2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj4y2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dxddynicotine", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_jkc878gp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? \n\nI would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. The fact that any of you would ignore such a drastic detail is disgusting and hurtful.\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? </p>\n\n<p>I would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. 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Someone dies and they're asking about what they get, I didn't even have the funeral arrangements started for my dad when they were asking about getting his vehicle.\n\nYes, you read that right, my dad had been dead less than 48 hours and they already started asking for stuff.\n\nThis continued every time I saw them, at the funeral home to arrange the services, after said service, etc. Pretty much any interaction with them in person or on the phone they would ask.\n\nThey didn't get it BTW, I'm evil like that.\n\nDidn't see them for over 5 years until recently.\n\nFirst thing she said to me after \"hi\" was \"you're getting a little fat there bud\"\n\nMy response?\n\n\"You're getting old there bud\"\n\nDidn't go over well, oh well", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My late father's sister (refuse to call her my aunt) and her no-good husband are like vultures. Someone dies and they're asking about what they get, I didn't even have the funeral arrangements started for my dad when they were asking about getting his vehicle.</p>\n\n<p>Yes, you read that right, my dad had been dead less than 48 hours and they already started asking for stuff.</p>\n\n<p>This continued every time I saw them, at the funeral home to arrange the services, after said service, etc. Pretty much any interaction with them in person or on the phone they would ask.</p>\n\n<p>They didn't get it BTW, I'm evil like that.</p>\n\n<p>Didn't see them for over 5 years until recently.</p>\n\n<p>First thing she said to me after "hi" was "you're getting a little fat there bud"</p>\n\n<p>My response?</p>\n\n<p>"You're getting old there bud"</p>\n\n<p>Didn't go over well, oh well</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613554.0, "created_utc": 1672613554.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1672629338.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4t9a", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4t9a", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4t9a/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1955, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1955, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_disagree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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Oh, it gets better. It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.
OP needs to get a lawyer, check her financial status, then get a divorce lawyer and run for the hills from these grasping ghouls. Her husband and his family clearly want to get their sticky paws on her inheritance.
NTA.
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Her husband and his family clearly want to get their sticky paws on her inheritance. \n\nNTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oh, it gets better. It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.</p>\n\n<p>OP needs to get a lawyer, check her financial status, then get a divorce lawyer and run for the hills from these grasping ghouls. 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To me, that sounds like a guilty conscience, and it's almost impressive that he can be a demanding asshole on top of that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I found it very telling that her husband said that out of the blue, to accuse her of punishing them for not helping. 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But seems like it's just money reinforcing what you already knew about them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I was going to say this was money showing you who people really are. But seems like it's just money reinforcing what you already knew about them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672605507.0, "created_utc": 1672605507.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jkw80", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jkw80", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jggyg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jkw80/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "No_Appointment_7232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bguojoc9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously! Nicely said!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously! 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It's not that he and his family are being a grasping leeches, it's that OP is being unfair and punishing them for not helping her. Why else wouldn't she share the money? After all, it's not wrong to ask, right? That's his thought process, I think. He has to make OP the villain.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like he's also trying to rationalise his current behaviour. It's not that he and his family are being a grasping leeches, it's that OP is being unfair and punishing them for not helping her. Why else wouldn't she share the money? After all, it's not wrong to ask, right? That's his thought process, I think. 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They invited her to dinner THEN expected her to pay.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I got that they didn't ask. They invited her to dinner THEN expected her to pay.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609894.0, "created_utc": 1672609894.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jvyi8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jvyi8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jt1jh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jvyi8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I meant that the husband has been asking for things off OP since she got the money. The dinner invitation was just a, \"Well, now there's money we're all family and OP should treat us, but since she hasn't offered we will organise it for her.\"\n\nThey thought because they were in public, OP would just shut up and pay or, if she refused, they'd say they didn't bring money and even if they had, they couldn't afford it, and why won't she do something nice for her family?\n\n Instead, she gave them no room for arguments, which I suspect is what made them angrier than anything. She got up, walked out and didn't turn back. They had to cough up the money for what they'd had, and either had to pay for any food they'd ordered or they had to cancel the order. She left them in their own mess.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I meant that the husband has been asking for things off OP since she got the money. The dinner invitation was just a, "Well, now there's money we're all family and OP should treat us, but since she hasn't offered we will organise it for her."</p>\n\n<p>They thought because they were in public, OP would just shut up and pay or, if she refused, they'd say they didn't bring money and even if they had, they couldn't afford it, and why won't she do something nice for her family?</p>\n\n<p>Instead, she gave them no room for arguments, which I suspect is what made them angrier than anything. She got up, walked out and didn't turn back. They had to cough up the money for what they'd had, and either had to pay for any food they'd ordered or they had to cancel the order. She left them in their own mess.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672612909.0, "created_utc": 1672612909.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k396b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k396b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jvyi8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k396b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 335, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 335, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Barbed_Dildo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ehcd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.\n\nHmm... I wonder if those two are connected.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Hmm... I wonder if those two are connected.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601457.0, "created_utc": 1672601457.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jaepd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jaepd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j844w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jaepd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'm boggled by the audacity because if they had helped they still wouldn't be owed anything, but you could at least see some (twisted) logic. But they did nothing and now they want cash for...reasons?\n\nThe husband should be embarrassed and ashamed not because OP walked out, but because he and his family and picking at the bones of OP's mum and are pulling this whilst she's still grieving. He is not going to let up and nor is his family.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'm boggled by the audacity because if they had helped they still wouldn't be owed anything, but you could at least see some (twisted) logic. But they did nothing and now they want cash for...reasons?</p>\n\n<p>The husband should be embarrassed and ashamed not because OP walked out, but because he and his family and picking at the bones of OP's mum and are pulling this whilst she's still grieving. He is not going to let up and nor is his family.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601639.0, "created_utc": 1672601639.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jav87", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jav87", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jaepd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jav87/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Mumof3gbb", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9pmofmwv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\u201cPicking at the bones\u201d yes!!!!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>\u201cPicking at the bones\u201d yes!!!!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604326.0, "created_utc": 1672604326.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jhsqs", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jhsqs", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jav87", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jhsqs/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 306, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 306, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I wonder if they were wanting her to die\u2026.money changes people in the worst ways!! Move on OO NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I wonder if they were wanting her to die\u2026.money changes people in the worst ways!! Move on OO NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607630.0, "created_utc": 1672607630.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jqe8u", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jqe8u", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jaepd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jqe8u/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 334, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 334, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "formidable-opponent", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_il1su9fp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, I'm not usually one to yell \"leave them!\" but there is too much selfishness, lack of respect, and manipulative behavior going on here.\n\nHusband didn't help OP with her mother. This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....\n\nSo you don't get a slice.\n\nThe family is \"celebrating\" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.\n\nMIL joking about her \"inheritance pocket\"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!\n\nInstead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?\n\nNo way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. There needs to be a change of behavior. \n\nNot only did your husband not apologize but he's making it as clear as day his behavior won't change and he is actually expecting your behavior to change or he's prepared to make your life miserable.\n\nSo I think you have three choices:\n\nGet out of this bad situation.\n\nStay and hold your boundaries and live with someone who will punish you for it... or...\n\nStay and be prepared for him and his family to squander your inheritance and THEN... I'm afraid you still may end up more lonely than had you broken things off.\n\nMy heart goes out to you for the loss of your mother and the loss of your marriage because no matter what you decide you aren't in a genuine marriage, you're being used.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, I'm not usually one to yell "leave them!" but there is too much selfishness, lack of respect, and manipulative behavior going on here.</p>\n\n<p>Husband didn't help OP with her mother. This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....</p>\n\n<p>So you don't get a slice.</p>\n\n<p>The family is "celebrating" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.</p>\n\n<p>MIL joking about her "inheritance pocket"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!</p>\n\n<p>Instead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?</p>\n\n<p>No way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. There needs to be a change of behavior. </p>\n\n<p>Not only did your husband not apologize but he's making it as clear as day his behavior won't change and he is actually expecting your behavior to change or he's prepared to make your life miserable.</p>\n\n<p>So I think you have three choices:</p>\n\n<p>Get out of this bad situation.</p>\n\n<p>Stay and hold your boundaries and live with someone who will punish you for it... or...</p>\n\n<p>Stay and be prepared for him and his family to squander your inheritance and THEN... I'm afraid you still may end up more lonely than had you broken things off.</p>\n\n<p>My heart goes out to you for the loss of your mother and the loss of your marriage because no matter what you decide you aren't in a genuine marriage, you're being used.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672605235.0, "created_utc": 1672605235.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jk6qb", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jk6qb", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j844w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jk6qb/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's just so disgraceful. I worry what they were up to that kept the husband out until 3AM. Were the family game planning what to do next? \n\nThey're gleeful and they somehow think the money is theirs. The husband is bad enough, but why on earth do the rest of his family think they get something? \n\nI wonder what the husband has promised his family. OP needs to protect her financials at all costs, because I wouldn't trust that family with anything.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's just so disgraceful. I worry what they were up to that kept the husband out until 3AM. Were the family game planning what to do next? </p>\n\n<p>They're gleeful and they somehow think the money is theirs. The husband is bad enough, but why on earth do the rest of his family think they get something? </p>\n\n<p>I wonder what the husband has promised his family. OP needs to protect her financials at all costs, because I wouldn't trust that family with anything.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608941.0, "created_utc": 1672608941.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jtm0u", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jtm0u", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jk6qb", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jtm0u/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "formidable-opponent", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_il1su9fp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, the family were definitely hanging out, trash talking her and telling him how to \"handle\" her. \n\nThat's why you see posts like this. \n\nTo outsiders it's blatantly obvious who the problem is but when you're married to someone actively trying to bend reality in your mind, it can come down to really needing that reality check from outsiders that you *aren't* the crazy one.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, the family were definitely hanging out, trash talking her and telling him how to "handle" her. </p>\n\n<p>That's why you see posts like this. </p>\n\n<p>To outsiders it's blatantly obvious who the problem is but when you're married to someone actively trying to bend reality in your mind, it can come down to really needing that reality check from outsiders that you <em>aren't</em> the crazy one.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609136.0, "created_utc": 1672609136.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ju3km", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ju3km", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jtm0u", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ju3km/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely. Money shows everyone for who they are, and the husband and his family are a bunch of snapping vultures. \n\nHonestly, as awful as this is for OP, and I feel so terrible for her, but at least they're showing this early on. It would be worse if they took the softly-softly, insidious approach, because this is really clear cut. There's no mistaking their intentions, her husband has doubled down as I'm sure have his family, and they have shown their hands. \n\nIf they'd been more subtle, maybe OP wouldn't have come here for confirmation that she's right and they are disgusting oxygen thieves. If her husband hadn't come back ranting and raving and had instead apologised and fake grovelled, she might have thought she got it wrong. But instead they've behaved so appallingly that OP is here, and I hope she listens to everyone's advice. She deserves better than those people.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely. Money shows everyone for who they are, and the husband and his family are a bunch of snapping vultures. </p>\n\n<p>Honestly, as awful as this is for OP, and I feel so terrible for her, but at least they're showing this early on. It would be worse if they took the softly-softly, insidious approach, because this is really clear cut. There's no mistaking their intentions, her husband has doubled down as I'm sure have his family, and they have shown their hands. </p>\n\n<p>If they'd been more subtle, maybe OP wouldn't have come here for confirmation that she's right and they are disgusting oxygen thieves. If her husband hadn't come back ranting and raving and had instead apologised and fake grovelled, she might have thought she got it wrong. But instead they've behaved so appallingly that OP is here, and I hope she listens to everyone's advice. She deserves better than those people.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609725.0, "created_utc": 1672609725.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jvjra", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jvjra", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2ju3km", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jvjra/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "No_Appointment_7232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bguojoc9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "In some ways you're describing the circle of abusive relationships...\n\nBc that's what this is a GINORMOUS red flag of abuse.\n\nHaving escaped from my 23 yr marriage - cult of 1, coercive control nightmare - I loudly second your message.\n\nOP this is SERIOUS, egregious, awful behavior!\n\nOn your husband's part and separately his whole family.\n\nHis attempts to emotionally batter you about it when he got hime is so UGLY.\n\nYou are NTA. But they have warped your reality - add the experience w your mother has left you further vulnerable to these people twisting your experience of reality. \n\n(If you're reading this and think I'm being hyperbolic - I would have said the same before my ex-husband left. 1 month after it was like a steel bucket had been removed from my head!).", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>In some ways you're describing the circle of abusive relationships...</p>\n\n<p>Bc that's what this is a GINORMOUS red flag of abuse.</p>\n\n<p>Having escaped from my 23 yr marriage - cult of 1, coercive control nightmare - I loudly second your message.</p>\n\n<p>OP this is SERIOUS, egregious, awful behavior!</p>\n\n<p>On your husband's part and separately his whole family.</p>\n\n<p>His attempts to emotionally batter you about it when he got hime is so UGLY.</p>\n\n<p>You are NTA. But they have warped your reality - add the experience w your mother has left you further vulnerable to these people twisting your experience of reality. </p>\n\n<p>(If you're reading this and think I'm being hyperbolic - I would have said the same before my ex-husband left. 1 month after it was like a steel bucket had been removed from my head!).</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609498.0, "created_utc": 1672609498.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2juzod", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2juzod", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jk6qb", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2juzod/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "PlatinumLargo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_moswmpho", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Further, I\u2019d get in contact with the bank and make sure nobody else\u2019s name can get on the account. Would not put it past the husband to find out the account info and add himself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Further, I\u2019d get in contact with the bank and make sure nobody else\u2019s name can get on the account. Would not put it past the husband to find out the account info and add himself.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672603744.0, "created_utc": 1672603744.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jga6c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jga6c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j844w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jga6c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Mumof3gbb", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9pmofmwv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I don\u2019t think he could but I fully agree to go and make sure. Because you never know.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I don\u2019t think he could but I fully agree to go and make sure. Because you never know.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604369.0, "created_utc": 1672604369.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jhws6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jhws6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jga6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jhws6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SarahOnTheHill", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3krpbgvc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Please do this! I know it is hard when someone you love betrays you but this is a definite reason to get out. It won\u2019t get better .", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Please do this! I know it is hard when someone you love betrays you but this is a definite reason to get out. It won\u2019t get better .</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604460.0, "created_utc": 1672604460.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ji5gc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ji5gc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j844w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ji5gc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're going to get worse and nastier, and OP needs to run before they decide to just start stealing or taking out credit in her name etc.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're going to get worse and nastier, and OP needs to run before they decide to just start stealing or taking out credit in her name etc.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608756.0, "created_utc": 1672608756.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jt5pk", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jt5pk", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2ji5gc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jt5pk/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1476, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1476, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_disagree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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I'm boggled by the audacity because if they had helped they still wouldn't be owed anything, but you could at least see some (twisted) logic. But they did nothing and now they want cash for...reasons?
