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buttercupbubblebloss
|
2021-06-18 17:52:05
| 1,624,038,725
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
o2vxs7
| true
| null | 13
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/o2vxs7/saw_lots_of_posts_about_ghosting_here_so_i_want/
| 33
|
Indeed ghosting is very inconsiderate and not cool in most scenarios. And I simply just want to share my own experience to provide a different perspective. To be clear I am not trying to argue with anyone or saying I support ghosting in dating. There was once I went on the first date with the guy (it was a few years ago. I talked to him on tinder for weeks and he seemed nice and normal) when we were walking together, he kept trying to touch me, especially my butt for quite a few times. Didn’t stop when I asked him to. He even laughed out and asked me to stop pretending, and I must secretly enjoying it. And called me childishanddramatic for making it a big deal. So I explained to him seriously but still politely that it was not okay and I don’t feel like meeting up again. Sorry. He suddenly my grabbed my arm, hard. I asked him to let me go and he was hurting me. He then told me he wouldn’t until I agreed to see him again. He still had a smile on his face but his tone was terrifying. He pushed me to agree to a specific time and location for our second date. I was very scared at the moment tbh. So i tried to act calm and agreed. I reported him on tinder and blocked him on WhatsApp right away after getting home. Next morning I woke up with bruise on my arm and ofc I didn’t show up to the second date. Then he used another number to text/call me saying he waited me for so long and said something very disturbing and threatening. I told him I’d report him to the police if he harassed me again and blocked him. Now I regret I didn’t report him to the police already. The funny thing is later I found a post on this subreddit...he made a post to rant about me along with other girls ghosting him (100% sure it was him for some specific info in the post and his posting history that included some pics he showed me) but Ofc he didn’t mention anything about his violent and creepy behaviours. He just made himself sound like an innocent frustrated victim of ghosting. And there are kind comments to cheer him up and comments condemning me and other girls, but mainly me as he used me as the most recent example with some details he made up with. He really grossed me out by doing so… After that experience, I don’t give rejections in person anymore. When someone asks me in person, i would say I am interested but I need to check my schedule first. But then I always explain myself clear and maturely through text. I wouldn’t say anything to attack the person, just simply being polite saying nice meeting you but I don’t feel the connection, sorry, something like that. Even that some people just don’t take rejections well. They would act all nice and gentle until the moment they knew I wasn’t interested, they started to say a whole bunch of disgusting things. And Ofc I’d just stop replying or blocking them. Most of guys are very mature and understanding though. So if you keep getting ghosted, sometimes you might not do anything wrong but just have a bad luck, but sometimes maybe also think about what you do that might cause pressure or make the person feel uncomfortable that they could not say no to you. I would also suggest to always ask for second date over text after the first date and always make it clear that it was nice meeting him/her and you fully respect his/her wish if he/she doesn’t want a second date. And maybe instead you suggest a location and time, you can ask the person about their preferences for the second date. Also confirm with them before the second date and if they don’t reply, then leave it. It happened to me once that the guy confirming the time with me 30mins before the date and said he was on his way but he didn’t show up. And yes I was frustrated but also worried something bad might happen to him. Some people are just not nice and they don’t care if they ghost ppl. But I believe most of people are able to communicate honestly and openly unless they know the other person won’t take it well. No, we do not want to normalize ghosting. It is just sometimes we have to when it comes with creeps. P.S. to the creepy guy I mentioned in the post. I’m not scared of you anymore and if you harass me on Reddit I will just block and report you. Fu!
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Saw lots of posts about ghosting here, so I want to share some of my experience to provide a different perspective - Stop complaining about ghosting if you are the creep.
| null | 0.84
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/o2vxs7/saw_lots_of_posts_about_ghosting_here_so_i_want/
|
A-Shy-Smile
|
2020-07-12 16:35:47
| 1,594,571,747
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
hpxbh4
| true
| null | 354
| 2
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/hpxbh4/leave_the_person_you_hurt_alone_even_if_youre/
| 4,586
|
To be honest, I understand it's hard when you're not into someone and you have to say so somehow. But when you tell them "I need to focus on myself" and "I have some issues I need to deal with" (the cliché lines) and you're still on Tinder (the place you met)... clear lies. And when you message them nine months later saying "...thought of you the other day when I was looking at old Snapchat and saw Olive as Chewbacca..." and then asking how the person is doing... it's clearly obvious what you want. Seriously, leave the person you hurt alone. Would you want to be in the person you hurt shoes? No? Ok then. Think before you send a message.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Leave the person you hurt alone, even if you're trying to see how they're doing.
| null | 0.97
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/hpxbh4/leave_the_person_you_hurt_alone_even_if_youre/
|
brainwashed_this_way
|
2024-06-20 17:08:47
| 1,718,903,327
| 0
|
['OLD', 'online dating']
| 0
|
1dkgv0i
| true
| null | 46
| 0
|
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1dkgv0i/the_online_dating_environment_these_days_sounds/
| 28
|
I am a male, 53... I've been divorced a number of months, and was considering 'getting back out there'. I've never had much success meeting a romantic partner organically or 'in the wild', so I thought i would go back to OLD apps I'd had success with in the past. Wow! From what I've observed in the many helpful posts in this group, it sounds like OLD life is terrible these days. The last time I used an app was in 2012. It was OK Cupid. I met the woman that was to become my 2nd wife there. It sounds like most of the OLD apps these days are riddled with bots and unfullfiing prospects. I guess I'm just expressing a general sense of apprehension and dread at the prospect of going through this all over again. Thanks for reading.
|
datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
The Online Dating environment these days sounds horrendous.
| 28
| 0.97
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1dkgv0i/the_online_dating_environment_these_days_sounds/
|
Acrobatic-Affect-846
|
2022-10-11 16:43:36
| 1,665,506,616
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
y1dtz6
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/y1dtz6/tips_for_starting_casual_relationships/
| 2
|
Hello! I’m a 24f who would like to start a casual relationship, but would like some pointers before I get on any dating apps. I got out of a long term relationship January 2022 and haven’t really “talked” to anyone since. I need to know someone on a semi-friend level in order to be comfortable hooking up with them and feel like because of this I never had any good experiences with casual relationships with guys in college. It felt like they assumed that me wanting to get to know them as a person meant that I automatically wanted a relationship with them. Is there anyway I should set up my dating profiles / convos to avoid this?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Tips for starting casual relationships?
| null | 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/y1dtz6/tips_for_starting_casual_relationships/
|
throwaway_nyc_chick
|
2021-07-04 04:13:10
| 1,625,371,990
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
odczsl
| true
|
Question
| 31
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/odczsl/straight_guys_of_reddit_is_a_turnoff_or_issue_if/
| 8
|
I just had a great first date with a guy who seems like a decent guy, but I'm a little worried I may have presented an image of myself that I'm really not - I met him off tinder (but this is the first tinder date I've ever been on), and I'm pretty outgoing and chatty now but I was VERY shy up to a few years ago and struggled a lot with eating disorders and depression from my teens and twenties such that I have like, zero sexual experience at all. The one guy I did do the deed with was so abysmally bad at it and painful for me that it kind of turned me off sex for like, four years 😂 Now I'm more comfortable with myself and finally have a real human libido after recovering from my eating disorder, so I want to jump into the dating pool! But I'm very, very far behind where normal women my age (31f) are at and I'm worried that's a huge red flag for guys. One thing is that this guy is pretty attractive and charismatic and has definitely had sex with a LOT of women (he mentioned a bit about his exes and was in the military, not to mention obviously on tinder). I'm not sure if I can actually do casual sex - though I'm not resistant to trying - and when he invited me back to his place, I admitted that I had very little sexual experience and basically have been in a dry spell these last few years so I might have to take it a bit slower. He made a kind of "oh, huh that's surprising" face but didn't push further. Now I'm wondering if I've really kind of turned him off by being SO inexperienced compared to the chicks he's used to (maybe even prudish-seeming?). I guess if he doesn't want to go further then actually that is better for me, since I apparently don't want one-night stands anyways, but I'm worried as well that I'm turning off normal dudes who would actually be open to something serious. So (presumably normal) guys of reddit, is the lack of experience of your date an issue? I would totally understand if people in their thirties don't particularly want to have to "coach" their partner 😅or are worried they are just bad in bed. I would be a willing learner but it would definitely take time.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Straight guys of reddit, is a turn-off or issue if your date (31f) has very little sexual experience relative to you?
| null | 0.79
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/odczsl/straight_guys_of_reddit_is_a_turnoff_or_issue_if/
|
ComedorTheCasada
|
2023-02-07 23:26:07
| 1,675,812,367
| null |
['matched', 'badoo']
| 0
|
10wgnbe
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/10wgnbe/people_think_im_hotter_now_that_im_obese_why/
| 1
|
I'm 5'4, hairy and obese. I became obese over the last years because of an eating disorder. Back when I was younger and healthier I was trying to go on dates with women but I only matched a few and none of them were interested enough to maintain a conversation with me, let alone to go on a date. Of course, I felt terrible and I used it as an excuse to fuel my eating disorder. Fast forward to now I'm obese and after a few years of no sex, I've decided to try dating again. I installed Grindr and Badoo. I get likes everyday, it's not like I'm the hottest guy in the city but people sure act like I am. I started going out with a guy who's exactly my type, he treats me like I'm the sexiest person alive, everything that I find disgusting about me he finds it hot. Not only that, but recently I've been going out with this woman and I don't know how but dating her just feels easy. She looks like a 6'0 feet tall model and yet she gets nervous on our dates. I don't remember the last time I had a woman anxious to be on a date with me. (I'm not in a relationship with any them) What is going on? I thought I was supposed to be a loner for being they way I am, I never thought that I would have people slouching in order to kiss me.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
People think I'm hotter now that I'm obese. Why?
| null | 0.6
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/10wgnbe/people_think_im_hotter_now_that_im_obese_why/
|
OrientalQueen
|
2021-07-09 15:28:44
| 1,625,844,524
| null |
['dating platform']
| 0
|
ogxxxo
| true
| null | 36
| 0
|
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/ogxxxo/from_a_concerned_daughter_seeking_insight/
| 4
|
Hi all, I am writing to enquire about dating. I cannot illustrate the whole picture out of respect for my mum but I believe she is interested in putting herself out there on dating platform(s) but she is wary of having friends in real life seeing her profile on there. Also, she's under the impression that she would find it difficult to find a man with true intentions as well as be with her since she does not earn income (marriage led her to be a housewife, mentally abusive). I know it is not my place to make decisions for her. She is her own person, after all. But I would like to know how to support her as best I can. Please advise. Thank you.
|
datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
From a concerned daughter seeking insight
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/ogxxxo/from_a_concerned_daughter_seeking_insight/
|
rainingrhys
|
2024-02-28 07:50:38
| 1,709,106,638
| 0
| null | 0
|
1b20ka7
| true
| null | 22
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1b20ka7/i_want_to_turn_a_guy_down_politely/
| 11
|
Hi friends, I, 19(F), went on a casual lunch date with a guy I met on a dating app. He seemed completely normal over text message. A cute, employed college student with a cool hobby and his own car. He said some cringeworthy stuff before we met up, but nothing that was an overt red flag. I figured he was romantically awkward, as am I, or just flat-out nervous to be talking to someone new. Unfortunately, I didn’t feel much of a connection between us. He definitely had body odor. Of course he could’ve been sweating out of nervousness, but the smell was strong enough that it seemed like he didn’t shower properly or apply deodorant before meeting me. Otherwise his hygiene seemed fine, but I didn’t get close enough to find out. He works at a different location of the place we met up at. He bad-mouthed our waitress (not in front of her, thankfully) for “not following company policy”. The manager came to visit our table, and they had met before, so they ended up chatting in front of me for about ten minutes. I noticed his complaints about the company were outlandish. Honestly, the whole conversation sounded very immature. He also talking about being “wrongfully removed” from his fraternity over hazing accusations that he was supposedly the true victim of. And, worst of all, hitting a super morbidly obese kid on a bike with his truck. He said the kid peddled right in front of him. Like…okay? Yikes on a bike. Literally. Him being the victim of every single one of his stories threw me off. The only thing that didn’t sound suspicious was his relationship with his adoptive family. I don’t think I want a second date, mainly because hygiene and emotional maturity are very important to me. I thanked him both in-person and over text message, but he’s been asking me for updates and even a second meet up. I’m new to this. What would you say?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
I want to turn a guy down (politely)…
| 9
| 0.81
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1b20ka7/i_want_to_turn_a_guy_down_politely/
|
traisjames
|
2021-03-07 19:54:55
| 1,615,146,895
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
lzy8fv
| true
|
Venting
| 15
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/lzy8fv/pet_peeve_casual_dating_implies_sex/
| 4
|
Dating apps have options for casual dating or casual dates. Yes I like casual activities like doing a board game or video game or teasing cats with laser pointers. But no Instead casual tends to indicate wanting sex. I am asexual I don’t give a fuck about fucking until it’s baby time...which thank goodness there are non sex ways to do that. Give back the word casual!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Pet Peeve: Casual dating implies sex.
| null | 0.7
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/lzy8fv/pet_peeve_casual_dating_implies_sex/
|
throwey2k
|
2017-07-10 12:43:32
| 1,499,690,612
| null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
6me78r
| null | null | 11
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/6me78r/how_to_keep_the_texting_interesting_and_not_going/
| 2
|
I matched this girl on tinder whom i've met once before because of a mutual friend. This mutual friend was really trying to set us up, and we had a great night where we kinda flirted with eachother. Unfortunately she had to leave because another friend who she was staying with got seriously drunk. She seemed bummed out she had to leave. She even said i should come to her city and she could "make it up to me". I remember snapchatting with her for a few days after but she didn't seem that interested which is why i never pursued. This was like a year or two ago. When i matched with her now, i see that we don't live in the same city, and that she is a few hours away from me. I texted her an hour ago like "well hello there!" (So stupid ffs). I don't know what i hope to achieve when she lives hours away from me, especially since i SUCK HARD at texting. I have many friends in the city she's staying in, and the likelyhood that i might visit in the future because of them is very high. But how do i keep the convo interesting and flirty and not just let it be a "catching up" convo that ends in nothing and put the nail in the coffin on my chances forever? I feel like i regret texting her now, i just contemplated it for a long time and just went for it. Also, i just discovered that i actually have her fb, and that she even liked my recent profile pic. How did i miss that? Now writing to her on tinder just seems silly now doesn't it? Fuck, why do i worry so much?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to keep the texting interesting and not going into a stale?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/6me78r/how_to_keep_the_texting_interesting_and_not_going/
|
Aniolel1
|
2022-10-05 11:03:25
| 1,664,967,805
| null | null | 0
|
xw7ka6
| true
| null | 56
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/xw7ka6/women_i_understand_you/
| 0
|
I understand why women feel exhausted in OLD. They get bamboozled by matches by men who just swipe right. Let say, I was gay, and was looking for other men, then check by the end of day the app I was using, I would notice probably 20 matches in that. This would be annoying. I would just feel emotional tired and such. The lesson here is: 1)guys need to be more selected.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Women, I understand you:
| null | 0.43
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/xw7ka6/women_i_understand_you/
|
Appropriate-Fig-4623
|
2023-10-06 05:37:24
| 1,696,570,644
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
1714ayg
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1714ayg/ive_never_been_in_a_serious_relationship_before/
| 1
|
I (20M) has never been in a romantic relationship before. I am currently in my third year of college and don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m at a point where I want to be with someone that I can grow with as a person but I have to idea how to “chat up” a girl or anything like that. My buddies always ask me why I haven’t tried to get a girlfriend and I always tell them it’s because I’m too busy or because “it seems like a hassle” but in reality it’s because I’m not sure how I should even go about the whole thing. I feel like because I don’t have any past experience I’m just at a disadvantage with everything lol. Over the summer I downloaded a dating app but I quickly realized that even after I find someone who shares some interests and is attractive I’m met with the impossible task of “spitting game” or something like that to her go get her attraction. For people with little past experience, how did you go about meeting your S/O and how did you get past the initial stage I guess.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I’ve never been in a serious relationship before and idk what to do
| 1
| 0.99
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1714ayg/ive_never_been_in_a_serious_relationship_before/
|
Big_gruntGuy
|
2023-04-14 06:35:05
| 1,681,454,105
| 0
|
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
12lmz02
| true
| null | 44
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/12lmz02/how_much_someone_should_wait_for_are_response_in/
| 23
|
I am still learning how do use it correctly. I matched with this girl who is totally my type and I don't want to fuck this up. I spend it just one friendly message, but I don't know how much I should wait before sending another. I always overthink, so maybe my first message was just bad.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How much someone should wait for are response in tinder?