The husband should be embarrassed and ashamed not because OP walked out, but because he and his family and picking at the bones of OP's mum and are pulling this whilst she's still grieving. He is not going to let up and nor is his family.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Oh, it gets better. It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.\n\nOP needs to get a lawyer, check her financial status, then get a divorce lawyer and run for the hills from these grasping ghouls. Her husband and his family clearly want to get their sticky paws on her inheritance. \n\nNTA.",
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"content": "> It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.\n[...quoted text...]\n\nHmm... I wonder if those two are connected.",
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It sounds like he's also trying to rationalise his current behaviour. It's not that he and his family are being a grasping leeches, it's that OP is being unfair and punishing them for not helping her. Why else wouldn't she share the money? After all, it's not wrong to ask, right? That's his thought process, I think. He has to make OP the villain.
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He has to make OP the villain.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like he's also trying to rationalise his current behaviour. It's not that he and his family are being a grasping leeches, it's that OP is being unfair and punishing them for not helping her. Why else wouldn't she share the money? After all, it's not wrong to ask, right? That's his thought process, I think. He has to make OP the villain.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608709.0, "created_utc": 1672608709.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jt1jh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jt1jh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jggyg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jt1jh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Nixiey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_26yprgz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I got that they didn't ask. They invited her to dinner THEN expected her to pay.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I got that they didn't ask. They invited her to dinner THEN expected her to pay.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609894.0, "created_utc": 1672609894.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jvyi8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jvyi8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jt1jh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jvyi8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Buttered_Crumpet09", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2hkugnr2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I meant that the husband has been asking for things off OP since she got the money. The dinner invitation was just a, \"Well, now there's money we're all family and OP should treat us, but since she hasn't offered we will organise it for her.\"\n\nThey thought because they were in public, OP would just shut up and pay or, if she refused, they'd say they didn't bring money and even if they had, they couldn't afford it, and why won't she do something nice for her family?\n\n Instead, she gave them no room for arguments, which I suspect is what made them angrier than anything. She got up, walked out and didn't turn back. They had to cough up the money for what they'd had, and either had to pay for any food they'd ordered or they had to cancel the order. She left them in their own mess.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I meant that the husband has been asking for things off OP since she got the money. The dinner invitation was just a, "Well, now there's money we're all family and OP should treat us, but since she hasn't offered we will organise it for her."</p>\n\n<p>They thought because they were in public, OP would just shut up and pay or, if she refused, they'd say they didn't bring money and even if they had, they couldn't afford it, and why won't she do something nice for her family?</p>\n\n<p>Instead, she gave them no room for arguments, which I suspect is what made them angrier than anything. She got up, walked out and didn't turn back. They had to cough up the money for what they'd had, and either had to pay for any food they'd ordered or they had to cancel the order. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "I found it very telling that her husband said that out of the blue, to accuse her of punishing them for not helping. To me, that sounds like a guilty conscience, and it's almost impressive that he can be a demanding asshole on top of that.",
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They're going to get worse and nastier, and OP needs to run before they decide to just start stealing or taking out credit in her name etc.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Oh, it gets better. It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.\n\nOP needs to get a lawyer, check her financial status, then get a divorce lawyer and run for the hills from these grasping ghouls. Her husband and his family clearly want to get their sticky paws on her inheritance. \n\nNTA.",
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"content": "Please do this! I know it is hard when someone you love betrays you but this is a definite reason to get out. It won’t get better .",
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It's just so disgraceful. I worry what they were up to that kept the husband out until 3AM. Were the family game planning what to do next?
They're gleeful and they somehow think the money is theirs. The husband is bad enough, but why on earth do the rest of his family think they get something?
I wonder what the husband has promised his family. OP needs to protect her financials at all costs, because I wouldn't trust that family with anything.
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Money shows everyone for who they are, and the husband and his family are a bunch of snapping vultures. \n\nHonestly, as awful as this is for OP, and I feel so terrible for her, but at least they're showing this early on. It would be worse if they took the softly-softly, insidious approach, because this is really clear cut. There's no mistaking their intentions, her husband has doubled down as I'm sure have his family, and they have shown their hands. \n\nIf they'd been more subtle, maybe OP wouldn't have come here for confirmation that she's right and they are disgusting oxygen thieves. If her husband hadn't come back ranting and raving and had instead apologised and fake grovelled, she might have thought she got it wrong. But instead they've behaved so appallingly that OP is here, and I hope she listens to everyone's advice. She deserves better than those people.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely. Money shows everyone for who they are, and the husband and his family are a bunch of snapping vultures. </p>\n\n<p>Honestly, as awful as this is for OP, and I feel so terrible for her, but at least they're showing this early on. It would be worse if they took the softly-softly, insidious approach, because this is really clear cut. There's no mistaking their intentions, her husband has doubled down as I'm sure have his family, and they have shown their hands. </p>\n\n<p>If they'd been more subtle, maybe OP wouldn't have come here for confirmation that she's right and they are disgusting oxygen thieves. If her husband hadn't come back ranting and raving and had instead apologised and fake grovelled, she might have thought she got it wrong. But instead they've behaved so appallingly that OP is here, and I hope she listens to everyone's advice. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Yeah, I'm not usually one to yell \"leave them!\" but there is too much selfishness, lack of respect, and manipulative behavior going on here.\n\nHusband didn't help OP with her mother. This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....\n\nSo you don't get a slice.\n\nThe family is \"celebrating\" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.\n\nMIL joking about her \"inheritance pocket\"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!\n\nInstead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?\n\nNo way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. There needs to be a change of behavior. \n\nNot only did your husband not apologize but he's making it as clear as day his behavior won't change and he is actually expecting your behavior to change or he's prepared to make your life miserable.\n\nSo I think you have three choices:\n\nGet out of this bad situation.\n\nStay and hold your boundaries and live with someone who will punish you for it... or...\n\nStay and be prepared for him and his family to squander your inheritance and THEN... I'm afraid you still may end up more lonely than had you broken things off.\n\nMy heart goes out to you for the loss of your mother and the loss of your marriage because no matter what you decide you aren't in a genuine marriage, you're being used.",
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This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....</p>\\n\\n<p>So you don't get a slice.</p>\\n\\n<p>The family is "celebrating" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.</p>\\n\\n<p>MIL joking about her "inheritance pocket"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!</p>\\n\\n<p>Instead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?</p>\\n\\n<p>No way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. 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Absolutely. Money shows everyone for who they are, and the husband and his family are a bunch of snapping vultures.
Honestly, as awful as this is for OP, and I feel so terrible for her, but at least they're showing this early on. It would be worse if they took the softly-softly, insidious approach, because this is really clear cut. There's no mistaking their intentions, her husband has doubled down as I'm sure have his family, and they have shown their hands.
If they'd been more subtle, maybe OP wouldn't have come here for confirmation that she's right and they are disgusting oxygen thieves. If her husband hadn't come back ranting and raving and had instead apologised and fake grovelled, she might have thought she got it wrong. But instead they've behaved so appallingly that OP is here, and I hope she listens to everyone's advice. She deserves better than those people.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\\n\\n\\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\\n\\n\\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\\n\\n\\nAITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.</p>\\n\\n<p>He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.</p>\\n\\n<p>AITA?</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_100ogg4\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 48172, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.9, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Oh, it gets better. It seems like they didn't help OP whilst her mother was sick, but now they want to spend her mum's money.\n\nOP needs to get a lawyer, check her financial status, then get a divorce lawyer and run for the hills from these grasping ghouls. Her husband and his family clearly want to get their sticky paws on her inheritance. \n\nNTA.",
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"content": "Yeah, I'm not usually one to yell \"leave them!\" but there is too much selfishness, lack of respect, and manipulative behavior going on here.\n\nHusband didn't help OP with her mother. This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....\n\nSo you don't get a slice.\n\nThe family is \"celebrating\" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.\n\nMIL joking about her \"inheritance pocket\"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!\n\nInstead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?\n\nNo way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. There needs to be a change of behavior. \n\nNot only did your husband not apologize but he's making it as clear as day his behavior won't change and he is actually expecting your behavior to change or he's prepared to make your life miserable.\n\nSo I think you have three choices:\n\nGet out of this bad situation.\n\nStay and hold your boundaries and live with someone who will punish you for it... or...\n\nStay and be prepared for him and his family to squander your inheritance and THEN... I'm afraid you still may end up more lonely than had you broken things off.\n\nMy heart goes out to you for the loss of your mother and the loss of your marriage because no matter what you decide you aren't in a genuine marriage, you're being used.",
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You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....\\n\\nSo you don't get a slice.\\n\\nThe family is \\\"celebrating\\\" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.\\n\\nMIL joking about her \\\"inheritance pocket\\\"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!\\n\\nInstead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?\\n\\nNo way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. 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This reminds me of the story of the little red hen. You didn't plant the crop, water it, harvest it, or help bake the bread....</p>\\n\\n<p>So you don't get a slice.</p>\\n\\n<p>The family is "celebrating" with money from the death of her parent? That's just sick.</p>\\n\\n<p>MIL joking about her "inheritance pocket"? It's like these people are gleeful her mother died!</p>\\n\\n<p>Instead of following her, her husband stays out until 3am and then comes back and just DRAGS her when he and his family are in the wrong?</p>\\n\\n<p>No way OP... If someone does wrong then it's not enough to just say sorry. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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Not the ass at all!!!!! Divorce him!!
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NTA. It's funny how people want to spend others money, in this case it's your husband and in-laws who are flat out AH's for wanting to do so. Yes, this is intentional on both parties. Your in-laws first joked about your "inheritance pocket" and then tried to pass it off as you being gracious enough to pay. This indicates that they were in on it with your husband. This means they started the rift not you. You did nothing wrong and were way more gracious by exiting than I would have been. Time to put things in place where you husband has no access to your inheritance at all. Also think about a safe deposit box for other valuables since your husband seems to think he has a right to all of your things.
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My friend had the exact thing happen to her. The inheritance is what got her out of her awful marriage. One last gift from her mom.
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"content": "Then your mom may have left you a final gift.. the freedom to walk away from a mariage that isn’t working for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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I would definitely go to a tavern in hades that sounds delightful compared to her husband and in laws.
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The best advice because let me tell you a little secret…It will never stop until that money has vanished.
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This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.
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That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don\u2019t want anything like this to occur again.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This NTA, I\u2019d tell your husband you\u2019d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don\u2019t want anything like this to occur again.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672598380.0, "created_utc": 1672598380.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j2ea3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j2ea3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2itioo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j2ea3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BrookeBaranoff", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3toq4kdh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone. \n\n(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ask him where he wants to celebrate when his mom dies. These idiots rarely actually think it through with empathy for others and when it happens to them are all surprised picka that it hurts like hell to lose someone. </p>\n\n<p>(And yes, I think it is on all of us to ask our asshole friends how they would think if it happened to them and really push the issue on hurtful jokes and choices. As a friend I rely on the people close to me to call me out on my BS first.)</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601861.0, "created_utc": 1672601861.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jbf9j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jbf9j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2ea3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jbf9j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Curious-One4595", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ffd700", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "d0f51afc-f510-11e8-a5da-0e4d9a1c42d6", "author_flair_text": "Supreme Court Just-ass [104]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6z5rmnva", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn\u2019t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it\u2019s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I\u2019m curious how he\u2019ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.\n\nAnd finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.\n\nHe owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn\u2019t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it\u2019s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I\u2019m curious how he\u2019ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.</p>\n\n<p>And finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.</p>\n\n<p>He owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607404.0, "created_utc": 1672607404.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpu2l", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpu2l", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpu2l/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609026.0, "created_utc": 1672609026.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jttql", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jttql", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpu2l", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jttql/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheDisapprovingBrit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f3h8i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613633.0, "created_utc": 1672613633.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k50cx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k50cx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k50cx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Big-Piccolo-3943", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6ws2deb6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672625206.0, "created_utc": 1672625206.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kvolw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kvolw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kvolw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672650934.0, "created_utc": 1672650934.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m2sbc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m2sbc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m2sbc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "codeacab", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_da9d3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672652106.0, "created_utc": 1672652106.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m4724", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m4724", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2m2sbc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m4724/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 93, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 93, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672615355.0, "created_utc": 1672615355.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k95ga", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k95ga", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k95ga/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MegaGrimer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_12j7hi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.\n\nOh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Oh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619529.0, "created_utc": 1672619529.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj4y2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj4y2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj4y2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dxddynicotine", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_jkc878gp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? \n\nI would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. The fact that any of you would ignore such a drastic detail is disgusting and hurtful.\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? </p>\n\n<p>I would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. The fact that any of you would ignore such a drastic detail is disgusting and hurtful.\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672637894.0, "created_utc": 1672637894.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lkzg0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lkzg0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lkzg0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 209, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 209, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 850, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 850, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LibraryMouse4321", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_u5cfouqh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love your response.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love your response.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672603639.0, "created_utc": 1672603639.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jg09f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jg09f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jg09f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 62, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 62, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Appropriate_Fish_451", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a5k9ctgn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I've lost 3 out of 4(Mom, Dad , Step Father) in the last 10 years.\n\nI would give anything to have them back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I've lost 3 out of 4(Mom, Dad , Step Father) in the last 10 years.</p>\n\n<p>I would give anything to have them back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672606791.0, "created_utc": 1672606791.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jo9wm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jo9wm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jo9wm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Historical_Gur_3054", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ucjeb1yg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My late father's sister (refuse to call her my aunt) and her no-good husband are like vultures. Someone dies and they're asking about what they get, I didn't even have the funeral arrangements started for my dad when they were asking about getting his vehicle.\n\nYes, you read that right, my dad had been dead less than 48 hours and they already started asking for stuff.\n\nThis continued every time I saw them, at the funeral home to arrange the services, after said service, etc. Pretty much any interaction with them in person or on the phone they would ask.\n\nThey didn't get it BTW, I'm evil like that.\n\nDidn't see them for over 5 years until recently.\n\nFirst thing she said to me after \"hi\" was \"you're getting a little fat there bud\"\n\nMy response?\n\n\"You're getting old there bud\"\n\nDidn't go over well, oh well", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My late father's sister (refuse to call her my aunt) and her no-good husband are like vultures. Someone dies and they're asking about what they get, I didn't even have the funeral arrangements started for my dad when they were asking about getting his vehicle.</p>\n\n<p>Yes, you read that right, my dad had been dead less than 48 hours and they already started asking for stuff.</p>\n\n<p>This continued every time I saw them, at the funeral home to arrange the services, after said service, etc. Pretty much any interaction with them in person or on the phone they would ask.</p>\n\n<p>They didn't get it BTW, I'm evil like that.</p>\n\n<p>Didn't see them for over 5 years until recently.</p>\n\n<p>First thing she said to me after "hi" was "you're getting a little fat there bud"</p>\n\n<p>My response?</p>\n\n<p>"You're getting old there bud"</p>\n\n<p>Didn't go over well, oh well</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613554.0, "created_utc": 1672613554.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1672629338.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4t9a", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4t9a", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jbf9j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4t9a/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1955, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1955, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Littlelady0410", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k35lds8d", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously! My stepdad left me a decent chunk when he died and whenever someone found out I\u2019d inherited money from him they\u2019d mention how lucky I was to have so much money at such a young age(I was 18 when the first chunk became available) I would just look at them and say, \u201cIf I\u2019m lucky that I my stepdad had to die in order for me to get that money then I\u2019d rather not have the money and have him alive instead.\u201d That usually shut people up\ud83d\ude11", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously! My stepdad left me a decent chunk when he died and whenever someone found out I\u2019d inherited money from him they\u2019d mention how lucky I was to have so much money at such a young age(I was 18 when the first chunk became available) I would just look at them and say, \u201cIf I\u2019m lucky that I my stepdad had to die in order for me to get that money then I\u2019d rather not have the money and have him alive instead.\u201d That usually shut people up\ud83d\ude11</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672603557.0, "created_utc": 1672603557.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jfsjk", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jfsjk", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2ea3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jfsjk/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Mumof3gbb", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9pmofmwv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is the perfect response. Same with my mom. I\u2019d MUCH rather she be here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is the perfect response. Same with my mom. I\u2019d MUCH rather she be here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604271.0, "created_utc": 1672604271.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jhnfv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jhnfv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jhnfv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "billymackactually", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7lb05da9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. I inherited a large amount from my great aunt and I miss her sooo much! I would gladly trade the money for her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. I inherited a large amount from my great aunt and I miss her sooo much! I would gladly trade the money for her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672612793.0, "created_utc": 1672612793.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k2yxi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k2yxi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jhnfv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k2yxi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 172, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 172, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ren_Lau", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1peksc4e", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "A good response I\u2019ll try and remember. My mom passed last year four years after my dad passed from cancer. I sold their house and used all the money to buy a house for myself. I was told a few times how lucky I was to have no mortgage and a home but yeah, you know I\u2019d just rather have my parents back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>A good response I\u2019ll try and remember. My mom passed last year four years after my dad passed from cancer. I sold their house and used all the money to buy a house for myself. I was told a few times how lucky I was to have no mortgage and a home but yeah, you know I\u2019d just rather have my parents back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613845.0, "created_utc": 1672613845.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k5j5k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k5j5k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k5j5k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Littlelady0410", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k35lds8d", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019m so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent sucks no matter what age you\u2019re at and no amount of money or other inheritance ever takes the sting away.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019m so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent sucks no matter what age you\u2019re at and no amount of money or other inheritance ever takes the sting away.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672614455.0, "created_utc": 1672614455.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k7026", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k7026", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k5j5k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k7026/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "smilineyz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aqse1lft", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same with my wife \u2026 rather have her every day \u2026 it\u2019s a lot of tears for the money", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same with my wife \u2026 rather have her every day \u2026 it\u2019s a lot of tears for the money</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672612373.0, "created_utc": 1672612373.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k1xtv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k1xtv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k1xtv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Melbourne_wanderer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1wyvgoyb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Precisely this. I am fortunate to have both my (now very elderly) patents still with me, but a friend's Mum died when my friend was in her late 20s. Because of this, she inherited a very nice house in what is probably one of the \"coolest\" suburbs in my city, which also happens to be one of the most expensive cities in the world, real estate wise. People were always telling her how lucky she was, and she did exactly as you did: tell them she'd much rather have her Mum than a house. People still say it to her today, decades later (because housing affordability has gotten even worse, and many people our age and younger have just given up on ever owning a home). It hurts her, and I just can't understand how people can be so blind to the awfulness of what they're saying.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Precisely this. I am fortunate to have both my (now very elderly) patents still with me, but a friend's Mum died when my friend was in her late 20s. Because of this, she inherited a very nice house in what is probably one of the "coolest" suburbs in my city, which also happens to be one of the most expensive cities in the world, real estate wise. People were always telling her how lucky she was, and she did exactly as you did: tell them she'd much rather have her Mum than a house. People still say it to her today, decades later (because housing affordability has gotten even worse, and many people our age and younger have just given up on ever owning a home). It hurts her, and I just can't understand how people can be so blind to the awfulness of what they're saying.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619671.0, "created_utc": 1672619671.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kjgsl", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kjgsl", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kjgsl/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Puzzleheaded-Desk399", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bfygacjz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> \u201cIf I\u2019m lucky that I my stepdad had to die in order for me to get that money then I\u2019d rather not have the money and have him alive instead.\u201d\n\nHere is my poor woman's award \ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>\u201cIf I\u2019m lucky that I my stepdad had to die in order for me to get that money then I\u2019d rather not have the money and have him alive instead.\u201d</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Here is my poor woman's award \ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83c\udfc6\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47\ud83e\udd47</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672614664.0, "created_utc": 1672614664.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k7i81", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k7i81", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k7i81/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Reasonable-shark", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8dn3gb8p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's why my grandpa distributed most of his assets when he was alive. He wanted us to fully enjoy the \"inheritance\" as opposed to being sad for his death.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's why my grandpa distributed most of his assets when he was alive. He wanted us to fully enjoy the "inheritance" as opposed to being sad for his death.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672648253.0, "created_utc": 1672648253.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lzhxb", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lzhxb", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jfsjk", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lzhxb/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 759, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 759, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Professional_Ruin953", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [8]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_rzhbumcr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Double check your jurisdiction, but I'd be inclined to remind him of the legal status of inheritances, they're usually considered non-marital assets.\n\nKeep your money separate. He can do as he likes with the money he stands to eventually inherit from his parents.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Double check your jurisdiction, but I'd be inclined to remind him of the legal status of inheritances, they're usually considered non-marital assets.</p>\n\n<p>Keep your money separate. He can do as he likes with the money he stands to eventually inherit from his parents.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672601259.0, "created_utc": 1672601259.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j9wnp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j9wnp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2ea3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j9wnp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MiddleAgedCool", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [12]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_p0wqs1tr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is so helpful. When I inherited after a relative passed away, my husband said the money was mine to do with as I pleased. After some thought, I chose to pay off our house because that\u2019s something that would have mattered to this relative. I\u2019m also married to a very good man. YMMV.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is so helpful. When I inherited after a relative passed away, my husband said the money was mine to do with as I pleased. After some thought, I chose to pay off our house because that\u2019s something that would have mattered to this relative. I\u2019m also married to a very good man. YMMV.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604836.0, "created_utc": 1672604836.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jj58h", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jj58h", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j9wnp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jj58h/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 310, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 310, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cleanthemirrordammit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gez4z8jf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would ask in front of his parents if he'll buy her an expensive dinner when his mom dies. See how they like their own medicine", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would ask in front of his parents if he'll buy her an expensive dinner when his mom dies. See how they like their own medicine</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672611061.0, "created_utc": 1672611061.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jytbx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jytbx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j9wnp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jytbx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "highfreakingfive", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3c87chyr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Even worse, a \u201ccelebratory dinner\u201d when his mom dies.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Even worse, a \u201ccelebratory dinner\u201d when his mom dies.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672643684.0, "created_utc": 1672643684.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ltm2f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ltm2f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jytbx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ltm2f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Snoo71074", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5omofxpi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "From the looks of it, he won\u2019t inherit much if they are relying on OP to pay for dinner.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>From the looks of it, he won\u2019t inherit much if they are relying on OP to pay for dinner.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610846.0, "created_utc": 1672610846.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jyaja", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jyaja", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j9wnp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jyaja/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AL92212", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cm6a2zr4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is really important\u2014 my understanding is you need up be VERY careful not to mix inheritance with any marital assets.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is really important\u2014 my understanding is you need up be VERY careful not to mix inheritance with any marital assets.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610678.0, "created_utc": 1672610678.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jxvss", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jxvss", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j9wnp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jxvss/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Substantial-Air3395", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_lfcnev3d", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I said the same thing", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I said the same thing</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672603586.0, "created_utc": 1672603586.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jfvan", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jfvan", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j9wnp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jfvan/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 727, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 727, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "A divorce attorney may be a wise investment since hubby showed his true colors. Instead of suggesting they spend the money on buying a house or rental property or put away for retirement he wants her to blow the money away ever since she got it.\n\nGood for her keeping it separate talk to a financial advisor and maybe a divorce or probate attorney so that the inheritance is properly kept as a separate asset and not commingled into marital property.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>A divorce attorney may be a wise investment since hubby showed his true colors. Instead of suggesting they spend the money on buying a house or rental property or put away for retirement he wants her to blow the money away ever since she got it.</p>\n\n<p>Good for her keeping it separate talk to a financial advisor and maybe a divorce or probate attorney so that the inheritance is properly kept as a separate asset and not commingled into marital property.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672600471.0, "created_utc": 1672600471.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j7v9d", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j7v9d", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2ea3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j7v9d/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nodumbunny", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_jvpodv5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. I have known more than one couple to break up after one gets an inheritance. A windfall tends to show people's true colors.\n\nOP, NTA. Your in-laws are horrible people and your husband is an apple who did not fall far from the tree. Very sorry for the loss of your mom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. I have known more than one couple to break up after one gets an inheritance. A windfall tends to show people's true colors.</p>\n\n<p>OP, NTA. Your in-laws are horrible people and your husband is an apple who did not fall far from the tree. Very sorry for the loss of your mom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672606357.0, "created_utc": 1672606357.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jn4zu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jn4zu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jn4zu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cleanthemirrordammit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gez4z8jf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. Some ppl are fine until they get too close to a dragon's hoard and then suddenly flip into greedy AHs", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. Some ppl are fine until they get too close to a dragon's hoard and then suddenly flip into greedy AHs</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610931.0, "created_utc": 1672610931.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jyi1q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jyi1q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jn4zu", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jyi1q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Historical_Gur_3054", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ucjeb1yg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "A financial windfall and/or death will show peoples true colors.