| 23
| 0.76
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/12lmz02/how_much_someone_should_wait_for_are_response_in/
|
mqvo
|
2017-10-05 06:48:46
| 1,507,186,126
| null |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0
|
74e9zx
| false
| null | 40
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/74e9zx/5_dates_and_he_m26_still_hasnt_made_a_move_on_me/
| 15
|
So I matched with this guy on Hinge about a month ago and we hit it off pretty easily. We bonded over music and scheduled a first date a week after we started messaging. Date comes around and we have a great time and end up talking for almost 4 hours (although I am the queen of long first dates- a bad date lasts for 1 hr for me and my longest first date was 11 hrs). He goes out of his way to walk me to the BART station and we hug, but he doesn't ask me on a second date, so I'm not sure if he wants to see me again. To keep this story brief, we texted after I got home and he said that he would love to see me again after I ask him if he wants to hang out again. However, he mentioned that I brought up grad school and that he's not sure if I'll be around in a year and he's looking for something long-term and he doesn't do long distance. My response is that I'd still like to get to know him better and at the very least I think we'd be good friends and he agrees. Fast forward a month and we've hung out 5 times and each time has been very date-like (he drives around and one of us pays for something, like tickets or the meal for both of us). Our second date was 7 hours together beginning at the zoo and ending with a walk around Lake Merritt. Our third date was dinner and a 7pm movie that ended with him talking to me in my room until 1 in the morning. Our fourth date was a hike in Santa Cruz and a full day just hanging out for like 8 hrs. At that point he had not tried to kiss me ONCE so I decided to take measures into my hands and invite him over to essentially Netflix and chill tonight. We were LITERALLY SITTING/LAYING ON MY BED FOR 2 HOURS watching master of none and he didn't make a single move on me... not one. He just left my house and we hugged but I'm confused... I know he's attracted to me but why won't he do anything? I know most (probably all) of you will tell me to make the first move, but he's the one who showed reluctance in pursuing anything with me to begin with, so I wanted to follow his lead in whatever we are. What do I do?? p.s- he's not inexperienced, he's been in at least 1 serious relationship before. we also text every single day, throughout the day. Wtf is going on?! ------------------- 10/12 update: Looks like @Sandi_T was right on the mark. We hung out last night watching a movie on my bed and no move was made, so I decided to just be upfront and ask him why. Long story short, homeboy is afraid of the possibility of long distance and being physical would make things so much more complicated. I decided that we should just be friends bc I'm not into the gray area.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
5 dates and he [M26] still hasn't made a move on me [F23]??
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/74e9zx/5_dates_and_he_m26_still_hasnt_made_a_move_on_me/
|
King-Moses666
|
2021-02-11 02:39:20
| 1,613,011,160
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
lhawm9
| true
| null | 9
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/lhawm9/need_advice_on_how_to_meet_girls/
| 6
|
TLDR: Busy straight edge guy with Low self Esteem/Low confidence need's help getting better at meeting new people. Particularly ladies. So this feel's embarrassing to ask about and I know the pandemic make's acting on this advice tricky, but I feel I need to. As the title mentions, I (25m) am in need of advice for how to meet women. I have always struggled with this aspect of my life because I grew up with low self esteem/self worth while also being a fairly introverted guy. Don't get me wrong, I love going out and doing things or hanging out with people. But just with smaller amounts of people and people I know better. I have always been that guy that if I got invited to a party by a friend and I don't know anyone else really, I just stuck with that friend. That was just who I was, the shy insecure guy who kept to himself. HOWEVER. Over the last few year's I have really been undergoing alot of personal growth. I have taken much better care of myself both mentally and physically. I have made huge progress in area's of my life I value and I got to officially start my journey towards my dream career back in June. One thing I have struggled with improving at is meeting new people. Particularly girls. Shortly after I started this journey to self improvement I met someone (she approached me) who I dated for a few years. So I never had a reason to work on that part of my life at the time. However here I am now. Not only wanting to get better at meeting girls but I also have to get better at meeting new people in general and giving off the vibe that I am 100% calm and not nervous at all so that my clients feel comfortable with me and in tern it will greatly benefit my career. It is the meeting new people thing that I struggle with the most and do not know the best way to go about fixing it. Yes meeting girls is a primary focus for me since it is the part I struggle with the most. However I am not trying to "be a player" and just seduce a bunch of girls as that is not who I am as a person. I am also not fixated on trying to get a girlfriend as I don't even know if I am ready to date again and I also don't want my happiness to depend on if I have a relationship or not. Things that I know about my situation. I know that by just doing it I will build confidence. I know that I am a fairly attractive guy (based on a few different experiences). I know that once I am relaxed around a person I am very charismatic and make people laugh. Plus I know that I am developing my life into something of substance, which I have been told is attractive. I do not want to use app's such as "Tinder" as I feel I will not grow by using them as a crutch. I am also a straight edge person so going to bar's/clubs (when they are open) is not really my thing as I just feel awkward being there as that sober guy. HOWEVER. I overthink everything. I have always been told that girls don't want to be approached at places such as the gym (if I combined all the places I have heard about girls not wanting to be approached there would be no options) so I am always self conscious about trying to meet girls at those places as I don't want to feel like a bother. There are so many things I question to myself about the initial approach that I can never think of what to try and say as a conversation starter and I can never decide when a "good time" to try and start a conversation is as I feel like they are preoccupied and may be stand offish if I approached at that time as I am bothering them. This may be rambly or redundant and I know that I wont be able to get "perfect advice" as everyone is different when it comes to being approached or approaching. I just have always struggled with this and need some advice on how to meet girls since I never learnt.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Need advice on how to meet girls
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/lhawm9/need_advice_on_how_to_meet_girls/
|
deviajeporaqui
|
2019-03-05 18:57:11
| 1,551,812,231
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
axor1j
| true
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/axor1j/3rd_date_curse/
| 1
|
It's just happened to me (27F) for the third time this year. Meet a guy (two off Tinder, one offline), have 2 what I consider to be good dates. They'd be the pursuers, but I'd try to match their interest level. Then they make plans for a third date, cancel and either never bother to reschedule and slowly fade out completely or give me the "you're awesome, but I'm not ready to date again after a recent breakup" line. It's so frustrating, cause I can't figure out why they'd change their minds AFTER being the ones to initiate a third date. Nothing sexual ever happens on these dates, so it's not a case of hit it and quit it. I feel cursed at this point and really discouraged about continuing to date. Has anyone had the same experience? What gives?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
3rd date curse?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/axor1j/3rd_date_curse/
|
_NewWave_BossaNova_
|
2020-04-12 02:27:15
| 1,586,658,435
| null |
['dating apps', 'tinder', 'pof']
| 0
|
fzob4f
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/fzob4f/dating_apps/
| 1
|
Trying to get back into the game. I'm using POF and tinder right now but man I have no idea what I'm doing and it's just not happening tbh. What dating apps do you guys find works best?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Dating apps?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/fzob4f/dating_apps/
|
CK3141592653
|
2020-03-01 17:37:51
| 1,583,084,271
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
fbxgad
| true
| null | 58
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/fbxgad/male_perspective_desperately_needed/
| 4
|
35F back in dating scene after 9 year relationship. New to Tinder and rusty AF. I’m a pretty forward person and have no problem initiating text conversation but now it feels like I’m the only one who ever initiates. Do men appreciate it? Are you guys turned off by it? Does it seem desperate? I’ve had dates with 3 different guys and it seems like I’m always the one getting texting started, the conversations are great during. But what is the modern day standard? There are texting norms and I just have no idea what is acceptable. I’m an attractive female, friendly, funny, outgoing so I’m struggling to navigate the waters and feel the vibe. Does not initiating texting mean they just aren’t into me? You can get the sense of how insecure I am now, I got out of an abusive relationship so my whole perspective is pretty askew. I get mixed feedback from girlfriends so I really need male perspective on this. Please and thank youuuuu :)
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Male perspective desperately needed
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/fbxgad/male_perspective_desperately_needed/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-11-03 22:51:41
| 1,415,055,101
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
2l7c38
| null | null | 2
| null |
/r/dating/comments/2l7c38/31m_dating_a_30f_in_nyc/
| 1
|
I went out with this woman named Joan back at the end of august. This time of the year I was getting ready to move and we agreed to setup a date. I was between places and staying at a friends place. We meet up and have a good time, we kissed at the end of the date. I followed up the following day and asked her out and she felt like nothing would come of this. I said well, if you ever change your mind give me a call. I walked away. I disappeared for 2 months. Started dating another girl for a month. Things were good there until it started to fade to black with the girl lying and being shady as shit. So, I had kik on my phone and saw that Joan signed up. We started talking 2 months after. We talked for a couple days and i asked her out. We went out again. Had a good time (little awkward) and at the end of the night we had a good passionate make out session before she went up to her apartment after i walked her home. She told me she had a great time just prior to the kiss. Next day, i txt'd her - I thought about last night and I had great time as well. I would love to see you again let me know if you like to meet up. I didn't hear from her until sat - and she asked me at 930 at night what i was up to. I told her at a friends place may go to this bar (she said she is too old) and we also talked about to another bar. She agreeed and told me she was with her friend from college (who is gay ) asked if i had any gay friends. I said i do and we sent photos back of each other to send to our friends (my friend was in BK so that wasn't happening) We meet up at a bar. We hang out we make out while her friend is chatting to some bloke from grindr. She puts her hand in my pocket. She Asked her friend if he is going to go to that guys place. He said no and asked if he was going home and he said no going to her place. so said we needed to come up with a better story of how we met (dating app) - like i rescued her from a bear. I was like we live in a city better chance of me saving you from a pitbull. we kissed again and parted ways. I went uptown she went downtown. i txt'd her today and our convo: Chris: ""Hey, I hope you had a good rest of your weekend, lets grab a celebratory drink on Weds for your vacation" Joan: "Weekend was good how was yours? Ill let you know about Wednesday I have a few things to finish up at work before I leave and I need to pack so I m not sure how crazy this week is going to be" Chris: Yesterday was good went to (BAR HERE) to watch football. I knew you might be busy due to work and the trip friday. let me know. Would girls just make out bc they want someone to kiss at 30 years old? with no intention? How do i tell if she is interested in me enough?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
31m dating a 30f - in nyc
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/2l7c38/31m_dating_a_30f_in_nyc/
|
treelightways
|
2023-08-16 02:08:21
| 1,692,151,701
| 0
|
['bumble']
| 0
|
15sch25
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/15sch25/should_i_work_through_my_feeling_guarded_or_not/
| 1
|
I'm talking to this guy long distance (2 hour flight, and he visits here regularly anyway), it's been only about 2 weeks. A series of very long video calls and texting - he is visiting on the 25th to meet in person for the first time. We both have been single for a few years- and both are not people who develop feelings easily, we're seeking something special and we both saw a lot of potential. I also noticed that he put his bumble profile on snooze after we talked the first time on video, and it's still on snooze...so he's invested in getting to know me but there are no expectations at this point. We've been in contact every day - mostly him initiating but also me. Not excessive texting but keeping a pulse. There was one full day he dropped off and I could feel him pull away. On his own accord, he admitted he did pull away, bc he started to worry that this whole flying to meet thing was a crazy idea, but then he remembered how much he loved talking to me and felt better. This was after I shared I was feeling some nerves about it, and he said he was fine. (It was a weird moment of, oh - you don't have any nervousness at all about flying to meet someone you met on bumble? Am I the only one here who is human??) So it was his first moment of vulnerability with me. Then I had a wild experience with a fawn and coyote over an entire night, the other night - that was terrifying and no one else was awake, but I knew he'd be bc of the time difference, so I reached out as I didn't know what to do. He responded. I finally got to get back asleep at 7:00 a.m. when neighbors took on the duty of calling humane society etc. We kind of ended the convo there with me going to sleep. Then I don't hear from him the rest of the day or night, or next morning...I finally reach out the next day, apologizing for reaching out to him in a crisis when maybe I shouldn't have, seeing as we barely know each other. Thinking maybe it freaked him out. He responded 8 hours later. Which is super long for him. He has checked in on me about much lesser things, and has been till now so much more responsive and communicative. It was a change. When he finally responded, it was just a "thanks for the note, no worries, I'm glad you reached out, how did it turn out and how are you" response. It's a cool response in comparison to his others. And i'm suddenly feeling super guarded. From the little I know of him, I already gathered he has issues around being vulnerable and I am the more vulnerable one, whereas he can kind of present as unflinchingly assured. That already was making me feel a bit cautious, but I wondered if it was workable and wanted to give it a chance since there is so much I did like. But this kind of made me feel too damn vulnerable and makes me want to not be vulnerable again. Especially since this vulnerability here made him go radio silence for 36 hours when he has not done that before. I know he isn't my boyfriend and doesn't owe me anything here - but the big change, especially in response to such a tender moment - felt really disconnective. It's also hard because we haven't met in person and can't just hang out and figure it out and see how it goes. He either is going to fly out here, or not. I could just use help with perspective and processing! Trying to figure out if my gaurded-ness here is wise and should be listened to, or if it's more a simple fear of rejection and I should push through?
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Should I work through my feeling guarded, or not?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/15sch25/should_i_work_through_my_feeling_guarded_or_not/
|
QuietLyric
|
2024-03-31 06:31:57
| 1,711,866,717
| 0
|
['online dating']
| 0
|
1bs3t3r
| true
|
Long Distance ✈️
| 9
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1bs3t3r/i_just_met_him_online_but_feels_like_its_a_do_or/
| 1
|
I just met him online but feels a do or die Long distance/ online dating is so karmic I think im nearing burn out with the online dating/long distance relationship with this guy. I met him online and I wasnt planning for a romantic relationship but ours have developed so intense that I just cant get him out of my mind. I dont know if he feels the same as he’s hot and cold. I told him goodbye (broke up) at one point as he’s just triggering but eventually falling back at him again. Yeah, i know call me stupid but I was the one who reached out again to him after I broke it off. We have never met in person yet im just so into him its so frustrating. Problem is that everytime he pulls away: not texting me or being distant and I stopped reaching out he will message me back asking me why Im suddenly not messaging back which is annoying. Dude im just mirroring your actions! Obviously I didnt tell him that but instead told him Im just busy which is true by the way. I just find it annoying that he’s surprised that I also have a life to live. He then become so sweet, intimate, shown his vulnerable side and chatty again. I called him out on his actions multiple times. He acknowledged the problem, apologized and told me he’ll do better but it seems like it wouldnt change. Keeps on telling me he’s looking after his elders, or had some firefiing at work etc. He said our communication will be better once we meet in person. He also tells me he wants to build his life with me and he loves me and now im starting to realize and tell myself its BS but heck here I am still here talking to him. Im crazy about this @ssh0l3 guy. At this point, im becoming numb and just let things be. I plan to visit his country this year but i dont know if i should even do that. Would it be a waste of my time.l? Part of me still wants to still see him just to get over this strong feelings for him as I do think it will help me validate if he’s really the one or I’m just in love with a fantasy of what he could have been. Any thoughts? P.S. ive dealt with hot and cold men before and i easily moved on like its nothing. This guy just makes me triggered it sucks
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I just met him online but feels like its a do or die
| 1
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1bs3t3r/i_just_met_him_online_but_feels_like_its_a_do_or/
|
Tacotol
|
2020-01-21 22:37:22
| 1,579,646,242
| null |
['dating app']
| 0
|
es2dgg
| true
| null | 22
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/es2dgg/i_m22_met_a_girl_f20_on_a_dating_app_im_pretty/
| 4
|
I don't really have any other details other than the title. When I was dating around a few months ago I decided I wouldn't settle for anyone. Also I don't want to lead her on. I understand how much that can hurt. That being said it's only one date who knows, I could be wrong and maybe I'll like her. What do you think?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I [M22] met a girl [F20] on a dating app. I'm pretty sure I won't end up liking her. She's not a bad person or anything, I just don't think we'll be compatible. She invited me on a date. Should I go on it just to make sure? Or do I decline?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/es2dgg/i_m22_met_a_girl_f20_on_a_dating_app_im_pretty/
|
puzzledbynature
|
2019-12-01 04:54:10
| 1,575,176,050
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
e4au6p
| true
| null | 8
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/e4au6p/ladies_what_is_a_safe_way_for_a_guy_to_ask/
| 3
|
I'm finding dating apps a bit too much admin, plus it removes the thrill of the chase by formalising a date. I'm a shared care dad, so I suspect any future partner is likely to have their own kids too.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Ladies, what is a safe way for a guy to ask whether you're both single and interested, but also offers a safe rejection???