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>A financial windfall and/or death will show peoples true colors.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672629219.0, "created_utc": 1672629219.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l4c1h", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l4c1h", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jn4zu", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l4c1h/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 357, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 357, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "PetraLoseIt", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ivsq6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Also definitely foolproof and tamperproof birth control until she has decided whether or not to continue a relationship with this guy. You don't want to be stuck to him and his family through a child if you decide that you don't want to be with him anymore.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Also definitely foolproof and tamperproof birth control until she has decided whether or not to continue a relationship with this guy. You don't want to be stuck to him and his family through a child if you decide that you don't want to be with him anymore.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604262.0, "created_utc": 1672604262.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jhmkn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jhmkn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jhmkn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CokeDiesel4", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uypkuka9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "There's no way I could have sex with someone after they treated me this way. At the very least they'd have to prove to me that this was somehow a misunderstanding and they aren't actually a shitty person but there's a near 0% chance of that happening after what he did. Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>There's no way I could have sex with someone after they treated me this way. At the very least they'd have to prove to me that this was somehow a misunderstanding and they aren't actually a shitty person but there's a near 0% chance of that happening after what he did. Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607218.0, "created_utc": 1672607218.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpd1f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpd1f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jhmkn", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpd1f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cyclonitron", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_qes3x", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.\n\nIt's not exactly gold-digging; it's arguably worse. This more points to OP's husband being threatened by her having her own money, so he wants to spend it ASAP - ideally on him - so he can exert financial control over OP. OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>It's not exactly gold-digging; it's arguably worse. This more points to OP's husband being threatened by her having her own money, so he wants to spend it ASAP - ideally on him - so he can exert financial control over OP. OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619567.0, "created_utc": 1672619567.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj83k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj83k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpd1f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj83k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CokeDiesel4", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uypkuka9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Greed brings out the worst in people and since they're married he's getting frustrated that he doesn't have control over something he perceives to be equally his. His attempts to manipulate her while being nice aren't working so he's becoming more aggressive. He's known about her inheritance so if it was an issue of her having money at all he never would've gotten with her to begin with, he married a woman with money because he wants to spend the money.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Greed brings out the worst in people and since they're married he's getting frustrated that he doesn't have control over something he perceives to be equally his. His attempts to manipulate her while being nice aren't working so he's becoming more aggressive. He's known about her inheritance so if it was an issue of her having money at all he never would've gotten with her to begin with, he married a woman with money because he wants to spend the money.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672634514.0, "created_utc": 1672634514.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lf16w", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lf16w", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kj83k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lf16w/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Electronic-Half-4298", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_pq1u1fuy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My thoughts exactly. He also strikes me as the sort of person who would secretly try to get her pregnant on purpose to keep her around, as horrible as that sounds. Especially as OP seems perfectly capable of standing up for herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My thoughts exactly. He also strikes me as the sort of person who would secretly try to get her pregnant on purpose to keep her around, as horrible as that sounds. Especially as OP seems perfectly capable of standing up for herself.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672971666.0, "created_utc": 1672971666.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j3534an", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j3534an", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kj83k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j3534an/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 122, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 122, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "StressSubstantial104", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_imp6j61b", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously! I remember a relationship I was in in my early 20\u2019s. I was helping him move across the country as he was in the military and got assigned a new post. We were driving from New Mexico(my home state, where we met) to Georgia(his new post). We drove through Illinois to see his family. When we left after visiting his family for a few days all of a sudden he became a big asshole, and would get mad at me for stupid stuff. He yelled at me over the tiniest things(music was too loud, I missed as exit, someone called me on my cellphone, etc). He had never treated me like this throughout our entire relationship(a year+). I finally had enough, and called my mom who was in Spokane Washington spending time with her mom who was days from dying. I told her what was happening. I told her that I needed to go home because he was being emotionally and verbally abusive. She bought me a ticket home from the next state(can\u2019t remember) we were driving through.(side note: I had also talked to my younger sister who was with my mom. She was ready to hop on a plane and come throw hands with the bf\ud83e\udd23). When we stopped at a hotel for the night I got my own room, and took a cab to the airport in the morning. He acted as if he didn\u2019t know what was going on, and why I was flying home early. This even though I had already told him a few times that if he continued treating me like one of the guys he works with instead of his girlfriend that he supposedly loves I was going to leave. I\u2019m not sure why he didn\u2019t believe me since I had never lied to him before. \nYou don\u2019t get to treat me like shyt, and expect me to put up with it. I didn\u2019t grow up with parents who yelled at me unless I had done something really stupid that deserved yelling, it wasn\u2019t an abusive household. When my older brother raised his hand to me and my sisters when he was in his early 20\u2019s my parents kicked him out. Verbal, mental, and emotional abuse can be just as, if not more damaging than physical abuse. Never put up with anyone who treats you like shyt. This man and his family are bad news.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously! I remember a relationship I was in in my early 20\u2019s. I was helping him move across the country as he was in the military and got assigned a new post. We were driving from New Mexico(my home state, where we met) to Georgia(his new post). We drove through Illinois to see his family. When we left after visiting his family for a few days all of a sudden he became a big asshole, and would get mad at me for stupid stuff. He yelled at me over the tiniest things(music was too loud, I missed as exit, someone called me on my cellphone, etc). He had never treated me like this throughout our entire relationship(a year+). I finally had enough, and called my mom who was in Spokane Washington spending time with her mom who was days from dying. I told her what was happening. I told her that I needed to go home because he was being emotionally and verbally abusive. She bought me a ticket home from the next state(can\u2019t remember) we were driving through.(side note: I had also talked to my younger sister who was with my mom. She was ready to hop on a plane and come throw hands with the bf\ud83e\udd23). When we stopped at a hotel for the night I got my own room, and took a cab to the airport in the morning. He acted as if he didn\u2019t know what was going on, and why I was flying home early. This even though I had already told him a few times that if he continued treating me like one of the guys he works with instead of his girlfriend that he supposedly loves I was going to leave. I\u2019m not sure why he didn\u2019t believe me since I had never lied to him before. \nYou don\u2019t get to treat me like shyt, and expect me to put up with it. I didn\u2019t grow up with parents who yelled at me unless I had done something really stupid that deserved yelling, it wasn\u2019t an abusive household. When my older brother raised his hand to me and my sisters when he was in his early 20\u2019s my parents kicked him out. Verbal, mental, and emotional abuse can be just as, if not more damaging than physical abuse. Never put up with anyone who treats you like shyt. This man and his family are bad news.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672668025.0, "created_utc": 1672668025.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1672668444.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2mq9j5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2mq9j5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpd1f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2mq9j5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "witchyanne", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_rgzq3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I know right? I cannot remotely imagine my husband treating me like this.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I know right? I cannot remotely imagine my husband treating me like this.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672628598.0, "created_utc": 1672628598.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l30ny", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l30ny", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpd1f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l30ny/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CokeDiesel4", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uypkuka9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I had an ex who started fights with me hoping for angry sex but it backfired because I didn't want to have sex with her at all when she did that. It's childish behavior.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I had an ex who started fights with me hoping for angry sex but it backfired because I didn't want to have sex with her at all when she did that. It's childish behavior.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672629028.0, "created_utc": 1672629028.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l3xlp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l3xlp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2l30ny", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l3xlp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 456, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 456, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously, such a good point \ud83d\udc4f there a lot of posts on here with people who have been baby trapped. OP, make sure this is under your control!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously, such a good point \ud83d\udc4f there a lot of posts on here with people who have been baby trapped. OP, make sure this is under your control!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608614.0, "created_utc": 1672608614.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jstbr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jstbr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jhmkn", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jstbr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 600, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 600, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I joined reddit pretty recently. When i first came to this sub i was OUTRAGED by the number of people who would suggest divorce immediately under every post.\n\n\nBut like. In this case ? \n\n\nDivorce Babe. Divorce.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I joined reddit pretty recently. When i first came to this sub i was OUTRAGED by the number of people who would suggest divorce immediately under every post.</p>\n\n<p>But like. In this case ? </p>\n\n<p>Divorce Babe. Divorce.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604764.0, "created_utc": 1672604764.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jiyel", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jiyel", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jiyel/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Leonetta85", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2ybkcra5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here. \nIt blows my mind.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here. \nIt blows my mind.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607387.0, "created_utc": 1672607387.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpsj5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpsj5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpsj5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ok_Butterfly_3174", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8643zt2z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Insane isn\u2019t it? The post I see in a local moms Facebook group constantly make me lose my mind. Like do you not think better of yourself than to live with a complete asshole?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Insane isn\u2019t it? The post I see in a local moms Facebook group constantly make me lose my mind. Like do you not think better of yourself than to live with a complete asshole?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610470.0, "created_utc": 1672610470.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jxe5b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jxe5b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jxe5b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dragonchilde", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [8]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ikmyv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Have you found r/ShitMomGroupsSay yet?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Have you found <a href=\"/r/ShitMomGroupsSay\">r/ShitMomGroupsSay</a> yet?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672621016.0, "created_utc": 1672621016.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kmhaw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kmhaw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxe5b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kmhaw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Net_Interesting", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3xxj9x", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Noped right out of that. I have enough rage for daily internet strangers without adding that to my life, lol", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Noped right out of that. I have enough rage for daily internet strangers without adding that to my life, lol</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672629189.0, "created_utc": 1672629189.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l49se", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l49se", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kmhaw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l49se/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 92, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 92, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 59, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 59, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Appeltaart232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ebewu1n", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The parenting subreddits are the same quality source of outrage. Usually it\u2019s: \u201cI am overwhelmed, husband plays video games all the time \u201c", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The parenting subreddits are the same quality source of outrage. Usually it\u2019s: \u201cI am overwhelmed, husband plays video games all the time \u201c</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672643718.0, "created_utc": 1672643718.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ltnrt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ltnrt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxe5b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ltnrt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ok_Butterfly_3174", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8643zt2z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am continually baffled that people marry guys like this. Im sure a chuck of it is people who got married when they thought they were adults and were still kids really. \n\nI\u2019m mean who among us didn\u2019t make questionable dating choices in our late teens/ early 20\u2019s?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am continually baffled that people marry guys like this. Im sure a chuck of it is people who got married when they thought they were adults and were still kids really. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m mean who among us didn\u2019t make questionable dating choices in our late teens/ early 20\u2019s?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672644092.0, "created_utc": 1672644092.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lu67t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lu67t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2ltnrt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lu67t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Those women were hit over the head with the image and idea of marriage and happily ever after. No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. They just wanna be married so bad they ignore the quality of man they marry.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Those women were hit over the head with the image and idea of marriage and happily ever after. No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. They just wanna be married so bad they ignore the quality of man they marry.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672673280.0, "created_utc": 1672673280.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2n13zr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2n13zr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lu67t", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2n13zr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "snootnoots", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ni0sjuh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And \u201cwhen we\u2019re married / have a baby / buy a house he\u2019ll mature and step up.\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And \u201cwhen we\u2019re married / have a baby / buy a house he\u2019ll mature and step up.\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672644804.0, "created_utc": 1672644804.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lv3gw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lv3gw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lu67t", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lv3gw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Appeltaart232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ebewu1n", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If he didn\u2019t learn to do laundry pre-baby he ain\u2019t going to miraculously start doing laundry post-baby. You need a partner not a grown ass child to look after. Love is blind, deaf and stupid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If he didn\u2019t learn to do laundry pre-baby he ain\u2019t going to miraculously start doing laundry post-baby. You need a partner not a grown ass child to look after. 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null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ammonia13", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1dbqs7lo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Many are stuck", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Many are stuck</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672632418.0, "created_utc": 1672632418.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lax3p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lax3p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxe5b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lax3p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 544, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 544, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cilicious", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3mkem", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here\n\nExactly. I've been on reddit for years, but not this particular subreddit, and become more and more disheartened at the stories of bullying/gaslighting and downright abuse of women.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Exactly. I've been on reddit for years, but not this particular subreddit, and become more and more disheartened at the stories of bullying/gaslighting and downright abuse of women.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613393.0, "created_utc": 1672613393.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4f7r", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4f7r", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4f7r/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Embarrassed-Use8264", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uiw23o08", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's cause most woman with a great husband dont really post here when they have argument", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's cause most woman with a great husband dont really post here when they have argument</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672626464.0, "created_utc": 1672626464.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kyfxw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kyfxw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k4f7r", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kyfxw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "You-Done", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mazuoud", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly, husband and I will read this sub together and we'll frown over the same people. But it's still nice to be here and read. It puts your own little struggles (\"don't leave water in the kettle when you make me a tea, it might turn rusty\") into perspective. It's a nice life we got. A really nice life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly, husband and I will read this sub together and we'll frown over the same people. But it's still nice to be here and read. It puts your own little struggles ("don't leave water in the kettle when you make me a tea, it might turn rusty") into perspective. It's a nice life we got. A really nice life.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672674423.0, "created_utc": 1672674423.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2n3pib", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2n3pib", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kyfxw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2n3pib/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 121, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 121, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "highfreakingfive", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3c87chyr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\u201cWe accept the love we think we deserve\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>\u201cWe accept the love we think we deserve\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672643476.0, "created_utc": 1672643476.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ltbxm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ltbxm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k4f7r", "permalink": 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"author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I always shudder at the thought of everything they\u2019ve had to endure they didn\u2019t tell us.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I always shudder at the thought of everything they\u2019ve had to endure they didn\u2019t tell us.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672633326.0, "created_utc": 1672633326.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lcqzi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lcqzi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k4f7r", 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null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "tinytorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ps5kf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The bar is so low it\u2019s a tavern in Hades\u2026", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The bar is so low it\u2019s a tavern in Hades\u2026</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613187.0, "created_utc": 1672613187.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k3xft", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k3xft", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k3xft/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Chemist-Mama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5yv8cvmz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": " I would definitely go to a tavern in hades that sounds delightful compared to her husband and in laws.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would definitely go to a tavern in hades that sounds delightful compared to her husband and in laws.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672627106.0, "created_utc": 1672627106.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kzubj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kzubj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k3xft", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kzubj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 295, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 295, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "pastelcottoncandy88", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2wtn08j3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same here! I rejected a few men that either proposed, or would have proposed if I stayed.\nMarriage is for life, so I set out to be the best woman I can be in the hopes of being a good man's dream woman. \nFiance and I are buying a house this year. Hoping to afford a wedding the year after, and start having babies the year after that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same here! I rejected a few men that either proposed, or would have proposed if I stayed.\nMarriage is for life, so I set out to be the best woman I can be in the hopes of being a good man's dream woman. \nFiance and I are buying a house this year. Hoping to afford a wedding the year after, and start having babies the year after that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672616119.0, "created_utc": 1672616119.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kayus", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kayus", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kayus/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Denim_Diva1969", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f9zsr4kh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Women are taught to fear living alone, that the world is something to fear and not HOW to live independently, defend themselves, or to value themselves. OP is worth far more than this inheritance, but if the money makes her realize her worth, then it\u2019s priceless. Divorce him, sister. He\u2019s not worthy of you.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Women are taught to fear living alone, that the world is something to fear and not HOW to live independently, defend themselves, or to value themselves. OP is worth far more than this inheritance, but if the money makes her realize her worth, then it\u2019s priceless. Divorce him, sister. He\u2019s not worthy of you.