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/e4au6p/ladies_what_is_a_safe_way_for_a_guy_to_ask/
|
Eagleman89
|
2021-06-04 02:38:06
| 1,622,774,286
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
nrumiy
| true
|
Tinder/Online Dating
| 9
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/nrumiy/whats_a_good_tinder_bio_when_youre_not_the_most/
| 4
|
Ok so I still have a tinder and want to atleast improve it. I’m starting to take better pictures now but was wondering what’s something good for a bio if you’re not the most attractive person or fit. And I know I’m not gonna have great luck if that’s the case but still
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What’s a good tinder bio when you’re not the most attractive lol?
| null | 0.84
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/nrumiy/whats_a_good_tinder_bio_when_youre_not_the_most/
|
jacksback5
|
2023-02-26 19:03:11
| 1,677,438,191
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
11cpkcx
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 6
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/11cpkcx/how_do_i_progress_after_a_successful_first_date/
| 6
|
Recently went on a first date with a girl I met on Tinder, we met at a bar for drinks, and we talked for about 2.5 - 3 hours and then went on a small walk. We had decent chemistry, although nothing crazy. There was no flirting/anything physical except for a hug at the start and at the end. She then texted me "I really enjoyed myself, you're a great guy, hope to see you again soon", that was last night and we haven’t texted since. So I'm not really sure how to progress from here? I feel like we need to do something which is more intimate/flirty. Sorry if this is pretty basic, this is really my first time doing this, and I think it's hers too!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How do I progress after a successful first date? (texting, flirting, etc)
| null | 0.8
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/11cpkcx/how_do_i_progress_after_a_successful_first_date/
|
Plupert
|
2022-10-12 03:45:24
| 1,665,546,324
| null |
['matched', 'swiped', 'tinder']
| 0
|
y1t8to
| true
| null | 8
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/y1t8to/i_think_i_kind_of_got_catfished_how_do_i_end_this/
| 1
|
I (M22) matched with this girl (F22) on tinder. She looked alright to me in the profile but had a bio that intrigued me so I swiped right. We matched and talked, we seemed to vibe well and she offered to text on Snapchat instead which I obliged to. I’ve been busy (which I told her) so we’ve basically just been talking for a few days. She sent me an actual photo today, and she looks nothing like her profile. I would let it slide but if I’m being honest, I’m not attracted anymore like at all. She also said a few things that made me feel like she might be kind of obsessive. She seems like a cool person but I don’t really have interest in going on a date anymore. So how do I end it without hurting her feelings? In theory I could ghost but I’d feel like a douche doing that.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
I think I kind of got catfished, how do I end this in the nicest way possible?
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/y1t8to/i_think_i_kind_of_got_catfished_how_do_i_end_this/
|
Aggressive_Gas224
|
2024-06-17 11:44:29
| 1,718,624,669
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
1dhw1yy
| true
| null | 14
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1dhw1yy/went_on_a_date_left_crying_as_a_man/
| 1
|
So i scored a date with a girl around my age on tinder and we set up time for meeting, i dressed my best all perfumed and met her at the agreed place, she saw me and we started talking awkwardly, after like 20mins she excused herself and never returned then blocked me on all social media, not even a kiss, no idea what went wrong i was in my opinion the sweetest guy she met, i strongly believe women nowadays date for free meals at a restaurant because that's what she did. I left crying and this was my first time dating as an almost 27 year old virgin man. Life is cruel to me for no reason.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Went on a date left crying as a man
| 1
| 0.4
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1dhw1yy/went_on_a_date_left_crying_as_a_man/
|
[deleted]
|
2015-07-27 00:42:34
| 1,437,957,754
| 0
|
['online dating', 'tinder']
| 0
|
3epsye
| null | null | 8
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/3epsye/whats_a_good_way_to_meet_women_that_doesnt/
| 5
|
Hi guys. I want to get out and work on my confidence a bit and the best way to do this is by actually getting out and trying and failing. A little background. I'm 24 and living at home unfortunately just trying to get a better job and start a career because New York is too expensive to be out on my own with what I make now as a temp at a finance company. Anyways what are some good places that I can casually talk with girls without really coming off as a bother to them. I just want to stay away from online (with the exception of tinder) and bars because I don't really have people to go with. I do go to the gym but I feel like most girls are in their own zones. Any advice is appreciated. :)
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
What's a good way to meet women that doesn't involve bars or Online dating?
| 5
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3epsye/whats_a_good_way_to_meet_women_that_doesnt/
|
KML9933
|
2022-07-17 05:34:10
| 1,658,036,050
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
w1003b
| true
|
Giving Advice
| 8
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/w1003b/some_encouragement_to_those_going_through/
| 10
|
Sooo, if you check my post history its fair to say I was a heartbroken mess After being dumped by my now ex of 4 years who I found after left me for someone else, I genuinely thought i would never get over her or be happy again... how wrong I was 9 months on I am probably the fittest, healthiest and happiest I have been since I can remember. It dawned on me that the last 6 months of the relationship I was miserable as, I just didn't realise it.. If I could give heartbroken me some tips to get through it... it would be this. \-Go no contact. I can't emphasise how important this is. Set boundaries with your ex, mine kept contacting me to "see if I was ok". I got my Mum to pick up all my stuff from her house and any important communication went through her. \-Find something you are passionate about. For me that was, and still is the gym. I threw myself into it, initially I wanted to get a revenge body to "show my ex what she was missing" but i soon realised that I had to stop thinking about her and focus on myself. So I did it for me. \-Lean on family and friends as much as you can. My friends were amazing and always there if I needed to vent, cry or rant .. Also - speak to a therapist if you can afford it. Mine is amazing and I still see her every couple weeks. \-Dont date until you are truly ready. I waited 3 months to get on dating apps. I have been seeing someone now for about 5 weeks, it seems to be going well but I am still talking to other people and enjoying being single. Dont use people as a way to get over your ex, but it can help you move on in a weird sort of way. Made me realise that there are so many awesome people out there and there is more to life than my ex. I was so nervous for my first date after being single but have found it better since then. If anyone is sad and wants to talk to someone that had her heart broken to pieces not so long ago, feel free to slide into my dms!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Some encouragement to those going through heartbreak right now..
| null | 0.81
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/w1003b/some_encouragement_to_those_going_through/
|
Throwawaydeeznuts691
|
2023-01-10 02:06:22
| 1,673,316,382
| null | null | 0
|
107xgcj
| true
| null | 38
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/107xgcj/have_u_ever_come_across_this_situation/
| 10
|
basically i've been talking to 2 girls and already been on a date with both of them. I ended up favouring one of the girl over the other. The other girl i didnt favour I kept them on standby. Like i still talk to them but didn't plan the next date. Now that the girl i favoured didn't work out i'm now going back to the girl i put on standby. I feel like so bad for doing this... Have u guys come across this situation?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
have u ever come across this situation
| null | 0.81
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/107xgcj/have_u_ever_come_across_this_situation/
|
Throwaythis12
|
2020-09-05 21:10:38
| 1,599,340,238
| null | null | 0
|
in92h5
| true
| null | 25
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/in92h5/do_i_have_a_time_waster_on_my_hand_also_tell_me/
| 4
|
Recently matched with a woman. She messaged first if it matters. We chatted an asked her when she would be available. She said she would have to play it by ear plus school is starting. No mention of kids on her profile. Only Pets..Although her profile does say love my family. Anyways she did come back an then said maybe the weekend. I always feel when they say tell me about yourself. Its some sorta trap question.
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Do i have a time waster on my hand? Also tell me about yourself? How do you answer that?
| null | 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/in92h5/do_i_have_a_time_waster_on_my_hand_also_tell_me/
|
[deleted]
|
2013-09-20 21:20:53
| 1,379,712,053
| 0
|
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
1msvx5
| null | null | 1
| null |
/r/dating/comments/1msvx5/26f_with_tinder_date_31m_i_really_like_him_but/
| 0
|
I (potential PhD) got matched with a cute guy with his act together (possesses PhD) on Tinder. He messaged me and got coffee. Made a point being happy about hanging out w/ a smart, good looking person. Had a great conversation and covered many things. Things progressed quickly, and ended up having sex (3x) but no sleepover. I didn't hear from him for about 3 days, I txted him 'How was your weekend?' and he asked me out for dinner for the day after. Dinner date, went to his place and made a terrible joke about how I only have sex on the 1st date, had sex again but seemed like he didn't want me to stay/had to get up early 7am. He's always a gentleman (doors, walking me to my car, etc). It's been 3 days since. Does this stink of a (albeit classy) booty call? Any advice on how to proceed? tldr: Am I being a big slut or am I just being needy? Or just paranoid? I've never done this before and I have no idea what I'm doing.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
[26F] with Tinder date [31M], I really like him but things may have proceeded too fast. Advice?
| 0
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1msvx5/26f_with_tinder_date_31m_i_really_like_him_but/
|
flexman2000
|
2020-03-26 21:09:26
| 1,585,256,966
| null |
['online dating', 'pof']
| 0
|
fpjqd5
| true
| null | 28
| 0
|
/r/AskMen/comments/fpjqd5/is_online_dating_worth_it_nowadays_if_so_what_are/
| 3
|
Had some success in the past, but that was the past. They removed a lot of features such as view who visited you... My friend recently enabled and paid for an account on pof and has been chatting with homebodies now
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
Is online dating worth it nowadays? If so, what are some good sites?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/fpjqd5/is_online_dating_worth_it_nowadays_if_so_what_are/
|
Firm-Vegetable1148
|
2024-04-30 15:29:43
| 1,714,490,983
| 0
|
['matched']
| 0
|
1cgvom5
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1cgvom5/when_to_be_exclusive/
| 1
|
I (25F) have been going out with this guy (25M) for a month. We’ve had two FaceTime dates, and three in person dates within the last twelve days. Our fourth in person date is planned for this weekend. Whenever we meet in person we plan our next outing. Our time on FaceTime/ on the dates have been increasing in lenh each time. We text daily as well. We have incredibly good conversation and chemistry, I haven’t felt like this before. On our second date, he told me he was really into the girl he last dated. They ended things right before matched online. He wasn’t looking for anything serious at first, then we matched and things changed. We’ve openly talked about dating, relationships, etc. He said he does want a relationship. He also mentioned he prefers that I make the first move. So, I’m wondering when it’s a good time to ask to be exclusive/ my boyfriend?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
When to be exclusive?
| 1
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1cgvom5/when_to_be_exclusive/
|
PurpleBlury
|
2024-09-10 17:27:51
| 1,725,989,271
| 0
|
['matches', 'matched', 'dating app']
| 0
|
1fdnkw2
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 13
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1fdnkw2/freaky_age_gap/
| 0
|
I (18F) met this guy (32M) at a dating app(i set my age preference at 35 💀), absolutely aware of how crazy it is but i really like him like alot. I'm like 10 tabs deep about this on reddit, Quora, blogs idfk name it. I've talked to older people before and made friends with them, and i just love their laid back and comforting energy while at the same time they can be fun too. Maturity is attractive what can I say? It kind of just happened and we just chatted a few times. Talked at calls just a few times (he's busy packing, and all) before he went to my location. he already got a ticket to where i was before we matched (he travels) so obviously we meet up and had our first date. (I know ot sounds bad atp) I'm pretty chill tbh, I'm not nervous at all or anticipated anything like my base emotion is pretty much neutral and I'm just there to purely enjoy the food, his presence and crazy stories that comes with his experience, and the activity together. You could say I'm an open person, I act immature at times (obviously for my age it's normal right?) which I'm aware of and ofcourse despite it I know myself, boundaries, and all. First date, it's pretty much established that we'll be hanging out casually, ( I know the age gap is too much 😭💀 like if there's a chance that I'll seriously be in a relationship with him it'll be very low) same with boundaries (no drinking, no wild shit, just fun date seriously) the moment we met we're like the same age interms of the way we act and communicate (don't go after him yet 💀 i act like I'm his mom sometimes too and like he's younger than me and it's hilarious 😭. By same age as in sometimes my age and sometimes his age) hanged out at the bowling point and we played pool also, it was fun! he's respectful and polite, doesn't really come across as creepy. We banter and flirt for the shits and giggles but nothing serious. Our humour matches too 💀 but yeah nothing too freaky also a little background story about some stupid shit he was up to (I have this little test where i tell the old people i mingle with at first that I don't know what's too much in the creepiness scale and i sort of find out what kind of person they are based on their reactions) Second date, cafe and park nothing suspicious. Discussing about his experience in my country and our opinions about it. We ofcourse agreed alot on things, values and some aspects we look for a future partner and we were very honest about it. Then i have moments where i just stare at him and LITERALLY GET ATTRACTED TO HIS EYES (💀) i just admire his face and shit. I know there are conventionally physically attractive mfs out there and i honestly rarely get attracted to them. Him, even the first time we met irl i pretty much already find it attractive but nothing romantic—not before the second date. BUT, i can also tell he's also quite nervous too which he later on admitted. He's emotionally sensitive guy, which I also like (i love emotional men) and acts like a child even sometimes i feel younger than me 😭 he's hesitant but he kissed my hands, later on we kissed (🏃♀️💨) not too deep like a peck. That's all there is and it's funny because we're walking and talking the entire time and we end up getting lost and just going around circles until we end up in the parking lot kissing. (We didn't do anything far than that but hugging and kissing, yes) From this onwards, we're talking about marriage abit more seriously 💀 and reality started to hit both of us like a truck because yeah. Reading about it online not alot of people agree with it, my mom also was worried but she trusted my decision. I have told my close friends and they also support me. We've decided to keep in touch as he leaves the country and maybe after 6 months we'll find out. Thoughts? Could ask for more details at the comments (Nothing too personal like names, addresses, locations, obviously)
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Freaky age gap 💀
| 0
| 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1fdnkw2/freaky_age_gap/
|
C__8_
|
2024-06-27 15:02:19
| 1,719,500,539
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
1dptf27
| true
|
Question ❓
| 9
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1dptf27/tinder/
| 1
|
Hello, what are good alternatives for Tinder? I'm not educated in this topic. Also how can I increase my chance to get a pair in this kind of apps?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Tinder
| 1
| 0.6
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1dptf27/tinder/
|
Fully-Necessary
|
2023-12-30 19:43:15
| 1,703,965,395
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
18unue6
| true
|
Long Distance ✈️
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/18unue6/desperately_need_advice_re_age_gap/
| 1
|
We’ve talked for like a year. We met on a dating app and he is deployed (service member). Has been there for a bit and will be there a bit longer. There have been periods where we don’t talk a couple weeks one time even a month. But we always end up talking again. I wasn’t able to see him last time he was in town bc of of my work, but I did truly want to see him. We still talk, a little less. I know long distance is hard, especially on a man with needs. But I feel that it’s kinda unfair to continue talking to me and not explain his intentions whatsoever. He’s quite the bit older than me, maybe that’s a concern. It just feels a bit disheartening, I tend to be seen as more mature for my age, feminists can call me lazy but I want a family asap. I got my degree. I’m more qualified than half the men in the workforce rn. He said he knew what he wanted, wouldn’t waste his time talking to someone he wasn’t interested in and we talk a lot. He is constantly apologizing for his job, and complaining that he’s tired of it and wants to settle down, but whenever he gets me to admit I would be interested in him he takes a step back. I can understand he might not be in a place where a relationship seems successful, him always moving around being gone blah blah. But at the same time he’s always seeking validation that I’m interested, I feel like it’s fair that I ask him the same questions. He will ask if I’m seeing other people, make assumptions and stuff like that. But I have no idea why he’s talking to me, if I had said yes to meeting up would he have even showed? I care and that’s why I need advice because I feel fogged by my feelings for him. I’ve never liked someone this much, and he is so darn funny. I’d love a scenario where this works out but I need an outside perspective maybe snap me to reality? Who knows maybe it will be what I’m dreaming of, maybe I’m just hoping to be swept off my feet.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
DESPERATELY NEED ADVICE RE: age gap
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/18unue6/desperately_need_advice_re_age_gap/
|
PhoKingSpicy
|
2020-08-29 07:08:35
| 1,598,684,915
| null |
['matches', 'swipes', 'swiping', 'online dating', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0
|
iio7b2
| true
| null | 21
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/iio7b2/does_anyone_have_any_online_dating_profile_tips/
| 3
|
Going two weeks straight with no matches in CMB, Tinder, Bumble, OKC, and Hinge has really got me down. I don't check constantly just for my health, but have "run out" of swipes of people in my area... In reality this continues back 3-4 years when I tried last and never got any matches back then either. Not sure, but I think it may be due to the location I am in. Don't consider myself unattractive, but I think because I am in San Diego it's rough to stand out of the pack online. Tried swiping in other countries before, and got way more matches. I even paid for some of the subcriptions just to see if maybe I was just swiping on the wrong people. Nope, I just didn't get people liking my profile at all. A little about me: 25 Years Old, 5'7", Slim/Normal Build, Vietnamese-American I'm a business professional that just graduated University. I'm also really into nature (like exploring tide pools), food, gaming, anime, DandD, movies/television, and general nerdy things. I like traveling too, but who doesn't? I mostly listen to pop/rock/alt/punk but I'll listen to anything. The concerts I have been to include: Alt-J, Vampire Weekend, Rage Against the Machine, Arctic Monkeys, 30 Seconds to Mars, Banks, Queens of the Stone Age, The Killers, and Passion Pit. Also have been to pop concerts like Tegan and Sara and Taylor Swift. Musicals are one of my guilty pleasures I can add more if people wanted to know more. I have a link of my profile screenshots (pics + bio) to send to anyone who is interested in helping. Thanks again for all the help. Don't really know where else to go for this
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Does anyone have any online dating profile tips for an Asian male struggling to get matches?
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/iio7b2/does_anyone_have_any_online_dating_profile_tips/
|
ChanceNobra
|
2019-01-26 03:28:55
| 1,548,473,335
| null |
['swipe', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
ajx8vn
| true
| null | 10
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/ajx8vn/looking_for_advice_on_how_to_let_women_know_im/
| 1
|
Hello r/Dating, I’ve tried the dating apps for a while and Im looking for some honest feedback about how I should approach conveying that I’m 5’6 tall without giving off the impression that i’m not confident or that I’m insecure about it. However I also don’t want to just hope that a girl will look at the height part of the profile and deal with a lot of girls who ill be forced to awkwardly ask if their ok with dating someone who’s 5’6... So how should I approach this? Is it ok to say “I’m 5’6 tall so if that’s a problem, swipe right” or do I need to drastically change it up?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Looking for advice on how to let women know i’m short without seeming insecure
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ajx8vn/looking_for_advice_on_how_to_let_women_know_im/
|
Electro522
|
2023-04-23 17:12:27
| 1,682,269,947
| 0
|
['OLD']
| 0
|
12wikg2
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/12wikg2/is_there_ever_a_time_and_place_to_approach_women/
| 0
|
And even the latter only works for one night stands, and such. From what I've seen, if there is ever a question of "I'm at/going to \[x\], should/can I ask someone for their number?" the resulting answer is usually a resounding "No." "That girl is there for \[insert reason here\], and isn't there to get hit on. Just forget it and move on." Ok...this is all well and good...but then does that mean that men are just barred from ever approaching women? Maybe this is a better question for the women to answer, so....ladies of Reddit, is there ever a time and place that you will feel comfortable about a guy approaching you? How can a guy do this in a way that won't immediately have your alarm bells ringing? I won't be surprised if there are different answers to this, since everyone is different, but maybe there is some common ground to be found here.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is there ever a time and place to approach women that isn't OLD or bars?
| 0
| 0.33
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/12wikg2/is_there_ever_a_time_and_place_to_approach_women/
|
Different_Bridge5678
|
2023-09-27 12:46:06
| 1,695,818,766
| 0
|
['hinge']
| 0
|
16tjma5
| true
|
Just Venting 😮💨
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/16tjma5/people_who_think_mental_illnesshaving_a_disorder/
| 1
|
This is really just a rant post. I’m not sure about anyone else, but I’ve noticed a disturbing rise in the amount of people trying to be cool or quirky through self-deprecating humor. To a degree this is fine, but the amount of “I’m probably autistic/ADHD” or “love girls who are slightly autistic” hinge prompt responses I’ve seen over the past year is staggering. The whole sad boy/sad girl trope that’s started now as well is just so exhausting. The amount of people who think it’s cool to say they’re sooo depressed because they like normal people or listen to Phoebe Bridgers is insane. Just like what you like without making it your entire sense of self! As someone who has been both clinically depressed and diagnosed ADHD it’s so exhausting, it’s a literal fight I have every day. I get making jokes about it to get through how hard it is but it’s going way too far. In one instance, I actually went out with a guy who had that kind of sense of humor, I found out he has never even been diagnosed with either autism or adhd but loved to make jokes about it. I did mention a few things he did could link back to it but I wasn’t sure and it was best to check with a therapist, and he totally ran with that as if I had officially diagnosed him. I’ve had a few other men in the past as well try to use me to diagnose them as if I’m a medical professional. I found out after they would say their “diagnosis” was the reason dating wasn’t working for them but in reality they were all assholes to me and treated me poorly. It’s almost like people are competing in the oppression olympics or something and want to be diagnosed to be cool even when they’re in some cases not even mentally ill/suffering from a disorder.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
People who think mental illness/having a disorder is a personality trait
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/16tjma5/people_who_think_mental_illnesshaving_a_disorder/
|
Awkward_Preparation1
|
2021-04-01 06:51:05
| 1,617,259,865
| null |
['hinge']
| 0
|
mhpko6
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 10
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/mhpko6/does_he_want_a_serious_relationship_should_i/
| 11
|
I'm seeing this guy since the end of January, I really like him and I think he does like me the same. In the beginning, I confess I started seeing him try to get over another guy that played me hard, the kinda guy that sends super expensive flowers to your house, takes you on trips, and great dinner finally gets sex, and then ignore you for a month, he uses the excuse he is always traveling for work and blah blah and sends more flowers to be forgiven, and 2 weeks later disappears again. I really reeeeeaaly liked the flowers guys and I wanted to make it work with him. I felt rejected and terrible when he disappeared so I blocked him in every form possible and decided I needed a distraction. I felt skeptical of putting my heart in the line so I decided I was only gonna date for fun, and I would do everything the opposite that I did with the flowers guy: not making myself too available, waiting to have sex, not hyper-focusing on him and let him take initiative. I met this really cute guy on hinge we went on dates basically every week and we waited to have sex until a month and a half in, and even now we don't do it every time we see each other. He asks me out for dinner, we have great conversations every time. We went ice skating and on walks and all that stuff. He messages me every day in my native language. I was really dating to pass the time but I ended up really liking this guy. He is a sweet and real gentleman when we hangout. He has that traditional charm to him you would expect an actor on an old movie to have. He has a great job, is finishing up college, and owns a property already at a very young age. He loves kids and plays the guitar, and has great smile. He is very supportive when I talk about projects and he is overall a great listener. He likes to go out with his friends and drink a little and I kinda like to do the same with my friends and none of us see it as a problem. I really do think though that he gets confused with my actions sometimes because I try to be very diplomatic and I don't say what I feel/think, and I'm never the one setting up our dates or messaging first. Pure PTSD if you wanna know. Of course I show a lot of interest and make sure he knows i love spending time with him. I like him and I think that's the moment where I have to decide if I want to risk it (again) and let myself feel more. I really feel like I start falling for a guy once I start letting myself express more of what I feel for him. And I really don't want to get hurt again. I also don't want to directly ask him if he is looking for something serious or not because I feel like that puts pressure and I don't want to pressure anything. I just want to at least have an idea of his intentions and let it roll. Those are some indicators I got from him: \Our 2nd date was actually on valentine's day. He specifically invited me that day. \He introduced me to two of his friends. \He makes plans with me for the summer. \He takes me to his house and he told me last week I could come over whenever I wanted. \He invited me over to hang out with him on his birthday. I know it seems pretty obvious, but my question really is: would any guys here say and do all of this to a girl they didn't themselves long term with? Do you think he could still just be looking for something casual? really don't want to get hurt. And should I start to take initiative sometimes? What do you think?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Does he want a serious relationship? Should I start making myself more available?
| null | 0.82
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/mhpko6/does_he_want_a_serious_relationship_should_i/
|
Least_Formal_9067
|
2023-08-15 05:01:39
| 1,692,075,699
| 0
|
['tinder', 'bumble']
| 0
|
15risfa
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/15risfa/i_need_professional_help_25_never_dated/
| 1
|
Need help meeting some girls and how I should go about it. I know it might sound crazy, but I'm sure I'm not the only one. I've never even been on a date or even kissed a girl. My physique isn't the issue I'm 6'1" and have a muscular build, I've exercised since I was 13 / 14 years old. I feel it's my social skills is my biggest issue cuz I'm an introverted person and always been a bit of a loaner. I've also been told I'm good looking and ugly so that hasn't helped and kind of messes me up in the head. But I know I can't be too bad look cuz I catch girls checking me out every once in a while, or at least I think they are, who's to say. And the couple times I've put myself on Tinder or Bumble with pictures I thought were good I hardly got any likes and never a real match and just deleted it after a week. And it's a bit of an ego killer, and to tell you the truth I don't even try at all just to avoid the awkwardness. And it doesn't help either I've only had jobs where it's pretty much just other guys, so meeting someone through work is out the window. If you have some genuine advice of how I should start and build up some confidence would be much appreciated. I know I sound like a sad sap, but everyone starts somewhere. Whenever I turned 21 I told myself I'd already been dating / have a girlfriend by 25, but time has flew by fast and before I know it I'll be 30
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I need Professional Help / 25 never dated
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/15risfa/i_need_professional_help_25_never_dated/
|
dietomakemenfree
|
2023-02-14 17:26:40
| 1,676,395,600
| null |
['matched', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
112axg5
| true
|
Just Venting 😮💨
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/112axg5/can_we_all_please_stop_using_the_youre_so_pretty/
| 0
|
"Wow, thanks, stranger, you find me attractive. I assumed as much; you matched with me after all. Can we talk about something of substance? Oh, wait, you don't have a bio or interesting prompts. Okay, peace out." That is the exact thought process I usually have when I see such an opening. "You're cute" is one of the lowest forms of conversation, it rivals "remember when" and "how about this weather?." In fact, it often does so little to advance the conversation that both parties, in my experience, will quickly become disinterested, despite the supposed "attraction." How about instead of catcalling each other, we all take a little bit more time to understand the talents, interests, and passions both parties hold? Cause I'll tell you what, my genetic disposition, a factor I had zero control over, does not make for a very interesting conversation.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Can we all please stop using the "you're so pretty" topic of conversation on dating apps?
| null | 0.4
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/112axg5/can_we_all_please_stop_using_the_youre_so_pretty/
|
Amazingmrzz
|
2022-12-21 19:27:00
| 1,671,650,820
| null |
['matched', 'swipe', 'tinder']
| 0
|
zry8a5
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/zry8a5/tldr_my_ex_and_i_started_talking_again_after_a/
| 1
|
Title really explains it all. Me (22m) started talking to my ex (20f) about three weeks ago. Was on tinder and saw her and for some stupid reason decided to swipe on her. We matched and have been talking basically everyday for around three weeks. Our relationship started at the end of last year only lasted around two months before she decided to just dip out of my life with no warning. In the beginning she seemed to be literally obsessed with me and I loved every second of it. She is so pretty and we shared basically all of the same interests ,and I had never felt that sort of connection before. I was head over heels for her and was the happiest I had ever been. When she left it crushed me and I'd be lying if I said I ever got over her. Anyways back to the present. When we started talking again she said she was sorry and that she has changed. She starts the conversation basically everyday; but throughout the day our conversation seems do die and I get left on read. Then the next day it starts all over again. It's just insanely confusing to me as I don't understand why she would talk to me unless she wants to start our relationship again. I want to ask for her intentions; but in the end I guess I am just scared to know the answer. Part of me hates her for leaving in the darkest part of my life, but another part of me cannot let go. I'm probably just stupid and overthinking everything. I just suck at this shit and have no clue what to do. I know I never should of opened this door again, however I did unfortunately. Any help or suggestions would be very appreciated.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
TLDR my ex and I started talking again after a year and I don't know what to do.
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/zry8a5/tldr_my_ex_and_i_started_talking_again_after_a/
|
Khanthebrit
|
2021-10-27 19:35:46
| 1,635,363,346
| null |
['bumble']
| 0
|
qh4nim
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 3
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/qh4nim/cant_set_up_a_date_until_next_weekend_what_do_i_do/
| 1
|
Met a girl on bumble, have been texting for about a week, now brought it into text on mobile. I have asked her out, except we're both very busy people and there's a bit of distance between us that makes meeting up a bit harder. When you combine distance and time we only get the opportunity for the weekend. She is unfortunately away this week, which could be a cop-out excuse, but I personally believe it is not given we still seem to be sending lenhy texts throughout the day to each other. That and also we both work very demanding jobs. My question is I'm only going to be available on weekends, so we've got a week and 2 days. That's a lot of time to fill with texts and I feel she may lose interest. Should I arrange a date now or arrange it closer to the time (next week)? And what do I do in the meantime while we wait?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Can't set up a date until next weekend! What do I do?
| null | 0.67
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/qh4nim/cant_set_up_a_date_until_next_weekend_what_do_i_do/
|
[deleted]
|
2020-11-13 15:49:23
| 1,605,282,563
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
jti1lk
| true
|
Tinder/Online Dating
| 43
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/jti1lk/ive_dated_both_men_and_women_via_tinder_im_just/
| 18
|
Tinder is a very toxic place. Most people I meet there are not good to me. Most guys I meet on there are straight up complete assholes that lie about everything, put on that they are much nicer than they are to manipulate me, and simply use me for sex. Then they’re gone. Most women I meet on there are obsessed with themselves and picky as hell on who gets a date with them to an extent that is completely unfair. Both are extremely discriminatory from the start and like to draw big conclusions from small data points. Not sure how much of women’s behavior is caused by men’s behavior. I wouldn’t doubt it if a lot of the stuff that is toxic in dating is originally caused by some asshole men. They are more explicitly fucked up. I really don’t understand why it’s so hard to find normal, honest people on there. People like me. I have to conclude that I’m a weirdo, that I’m not the norm. That most people are fucked up and selfish af. And then I need to somehow not let that affect my expectations :/
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I’ve dated both men and women via Tinder. I’m just gonna be real. These are my conclusions.