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672623195.0, "created_utc": 1672623195.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kr82f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kr82f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kr82f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Icy-Establishment298", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8p9kzs6t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, the level of self disrespect women seem to have when they settle for shitheads like this.\n\nAnd if you say something, it's \"oh, he's not always like this, well he told me he was an asshole, but never was to me untill this time, or but I should be the bigger person\", etc, etc.\n\nHonestly it's kinda pathetic.*\n\n* Yes, I get not all DV victims can leave, I'm not talking that, I'm talking of the standard hopefully non violent asshole a lot of women hook up with for life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, the level of self disrespect women seem to have when they settle for shitheads like this.</p>\n\n<p>And if you say something, it's "oh, he's not always like this, well he told me he was an asshole, but never was to me untill this time, or but I should be the bigger person", etc, etc.</p>\n\n<p>Honestly it's kinda pathetic.*</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Yes, I get not all DV victims can leave, I'm not talking that, I'm talking of the standard hopefully non violent asshole a lot of women hook up with for life.</li>\n</ul>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672640069.0, "created_utc": 1672640069.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lof1g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lof1g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lof1g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1182, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1182, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "outlsbn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6afjkaue", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The idea you should stay in an unhappy relationship is antiquated and always skews to help men retain unpaid labor.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The idea you should stay in an unhappy relationship is antiquated and always skews to help men retain unpaid labor.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610704.0, "created_utc": 1672610704.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jxy2i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jxy2i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jxy2i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Naomizzzz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_om4larxs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hey, that's unfair. Sometimes it skew to help men retain access to sex.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hey, that's unfair. Sometimes it skew to help men retain access to sex.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672618017.0, "created_utc": 1672618017.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kfjov", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kfjov", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxy2i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kfjov/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "outlsbn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6afjkaue", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My bad. I forgot that crucial aspect.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My bad. I forgot that crucial aspect.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672618076.0, "created_utc": 1672618076.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kfont", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kfont", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kfjov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kfont/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 118, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 118, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rfj", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4lvqo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Sex work is work.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Sex work is work.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672635517.0, "created_utc": 1672635517.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lguu6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lguu6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kfjov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lguu6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Naomizzzz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_om4larxs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Fucking capitalism", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Fucking capitalism</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672635821.0, "created_utc": 1672635821.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lhei2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lhei2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lguu6", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lhei2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cannibal-74", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kq88vv42", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So to speak.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So to speak.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672654886.0, "created_utc": 1672654886.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m7ivz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m7ivz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lhei2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m7ivz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 336, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 336, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Top-Wolverine-8684", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ejoso4af", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My grandparents were married 72 years, and all it taught us was that it's not worth wasting your life in a miserable relationship for the sake of marital security.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My grandparents were married 72 years, and all it taught us was that it's not worth wasting your life in a miserable relationship for the sake of marital security.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672648192.0, "created_utc": 1672648192.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lzf4f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lzf4f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxy2i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lzf4f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 810, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 810, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cleanthemirrordammit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gez4z8jf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. The entitlement to her money, poor financial planning ideas, bad communication, and trying to surprise her into paying the bill, but the gaslighting and shaming afterwards would be the worst in my opinion. Emotional/mental abuse takes so long to heal and is the hardest to spot. \n\nRun.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. The entitlement to her money, poor financial planning ideas, bad communication, and trying to surprise her into paying the bill, but the gaslighting and shaming afterwards would be the worst in my opinion. Emotional/mental abuse takes so long to heal and is the hardest to spot. </p>\n\n<p>Run.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610848.0, "created_utc": 1672610848.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jyao7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jyao7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jyao7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nixnullarch", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_tbs47fzz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "There's also a HUGE difference between someone who sometimes does a shitty thing and then realizes it and tries to do better (IE, all of us sometimes), and someone who does a shitty thing and then doubles down on it afterwards (like the AH husband in the post). The latter isn't worth your effort.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>There's also a HUGE difference between someone who sometimes does a shitty thing and then realizes it and tries to do better (IE, all of us sometimes), and someone who does a shitty thing and then doubles down on it afterwards (like the AH husband in the post). The latter isn't worth your effort.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672850438.0, "created_utc": 1672850438.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2xcbrd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2xcbrd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jyao7", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2xcbrd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 131, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 131, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "No_Appointment_7232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bguojoc9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Welcome! You have been assimilated \ud83d\ude06", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Welcome! You have been assimilated \ud83d\ude06</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608531.0, "created_utc": 1672608531.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jsm5p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jsm5p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jsm5p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 115, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 115, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MontanaPurpleMtns", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8bd0isph", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think it\u2019s related to people not posting until their SO/spouse behaves so egregiously bad that divorce seems like a good idea.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think it\u2019s related to people not posting until their SO/spouse behaves so egregiously bad that divorce seems like a good idea.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613589.0, "created_utc": 1672613589.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4wg0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4wg0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4wg0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Depends on each post, really, sometimes it comes out of nowhere and sometimes you're just like \"wtf are you waitin for just RUN\"", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Depends on each post, really, sometimes it comes out of nowhere and sometimes you're just like "wtf are you waitin for just RUN"</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, 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"report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ErikLovemonger", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kq5mffy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When you get to the point that you're posting online about your SO's bad behavior and asking strangers for help, divorce is often a likely or inevitable outcome.\n\nIf your husband does something this terrible, what are the odds he's a loving, kind and caring husband in every other way.\n\nI'm actually shocked the other way. You'll see posts like \"my husband harasses and bullies our son\" or \"my husband blows our money on nothing\" or \"my husband is a jerk to everyone around him\" and people here will say \"don't suggest divorce so fast! Maybe he's actually a good guy?\"", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When you get to the point that you're posting online about your SO's bad behavior and asking strangers for help, divorce is often a likely or inevitable outcome.</p>\n\n<p>If your husband does something this terrible, what are the odds he's a loving, kind and caring husband in every other way.</p>\n\n<p>I'm actually shocked the other way. You'll see posts like "my husband harasses and bullies our son" or "my husband blows our money on nothing" or "my husband is a jerk to everyone around him" and people here will say "don't suggest divorce so fast! Maybe he's actually a good guy?"</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672618518.0, "created_utc": 1672618518.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kgra3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kgra3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kgra3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AllthisSandInMyCrack", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ja7jwov4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same, I'm always rolling my eyes whenever people suggest divorce on these subs but in this case, what OP has said about her husband's comments and actions makes me think he doesn't actually care about OP or respects her as much.\n\nI will be cautious about this relationship tbh", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same, I'm always rolling my eyes whenever people suggest divorce on these subs but in this case, what OP has said about her husband's comments and actions makes me think he doesn't actually care about OP or respects her as much.</p>\n\n<p>I will be cautious about this relationship tbh</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672612763.0, "created_utc": 1672612763.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k2wdm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k2wdm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k2wdm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "paigezpp", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4igqoqwy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I once asked a friend what her ideal man is. She said one that does not beat me. I cried.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I once asked a friend what her ideal man is. She said one that does not beat me. I cried.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672636711.0, "created_utc": 1672636711.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2liyvm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2liyvm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2liyvm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "FormerGameDev", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_lefbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When someone tells you who they are, believe them.\n\n> yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family\n\n> He said I humiliated him and family \n\nFuck that guy.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When someone tells you who they are, believe them.</p>\n\n<blockquote>\n<p>yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family</p>\n\n<p>He said I humiliated him and family </p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Fuck that guy.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672628951.0, "created_utc": 1672628951.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l3rth", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l3rth", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l3rth/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cranberryskittle", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_19zyj4ct", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So curious which posts triggered such OUTRAGE in you. \n\nFor me the real outrage is posters who get the vapors at the word \u201cdivorce\u201d and encourage women to waste more of their lives on useless husbands.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So curious which posts triggered such OUTRAGE in you. </p>\n\n<p>For me the real outrage is posters who get the vapors at the word \u201cdivorce\u201d and encourage women to waste more of their lives on useless husbands.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672641782.0, "created_utc": 1672641782.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lqxsh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lqxsh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jiyel", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lqxsh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2956, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2956, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "PicardNCC1701D", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_td7ohb9p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree with you that a divorce Lawyer might be a wise investment. Might be interesting to see what or how he and and his family react to the idea of a Prenup.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree with you that a divorce Lawyer might be a wise investment. Might be interesting to see what or how he and and his family react to the idea of a Prenup.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672602848.0, "created_utc": 1672602848.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jdyp3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jdyp3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jdyp3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pumpkinspiciness", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_udr897q3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">I agree with you that a divorce Lawyer might be a wise investment. Might be interesting to see what or how he and and his family react to the idea of a Prenup.\n\nThey actually have \"Postnups\" for just this kind of... spouse.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I agree with you that a divorce Lawyer might be a wise investment. Might be interesting to see what or how he and and his family react to the idea of a Prenup.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>They actually have "Postnups" for just this kind of... spouse.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672604608.0, "created_utc": 1672604608.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jijd9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jijd9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jdyp3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jijd9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "PicardNCC1701D", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_td7ohb9p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Might be worth for her to get one.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Might be worth for her to get one.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672605013.0, "created_utc": 1672605013.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jjlvo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jjlvo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jijd9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jjlvo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "roiki11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ig6vsbn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Doesn't really help if the other side doesn't sign it. I think.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Doesn't really help if the other side doesn't sign it. I think.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607497.0, "created_utc": 1672607497.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jq2az", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jq2az", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jjlvo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jq2az/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "naranghim", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_sbogpu3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When it comes to inheritance, at least in the US, as long as the inheritance is kept separate from marital property/accounts it is exempt from divorce proceedings. A financial adviser can help with this.\n\nI had a friend inherit a really nice house before she got married. After she caught her husband cheating on her she filed for divorce. At this point they'd been married for about three years. Husband demanded the house or half of its value. Turns out, since she didn't put him on the deed, he wasn't entitled to *any* of it because it was inherited property.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When it comes to inheritance, at least in the US, as long as the inheritance is kept separate from marital property/accounts it is exempt from divorce proceedings. A financial adviser can help with this.</p>\n\n<p>I had a friend inherit a really nice house before she got married. After she caught her husband cheating on her she filed for divorce. At this point they'd been married for about three years. Husband demanded the house or half of its value. Turns out, since she didn't put him on the deed, he wasn't entitled to <em>any</em> of it because it was inherited property.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672611567.0, "created_utc": 1672611567.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k0130", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k0130", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jq2az", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k0130/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "DisastrousOne3950", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_h5qlftx2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "As it should. Cheating spouse should get nothing.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>As it should. Cheating spouse should get nothing.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672623043.0, "created_utc": 1672623043.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kqvzf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kqvzf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k0130", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kqvzf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Lazyoat", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5p05ejcv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Inheritance is free from marital asset status s long as she doesn\u2019t mingle the money with marital assets. She could get a postnup before she does anything close to mingling the assets or it stays separate forever", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Inheritance is free from marital asset status s long as she doesn\u2019t mingle the money with marital assets. She could get a postnup before she does anything close to mingling the assets or it stays separate forever</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607827.0, "created_utc": 1672607827.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jqvsg", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jqvsg", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jq2az", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jqvsg/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "roiki11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ig6vsbn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I can't say anything to that.\n\nConsulting a lawyer would probably be best.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I can't say anything to that.</p>\n\n<p>Consulting a lawyer would probably be best.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607978.0, "created_utc": 1672607978.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jr99t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jr99t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jqvsg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jr99t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tar_alcaran", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_topav", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\n>Inheritance is free from marital asset status s long as she doesn\u2019t mingle the money with marital assets. \n\nThat hugely depends on where, how and even when OP married. It's not at all universal", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Inheritance is free from marital asset status s long as she doesn\u2019t mingle the money with marital assets. </p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>That hugely depends on where, how and even when OP married. It's not at all universal</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672610629.0, "created_utc": 1672610629.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jxrnc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jxrnc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jqvsg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jxrnc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 29, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 29, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 95, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 95, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nat_the_fine", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4u86t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "A podcast I listened to recently with a divorce lawyer brought up postnups l. He said that postnups aren't usually upheld anymore because it sort of amounts to a threat since you are already married.\nThe way he explained it was that a prenup is basically an agreement that \"I'll marry you under these terms\" whereas with a postnup you are already married so it's too late to dictate terms and judges will regularly through them out in court when it comes to that.\nThe episode in general was fascinating https://youtu.be/WZHUhmCN_fI", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>A podcast I listened to recently with a divorce lawyer brought up postnups l. He said that postnups aren't usually upheld anymore because it sort of amounts to a threat since you are already married.\nThe way he explained it was that a prenup is basically an agreement that "I'll marry you under these terms" whereas with a postnup you are already married so it's too late to dictate terms and judges will regularly through them out in court when it comes to that.\nThe episode in general was fascinating <a href=\"https://youtu.be/WZHUhmCN_fI\">https://youtu.be/WZHUhmCN_fI</a></p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609528.0, "created_utc": 1672609528.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jv29i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jv29i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jijd9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jv29i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 577, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 577, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 494, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 494, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IndividualRoyal9426", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9im5jbc2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly, I'm worried about that mariage as well. This is not someone I would want to share the rest of my life with. What will come next!?? I'd want nothing to do with the rest of the family either.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly, I'm worried about that mariage as well. This is not someone I would want to share the rest of my life with. What will come next!?? I'd want nothing to do with the rest of the family either.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672605651.0, "created_utc": 1672605651.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jla9r", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jla9r", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jla9r/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Puzzleheaded-Desk399", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bfygacjz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "What I am wondering is **why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?** I also find it tacky that OP's husband and his family would throw a celebratory party on OP's inheritance because the only reason why OP got that inheritance was because OP's Mom died.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>What I am wondering is <strong>why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?</strong> I also find it tacky that OP's husband and his family would throw a celebratory party on OP's inheritance because the only reason why OP got that inheritance was because OP's Mom died.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672614480.0, "created_utc": 1672614480.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k727c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k727c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jla9r", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k727c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Depends on where OP lives, in some parts of the world if you're married it actually can be hard to hide finances (yes including inheritance like this) from your spouse. And it sounds like the husband cant keep their mouth shut for shit which is why the in laws know even though its zero percent their buisness. The whole thing sounds tacky af tbh beyond what OP is going through as a result.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Depends on where OP lives, in some parts of the world if you're married it actually can be hard to hide finances (yes including inheritance like this) from your spouse. And it sounds like the husband cant keep their mouth shut for shit which is why the in laws know even though its zero percent their buisness. The whole thing sounds tacky af tbh beyond what OP is going through as a result.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619463.0, "created_utc": 1672619463.