| null | 0.65
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/jti1lk/ive_dated_both_men_and_women_via_tinder_im_just/
|
Jaded-Answer-7794
|
2021-06-23 19:24:00
| 1,624,476,240
| null |
['dating app']
| 0
|
o6jyli
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/o6jyli/left_on_read_cant_read_the_situation/
| 1
|
F 24 - I’ll try to keep this short! So earlier this year I decided to giving dating a shot, after a messy lock down break up from an almost 3.5 year relationship. I’ve been on dates before, but I think the nerves + anxiety of this being the first one since my relationship built it up way more. I hadn’t anticipated it’d be anything more than dipping my toe back into the dating pond. I met this guy from a dating app, and it was like meeting my double- he was a fair bit older and seemed liked a very kind and considerate man. As soon as the first date was done he asked me for another which came within a week. He made it very clear how interested he was and how he didn’t want it to be a one time deal. All was going well for the following few months until I got a message- seemingly to me- out of the blue, saying he wasn’t feeling the same. I accepted it and didn’t react angrily ect. I can appreciate that people aren’t always going to feel the way you do. Even if I was surprised and saddened at the sudden end. We cut contact immediately (after usually talking most days all days All was well after the initial upset and I had fully come to terms with it and left it up to life’s funny plot twists blah blah. Anyways, recently ( after months of no contact) he sent me a message late one night saying if I wanted to speak to him I was able to. This rubbed me the wrong way a bit, but I responded in a chirpy and chill way- not wanting to start any drama. A few nights later I get another message (where he admitted he was intoxicated) saying he missed me. I responded again saying I was confused (still in a passive non angry way). He then apologised the next day, we spoke some more throughout that day and the next, he sent me a funny Facebook video, I responded with one and it went on. There was one message I didn’t open till the following day because of general life busyness, and after that he left me on read and has seemingly deleted our chat+ un added but hasn’t blocked me ? I am confused. I’m wondering if it is that he misses me, or maybe he met someone and it hasn’t worked out? My friends think it may have been that he wanted more of a reaction from me, or to know I’d still respond if he got in contact. I just don’t understand what the point in contacting me was? If anyone has any thoughts they would be greatly appreciated.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Left on read and can’t read the situation?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/o6jyli/left_on_read_cant_read_the_situation/
|
Kaniwai
|
2021-05-07 23:04:20
| 1,620,428,660
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
n7bjrl
| true
|
Venting
| 3
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/n7bjrl/just_saying/
| 0
|
I’ve been single for awhile now. And haven’t had much success in dating. But lately at work I see couples together and it makes me yearn for that feeling. Now I’m not saying everyone’s relationship is perfect because I don’t know them. But the way they look at each other The silent communication that only they know. The smiles when their eyes meet. The feeling that they are happy. I know what that feels like. And it makes me yearn for love and a relationship. Isn’t that what we all want. It makes my heart hurt to think It may not happen. Especially when I have so much love to give and want it in return. I want someone to look at me that way again But here we are in a different time where you have online dating read a profile, message, FaceTime. We use these things to date. Can you really get to know someone this way. I find it difficult. People can be anything they want on these platforms. So who do you meet a person who has made themselves someone they wish they were. Or are you meeting some who tells you what they think you want to here. What ever happen to being your authentic self and being happy with who you are. And if they like you and you like them it becomes easy. Because you don’t have to think about a thing just be you. I know I’m going hear about it. But it is really that easy. When I use to meet someone if I liked you and you like me we would see where it went. And if if for some reason it didn’t work that was ok We kept it moving no hard feelings. I miss those days. But today there’s so much mistrust, ghosting all kinds of tactics that has nothing to do with love. That makes it hard to find love at any age But I believe in love and after this pandemic I’m going to make it a point. To just be me like I’ve always been and hopefully I’ll find the love I’m looking for. My heart is open. . Be your authentic self and let’s go find the love we want and deserve.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Just saying
| null | 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/n7bjrl/just_saying/
|
aftr_hrs
|
2023-05-24 18:02:41
| 1,684,951,361
| 0
|
['dating apps', 'tinder', 'bumble']
| 0
|
13qstp3
| true
|
Question ❓
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/13qstp3/im_sick_of_dating_apps_how_do_i_meet_people_irl/
| 2
|
Dating apps don't seem to be working for me. I've been on and off Tinder for about 2-3 years now and nothing, not even a new friend. Recently joined Bumble, where I've chatted with people a lot more than I do on Tinder, but still nothing. Most people I know met their SOs in school, university, work or via friend of a friend. But I'm not very outgoing, since I pretty much fell out of touch or cut ties with what 'friends' I had in school and after, and my other two best friends live in different cities -- one even in another country. And the ones I have here either don't have suitable friends to introduce me to, or simply refuse to mix me with their other friends. I'm pretty limited to working with the people on my team at work, so not much opportunities there either. (Company doesn't specifically have a rule about relationships between employees. But there are around 5 couples that I personally know started in that workplace. The company gives a bonus to every new mother, and if the dad also works there, he'll receive one as well.) Any new hires are younger than me and pretty much teenagers. I've been attending yoga classes a few times a week since the beginning of the year, but it seems the groups there are already formed. And the few times I've seen guys attend those, they're either married and came with their kids, old enough to be my father, or dragged there by their girlfriends. TLDR: How do I meet guys IRL when I have little friends and zero social life?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I'm sick of dating apps, how do I meet people IRL?
| 2
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/13qstp3/im_sick_of_dating_apps_how_do_i_meet_people_irl/
|
pharmluver
|
2024-02-13 01:47:42
| 1,707,788,862
| 0
|
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0
|
1aphi0s
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1aphi0s/situationship_im_confused/
| 1
|
essentially, idk whether to continue putting effort into this “situationship” (if you could really even call it that) with this guy (22). me and my ex broke up around november and this new guy added me on snap and had a streak but i honestly thought nothing of it. fast forward to january, he gives me his number out of the blue and we start texting everyday, sometimes even until 5am. we eventually start calling kinda often. i wouldn’t necessarily say that our conversations were flirty, but he told me that i was the only girl he talks to everyday, blah blah, etc. my guy friend told me a few weeks into us “talking” that i should simply just ask what his intentions are with me in the sense of just being friends or if he is looking for a relationship. even his tinder account (that i also matched with) says he is looking for a long term relationship. i call him and he didn’t blatantly say that he was looking for a relationship, but that he doesn’t use tinder anymore (although it’s still downloaded), i’m the only girl he talks to everyday, etc. so obviously my feelings were a bit hurt because my intentions were clear from the beginning. we get into a slight argument, conversation is rocky for a few days, but eventually conversations are back to normal, he calls me randomly and we have hours of phone conversations. he still hasn’t asked me to hang out once. we have been talking everyday for over a month, and i feel like you would start to hang out with someone at this point. ig i’m just confused as to what we are doing here. he calls me pretty and beautiful on a semi-normal basis so i feel like im not wrong to assume that his intentions lie within a relationship. can someone please tell me what to do?? i’m tired of wasting my time and being upset over this guy😩
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
situationship? i’m confused
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1aphi0s/situationship_im_confused/
|
Jetzombie01
|
2023-12-05 22:21:33
| 1,701,814,893
| 0
|
['matched']
| 0
|
18bo66w
| true
| null | 7
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/18bo66w/bad_breath/
| 2
|
So I matched with a girl and we hit it off. everything was great and going well over text. When I met her in person i was very excited. The only issue... her breath smelled rotten. Like genuinely like rot. I was instantly taken back by it and was kind of turned off. I do like this girl but how do I address this issue? Do I talk to her about it? Do I politely back away. Cause when I say the breath was bad I mean BAD. What do I do
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Bad breath
| 2
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18bo66w/bad_breath/
|
carolinaa_
|
2020-04-27 01:08:26
| 1,587,949,706
| null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0
|
g8qnrn
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/g8qnrn/texting_first/
| 2
|
Male and Female. Both in our 20’s. Matched on a dating app. I matched with someone on A dating app about a month ago. We immediately hit it off and I feel as though we always have awesome conversations. He does have my number and have moved on to texting... for a few weeks we texted everyday and had an ongoing conversation that never really came to an end. Our conversations entail a lot of really good laughs, details about our days, who we are, and it’s genuinely very pleasant.. recently he didn’t text back at all. I made the decision to leave it alone for a few days and than I opened up the conversation again in a fun way. We again had a great talk and even discussed possible “going on date options”. I decided to actually end the conversation at night time in a positive way and said goodnight So my question is.. should I reach out first again? I know as a society we always expect the guy to text first or make the first move. I however don’t mind reaching out first specially if I do get an interest and a good conversation out of it. Is it also really necessary to talk everyday? Or should days in between conversations be allowed?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Texting first.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/g8qnrn/texting_first/
|
pizzaguy573871
|
2020-10-05 13:25:04
| 1,601,904,304
| null |
['matches', 'online dating']
| 0
|
j5jc37
| true
|
Venting
| 29
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/j5jc37/the_notso_shocking_disparity_between_how_men_and/
| 7
|
I get that both of these rants are counterproductive, I just wanted to outline the differences. guy: i get no matches on online dating, dating is hard this sub: work on yourself, you need to do everything to make yourself attractive, nobody owes you a relationship, nothing is guaranteed girl: all guys only want sex, i feel like im gonna be single forever this sub: oh dont worry, the right guy is out there for you!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
The not-so shocking disparity between how men and women are responded to on this sub
| null | 0.62
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/j5jc37/the_notso_shocking_disparity_between_how_men_and/
|
Few-Seaweed2635
|
2023-10-28 14:59:24
| 1,698,505,164
| 0
|
['dating app']
| 0
|
17ifjg9
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/17ifjg9/should_i_follow_heram_just_confused/
| 1
|
So days back I was lonely the I decided to look for somebody to date on this dating app lucky I found one and we were able to link In the dimly lit cafe, eyes met across the table, sparking a connection that felt like destiny. For weeks, they shared secrets, dreams, and whispered "I love you" into late-night calls. But as time passed, the messages grew less frequent, and the late-night calls turned silent. Their love story ended not with a bang, but with the fading glow of unanswered messages and aching hearts, lost in the vast sea of digital connections.so should I keep chasing her or what should I do???
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Should I follow her????am just confused
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17ifjg9/should_i_follow_heram_just_confused/
|
EP-1966
|
2021-04-18 14:48:37
| 1,618,757,317
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
mte7hp
| true
| null | 13
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/mte7hp/hard_to_think/
| 0
|
I (29M) (I know it’s still not 30, but almost there) met a girl (29F) on Tinder at the end of 2019. We went on a few dates in which there wasn’t sexual tension but enjoyed each other’s company. In 2020 we kept close contact via texting, at least twice a week. I wasn’t sure that I wanted something more than friendship with her until October 2020 when we starting to text heavily everyday. I have developed feeling for her. I stated to her that I would like to try something more physical to our relationship. She replied that there wasn’t sexual tension at the beginning and that with COVID it obviously has been difficult to have a sexual encounter. After that, our conversations became a lot more flirty with lots of teasing practically everyday. I started to tease her a lot with the possibility of having sex on a determined circumstance. We went on a few dates that went fine but we didn’t kiss, which made me felt like I was dragging. Nevertheless, I finally arranged a good date (went to pool at a private club, had lunch) and then we hanged out at a place that I had available for the encounter. It was a first for me because I have not had any sort of sexual experience. We still had a great sexual encounter. However I had kind of ED, maybe because of it being my first time? It’s was embarrassing but she was comfortable and comprehensive and still managed through through the use of hands. After that we drove back to her place. During the conversation she mentioned stuff about her ex (all this time we never talked about previous relationships) how things ended and how now she remains good friends with him mentioning “I have a better relationship with him now than when we were together”. When I asked his name she said “I’m not going to tell you because it’s a very unique name and I’ll be easy to find 😬”. Later when we arrived at her place I told her that “what’s going on between us? I’m not a casual guy, and that I’ll be looking for something more serious. She replied “Were knowing each other...it could be and said goodbye with a kiss. Any thoughts?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Hard to think
| null | 0.5
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/mte7hp/hard_to_think/
|
Jaytotheosh
|
2020-03-18 02:30:25
| 1,584,498,625
| null |
['online dating', 'tinder', 'bumble']
| 0
|
fki4ax
| true
|
Tinder/Online Dating
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/fki4ax/anyone_else_ever_been_catfished_after_really/
| 8
|
Just found out I got catfished on bumble and I’m pretty hurt actually. Was talking to someone for almost 3 week before I discovered. We are both busy professionals so we couldn’t really find the time to meet. We would have these really deep talks on the phone for hours about everything. Made plans to camp and backpack and have our dogs play. And I never thought to video chat. But when I did everything changed. And then it hit me that I was being played. They tried to play it off and they did a pretty good job but I should have been more suspect about a few things like her instagram had pictures of her and her friends but no one tagged or she wasn’t tagged. And then only a few likes for a pretty attractive girl is unheard of. i was naive. When I tried to confront her, she blocked me and I think she was using one of those apps that changes your number. I told them some pretty deep information about myself and what had happened in my life. And they live in my area because they know certain things that only a local would know. It just blows my mind that there is someone out there that knows me and where I work (I tattoo) and other deep and personal information... And they can stop in my shop at any point or see me out in public and I would never know it’s them. It’s crazy to think about. honestly don’t know if I want to online date anymore. Anyone else experience this or can relate? Did you try online dating again? I mean i did date someone for a few years off of tinder.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Anyone else ever been catfished after really liking someone? How’d you deal with finding out?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/fki4ax/anyone_else_ever_been_catfished_after_really/
|
yuckyblucky197
|
2024-02-15 16:21:03
| 1,708,014,063
| 0
|
['hinge']
| 0
|
1arj921
| true
| null | 9
| 0
|
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1arj921/advice_on_a_guy_i_just_met_should_i_expect_for/
| 1
|
We’ve agreed to a date last week. Actually 2 weeks in advance because my schedule was crazy for the last two weeks. I asked him for a place and time and he said he was going to look into something, but said it would be dinner and drinks. I initially thought we were just doing coffee because that’s what he originally suggested, but he said he has an event he was going to that morning. I asked him again Tuesday, if we still plan on having our first date this week and he said yes. I asked for a place and time and he said he’d have to look into it again and get back with me. It is now Thursday and he still hasn’t said anything to me. Should I ask one more time, go with the flow or just assume that this may not be happening? I haven’t gone on many dates, but the few I’ve been to, I knew well in advance where we were going and the time. Reservations were usually made and it seems like this guy hasn’t done anything yet. Also, this guy has made being a Christian he’s entire personality. It’s broadcasted fully on his dating profile. He talks about God and church all the time and spends a majority of his time at church and being involved in it. He started off being subtly sexual and overly flirty when we began texting , which was a bit surprising to me. I’ve never met someone who could quickly go from overly flirty, to God in the same conversation like that before. He eventually became very blunt and outright said the things he wanted to do to me and sent nudes. I entertained it because I was horny. He sent nudes/ videos and one of them had his face in it. He sent an audio message of him dirty talking to me. I never sent him anything in return. We were in the process of planning our first date and I was bit worried that he’d expect to have sex with me so quickly, so I explained how I want to eventually , but I’d like to take it slow. I also asked what was his intentions and if he just wanted sex and he said no and now he wanted to form a genuine connection with me. We continued to text , but after that I noticed he updated his hinge profile. His messages wasn’t as detailed & were responses/ topics that didn’t hold much of a conversation anymore. Last night he said he had a church event to go to. He took hours to respond back to me and said he’d be going to sleep. I see he posts on his Instagram story an hour later a sermon of a preacher talking about conquering sin and one of them included lust. It was actually the first thing that was said in the video. I’m not sure if I’m looking more into this, then what it is. But, I’m just confused as hell because he initiated all the sexual stuff.
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
Advice on a guy I just met. Should I expect for this date not to happen?
| 1
| 0.31
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1arj921/advice_on_a_guy_i_just_met_should_i_expect_for/
|
kamper1447
|
2019-11-15 23:01:10
| 1,573,858,870
| null |
['online dating', 'dating app']
| 0
|
dwyg9t
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/dwyg9t/sending_follow_up_text_or_wait_for_her_to_contact/
| 2
|
So long story short I met some woman on an online dating app 3 weeks ago. We went on about 7 dates in the first 2 weeks (a lot I know but the invites were reciprocal). I went away a couple weekend ago where we kept in contact. After I got back after the weekend, I noticed she became quiet, she'd respond but not initiate convos. Then after about 5 days of not talking, she hit me up on Saturday night asking to come out with her and her friends. I met her friends and they were like oh you're so and so we heard a lot about you. Everything was fine she contacted me the following day talking about her day and I said lets schedule something for this week and let me know when you're free. She said ok. Then I followed up the next day how's wednesday work and she responded I'll let you know I may be scheduled to work. Well this past week rolls around and she never followed up. I typically like taking the approach put in as much as your partner puts in which is tough since I've met all her friends now and have gone on about 7 dates with her. Is it worth following up this weekend trying to re-schedule something or just wait for her to contact me (if she does at all) ?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Sending follow up text or wait for her to contact me
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/dwyg9t/sending_follow_up_text_or_wait_for_her_to_contact/
|
MereMermaid
|
2014-09-28 09:25:33
| 1,411,896,333
| 0
|
['online dating']
| 0
|
2hopji
| null | null | 17
| null |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/2hopji/i_22f_only_see_the_guy_ive_been_dating_25m_for/
| 0
|
I've been seeing this guy I met online since July. We have a lot in common, get along great, and have a wonderful time together. We haven't had any "talks" about being boyfriend-girlfriend, which I am okay with; I like to move slow. I do know that he deleted his online dating profile a while back, for what it's worth. My issue is, we only see each other about once a week on average. We'll text for a bit every other day or so, but he's not a great texter (it'll take hours for him to reply)-admittedly, I am not either. All of my past relationships were in high school and college, where you would naturally see someone pretty much every day because of school/living in the same dorm/etc so I am not really sure how to handle things now. I don't want to come off as needy, but to be honest, it's hard to really bond with someone when you see them so rarely. When we are together, it's great-he's affectionate and comes up with good date ideas; I don't feel like I'm a hook up buddy. He doesn't really have a lot of relationship experience and we both have very busy careers. I'd like to see him maybe twice a week at least, but the last thing I want is to be needy or make him feel pressured. I've felt that way in the past and wouldn't want to do that to someone else. What are your thoughts, TwoX?