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kize1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kize1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k727c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kize1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "imtheheppest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_om81nik", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I thought the celebratory dinner was for NYE, not for OP\u2019s inheritance? Or did I miss something?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I thought the celebratory dinner was for NYE, not for OP\u2019s inheritance? Or did I miss something?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672639922.0, "created_utc": 1672639922.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lo6uu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lo6uu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k727c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lo6uu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> What I am wondering is why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?\n\nI don't think it's that unusual. My sister-in-law's grandfather owns a winery, though he leases it out to other producers, as he is about 93 years-old or so. Seeing that he is needs care 24/7 now, I'm not really sure how much time he has left. Anyway, I think it's pretty common for families to talk about retirement accounts or college savings accounts for the kids. I asked my brother and his wife how much his estate is worth, guessing that it's about $15M, and my brother's wife said \"anywhere from $13M-17M. \n\nSo, yeah. My sister-in-law's potential portion of an inheritance (most would go to her parents and her aunt for now anyway) has zero affect on me, but I know all about the details. Unless a person has been hiding money from their family over the years, you'd think most people would know about it one way or another.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>What I am wondering is why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>I don't think it's that unusual. My sister-in-law's grandfather owns a winery, though he leases it out to other producers, as he is about 93 years-old or so. Seeing that he is needs care 24/7 now, I'm not really sure how much time he has left. Anyway, I think it's pretty common for families to talk about retirement accounts or college savings accounts for the kids. I asked my brother and his wife how much his estate is worth, guessing that it's about $15M, and my brother's wife said "anywhere from $13M-17M. </p>\n\n<p>So, yeah. My sister-in-law's potential portion of an inheritance (most would go to her parents and her aunt for now anyway) has zero affect on me, but I know all about the details. Unless a person has been hiding money from their family over the years, you'd think most people would know about it one way or another.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619875.0, "created_utc": 1672619875.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kjxtf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kjxtf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k727c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kjxtf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 216, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 216, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 166, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 166, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CherryBlaster", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c0zd1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The best advice because let me tell you a little secret\u2026It will never stop until that money has vanished.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The best advice because let me tell you a little secret\u2026It will never stop until that money has vanished.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609577.0, "created_utc": 1672609577.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jv6r7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jv6r7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jv6r7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Kattorean", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wnq8915", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": " Our family put everything into a living trust. Even though I was married when my parents passed & I inherited $$$, the Living Trust passed those assets directly to ME, and then, on to my children. My husband wasn't named in the trust structure & has no claim to the inherited assets. No probate, no inheritance taxes involved. No messy issues of presumed co-mingling of martial assets. Clean & easy.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Our family put everything into a living trust. Even though I was married when my parents passed & I inherited $$$, the Living Trust passed those assets directly to ME, and then, on to my children. My husband wasn't named in the trust structure & has no claim to the inherited assets. No probate, no inheritance taxes involved. No messy issues of presumed co-mingling of martial assets. Clean & easy.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607391.0, "created_utc": 1672607391.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpsw6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpsw6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpsw6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Apprehensive_Bake_78", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_51w2612c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "She said he's made countless suggestions on how she should spend it. No reason to think that wasn't on an additional property.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>She said he's made countless suggestions on how she should spend it. No reason to think that wasn't on an additional property.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672602300.0, "created_utc": 1672602300.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jcjqc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jcjqc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jcjqc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Nah from her tone of the post and how he has been expecting her to pay for everything and so has his family. His suggestions weren\u2019t reasonable ones. She wouldn\u2019t be on reddit complaining that she got an inheritance and her husband suggests a rational way to invest the money for their future.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Nah from her tone of the post and how he has been expecting her to pay for everything and so has his family. His suggestions weren\u2019t reasonable ones. She wouldn\u2019t be on reddit complaining that she got an inheritance and her husband suggests a rational way to invest the money for their future.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672603451.0, "created_utc": 1672603451.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jfim0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jfim0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jcjqc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jfim0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 130, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 130, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Direct_Gas470", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8o3m9xq8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "but would the additional property be in her name alone or both??? that's the 64000 question, isn't it? Her inheritance is hers, it's not his. A loving spouse would help her grieve and respect her inheritance as being hers, not immediately jump in with \"suggestions\" as to how to spend it. Notice OP said \"spend\" not invest. ;-) I don't think hubby is suggesting investments, especially after he set OP up to buy him and his parents a fancy dinner.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>but would the additional property be in her name alone or both??? that's the 64000 question, isn't it? Her inheritance is hers, it's not his. A loving spouse would help her grieve and respect her inheritance as being hers, not immediately jump in with "suggestions" as to how to spend it. Notice OP said "spend" not invest. ;-) I don't think hubby is suggesting investments, especially after he set OP up to buy him and his parents a fancy dinner.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619535.0, "created_utc": 1672619535.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj5f6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj5f6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jcjqc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj5f6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 61, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 61, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ladyknight0991", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4wqnd4wz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Definitely agree it's time to see a divorce attorney.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Definitely agree it's time to see a divorce attorney.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672608581.0, "created_utc": 1672608581.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jsqim", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jsqim", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jsqim/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15980, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15980, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Horror_Cucumber_3497", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g3g57q80", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, you should really look into making sure the money is airtight, from all of them, but especially your husband. It sounds like him and his family may be a step away from trying to hide it at his mom\u2019s house for \u201csafe keeping\u201d.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, you should really look into making sure the money is airtight, from all of them, but especially your husband. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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> I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here
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Exactly. I've been on reddit for years, but not this particular subreddit, and become more and more disheartened at the stories of bullying/gaslighting and downright abuse of women.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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NTA. How disgusting. Your mother passes away and their first order of action is to circle your inheritance like vultures. Anyone who cared about you would not bring this up or make demands/expectations. Heck, true friends/family would take you out for dinner and try to cheer you up considering everything. I'm sorry for your loss, OP and I'm sorry that these entitled mooches are currently in your life. You did the right thing walking away.
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Amen to that. From a grieving person who inherited some money.
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Hey make sure you DONT mix any of this money with your joint account/hubby. If you divorce, it’s less messy and your hubby can’t make a claim to it
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NTA, husband and his family are entitled AH. You lost your mum and are probably still processing your feelings and they have no empathy and have the audacity to ask you pay!?
Divorce him and don’t let the next man know about the inheritance.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. 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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.</p>\\n\\n<p>He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.</p>\\n\\n<p>AITA?</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_100ogg4\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 48172, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.9, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}",
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NTA
It’s not *their* money, they don’t get a say in how you chose to spend it.
Your husband should be embarrassed that his family are entitled freeloaders.
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From your comment below, I think you're giving thought to if you want to stay in the marriage. Make sure you know the laws on inheritance and net family property.\n\nNTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's disgusting, appalling, entitled behaviour.</p>\n\n<p>Good on OP for having the presence of mind to get up and walk out.</p>\n\n<p>Her spouse and in-laws are acting like they all won the lottery.</p>\n\n<p>I'm so sorry about your mum, OP. From your comment below, I think you're giving thought to if you want to stay in the marriage. 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NTA. Your husband and his family is shameless.
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Ask him when he asked you to pay for dinner OP. Because he didn’t. Ask him why his family thought you would pay for dinner, OP. Because I expect it’s because he told them that without consulting you. Ask him how it is ethical for him to commit to using your inheritance money for absolutely anything without asking you first. I’m curious how he’ll answer this. And you should be too, OP.
And finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.
He owes you and his family an apology. And you may want to suggest that he take a financial planning course at the local college or online.
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And you should be too, OP.</p>\n\n<p>And finally tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be manipulated into spending your inheritance by him in any way, but particularly in this underhanded manner. Ever. Tell him that if he puts you on the spot like this again, he will humiliate himself again. Every time.</p>\n\n<p>He owes you and his family an apology. 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If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. If he\u2019d asked and she\u2019d agreed, then fair enough, but to just assume that her money was his to spend is ridiculous. Also OP\u2019s husband showing his true colours by 1. Staking a claim to his wife\u2019s inheritance and seemingly prioritising her money over her grief and 2. Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant. We don\u2019t have the times, but I\u2019m guessing OP got home several hours before husband, so what, he was just stayed out, likely badmouthing his wife to all his family? Way to be a good partner. If I walked out of a restaurant, no matter who we\u2019re with I can guarantee my partner would come with me, regardless of their opinion on my behaviour.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672609026.0, "created_utc": 1672609026.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jttql", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jttql", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpu2l", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jttql/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheDisapprovingBrit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f3h8i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My wife has inherited some money from her grandma's estate. I have no idea how much or what she plans to do with it, nor do I plan to ask. Its her money to do with as she sees fit.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613633.0, "created_utc": 1672613633.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k50cx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k50cx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k50cx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Big-Piccolo-3943", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6ws2deb6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly separate from this my wife make a very large amount of money compared to me but if it comes down to something I want to be generous about I pay. It comes from me. I don\u2019t expect another person to fund me or my intentions. If I want to be generous well then I pay. I don\u2019t make it her problem. I just see it as basic decency I swear this shit isn\u2019t hard.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672625206.0, "created_utc": 1672625206.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kvolw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kvolw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kvolw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Asking how much money someone left my spouse is something I could imagine myself doing, I will take your words off wisdom and try to live my life like you because you're fucking right.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672650934.0, "created_utc": 1672650934.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m2sbc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m2sbc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k50cx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m2sbc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "codeacab", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_da9d3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would definitely ask my spouse. Yes, it's their call what to do with it, but at the same time we always discuss big decisions.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672652106.0, "created_utc": 1672652106.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2m4724", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2m4724", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2m2sbc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2m4724/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 93, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 93, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If she made the invitation herself and offered to pay. You don't ask someone to start paying for everything when they inherit money. This guy just fell off the turnip truck.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672615355.0, "created_utc": 1672615355.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k95ga", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k95ga", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k95ga/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MegaGrimer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_12j7hi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.\n\nOh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Not being at all concerned about his wife walking out a restaurant.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Oh he was concerned. Not about his wife, but who was paying for dinner. Not exactly the thing to be concerned about.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619529.0, "created_utc": 1672619529.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj4y2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj4y2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj4y2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dxddynicotine", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_jkc878gp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? \n\nI would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. The fact that any of you would ignore such a drastic detail is disgusting and hurtful.\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This!! OP is definitely NTA, OP\u2019s husband is obviously very money hungry.. or at least money centered. OP should not be expected to treat/cater him and his parents just because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it. OP is most likely still grieving this major loss in her life, but because she got an inheritance that changes everything? Not only is it disgusting of OP\u2019s husband to expect such a thing because OP can \u201cafford\u201d it but to assume and go as far as to tell his parents that OP would cover it (without asking or even considering her opinion/thoughts on the matter), plus being deliberately ignorant to not even recognize why OP can \u201cafford\u201d it in the first place? </p>\n\n<p>I would sit DH down and talk to him and maybe remind him where that money came from in the first place.. \u201cYeah, I -could- have \u2018afforded\u2019 to pay for everyone\u2019s food, but you all seem to have forgotten the reason I have this \u201cinheritance pocket\u201d (to quote JNMIL) in the first place. I lost my own mother. The fact that any of you would ignore such a drastic detail is disgusting and hurtful.\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672637894.0, "created_utc": 1672637894.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lkzg0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lkzg0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jttql", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lkzg0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 209, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 209, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 850, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 850, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_disagree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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This right here. What better way to honor the money your mom left for you than to get out of a loveless marriage.
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"content": "Then your mom may have left you a final gift.. the freedom to walk away from a mariage that isn’t working for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.",
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Maybe we can soon congratulate for the loss of her husband.
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Alternatively, the husband and his entire family need to learn some serious boundaries *real* quick. I think the former is more likely, though.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, I hate immediately jumping to it and I know subs like this are notorious for suggesting it so often, but divorce is sadly the play here. Alternatively, the husband and his entire family need to learn some serious boundaries <em>real</em> quick. 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I cannot condone violence.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Concur - but only if we\u2019re talking divorce. I cannot condone violence.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672598348.0, "created_utc": 1672598348.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j2be0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j2be0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2iyizg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j2be0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Curly_Shoe", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vw7ztzz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It. Didn't cross my mind that it could be interpreted that way. But yes, violence is not the answer!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It. Didn't cross my mind that it could be interpreted that way. But yes, violence is not the answer!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672607248.0, "created_utc": 1672607248.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jpftu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jpftu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j2be0", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jpftu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "potatofairy42", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a2t8njkx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hahaha I knew how you meant it but it did read kind of ominous", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hahaha I knew how you meant it but it did read kind of ominous</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672625305.0, "created_utc": 1672625305.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kvwl3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kvwl3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpftu", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kvwl3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 40, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 40, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 84, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 84, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 823, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 823, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_disagree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "My condolences, OP for the loss of your mother and having an asshole for a husband.\n\nNTA.",
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It. Didn't cross my mind that it could be interpreted that way. But yes, violence is not the answer!
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"content": "My condolences, OP for the loss of your mother and having an asshole for a husband.\n\nNTA.",
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> Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.
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It's not exactly gold-digging; it's arguably worse. This more points to OP's husband being threatened by her having her own money, so he wants to spend it ASAP - ideally on him - so he can exert financial control over OP. OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.
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OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>It's not exactly gold-digging; it's arguably worse. This more points to OP's husband being threatened by her having her own money, so he wants to spend it ASAP - ideally on him - so he can exert financial control over OP. OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619567.0, "created_utc": 1672619567.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kj83k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kj83k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpd1f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kj83k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CokeDiesel4", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uypkuka9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Greed brings out the worst in people and since they're married he's getting frustrated that he doesn't have control over something he perceives to be equally his. His attempts to manipulate her while being nice aren't working so he's becoming more aggressive. He's known about her inheritance so if it was an issue of her having money at all he never would've gotten with her to begin with, he married a woman with money because he wants to spend the money.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Greed brings out the worst in people and since they're married he's getting frustrated that he doesn't have control over something he perceives to be equally his. His attempts to manipulate her while being nice aren't working so he's becoming more aggressive. He's known about her inheritance so if it was an issue of her having money at all he never would've gotten with her to begin with, he married a woman with money because he wants to spend the money.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672634514.0, "created_utc": 1672634514.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lf16w", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lf16w", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kj83k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lf16w/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Electronic-Half-4298", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_pq1u1fuy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My thoughts exactly. He also strikes me as the sort of person who would secretly try to get her pregnant on purpose to keep her around, as horrible as that sounds. Especially as OP seems perfectly capable of standing up for herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My thoughts exactly. He also strikes me as the sort of person who would secretly try to get her pregnant on purpose to keep her around, as horrible as that sounds. 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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\\n\\n\\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\\n\\n\\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\\n\\n\\nAITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.</p>\\n\\n<p>He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.</p>\\n\\n<p>AITA?</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_100ogg4\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 48172, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.9, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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NTA - This money is tied to grief, you lost someone important to you. I lost my own mother, recently so I want to say I'm sorry for your loss. The way you chose to process through this grief and the inheritance is your choice and your choice alone. I agree with others who have said get a lawyer and financial consultant, I'd like to add that you should get a therapist to help you process your grief. And you need to communicate more with your husband about this money - this happened because he only saw money and not your grief, this also happened because you have not talked to with your husband about the money before you went out. You need to communicate better with him if you don't want him to resent you over it, and you him. This lack of communication caused this rift. Talk to him, tell him how you feel about the money, process it with him, instead of leaving him to wonder and presume.