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
I (22/F) only see the guy I've been dating (25/M) for about 2.5 months once a week
| 0
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/2hopji/i_22f_only_see_the_guy_ive_been_dating_25m_for/
|
lilboyblue26
|
2021-04-29 01:01:50
| 1,619,658,110
| null |
['online dating']
| 0
|
n0tcq7
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/n0tcq7/i_dont_understand_online_dating/
| 1
|
I understand people making profiles to get to know people and talk, but there’s hardly any of that happening. After 3 responses the person will just go ghost and in their profile they say they want to get to know someone and it’s just a cycle of that. I’m annoyed with it and I know not to take it personally and I’m not expecting much but I’ve got so many chats that just have 1 or 2 responses and just ghost after that. (I’m not saying anything weird either I’m making unique conversation, not just generic “hey, how’re you?).
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I don’t understand online dating
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/n0tcq7/i_dont_understand_online_dating/
|
[deleted]
|
2021-06-26 06:27:07
| 1,624,688,827
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
o85djm
| true
| null | 11
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/o85djm/how_to_make_myself_approachableattractive/
| 12
|
(M20) This may be an odd question but I’ll try my best to articulate what exactly I mean. I’ve always been a hopeless romantic. I have never been in a relationship before, and the closest thing to one was a few dates that I went on with a girl from Tinder. I lament the fact that I have not yet found anyone to be in a relationship with, and I’m always thinking about getting into one but I’m told that I should let it come to me. I shouldn’t be desperate or appear desperate as I am told. I should focus on myself and let it come to me. But how exactly does that work? How do I make myself more approachable or attractive? I consider myself very shy, and I suffer from social anxiety. I’m scrawny and fashionable in terms of how I setup my outfits (trenchcoat, turtlenecks, trousers, leather and suede biker jackets etc w/ Chelsea boots). I used to work out as of recently this year but I’ve been suffering from bouts of depression so I have quit doing that for now. Edit: Reworded the second to last sentence.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to make myself approachable/attractive?
| null | 0.87
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/o85djm/how_to_make_myself_approachableattractive/
|
lipgloss_addict
|
2019-03-14 20:38:06
| 1,552,595,886
| null |
['swiping']
| 0
|
b15gcw
| true
|
Question
| 69
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/b15gcw/im_short_do_men_care/
| 8
|
Hi, I'm 5' 1 and 3/4. :) . I really don't care about the height of the men I'm dating. It makes me sad to read on here that so many men are rejected by women who seem to want men who are 6 feet and taller, even if they are short like me. So it made me think - I'm honest in my profile and my pics - I'm not hiding how short I am. Is there a bias against short women, the same way there appears to be a bias against shorter men? I don't hold that bias - I'm not swiping left because you are under 6 feet if you are in Phoenix :)
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
I'm short - do men care?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/b15gcw/im_short_do_men_care/
|
Vulcan_Jedi
|
2020-06-22 03:10:34
| 1,592,795,434
| null |
['matched', 'dating site', 'bumble']
| 0
|
hdk5bt
| true
| null | 2
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/hdk5bt/how_do_you_avoid_self_sabotage/
| 1
|
I (M25) matched with a girl recently on bumble that I seem to get along with well. I’ve never talked to anyone on a dating site like this before, and she’s pretty cool, we have a lot in common. But I have been single for so long and I’m so inexperienced with dating, that I have a serious feeling that no matter how much we connect, it’s eventually going to fall through. Some friends of mine asked me to elaborate when I told them and the best I could explain it is “it’s like a science experiment that I know is going to eventually fail” I think I’m so used to being alone and being sidelined from dating that an actual connection with someone new legitimately scares me. It doesn’t help that I’ve been hurt badly by girls I cared for in the past. I just feel so hopeless and this is all so new to me, how can I try not to sabotage myself?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do you avoid self sabotage?
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/hdk5bt/how_do_you_avoid_self_sabotage/
|
hopelesspickle
|
2019-08-18 13:30:40
| 1,566,135,040
| null |
['matched', 'swiping', 'dating app', 'tinder']
| 0
|
cs17ds
| true
| null | 19
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/cs17ds/foreign_guy_gave_me_his_for_foreigners_only/
| 2
|
Ok, long story short: I’ll be going to South Korea next year for studies. To get more acquainted to culture and people I decided to try this one App that was advertised as “Meet Koreans who are eager to make foreign friends just as much as you do”. And though many people there are in fact for cultural exchange, the majority still use it as Tinder (you have to match before you can start chatting). No problems with that 🤗 Anywho, one day the swiping led me to a dude sooo fine, I had to super-like him. I was also able to find him on Instagram right away (I just copied his Korean name that was in the App to the Instagram search bar). On his dating app profile he talked about his struggles with English and how he’d like to get foreign friends to better it. And because he was so fine, when we matched I wrote him first talking about how I’d like to do “cultural exchange” with him because I just started learning Korean and in return I can help him improve his English He was down, obviously. We talked through the app for two weeks and on one specific day when talked about our hobbies he mentioned that he plays guitar. And I was like “Aw, I’d love to hear it (The app allows photo and video sharing). To which he said “I just post some on my Instagram. Do you have Instagram?”. I was like “Finally, we’re moving to something more real”. And because I previously checked his Insta and there were no guitar playing vids whatsoever I thought “OMG, he posted a video of him playing the guitar to Insta just for me? How sweet”. I switched to Insta to check it, aaaand, there were none? That was weird but I said “Of course, what’s your @? I’ll add you”. He gives me his handle which is very similar to the original that I found, but it’s a private account and has lot less followers. (His original has 500+ where as the one he gave me has 150+). And I sit here thinking “that’s obviously an account he created to talk to foreigners he meets on this dating app” and it’s sketching me out. Should I play along and add his “private account” and see where it goes or is he obviously just playing me and I shouldn’t even waste my time on it? Thoughts, please! 😭
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Foreign guy gave me his “for foreigners only” Instagram and Idk how to feel about it?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/cs17ds/foreign_guy_gave_me_his_for_foreigners_only/
|
zenlikerafiki
|
2023-01-16 23:39:56
| 1,673,912,396
| null | null | 0
|
10dwe5o
| true
| null | 13
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/10dwe5o/what_do_you_think_about_girls_shooting_their_shot/
| 6
|
Question for the cute guys, what do you think when girls DM you on insta? I (F) personally get a lot of dm requests but I’m never attracted to the guys or they’re way too young, so I find it annoying. But have you ever gotten a DM from a girl you found attractive and did you reply or is it an instant turn off because there’s no chase? Context: Not a guy from online dating. He watched my Instagram story. Edit: I did and he replied. Now I’m nervous 😝 thanks guys
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
What do you think about girls shooting their shot on Insta?
| null | 0.69
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/10dwe5o/what_do_you_think_about_girls_shooting_their_shot/
|
DisasterDater
|
2018-08-04 11:55:35
| 1,533,383,735
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
94ilso
| true
| null | 9
| 0
|
/r/AskMen/comments/94ilso/how_do_i_tell_guys_i_had_prospects_with_that_i_am/
| 0
|
So I downloaded tinder, and started chatting with strangers. Met one about half a dozen times and we agreed to be exclusive. I removed tinder around our 5th date and he did before that. Both of us have flirts, but we've mutually agreed to cut it out. Now, I have a few people from tinder and outside of tinder I have been flirting with. Some of them I'll ghost, as we rarely keep in contact, but two in particular have been civil to me and I want to thank them for their time and make it clear that they're gentlemen, but I found someone else. The third person is a friend of a friend who I see because of our mutual friend. He is interested in me, but I was not. I do not believe I have lead him on but I do enjoy his platonic company. How do I do that? Do I wait until the next time they text me, or do I automatically chat up with heya, how u doin? and talk for a while and then inform them? Edit: I have to say though, I have had a casual, sexual thing with a tourist who's traveling for two months, then coming back (not for me). Should I give him a headsup?
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
How do I tell guys I had "prospects" with that I am now exclusive with someone else?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/94ilso/how_do_i_tell_guys_i_had_prospects_with_that_i_am/
|
aneurysm-p
|
2015-05-16 00:57:57
| 1,431,737,877
| 0
|
['pof']
| 0
|
364e5p
| null | null | 10
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/364e5p/should_i_stop_texting_this_girl/
| 6
|
A girl on pof sent me a message first - she has her intention up as 'not interested in a relationship or commitment' like I do so I get her number just so I could test my luck because I had a feeling she might be down. I tell her we should meet up and she asks 'when', I ask if she's free tonight and she says 'na', I ask about tomorrow and she says 'depends'. That's two tries and it's starting to feel pathetic. Should I just give up at this point?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I stop texting this girl?
| 6
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/364e5p/should_i_stop_texting_this_girl/
|
ConsistentMagician
|
2020-09-20 14:57:35
| 1,600,613,855
| null |
['OLD']
| 0
|
iwfbek
| true
| null | 28
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/iwfbek/how_do_you_stay_hopeful/
| 9
|
Like, literally, what do you do to stay in a good place about dating, especially OLD, especially during pandemic times?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
How do you stay hopeful?
| null | 0.91
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/iwfbek/how_do_you_stay_hopeful/
|
ropes108
|
2019-06-20 09:15:49
| 1,561,022,149
| null |
['tinder']
| 0
|
c2tso3
| true
|
Venting
| 18
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/c2tso3/why_is_this_so_hard/
| 4
|
I imagine there are a million posts like this here already but hey, there’s a ‘venting’ flair for a reason I guess. I’m a 32/M. Average attractiveness as far as I can tell but that’s a weird one to try to judge. People will tell me I’m attractive from time to time but I’m no model. Tinder results would suggest that I’m far less attractive than that. Girls I’ve been with have always been above average attractiveness, in my eyes at least. I’ve probably had around a dozen sex partners. Main relationship was 8 years from age 22-30. Right now my experience of dating just seems so damn effortful. Online is not a reasonable cost/benefit analysis for an average dude. I’m not interested in nightlife so doing bars/clubs is incongruent. Mindfulness is my thing so I’ve made myself a regular at the largest local group in my city but so far (few months) I’ve not met a single potential partner. As for randomly meeting a stranger, well, I don’t know if this is just me but do people seem more and more closed? Is it technology? People seem to avoid eye contact and seem pretty averse to the idea of opening to a stranger. I’m very competent socially– I teach as part of my work and get on very well with everyone– it never takes me long to form good friendships when there’s some common ground to start from. Sex is how we all got here. And yet from my earliest memories of trying to relate to women things just seem so difficult and contrived. I’ve had some success, sure, but except in the rarest of cases where things have clicked it’s always felt as if this success has been against the odds– like I’ve had to jump through hoops, fight against layers of social conditioning and then maybe succeed in spite of it all, and in spite of myself. Why? Why is something so natural so hard?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Why is this so hard?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/c2tso3/why_is_this_so_hard/
|
selectric25
|
2013-12-09 22:32:17
| 1,386,628,337
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
1shxfz
| null | null | 22
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1shxfz/i_22f_met_a_guy_on_tinder_23m_we_hooked_up_havent/
| 3
|
So a little background, I recently got out of a pretty serious relationship that lasted three years. I am not looking to jump back into another relationship at all, but instead would like to enjoy being single. I met this guy on Tinder and after our first date we seriously hit it off. We had a lot in common and conversation flowed naturally. After getting drinks we went back to his place, had a steamy makeout sesh, and I went down on him. I forgot my necklace so I came back again a few days later to get it and we end up having sex. It was incredible. After a few days I ask if he is free to hang out the next night and he says, "yeah, unfortunately." His texts became less frequent, until he just stopped responding all together. It's been like a month since we last talked, and I'm wondering if I should hit him up again or just let it go. I feel like he might think I want to be in a relationship but truthfully I'm just a friendly person who gets excited when meeting cool people I hit it off with. I want to be clear that I just want to hook up or be FWB. TL;DR Hooked up with a guy I met on Tinder and it was incredible. Haven't heard from him in a month but would like to hang out with him again. I'm not looking for a relationship, and just want to be FWB.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I [22F] met a guy on Tinder [23M], we hooked up, haven't heard from him in a month
| 3
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1shxfz/i_22f_met_a_guy_on_tinder_23m_we_hooked_up_havent/
|
LilT012
|
2021-05-30 16:59:49
| 1,622,393,989
| null |
['OLD']
| 0
|
nofdls
| true
|
Question
| 55
| 0
|
/r/datingoverforty/comments/nofdls/mixed_signals_or_crappy_texter/
| 19
|
I (45F) recently started dating a 38M I met online. We’ve gone on four dates in the past three weeks and have seen each other every weekend since our first date. We both made it clear we were looking for a LTR and after the first weekend where we had back to back dates, we discussed how we were not talking to anyone else but were just going to focus on how this was going. Sounds amazing so far, right? He will text in between dates, and sets them up in advance but when I text back he takes up to 12hrs to respond. He sometimes will ask a question and I’ll answer and then get crickets...which is completely frustrating. Why ask a question if you have no intention of following up? I’ve mentioned how this a trigger for me due to past relationship cheating trauma and he said he’d work on it. He has two phones for work and one personal phone, so he’s always connected. I just got a tattoo done and was sitting for it for 6hrs and he hasn’t even inquired about it. To me this is an indication of lack of interest. I realize everyone has different communication styles, but if you were really interested in a person wouldn’t you be more invested in their daily life? It also seems like now that he has me “locked in” the communication has waned a bit. Prior to our first date we’d talk on the phone at lenh and that has completely evaporated. I know it’s very early in and I’m trying to go with the flow...but I’ve been ghosted and submarined in this OLD environment and it just sucks. So is he just a crappy texter or...?
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Mixed Signals or crappy texter?
| null | 0.95
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/nofdls/mixed_signals_or_crappy_texter/
|
RoyAshton11
|
2021-03-21 22:05:56
| 1,616,364,356
| null | null | 0
|
ma7en2
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/ma7en2/whats_a_dating_app_worth_paying_for_in_your/
| 0
|
I'd like to filter by ethnicity, for example. I have a weakness for Asian ladies that's all.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
What's a dating app worth paying for, in your experience?
| null | 0.27
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/ma7en2/whats_a_dating_app_worth_paying_for_in_your/
|
AerialSnack
|
2022-10-10 19:06:32
| 1,665,428,792
| null | null | 0
|
y0n3qn
| true
| null | 25
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/y0n3qn/women_being_grounded/
| 10
|
How often do you come across this, where you're talking to a woman in their early/mid 20s, been off the app chatting for a few days, make plans, the. They say they can't because their mom doesn't want them to or they're grounded? I get living with your folks, I've seen the state of the economy. But getting grounded as a full on adult? What? And it's pretty damn frequent too. Is this just a roundabout way for them to say they're not actually interested? I'm no longer actively looking, but it's something I saw A LOT. And now, my current girlfriend (who lives with her mom) is complaining about how she's grounded. I am just baffled.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Women being grounded?
| null | 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/y0n3qn/women_being_grounded/
|
Sunlitstream264
|
2020-02-03 02:53:06
| 1,580,698,386
| null |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
ey05bm
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/ey05bm/cant_decide_whether_to_try_dating_apps/
| 1
|
(19M) I live in a smaller rural area and have never had a gf or anything. No luck whenever I’ve had a crush (obviously). I’m also finishing community college and hope to be at a university in the fall so I don’t know if I should just wait and if still no luck by the end of university try an app. Anyway I’ve been debating for a long time if I should try joining a dating app but I also want my first date to be meaningful not just a one off with a stranger you know. Should I join one?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Can’t decide whether to try dating apps...
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ey05bm/cant_decide_whether_to_try_dating_apps/
|
dixcnormous34
|
2018-04-06 22:32:09
| 1,523,053,929
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
8adplw
| false
| null | 32
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/8adplw/almost_30_and_still_flirty_maybe/
| 12
|
I’m 27, never had a serious relationship and the last grandkid that hasn’t brought home a prospect to meet the family (not to mention I was raised a single child and grandmas favorite so all eyes on the black sheep) I’ve had a few “friends with benefits” but that’s as good as it got. It’s not that I haven’t had crushes or pursued someone, most often times than not they get into relationships with other people as they’re talking to me. I wonder if it’s just me or if there’s something I’m doing wrong ...or not doing? I’ve been told I’m too aggressive, too independent, too outspoken, and my favorite “too picky”. I need an honest answer to the “you’re so pretty, why are you single?” question I get almost once a week. It’s not that I’m looking to get married asap or have kids (also the last of my peers in that dept.) but I want to know what it’s like giving all my love and affection to a human and not my fur baby. I want to make sure I’m not broken? I went as far as downloading Tinder but the only thing I’ve gotten out of that is enough dick pics and disgusting messages to carry into the next lifetime. I’m also a hopeless romantic so I don’t know if my expectations are set too high? Maybe I’m just not interesting enough or missing the signs? TL;DR possible hopeless romantic that’s hopeless and lacking romance
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
almost 30 and still flirty ...maybe?
| 12
| null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/8adplw/almost_30_and_still_flirty_maybe/
|
MoronicH52
|
2020-03-01 14:50:40
| 1,583,074,240
| null |
['matches', 'online dating']
| 0
|
fbv0pr
| true
|
I Need Advice
| 22
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/fbv0pr/antisocial_loser_cant_get_laid_junior_year_of/
| 3
|
I’m a college student that went through a breakup 10 months ago. I’ve wanted to get myself out in the dating realm and decided to try by going out with my friends to parties on campus. I cants stay out late though because I have work on the weekends at 7am. I have a little social anxiety when it comes to dating women, or even just talking to them. But I’ve also tried online dating and have gotten no matches that would satisfy me. There are people that I’ve wanted to hookup with, but most likely have no interest in me at all. I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I’m not sure if I can remedy this problem at all. I need someone to tell me what to do. I even wann try to ask someone out at work, but I’m not sure if they have a bf. What do I do?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Antisocial loser can’t get laid junior year of college
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/fbv0pr/antisocial_loser_cant_get_laid_junior_year_of/
|
crocodilemagique
|
2022-02-13 18:14:32
| 1,644,776,072
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
srp0dw
| true
| null | 10
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/srp0dw/id_28f_rather_ruin_the_relationship_myself_than/
| 1
|
I've seen the guy 3 times. I like him, I think he likes me too. He's still active on dating apps which is normal, I am too but only out of boredom, not in the aim of dating multiple guys (not my cup of tea anymore). I could see myself growing attached to him. I've been in similar situations before, stayed in a casual situation for way too long, I've been "outreached" recently by another girl with some random guy I was seeing, and as much as it was strictly physical, it still freaked me out and caught me by surprise. Dating life :') I can't ask the guy to be exclusive. How do you go with the flow and take a leap of faith? I feel it's easier to blow up something that does not exist, rather than liking him more and waiting for my turn, because it's too early anyway to voice those feelings.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I'd (28F) rather ruin the relationship myself than getting too attached
| null | 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/srp0dw/id_28f_rather_ruin_the_relationship_myself_than/
|
ThadFTTG
|
2022-03-26 09:35:57
| 1,648,287,357
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
tol0m7
| true
| null | 15
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/tol0m7/how_exactly_do_you_find_a_girlfriend_as_an/
| 5
|
So my most recent post was me asking “where exactly do I meet women as a 19 year old” I both posted here and on r/Dating and I honestly just don’t feel satisfied with the replies. Some have told me to go to night clubs, bars, parties, social groups etc. And I get that people are really trying to help me but I’m just so damn disatsified. I was also suggested geek conventions and such cause I’m a gamer but I’m just not satisfied with those either. I personally don’t really like to go out often unless I have to or want to go see a film or whatever. But other then that I much prefer to stay at home and study game dev and such because that’s the field I want to be in. Idk I guess just being an introvert makes it harder to get a girlfriend. Also even if I were to go to places like comic con or whatever, I more so would like to go to just be myself and have fun rather than talking to cute girls. Also I get that I’m 19 years old and such, but if I’m going to get married in the future. I’ll might as well start my journey of finding my significant other now ya know? I just find it difficult because I can’t figure out how even after hearing so much advice. I also wish that dating apps weren’t such fucking cancer otherwise I would be lucky by now. Yep, never signing up for one of those again. So anyways How exactly do you find a girlfriend as an introverted man?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How exactly do you find a girlfriend as an introverted man?
| null | 0.78
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/tol0m7/how_exactly_do_you_find_a_girlfriend_as_an/
|
[deleted]
|
2015-01-14 05:15:40
| 1,421,212,540
| 0
|
['dating site', 'match.com']
| 0
|
2sdcwg
| null | null | 0
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2sdcwg/analyzing_a_first_date_from_a_girls_perspective/
| 1
|
So I met a girl on match.com before Christmas and we really hit it off talking a lot almost everyday. She was homeschooled, very religious and well mannered. Mostly stemming from her parent's strict upbringing. Speaking of which, she used to be in foster care. So needless to say she wanted to take things slow due to her past relationships with people in general. So I asked her out just for dinner last week. All weekend she didn't play it cool, kept on saying how excited she was for Friday. The date went great. We sat and talked for over 2 hours. The majority of the time we were just hysterically laughing because we had already gotten to know each other. It was getting late and we decided to call it a night. For the record, I always pay the check. Especially on a first date since I just feel it's an unspoken duty. She insisted on splitting the bill. Not one of those polite offerings, she really wanted to. I didn't mind and many say that this could mean a variety of things. Again for the record, I always kiss on the first date. Just to show what my intentions are. If she rejects me that's fine since at least we know where we stand. So I walked my date back to her car and chatted for a bit. When it was time to say goodbye she hugged me and said to text her when I get home and we both went our separate ways. That was Friday. Since Saturday I haven't heard from her. She's not the type of person to be glued to her phone. Even before this we would text sparingly every day. She hasn't been active on Facebook or the dating site so I don't know if she's just genuinely busy. Should I still pursue this?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Analyzing a first date from a girl's perspective?
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2sdcwg/analyzing_a_first_date_from_a_girls_perspective/
|
minniemu123
|
2021-08-12 04:28:07
| 1,628,742,487
| null |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0
|
p2skhc
| true
| null | 9
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/p2skhc/he_asked_me_to_go_with_him_to_a_gala_after_not/
| 2
|
Out of the blue, he texts me and in the middle of our convo, he asks if I'd be interested in going to this gala event with him. He said he is not talking to anybody and I was the 1st person he asked and that it would be fun to go with a date. Here's some backstory. We work at the same place (we never see each other) and we matched on Hinge last year. He was consistent at 1st, kind of poanned a date but never confirmed so it never happened. It then faded out and stoo texting. We would see each other at gym and he would never say hi. We would text every now and then but nothing would come out of it, no date. He asked me out couple of months later, I found him boring, but had a crush on him. Looking back, it seemed as he was not emotionally available or maybe just shy? He never text again and me neither. Months later, I texted him about something and we kind of revived things a bit. Once he texted me at midnight, I called him out bc I am not for booty calls (didn't tell him that though haha) he apologized for being flaky and said he hasn't dated anyone since his last GF -made me think he was not over her. We went on a walk. Again, it was not as fun and a little boring imo. He did text me next day, but I was not sure since I wasn't sure if this time he was serious. I was talking to someone else and didn't want to risk it, so told me we better as friends. I broke up with BF after 8 months. He matched me on Hinge and message a bit. I was expecting for him to ask me on a date since we were past the texting stage. Not the case. He then text me but convo died. This happened twice. No date. Then, he asks me to be his date on this gala event. We went for drinks and was interesting, I still think he's cute, but am skeptical about his intentions. He did offer to cook dinner at his apartment (after 1st date last year he suggested the same thing). I don't understand what he wants. Did he invited me bc he truly doesn't have a date and was just looking for someone to go with (which weird bc we haven't seen eah other since last year's walk date) OR he wants to tey something, whether it's him testing the waters casually or hookup? Please help me understand this guy and his intentions. Part of me says he's insecure and is afraid to put himself out there since I kind of rejected him last year (after walk date), and the other part says, he is a fuck boy and is looking to just sex. What do you think? EDIT: I (F) am 28 and he (M) is 31 years old.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
He asked me to go with him to a Gala after not talking in months. What does that mean?
| null | 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/p2skhc/he_asked_me_to_go_with_him_to_a_gala_after_not/
|
Ritch89
|
2020-04-27 20:23:53
| 1,588,019,033
| null |
['online dating', 'dating apps', 'tinder', 'okcupid']
| 0
|
g98m70
| true
| null | 10
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/g98m70/for_older_virgins_or_lonely_people_i_have_a_good/
| 0
|
So I am an average/above average looking 30 year old dude that lost his virginity at 19 and I have been with a couple of women in my early to mid twenties. However, since about 5 years ago I never managed to find another relationship, one night stand or fuckbuddy. I only visited hookers regularly, but there is no way to get much of an emotional connection with them, and lets be honest, paying for sex just isn't all that fun. And I hate condoms. Now the times that I managed to score women was when I still had some good friends left. I could hang out with them, we went out clubbing, they introduced me to girls they knew etc. But over time I lost contact with them (because of a new job, moving to another city bla ba), so without a social network to get women I was now forced to use Tinder and OKCupid. I hate those dating apps. I hated those online dating websites back then years ago and the dating apps are even worse because its all linked to Instagram and Facebook accounts. So if you don't have a lot of nice pics (like me) and you are up against tall charismatic pretty boys and bodybuilders, you can pretty much save yourself the trouble of installing apps like that. I never had succes with it. Now I don't really remember how I came up with the idea but I placed ads on a lot of online communities (like craigslist for example). In those adds I wrote that I was a 28 year old virgin that wanted to lose his virginity. Age didn't matter, looks didn't matter, I just wanted a romantic date. I didn't expect much from it. In the next few days I got some emails from hookers looking to make some bucks, swinger couples, gay men, scammers, you name it, but there was one email from a 36 year old woman who was interested and gave me her Kik name. So I added her on Kik, exchanged a picture and man, she was stunning, really beautiful. She told me why I was still a virgin and told her that I simply was too focused on work and education. She said taking someone's virginity was one of her kinks so we decided to pick a date next week when her kids were out of her house and staying at their fathers place. So, I stopped jerking off for a week. Went to her appartement a few days later and boy, it was a succes. We watched a movie, then went to her bedroom, she started blowing me, and then riding me (without condom) untill I came like a Fountain of Joy in her. A weeks worth of seed and a couple of years of frustration squirted deep inside of her. You don't wanna know how much I needed that. So to sum it all up. If you want to get laid but don't have any friends, or you fail at dating apps. Place ads on all sort of websites saying you want to go on a date to lose your virginity. And if you are not a virgin, like me, it seems to be a fun way to get a one night stand once in a while. Only thing you have to do is to pretend you are not experienced at all, and act all shy at some moments. I hope I may help some people on here getting succes without dating apps by using this tactic. TL;DR: Its been 5 years since I had sex (not counting prostitutes) so I placed an add online (wich took no effort at all, just short info, no pictures), posing as a 28 year old virgin, and hooked up with a beautiful woman. Stay safe.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
For older virgins or lonely people, I have a good strategy that may help you lose your virginity fast, and/or to get a one night stand.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/g98m70/for_older_virgins_or_lonely_people_i_have_a_good/
|
nubleteater
|
2018-03-17 18:39:03
| 1,521,311,943
| null |
['matched', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
855pi2
| false
| null | 5
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/855pi2/need_advice/
| 1
|
I got a mutual like on OKC with a girl and we started to chat for a good while. I think the vibe was good and there was a lot of back and forth. I then proceed to ask her out on a date on Sunday, she said she has to check her schedule, and after that her responses were a lot less frequent. This has happened to multiple girls I've matched on dating apps, are they just generally flaky or am I doing something wrong?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Need advice
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/855pi2/need_advice/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-05-22 20:28:55
| 1,400,790,535
| 0
|
['tinder']
| 0
|
268ni0
| null | null | 4
| null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/268ni0/is_it_douchey_to_wear_sunglasses_on_a_first_date/
| 1
|
This is my first time ever having a first date during the day (met this girl on tinder). My eyes are really sensitive to the sun and my eyes are practically closed at times. Would it come off as douchey wearing my sunglasses or should I just champ it out?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is it douchey to wear sunglasses on a first date?