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I was given 2 great pieces of advice that i still go by today. 1) Always be prepared to pay for your meal, no matter the circumstances. There's always the possibility of something going wrong. 2) Order as you would if you were paying for yourself. Even though, especially with business focused means, that people will tend to order the most expensive meals they can, you never know what will happen. See 1)
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NTA! Make sure you secure your inheritance so the jackass and his family can’t get to it.
They couldn’t help when your mom was sick but they are perfectly fine spending the money she left you? F that noise!
Does your husband have any redeeming qualities? Cause he just offered up YOUR money to treat his circus of idiots!
NTA totally not the asshole.
Edit to add: YOU ARE NOT THEIR ATM!
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Don\u2019t EVER touch that money. Don\u2019t talk about it, bring it up, or start to \u201cact rich.\u201d Give advice about how to spend it ONLY IF they ask you specifically to do so, but otherwise? Don\u2019t covet it. I mean, shit, don\u2019t even *think* about it. \n \nPretend like that money doesn\u2019t even exist \u2014 not only because you\u2019d be a huge asshole for already making plans for someone else\u2019s money that their parents worked a lifetime to give them, but also because once that lifestyle creep kicks in, you can\u2019t really ever happily go back to how you lived before. And if you go from cooking every meal at home and shopping sales to dining out 5x a week and going on nice vacations and renting a more expensive apartment, you can blow through a quarter million dollars in five years EASY. As if you\u2019d lit a giant pile of cash on fire. \n \nAnd then it\u2019s just\u2026 Gone. 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Women are taught to fear living alone, that the world is something to fear and not HOW to live independently, defend themselves, or to value themselves. OP is worth far more than this inheritance, but if the money makes her realize her worth, then it’s priceless. Divorce him, sister. He’s not worthy of you.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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You know what my husband wants to do with my inheritance when I unfortunately get it in a few years? Pay off a few mutual debts of ours to make our quality of life better, set up a university/college fund for our soon-to-be daughter, and stash away the rest. Maybe we will look into investing a bit.
My husband 100% agrees that it's mine to do with what I want, which is how it'll be used. Neither he nor his family is entitled to any of it. That is what OP's husband should be doing, supporting his wife in a very difficult time and not herding the vultures to his wife's wallet.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with the BS right now OP, your husband and IL's should be making your life easier, not harder. It sucks when you lose a parent. And it sucks more when your partner doesn't support you as you try and navigate a world that will always be missing an important person.
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"content": "NTA.\n\nYour husband and in-laws are attempting to capitalize on your *mother’s death*. \n\nKeep the inheritance. Ditch the people who think you’re a walking ATM.",
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but would the additional property be in her name alone or both??? that's the 64000 question, isn't it? Her inheritance is hers, it's not his. A loving spouse would help her grieve and respect her inheritance as being hers, not immediately jump in with "suggestions" as to how to spend it. Notice OP said "spend" not invest. ;-) I don't think hubby is suggesting investments, especially after he set OP up to buy him and his parents a fancy dinner.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "She said he's made countless suggestions on how she should spend it. No reason to think that wasn't on an additional property.",
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As it should. Cheating spouse should get nothing.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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It's disgusting, appalling, entitled behaviour.
Good on OP for having the presence of mind to get up and walk out.
Her spouse and in-laws are acting like they all won the lottery.
I'm so sorry about your mum, OP. From your comment below, I think you're giving thought to if you want to stay in the marriage. Make sure you know the laws on inheritance and net family property.
NTA.
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"content": "NTA \n\nIt’s not *their* money, they don’t get a say in how you chose to spend it.\n\nYour husband should be embarrassed that his family are entitled freeloaders.",
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NTA. Sounds like you inherited some money and now everyone feels entitled to it. Time to get a lawyer.
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NTA and I'm not sure what you could have done differently. Your husband's family was very rude and entitled.
I do think it may be wise to have a sit down with your husband and explain that until you know what you're planning to do with the money to pretend it doesn't exist. If he can't accept that you may have more issues under the surface than just this one issue.
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Post nub!
NTA he’s awful and tbh i hope you leave him
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"content": "NTA. You need to have a serious conversation about boundaries and entitlement. If you would have paid, then you would’ve set the expectation that people can just blow your money. You didn’t offer in advance to pay for everyone; therefore, they shouldn’t feel entitled to the money that you only have because you lost your mom. Disgusting. You may also want to consider getting some paperwork if you don’t have a prenup.",
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Just remember to keep the divorce money in a separate account and to never mix it with any joint funds because otherwise it will a become marital asset.
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NTA. Your husband is treating you awfully much like a bag of money.
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My thoughts exactly. He also strikes me as the sort of person who would secretly try to get her pregnant on purpose to keep her around, as horrible as that sounds. Especially as OP seems perfectly capable of standing up for herself.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "> Gonna be hard for OPs husband to prove he's not just a gold digger.\n[...quoted text...]\n\nIt's not exactly gold-digging; it's arguably worse. This more points to OP's husband being threatened by her having her own money, so he wants to spend it ASAP - ideally on him - so he can exert financial control over OP. OP said in another post that her husband has been exhibiting other controlling behaviors outside of the inheritance issue so it's very concerning. Divorce really is the best solution here.",
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NTA. But please see a lawyer asap. After this trick your husband is likely to divorce you to go after your inheritance; make sure your affairs are legally airtight so he can't touch it.
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Husband will not benefit by divorcing OP. No matter how you look at it, he\u2019s not entitled to it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Inheritance isn\u2019t typically considered a marital asset. Husband will not benefit by divorcing OP. No matter how you look at it, he\u2019s not entitled to it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672598817.0, "created_utc": 1672598817.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j3jaw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j3jaw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2it1bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j3jaw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AyepuOnyu", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bdbno", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Won't stop them from trying to get it. Still better to take whatever precautionary measures possible.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Won't stop them from trying to get it. Still better to take whatever precautionary measures possible.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613349.0, "created_utc": 1672613349.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4bfl", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4bfl", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j3jaw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4bfl/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "orgyofdestruction", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_yf9f5su", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Word. My dad attempted this after my mom's father passed away and they split. Only thing was that her brother stole it before he could.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Word. My dad attempted this after my mom's father passed away and they split. 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When you get to the point that you're posting online about your SO's bad behavior and asking strangers for help, divorce is often a likely or inevitable outcome.
If your husband does something this terrible, what are the odds he's a loving, kind and caring husband in every other way.
I'm actually shocked the other way. You'll see posts like "my husband harasses and bullies our son" or "my husband blows our money on nothing" or "my husband is a jerk to everyone around him" and people here will say "don't suggest divorce so fast! Maybe he's actually a good guy?"
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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The problem comes in when husband wants OP to start purchasing things that then becomes their communal property. Just be mindful and careful OP
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"content": "NTA\n\nIt is time to speak to a good lawyer and get that money into some type of trust that he cannot touch in the event of divorce. Simply having it in a separate bank account is not sufficient to protect it in a divorce settlement. His behavior is not healthy or supportive and it seems like he and his family seem entitled to your inheritance. This is not a good situation. I hope you can work through this but still protect your money just in case.",
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"content": "I have no idea what country OP is from, but in most--if not all--Western countries, this is her separate property, and the husband is not going to be awarded it--or any part of the inheritance--in a divorce, under any circumstances. Keeping it a separate account--which the husband cannot access--is likely sufficient protection.",
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Nta. Its your inheritance and they are not owed anything. The entitlement is baffling.
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.</p>\\n\\n<p>He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.</p>\\n\\n<p>AITA?</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_100ogg4\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 48172, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.9, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}",
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Excellent post.
The entitlement of people is f*cking incredible.
OP needs to know that the second that inheritance money goes to husband or marital property he will get half.
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Nta. Better keep those funds separate or they will magically disappear!!
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I'd divorce him since in many places inheritances are not considered marital assets as long as they're not comingled; she did the right thing by keeping her $$ separated. Husband & his family are greedy little leprechaun AHs that are after her pot of gold.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
> yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family
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> He said I humiliated him and family
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Fuck that guy.
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NTA I’d rather have my mother than money. if they can’t or won’t understand that you are grieving, that is not your issue - it’s all them and they have shown their true values.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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NTA. The fact your own husband was upset that you didn’t pay for his family is disgusting. “He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick.” There are so many red flags here and I think you made the right call in only paying for yourself. Be sure the account you are currently keeping the money in is solely under your name and NEVER let your husband or his family have access to it.
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NTA.
Your husband and in-laws are attempting to capitalize on your *mother’s death*.
Keep the inheritance. Ditch the people who think you’re a walking ATM.
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Ditch the people who think you\u2019re a walking ATM.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672595243.0, "created_utc": 1672595243.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2iuj71", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2iuj71", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_100ogg4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2iuj71/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I don\u2019t understand families like this. My parents each had a parent die within 5 weeks of the other and they both said to each other that it\u2019s their money so they won\u2019t tell the other what to do with it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I don\u2019t understand families like this. My parents each had a parent die within 5 weeks of the other and they both said to each other that it\u2019s their money so they won\u2019t tell the other what to do with it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672600819.0, "created_utc": 1672600819.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2j8ruz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2j8ruz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2iuj71", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2j8ruz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Glitter_Voldemort", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3x9khk24", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Unfortunately, inheritances tend to show us who people really are. Some people value the possibility of what that money can do for them more than they value the loss of life or their partner\u2019s grief. \n\nIn other words, some people just suck.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Unfortunately, inheritances tend to show us who people really are. Some people value the possibility of what that money can do for them more than they value the loss of life or their partner\u2019s grief. </p>\n\n<p>In other words, some people just suck.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672602120.0, "created_utc": 1672602120.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jc34p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jc34p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j8ruz", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jc34p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "VietOne", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gldqi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not specifically inheritance, any life changing sum of money.\n\nI've seen marriages break apart over 10k.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not specifically inheritance, any life changing sum of money.</p>\n\n<p>I've seen marriages break apart over 10k.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672627431.0, "created_utc": 1672627431.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2l0jiz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2l0jiz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jc34p", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2l0jiz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "taewongun1895", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7c4s3qmh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When my aunt died, her grown children fought over who inherited her gold teeth. Disgraceful ... Why were they removing her teeth?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When my aunt died, her grown children fought over who inherited her gold teeth. Disgraceful ... Why were they removing her teeth?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672621620.0, "created_utc": 1672621620.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2knsau", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2knsau", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jc34p", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2knsau/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", 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true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would tell husband I've donated it all, then put it into a trust he can't see or access.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would tell husband I've donated it all, then put it into a trust he can't see or access.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, 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"t2_49uu1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would just get divorced if I ever felt I had to do anything like this.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would just get divorced if I ever felt I had to do anything like this.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672623162.0, "created_utc": 1672623162.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kr5fj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kr5fj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": 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"approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "DibsArchaeo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8s9ek", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know what my husband wants to do with my inheritance when I unfortunately get it in a few years? Pay off a few mutual debts of ours to make our quality of life better, set up a university/college fund for our soon-to-be daughter, and stash away the rest. Maybe we will look into investing a bit.\n\nMy husband 100% agrees that it's mine to do with what I want, which is how it'll be used. Neither he nor his family is entitled to any of it. That is what OP's husband should be doing, supporting his wife in a very difficult time and not herding the vultures to his wife's wallet.\n\nI'm so sorry you have to put up with the BS right now OP, your husband and IL's should be making your life easier, not harder. It sucks when you lose a parent. And it sucks more when your partner doesn't support you as you try and navigate a world that will always be missing an important person.\n\nNTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know what my husband wants to do with my inheritance when I unfortunately get it in a few years? Pay off a few mutual debts of ours to make our quality of life better, set up a university/college fund for our soon-to-be daughter, and stash away the rest. Maybe we will look into investing a bit.</p>\n\n<p>My husband 100% agrees that it's mine to do with what I want, which is how it'll be used. Neither he nor his family is entitled to any of it. That is what OP's husband should be doing, supporting his wife in a very difficult time and not herding the vultures to his wife's wallet.</p>\n\n<p>I'm so sorry you have to put up with the BS right now OP, your husband and IL's should be making your life easier, not harder. It sucks when you lose a parent. And it sucks more when your partner doesn't support you as you try and navigate a world that will always be missing an important person.</p>\n\n<p>NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619884.0, "created_utc": 1672619884.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kjyjj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kjyjj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2iuj71", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kjyjj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1723, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1723, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_agree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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Unfortunately, inheritances tend to show us who people really are. Some people value the possibility of what that money can do for them more than they value the loss of life or their partner’s grief.
In other words, some people just suck.
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"content": "NTA.\n\nYour husband and in-laws are attempting to capitalize on your *mother’s death*. \n\nKeep the inheritance. Ditch the people who think you’re a walking ATM.",
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"content": "I don’t understand families like this. My parents each had a parent die within 5 weeks of the other and they both said to each other that it’s their money so they won’t tell the other what to do with it.",
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You wouldn't believe how people act. When my buddies dad died and left him 10 million, one of his friends... at the funeral told him "Dude you are set for life now bro."
We bring this up and he tells me - "Yeah like that's what I cared about. Like I wouldn't give that up to have my dad back." People are who they are and when money is involved, they are who they truly are.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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Then your mom may have left you a final gift.. the freedom to walk away from a mariage that isn’t working for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Going to second what other people are saying here.
You need to leave. You have a cushion that will allow you to walk away from this.
Please, PLEASE. Take care of yourself. Know that what your husband is doing isn't normal, and it *isn't okay*. You deserve better.
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My late father's sister (refuse to call her my aunt) and her no-good husband are like vultures. Someone dies and they're asking about what they get, I didn't even have the funeral arrangements started for my dad when they were asking about getting his vehicle.
Yes, you read that right, my dad had been dead less than 48 hours and they already started asking for stuff.
This continued every time I saw them, at the funeral home to arrange the services, after said service, etc. Pretty much any interaction with them in person or on the phone they would ask.
They didn't get it BTW, I'm evil like that.
Didn't see them for over 5 years until recently.
First thing she said to me after "hi" was "you're getting a little fat there bud"
My response?