| 1
| null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/268ni0/is_it_douchey_to_wear_sunglasses_on_a_first_date/
|
Cribbycosplays
|
2023-10-24 04:49:09
| 1,698,122,949
| 0
|
['matched', 'dating apps', 'tinder', 'hinge']
| 0
|
17f4rxx
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/17f4rxx/advice_on_a_breakup_that_happened_over_a_year_ago/
| 1
|
Hi, I’m 24 female and I don’t know if I’m crazy or not. (this is my first post so bare with) I met a guy over a year ago on tinder and we kinda hit it off. Overall, I think from the moment of speaking to dating it was a 3-4month ordeal. We went on a few dates, with the 2nd date me losing my virginity to him. I’m aware that is quite fast but it just seemed right at that time. I was 22 at the time of this, with no real dating experience at all. Due to some health conditions and anxiety, I was terrified of being vulnerable with someone and I just would hide away from any form of intimacy, even though I was longing for it. Anyways, I met this guy (I’ll name him C) and he was also the same age as me. We genuinely hit it off so well it was really scary but comforting. We went on a few more dates and he also stayed round my family home quite a lot, meeting my mother and my little brother. C went really weird after a while, not really responding to my messages and being really off. He had a lot of stuff at home but he wouldn’t really open up as much as I did. Then a week later, he would go back to his normal, bubbly self? He then all of a sudden just called it off. It was a really big surprise for me because it was so out of nowhere, I didn’t really understand and I spiralled into a deep depression because I thought it was my fault. C reassured me it wasn’t my fault and the whole cliche of “it’s not you, it’s me” vibe. C told me it was because he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he started crying because he felt bad. I was so confused because it was only a few times he’d be off with me but the rest of the time he would spout how he wanted me to meet his mother and 3 sisters, or how he was so happy that he met me etc etc. We spoke for a few months after, even meeting up with me again for a catch up but nothing too serious. Then, all of a sudden, he completely ghosted me. It really hurt as I didn’t understand, I know it’s probably not a good idea on talking to someone you’ve just split up with but it hurt so bad. I found out he was on dating apps again, as he had been talking to someone who i knew of. It genuinely came quite a shock. I found his socials and started to spiral, checking daily if he had any updates with his life but I’d stop myself from going too deep. I still check every so often and get really upset, but I don’t know how to stop checking and I don’t know if I have the guts to block him. So skip to this year, in April, I found him again on Hinge and I don’t really know what came over me but I sent him a like. I didn’t think much would come of it to be fair but I was still kinda hung up on him. I didn’t hear anything till around about July, where it had notified me C had in fact matched me again. We spoke for 3 days, my older brother advised me to just ask him what he wanted out of me so I wouldn’t get my hopes up. I did brave out that hard hitting message and he never responded. I would be on hinge throughout the year, just not really interacting with anyone in particular, yet he was still in my hidden messages. But about 2 days ago, I went on there once again to find he had disappeared. I’m not sure how to get over him and I am aware we were only dating for a short period of time. I just need some advice on what I should do because I don’t actually feel like I could risk dating anyone again for the fear of the same thing happening?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Advice on a breakup that happened over a year ago
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/17f4rxx/advice_on_a_breakup_that_happened_over_a_year_ago/
|
Playful-Aide-7355
|
2024-07-16 07:26:24
| 1,721,114,784
| 0
|
['matched', 'bumble']
| 0
|
1e4ijn2
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1e4ijn2/am_i_thinking_too_much/
| 1
|
Okay so a few days back, I matched with this guy on bumble. Let’s call him P. We hit it off instantly and talked a lot. Later we connected on Instagram and started texting there. Both of us live in different cities. Let’s say the city he live in is A. On Saturday evening, we were texting each other, he told me he’s in another city called D for some event/fest with his friends and that on Sunday he was just going to chill at home. He had is “active” status on and whenever he went offline, our chat showed that he was active xyz hours ago. He went offline in the middle of texting and I was like okay maybe he’s busy or whatever. I checked back on Sunday and his Instagram said active a day ago. So basically he hadn’t opened his Instagram since the last text he sent me. Again, I was like okay it’s Sunday, he must be taking time off from social media. I was just curious to see where he was and I opened his bumble profile which showed that he was still in city D. Like I mentioned before, he lives and works in city A. It’s now Tuesday and he is has not opened his Instagram since Saturday evening (isn’t it weird that in 2024 he hasn’t opened Instagram in 3 days?), his bumble still shows his location as D. I’m an over thinker and now I think something bad has happened to him🙈 Or maybe something has just happened to his phone🤷🏻♀️ I just hope he’s not in trouble or something😦 I don’t even know why I’m posting this but I just wanted to get this off my chest. Pretty sure all of this sounds stupid. Plus I don’t even know his friends to ask them about if he’s okay or not.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Am I thinking too much?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1e4ijn2/am_i_thinking_too_much/
|
chicago2008
|
2024-05-07 01:34:57
| 1,715,045,697
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1cm01dr
| true
| null | 3
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1cm01dr/im_just_about_to_begin_dating_in_the_modern_world/
| 1
|
I'm a 29M who has never had a romantic relationship, and wants to change that. I kick myself for never pursuing anything while in university, but I can't change the past. All I can do is focus on what I can do to change the future. I have ADHD and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. Still, I've read the statistics that about half of couples today meet on dating apps, the psychological studies of why there's so much toxic behavior on dating apps, and of course endless Reddit stories of people being ghosted or something similar. Just so I know what to expect - does modern dating and the heavy use of dating apps pretty much all but guarantee that if I want to find a girlfriend I should be ready for countless rejections, times getting ghosted, and first or even second or third dates that I thought would lead somewhere nice but then fail? Just tell it to me straight. It seems to me like the dating world has been more brutal than it's ever been.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I'm just about to begin dating in the modern world. Should I be ready for a world of rejection and pain before anything works out?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1cm01dr/im_just_about_to_begin_dating_in_the_modern_world/
|
Crisis007
|
2023-10-22 09:52:11
| 1,697,968,331
| 0
|
['matches', 'dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0
|
17dprh5
| true
|
Question ❓
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/17dprh5/to_lazy_to_write_with_matches_on_dating_apps/
| 1
|
Unrelated to whetever dating apps are good or not pls. I recently got a dating app to try it out for the first time, after beeing single for over a year now. I get matches/likes, not much but steady. The point is while I am interested in starting conversations, the interest quickly falls off after just one text exchange. I just feel kinda drained just having to go on the app and having to answer messages because otherwise I wouldnt ofc get a date. I am a very lazy texter with friends/family aswell btw. Online forums like this are fine tho bec I dont feel pressured like I have to text. Anyone have the same issue of having interest when its a new match but quickly loosing it, beeing drained after just a few exchanges?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
To lazy to write with matches on dating apps?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17dprh5/to_lazy_to_write_with_matches_on_dating_apps/
|
PositiveEchidna9863
|
2023-10-17 15:45:32
| 1,697,557,532
| 0
|
['dating site', 'badoo']
| 0
|
17a1dd3
| true
|
Question ❓
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/17a1dd3/seen_a_friends_boyfriend_on_the_dating_website/
| 1
|
Heya, so my friend has been with this guy since August 2022 and I seen him, verified on the dating site Badoo. Does Badoo delete accounts that have been active for awhile, is this a misunderstanding or did I for real caught him cheating on my friend? I don't want to jump the gun
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Seen a friend's boyfriend on the dating website Badoo. What do I do?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17a1dd3/seen_a_friends_boyfriend_on_the_dating_website/
|
Acceptable_Ad_2832
|
2024-08-12 21:55:42
| 1,723,499,742
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1eqqkcs
| true
|
I Need Advice 😩
| 2
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1eqqkcs/are_there_any_actually_free_dating_appssites/
| 1
|
Im [m18) a lil awtistic and awkward so I dont really talk to a lot of people. I want a relationship but most of the apps Ive tried you have to pay for. Love is cool but I dont wanna pay for a membership to meet people 😭
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Are there any (actually) free dating apps/sites?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1eqqkcs/are_there_any_actually_free_dating_appssites/
|
Charming-Cobbler-583
|
2023-08-18 06:02:00
| 1,692,338,520
| 0
|
['bumble', 'hinge']
| 0
|
15ubyy6
| true
|
Question ❓
| 1
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/15ubyy6/how_do_you_get_a_guy_to_want_to_call_you_his/
| 1
|
I’ve gone on over 50 first dates (Hinge or bumble) in the past several years. I’m fairly discerning on who I go out with and I always make sure it’s someone who I actually think I share similar values with. I used to CHOOSE who I wanted to enter a relationship with, and then developed feelings and got nervous/insecure, and then they lost interest in me because I was insecure. Because going after who I actually want hasn’t been working and drove men away, I’m now focused on identifying men who like ME and dating them instead. If a man wants a second or a third or a fourth date, I’m going along with it regardless of what I want. So far this seems like a better strategy, because I might not be 100% excited about him, but he wants me and I’m accepting it. Is this how you get a boyfriend? Going with a dude who wants to date you instead of you deciding who you like? Everyone I’ve ever had genuine feelings for has never liked me back. (Maybe in college they did, but not at this age.)
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How do you get a guy to want to call you his “girlfriend?” I haven’t been able to get a boyfriend in over 7 years.
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/15ubyy6/how_do_you_get_a_guy_to_want_to_call_you_his/
|
monitarlizard
|
2019-06-19 04:48:31
| 1,560,919,711
| null |
['bumble']
| 0
|
c2cozw
| true
| null | 4
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/c2cozw/no_communication_after_first_date/
| 1
|
Hi all. I’m sure this gets posted a lot but hear me out. I’m 25F and I’ve decided to explore the online/app dating world. Last Saturday I went on my first bumble date. It was okay, we kept the conversation going the entire time but I guess it could have been better. He dropped me off at home (nothing happened- nor was I expecting it to tbh). So I wait a few hours to see if he’ll text anything and he doesn’t. So I text asking if he got home safely and to thank him for dinner and his company. He texts back saying “Yes! I had a good time too” it’s been 3days now and he hasn’t text anything since then. We went from texting daily before the date to nothing. Should I assume he’s not interested after meeting me and move on? Or should I text once more to see where I stand?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
No communication after first date
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/c2cozw/no_communication_after_first_date/
|
BigMendy
|
2022-09-11 15:46:01
| 1,662,911,161
| null |
['dating app']
| 0
|
xblv62
| true
| null | 10
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/xblv62/girl_thinks_i_used_her_for_sex/
| 2
|
So I 24M met this girl 26F on a dating app where we hit it off majorly on text and it became really flirty quite quickly, we seemed to hit it off outside of sex based talking realising we have a lot in common and we both think we are a good fit Couple days later we arrange a date where I suggest we meet at a bar, on the day of the date she says shes not feeling the bar and wants to have drinks round mine instead, so I agree, she comes over we got a fair bit drunk and ended up having sex, we spoke for a few hours outside post coitus and I start picking up on a couple traits that I was a bit off about i.e. she said she doesnt like other women looking at her man in a relationship I continue talking to her for a few more days after and in those few days she was always drinking with her friends or smoking marajuanna with them and im not a fan of it anymore due to drug problems in my early teens. So fast forward to today I break things off with her I think i pussied out saying the real reasons as after sex i said i wanted to see her again and said im relocating for work in a years times (this is true but wasnt the main reason) and it wouldn't be fair on either of us down the line as it would make things harder, i also said im not a fan of the constant drug use. She said yea ok no need to bullshit me, thanks for using me for sex it was clear you only wanted that from me. Did it come off that i was using her for sex? Can you redditors let me know if i was an asshole or not? tldr: girl thinks i used her for sex when it wasnt the case and took it horribly when i broke things off despite the fact i didnt see a future
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Girl thinks I used her for sex
| null | 0.75
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xblv62/girl_thinks_i_used_her_for_sex/
|
LittleWhiteGirl
|
2017-09-30 20:12:45
| 1,506,802,365
| null |
['online dating', 'tinder', 'bumble']
| 0
|
73h76b
| false
| null | 32
| 0
|
/r/AskWomen/comments/73h76b/online_dating_first_dates_whats_your_goto/
| 11
|
Hey y'all I'm currently being chewed out on another thread for suggesting that "grabbing a drink" is a boring first date. What's your go-to for meeting up with a tinder/bumble match? Also share your success or horror stories
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
Online dating first dates, what's your go-to?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/73h76b/online_dating_first_dates_whats_your_goto/
|
usctrojan415
|
2022-04-17 17:54:18
| 1,650,218,058
| null | null | 0
|
u5sck9
| true
| null | 82
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/u5sck9/height_and_dating_apps_preferences/
| 32
|
There is a lot of concern, frustration around height on dating apps and women's preferences. I do realize that the shorter a guy is the tougher it is to get matches, dates but I also think the worst thing you can do is start things off with a lie. What else are you lying about? If you start off dating from a position of jadedness or distrust, it will show and that can set you up for failure. Comments like 'x' height because apparently that matters is so cringy. I see all too often guys vent about height (just see the posts about Tinder height verification April fools) and while I understand the difficulty one has, I also see that some of the same guys ignore things within their control i.e. style, smiles (lackthereof), lifestyle choices, approachability etc. Yes, it's try a few women want a guy 6' tall, that is not the majority of women. Conventional thought is a women wants a guy at least 3-4 inches taller than them but I know of women that are fine with a guy who is merely 1 inch taller or their height. Some are ok with a guy shorter than them. Confidence, approachability are usually as important if not more than being super tall. Your goal is not to attract more women but more women who like you for who you are but you can't do that if you lie or sabotage your profile, photos etc. The more guys lie about their height, the more women have to counter with listing preferences, exaggerating their height because they get guys who lie often. Focus on what you can control and don't worry about other people. You can't control their preferences but you can control, influence how you carry yourself. In most cases it's lack of approachability holding guys back rather than merely height alone. On a similar note, don't do as well on apps and again, it's not always based on height. Stand straight, carry yourself well, don't be afraid to make a first move. Guys don't discriminate against height as much as women do so the less selective you are, the more options you will have. Edit: The women's responses should give some hope, optimism that not all or even a majority of women want guys 6' tall despite some bitter responses, comments. Be honest.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Height and Dating Apps, Preferences
| null | 0.73
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/u5sck9/height_and_dating_apps_preferences/
|
AudaciousPanther
|
2023-05-29 18:55:54
| 1,685,386,554
| 0
| null | 0
|
13v394t
| true
| null | 246
| 0
|
/r/OnlineDating/comments/13v394t/unpopular_opinion_women_love_one_night_stands_as/
| 57
|
I'm so tired of hearing how women are used for sex by top tier guys. A lot of these women love having sex with top tier guys. I have female friends who brag about getting good dick by some doctor or lawyer. Literally just last night my friend was telling me about her recent hookup. "He had 6 pack abs and his cock was thick. When he was on top I told him I only can orgasm from clit. He started kissing my neck all the way to my navel and then swirled around my clit teasing her until I couldn't take it anymore." She then showed me a picture of this dude who looks like he lives at the gym. She was 100 percent aware there is no relationship future with him, but she did enjoy her Friday night with a 9/10 man. Another friend talked about how she has a fwb with some doctor and she doesn't care about him wearing condoms. "He can cum in me. Lottery ticket anyways." Both of these women know dang well these men will never propose, introduce them to their friends, but they do enjoy good sex almost as much as guys do. I'm just tired of the belief that these women get used. Seriously, talk to your female friends and ask them about their sex history. Watch them smile as they recall a good hookup in college or whatever. People always act like women are these delicate little things with no agency whatsoever, but they get horny too and need a release every once in awhile before going back to their daily life.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Unpopular Opinion: Women love one night stands as much as men do
| 57
| 0.64
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/13v394t/unpopular_opinion_women_love_one_night_stands_as/
|
Genseric123
|
2022-11-29 15:47:11
| 1,669,736,831
| null |
['dating apps']
| 0
|
z7xlct
| true
| null | 37
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/z7xlct/frequently_hit_on_my_gay_men_but_never_women/
| 15
|
Title says it. Both in real life and online, I’ve been hit on and messaged by gay men, but when I message women on dating apps, I don’t see much success. Is this a common experience for men?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Frequently hit on my gay men but never women?
| null | 0.73
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/z7xlct/frequently_hit_on_my_gay_men_but_never_women/
|
likesbread
|
2024-03-28 20:25:20
| 1,711,657,520
| 0
|
['dating apps']
| 0
|
1bq5p4z
| true
| null | 1
| 0
|
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bq5p4z/after_first_date_my_date_34m_is_asking_for_a_sex/
| 1
|
I (30F) had a good first date and we ended the night with a kiss. He asked me if I wanted to go back home with him but I said no. He texted me after the first date to see each other and “have fun”. His dating profile says looking for a relationship. I asked him if he was only looking for sex. He said he would start with sex. We talked a lot during the date and some get to know texts after the date as well. I’ve heard some people like to have sex with their dates early on to make sure they are sexually compatible. He seemed like a nice guy overall and he’s been honest with answering my questions. \ I am not opposed to something casual because I’ve been missing sex lately. However, in my experience, these casual hookups usually leave me unsatisfied because the guys don’t make sure I have an orgasm as well. Also, I am on the dating apps often and it seems far and few between where I match someone I’m interested in and go on a date. It’d be nice to have someone that I find attractive to hookup with until I find something serious. \ Have you had someone you started off casually turned into dating or hooked up early and dated? Should I do what I want or wait for a guy who is serious about dating?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
After first date, my date (34M) is asking for a sex date. What is your experience with hooking up early on?
| 1
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bq5p4z/after_first_date_my_date_34m_is_asking_for_a_sex/
|
Odd_Wash_10-4
|
2019-02-25 18:49:44
| 1,551,120,584
| null |
['OLD', 'bumble']
| 0
|
auoq7o
| true
| null | 74
| 0
|
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/auoq7o/stated_she_was_younger_on_old_profile_but_was_up/
| 6
|
I went on a first date last night with a woman who said in her OLD profile that she was three years younger than in reality. I knew this heading into the date (yes, I Googled), so was actually a little down on the idea of going out with her at all on my way there. When we met up, though, we got to talking and I found myself really liking her. Sweet, smart, interesting... I was drawn in despite myself. Then, about 30 minutes into the date, she mentioned her real age and that she wanted to be up front with me. She said that the app (Bumble) was wrong and that she had been unable to change her age, despite trying to. I wondered at that, but kind of let it go because the conversation was good. She is a couple of years older than me--we're each on opposite sides of 40--but that isn't something that bothers me. I'm sitting here today wondering what I should take away from this. First, is it at all true that she might be unable to change her age on Bumble? If so, then OK. My second thought, though, is what if that is not true? She was up front about her real age, so points to her on that. But, if the Bumble thing is not true, she got me to the date on false pretenses about her age, and then made a white lie to cover that up. To be honest, I'm conflicted. I get the insecurities that some women (and men, of course) have about the age thing. However, I'm big on honesty, so this leaves me a little leery. On the other hand, she corrected the record straightaway, and unprompted at that. Thoughts, DOTers?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Stated she was younger on OLD profile, but was up front about it in person
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/auoq7o/stated_she_was_younger_on_old_profile_but_was_up/
|
Drobex
|
2024-02-26 22:27:34
| 1,708,986,454
| 0
|
['matches', 'tinder']
| 0
|
1b0uvjf
| true
|
Question ❓
| 5
| 0
|
/r/dating/comments/1b0uvjf/what_is_up_with_people_responding_positively_to/
| 2
|
I wouldn't normally be too bothered by this but it happened thrice to me in the past year: I asked these girls out, they said yes with variable degrees of enthusiasm, but then told me they would let me know when they would have a free day or just straight up ghosted me. Have any of you experienced this with some frequency? Two of them were tinder matches, so, you know, whatever, but one was a girl I met at a friend's party and at the time it felt like we had hit all the positive marks. Then the day before our date she noped out with the excuse of some personal stuff that had happened to her in those days, but she swore that we would see each other again. When I asked her and one of the tinder girls if they were sure about actually wanting to go out with me, because it didn't really feel that way to me, they both confirmed that they absolutely wanted to see me, and that they would tell me a day as soon as they were free. This apparently also happened with some frequency to some of my friends, both male and female, so I guess the issue is not me projecting an aura of fear and terror on people that make them simultaneously not willing to go on a date with me but afraid of explicitly refusing me. I mean, what would it cost to simply say "sorry, I actually changed my mind, I don't really want to go out with you", especially when that is so crystal clear that the other person is literally asking you if you're sure about it? Everyone goes home happy at the end of the day and nobody needs to feel embarassed if perchance we bump on each other on the street or at some party.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What is up with people responding positively to date proposals but acting in the opposite way?
| 2
| 1
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1b0uvjf/what_is_up_with_people_responding_positively_to/
|
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