"You're getting old there bud"
Didn't go over well, oh well
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Yep. I have known more than one couple to break up after one gets an inheritance. A windfall tends to show people's true colors.\n\nOP, NTA. Your in-laws are horrible people and your husband is an apple who did not fall far from the tree. Very sorry for the loss of your mom.",
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Yeah, you should really look into making sure the money is airtight, from all of them, but especially your husband. It sounds like him and his family may be a step away from trying to hide it at his mom’s house for “safe keeping”.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\\n\\n\\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\\n\\n\\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\\n\\n\\nAITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.</p>\\n\\n<p>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they <em>relied</em> on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.",
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Yeah, the level of self disrespect women seem to have when they settle for shitheads like this.
And if you say something, it's "oh, he's not always like this, well he told me he was an asshole, but never was to me untill this time, or but I should be the bigger person", etc, etc.
Honestly it's kinda pathetic.*
* Yes, I get not all DV victims can leave, I'm not talking that, I'm talking of the standard hopefully non violent asshole a lot of women hook up with for life.
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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You're very obviously NTA.
>He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong.
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Your in-laws were outrageously rude and entitled by expecting you to foot the bill. If they truly could not afford to pay their portion (and I think they could, they were just being freeloading AHs), then they shouldn't have gone out to eat with you without making sure that someone was happy to cover them.
However, your main problem is your husband and the fact he's treating you like a walking ATM. I therefore second others' recommendations to seek immediate legal advice to help you keep your money safe from his grubby little hands. If I were in your shoes, I would also be considering this a turning point in the relationship. I'd not only be wondering who the hell I'd married, but also whether I'd be able to continue in the marriage while it looks like this.
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NTA
Your husband and his family feels entitled to your inheritance. If I were you I would start thinking about the type of family you married into. I can definitely see their treatment of you getting worse in hopes of getting money.
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Not true is all I'm gonna say.</p>\\n\\n<p>He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.</p>\\n\\n<p>AITA?</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_100ogg4\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 48172, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.9, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}",
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Honestly, I'm worried about that mariage as well. This is not someone I would want to share the rest of my life with. What will come next!?? I'd want nothing to do with the rest of the family either.
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This is not someone I would want to share the rest of my life with. What will come next!?? I'd want nothing to do with the rest of the family either.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672605651.0, "created_utc": 1672605651.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2jla9r", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2jla9r", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2j7v9d", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2jla9r/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Puzzleheaded-Desk399", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bfygacjz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "What I am wondering is **why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?** I also find it tacky that OP's husband and his family would throw a celebratory party on OP's inheritance because the only reason why OP got that inheritance was because OP's Mom died.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>What I am wondering is <strong>why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?</strong> I also find it tacky that OP's husband and his family would throw a celebratory party on OP's inheritance because the only reason why OP got that inheritance was because OP's Mom died.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672614480.0, "created_utc": 1672614480.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k727c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k727c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jla9r", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k727c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Depends on where OP lives, in some parts of the world if you're married it actually can be hard to hide finances (yes including inheritance like this) from your spouse. And it sounds like the husband cant keep their mouth shut for shit which is why the in laws know even though its zero percent their buisness. The whole thing sounds tacky af tbh beyond what OP is going through as a result.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Depends on where OP lives, in some parts of the world if you're married it actually can be hard to hide finances (yes including inheritance like this) from your spouse. And it sounds like the husband cant keep their mouth shut for shit which is why the in laws know even though its zero percent their buisness. The whole thing sounds tacky af tbh beyond what OP is going through as a result.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672619463.0, "created_utc": 1672619463.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kize1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kize1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k727c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kize1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "imtheheppest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_om81nik", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I thought the celebratory dinner was for NYE, not for OP\u2019s inheritance? Or did I miss something?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I thought the celebratory dinner was for NYE, not for OP\u2019s inheritance? 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My sister-in-law's grandfather owns a winery, though he leases it out to other producers, as he is about 93 years-old or so. Seeing that he is needs care 24/7 now, I'm not really sure how much time he has left. Anyway, I think it's pretty common for families to talk about retirement accounts or college savings accounts for the kids. I asked my brother and his wife how much his estate is worth, guessing that it's about $15M, and my brother's wife said \"anywhere from $13M-17M. \n\nSo, yeah. My sister-in-law's potential portion of an inheritance (most would go to her parents and her aunt for now anyway) has zero affect on me, but I know all about the details. Unless a person has been hiding money from their family over the years, you'd think most people would know about it one way or another.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>What I am wondering is why does OP's husband's family know anything at all about what OP inherited?</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>I don't think it's that unusual. My sister-in-law's grandfather owns a winery, though he leases it out to other producers, as he is about 93 years-old or so. Seeing that he is needs care 24/7 now, I'm not really sure how much time he has left. Anyway, I think it's pretty common for families to talk about retirement accounts or college savings accounts for the kids. I asked my brother and his wife how much his estate is worth, guessing that it's about $15M, and my brother's wife said "anywhere from $13M-17M. </p>\n\n<p>So, yeah. My sister-in-law's potential portion of an inheritance (most would go to her parents and her aunt for now anyway) has zero affect on me, but I know all about the details. 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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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NTA
It's your money that you inherited? He has no say on how you spend it, especially considering that it is in a seperate account.
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NTA whatsoever, and the joke about paying from the “inheritance pocket” is absolutely galling. I’m so sorry for your loss, and you handled that with much more grace than I ever could have.
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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They act like you won the lottery and not buried your mother. I'm sorry for your loss.
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I'm sorry for your loss.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672595164.0, "created_utc": 1672595164.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2iuc9q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2iuc9q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_100ogg4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2iuc9q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WhyDoYouCrySmeagol", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bfcbe", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And even if she had won the lottery, her money is still none of their fucking business.\n\nNTA OP. I\u2019m so sorry for your loss and for this shite family you\u2019ve married into. They probably seemed nice to begin with but I would take this as them showing their true colours and be prepared. As others have said, get some legal advice and don\u2019t give your husband any kind of access to that money. Your mother wanted you to have it, him being your husband has no bearing on that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And even if she had won the lottery, her money is still none of their fucking business.</p>\n\n<p>NTA OP. I\u2019m so sorry for your loss and for this shite family you\u2019ve married into. They probably seemed nice to begin with but I would take this as them showing their true colours and be prepared. As others have said, get some legal advice and don\u2019t give your husband any kind of access to that money. 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NTA
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Yes the bait of ‘could have helped with her illness’ is throwing me for a loop
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NTA separate all finances now. I personally would leave as it seems like he views you as a piggy bank.
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Inheritance is free from marital asset status s long as she doesn’t mingle the money with marital assets. She could get a postnup before she does anything close to mingling the assets or it stays separate forever
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"content": "So let me get this straight.\n\nYour mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is \"great, now she can pay for everything\". \n\nYeah, NTA",
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"content": "Doesn't really help if the other side doesn't sign it. I think.",
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I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here.
It blows my mind.
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I have enough rage for daily internet strangers without adding that to my life, lol", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Noped right out of that. 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Usually it\u2019s: \u201cI am overwhelmed, husband plays video games all the time \u201c", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The parenting subreddits are the same quality source of outrage. Usually it\u2019s: \u201cI am overwhelmed, husband plays video games all the time \u201c</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672643718.0, "created_utc": 1672643718.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2ltnrt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2ltnrt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxe5b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2ltnrt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ok_Butterfly_3174", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8643zt2z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am continually baffled that people marry guys like this. Im sure a chuck of it is people who got married when they thought they were adults and were still kids really. \n\nI\u2019m mean who among us didn\u2019t make questionable dating choices in our late teens/ early 20\u2019s?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am continually baffled that people marry guys like this. Im sure a chuck of it is people who got married when they thought they were adults and were still kids really. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m mean who among us didn\u2019t make questionable dating choices in our late teens/ early 20\u2019s?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672644092.0, "created_utc": 1672644092.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lu67t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lu67t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2ltnrt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lu67t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Those women were hit over the head with the image and idea of marriage and happily ever after. No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. They just wanna be married so bad they ignore the quality of man they marry.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Those women were hit over the head with the image and idea of marriage and happily ever after. No one taught them what it actually was. Or what a healthy one was at least. They just wanna be married so bad they ignore the quality of man they marry.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672673280.0, "created_utc": 1672673280.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2n13zr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2n13zr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lu67t", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2n13zr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "snootnoots", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ni0sjuh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And \u201cwhen we\u2019re married / have a baby / buy a house he\u2019ll mature and step up.\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And \u201cwhen we\u2019re married / have a baby / buy a house he\u2019ll mature and step up.\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672644804.0, "created_utc": 1672644804.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lv3gw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lv3gw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2lu67t", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lv3gw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Appeltaart232", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ebewu1n", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If he didn\u2019t learn to do laundry pre-baby he ain\u2019t going to miraculously start doing laundry post-baby. You need a partner not a grown ass child to look after. Love is blind, deaf and stupid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If he didn\u2019t learn to do laundry pre-baby he ain\u2019t going to miraculously start doing laundry post-baby. You need a partner not a grown ass child to look after. 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null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ammonia13", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1dbqs7lo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Many are stuck", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Many are stuck</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672632418.0, "created_utc": 1672632418.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lax3p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lax3p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jxe5b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lax3p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 544, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 544, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cilicious", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3mkem", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here\n\nExactly. I've been on reddit for years, but not this particular subreddit, and become more and more disheartened at the stories of bullying/gaslighting and downright abuse of women.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I'm more sad when I see that how low the bar is for most women here</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Exactly. I've been on reddit for years, but not this particular subreddit, and become more and more disheartened at the stories of bullying/gaslighting and downright abuse of women.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672613393.0, "created_utc": 1672613393.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2k4f7r", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2k4f7r", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2k4f7r/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Embarrassed-Use8264", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uiw23o08", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's cause most woman with a great husband dont really post here when they have argument", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's cause most woman with a great husband dont really post here when they have argument</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672626464.0, "created_utc": 1672626464.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kyfxw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kyfxw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k4f7r", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kyfxw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "You-Done", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mazuoud", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly, husband and I will read this sub together and we'll frown over the same people. But it's still nice to be here and read. It puts your own little struggles (\"don't leave water in the kettle when you make me a tea, it might turn rusty\") into perspective. It's a nice life we got. A really nice life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly, husband and I will read this sub together and we'll frown over the same people. But it's still nice to be here and read. It puts your own little struggles ("don't leave water in the kettle when you make me a tea, it might turn rusty") into perspective. It's a nice life we got. A really nice life.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672674423.0, "created_utc": 1672674423.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2n3pib", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2n3pib", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2kyfxw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2n3pib/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 121, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 121, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "highfreakingfive", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": 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"author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I always shudder at the thought of everything they\u2019ve had to endure they didn\u2019t tell us.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I always shudder at the thought of everything they\u2019ve had to endure they didn\u2019t tell us.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672633326.0, "created_utc": 1672633326.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lcqzi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lcqzi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": 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"banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": " I would definitely go to a tavern in hades that sounds delightful compared to her husband and in laws.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would definitely go to a tavern in hades that sounds delightful compared to her husband and in laws.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672627106.0, "created_utc": 1672627106.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kzubj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kzubj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2k3xft", "permalink": 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I rejected a few men that either proposed, or would have proposed if I stayed.\nMarriage is for life, so I set out to be the best woman I can be in the hopes of being a good man's dream woman. \nFiance and I are buying a house this year. Hoping to afford a wedding the year after, and start having babies the year after that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same here! I rejected a few men that either proposed, or would have proposed if I stayed.\nMarriage is for life, so I set out to be the best woman I can be in the hopes of being a good man's dream woman. \nFiance and I are buying a house this year. Hoping to afford a wedding the year after, and start having babies the year after that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672616119.0, "created_utc": 1672616119.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kayus", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kayus", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kayus/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Denim_Diva1969", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f9zsr4kh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Women are taught to fear living alone, that the world is something to fear and not HOW to live independently, defend themselves, or to value themselves. OP is worth far more than this inheritance, but if the money makes her realize her worth, then it\u2019s priceless. Divorce him, sister. He\u2019s not worthy of you.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Women are taught to fear living alone, that the world is something to fear and not HOW to live independently, defend themselves, or to value themselves. OP is worth far more than this inheritance, but if the money makes her realize her worth, then it\u2019s priceless. Divorce him, sister. He\u2019s not worthy of you.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672623195.0, "created_utc": 1672623195.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2kr82f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2kr82f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2kr82f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Icy-Establishment298", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8p9kzs6t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, the level of self disrespect women seem to have when they settle for shitheads like this.\n\nAnd if you say something, it's \"oh, he's not always like this, well he told me he was an asshole, but never was to me untill this time, or but I should be the bigger person\", etc, etc.\n\nHonestly it's kinda pathetic.*\n\n* Yes, I get not all DV victims can leave, I'm not talking that, I'm talking of the standard hopefully non violent asshole a lot of women hook up with for life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, the level of self disrespect women seem to have when they settle for shitheads like this.</p>\n\n<p>And if you say something, it's "oh, he's not always like this, well he told me he was an asshole, but never was to me untill this time, or but I should be the bigger person", etc, etc.</p>\n\n<p>Honestly it's kinda pathetic.*</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Yes, I get not all DV victims can leave, I'm not talking that, I'm talking of the standard hopefully non violent asshole a lot of women hook up with for life.</li>\n</ul>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1672640069.0, "created_utc": 1672640069.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "j2lof1g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_100ogg4", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_j2lof1g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_j2jpsj5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/100ogg4/aita_for_silently_getting_up_and_walking_out_of/j2lof1g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1182, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1182, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"stance": "strong_disagree"}, "post_metrics": {"stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.07, "strong_agree": 0.872, "off_topic": 0.006, "neutral": 0.035, "lean_agree": 0.017}}}
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"content": "AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?\n\nI f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\n\n\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\n\n\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \" inheritance pocket\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\n\n\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\n\n\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\n\n\nAITA?",
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I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.\\n\\n\\nI noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.\\n\\n\\nFor NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my \\\" inheritance pocket\\\" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.\\n\\n\\nHe got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they *relied* on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.\\n\\n\\nHe is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner.\\n\\n\\nAITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.</p>\\n\\n<p>I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.</p>\\n\\n<p>For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my " inheritance pocket" which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. 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